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‘He Acted Like A Single Man:’ Mother Of Swizz Beatz’s Daughter, Jahna Sebastian, Offers Clarity On Their Affair
“I don’t want to be associated with those women who look out for a rich man, a baller or any other successful man to help them have an easy ride in life,” the singer/songwriter told me. “That behavior is totally the opposite of who I am and what I represent, I have always chosen to get what I want through hard work myself, even though there have always been great men around. I have always relied on myself. I work hard for my career and my child.”
“I was not aware of him being married at the time, I thought he was single like myself and he acted like a single man,” the “I Am Free” singer explained. “He was not that well-known here anyway at that time, his private life was nowhere near as publicized in 2007 as it is now.”
“I don’t really follow other musicians lives anyway. I saw this as a meeting of equals,” she resolved before revealing that their affair had taken place prior to her learning of his marital status. “I found out that he was married after things had already happened, but it was too late.”Shortly after this major revelation, Kaseem returned to the States and Jahna received more shocking news.
“He left to US and I was absolutely shocked to learn a few weeks later that I was pregnant as I did not plan to have children until the age of thirty and definitely not to be a single mother in a situation like that. Career, marriage, then children – in that particular order – was my plan. When things happen not as you planned, the only explanation to that is fate. A child is a blessing regardless.”On top of learning that she would be bringing a child into the world alone, the Russian refugee was detained during her pregnancy due to immigration issues. However, instead of reaching out to Kaseem for help, she went through the process alone out of her refusal to destroy his marriage.
“When I was unlawfully detained for two months by a major mistake of the Home Office while being pregnant with Nicole, I came out of it without her father’s help or even child support at the time even though I knew from the start who the father was. If I made claims at that time, it would have created a scandal all over the place and caused the divorce, so I chose the hard way. I dealt with all my immigration problems which were actually Nicole’s as well since she could only stay in UK as my dependent, without bothering Swizz or anyone on the other side with lawsuits.” “I wrote to every person in UK I could think of instead of sending lawyers to Swizz and destroying his marriage. I chose to go without child support for two years and the help of someone who could have easily resolved the situation with his connections.” “My immigration case was publicized at the time but there wasn’t even one mention of his name, although with that situation it could have made even bigger headlines, but I had to save my child from becoming possible reason of the divorce. I clearly imagined how it would hurt to be in a position of a wife learning that her husband went and had a baby on the side, and so I stayed away from this.”
“I did not want the news about my pregnancy and my daughter’s birth to become the reason of his divorce [from Mashonda],” Jahna explained. It wasn’t, because I kept it secret from most people and from the media, although I mentioned the name in my immigration case during that time when I was asked but demanded confidentiality from them.”
Jahna also discussed what a difficult time she had prior to revealing that Swizz fathered her daughter.“On top of that I didn’t even want to have anything with a married man,” she added. “But I had to put my pride aside to give my child a chance to have a relationship with her father, however it had to happen at the right time. I only reached out with official paperwork after I have found out that the divorce has already been filed for totally different reasons that had nothing to do with my child and I.”
“I wanted to save my daughter from that kind of negativity, because children are innocent. During those two years until I reached out I had to deal with everything on my own without any child support and I was not entitled to any welfare at all either, those were hard times. I have never been on welfare anyway.” “Having a child in the UK does not give you the right to stay here or get British passport, you have to have other valid reasons to stay and prove that you can also contribute to the community, which I have done. If I didn’t fight for my immigration case at that time, Nicole would have also been deported to Russia. However, at least my daughter has nothing to do with the divorce and everybody was happy to find out about her.”Now that Swizz knows about Nicole, Jahna says that he has been a good father, seeing their daughter approximately 3-4 times per year.
“Three to four times a year on average. I have always supported their relationship. That was the initial reason I have reached out in the first place because a child deserves a chance to have a relationship with the father.” “I have always supported their relationship. That was the initial reason I have reached out in the first place because a child deserves a chance to have a relationship with the father.”Surprisingly, Jahna says she also has a relationship with Swizz’s ex-wife, Mashonda.
“We keep in touch. It’s all good.”Read her full interview here. Thoughts?
“Recently, there’s been some interest surrounding the choices that have been made amongst the Dean family, my family, that is. Blended families are universal and very necessary. It’s because I’ve been living in one for the past 12 years that I feel it’s essential to educate others on the dynamics and explain the benefits that are included. My attempt is to shed some positivity and light to single mothers, fathers, ex-wives, stepmothers and all those in between. But most importantly, the children.Thoughts? Check out Global Grind for more of Mashonda’s co-parenting tips.As adults, it’s inevitable that we run into complex life struggles, tests and sometimes soul-drenching events. However, it’s imperative that we place 100 percent of our focus on our precious and innocent children. Their mental and emotional well being in these early, tender years will determine who they will become as adults. I am the product of a messy divorce. And I mean MESSY! I watched my parents go through many awful things. Thankfully, my grandmother (who pulled me out of their drama in the nick of time) saved my soul and raised me well and rounded. I don’t know who I would’ve become otherwise. I hope that this honest attempt gives some clarity to all parents and anyone involved in a child’s life. The key to co-parenting is to focus on your children—and your children only. Yes, this can be very difficult. It means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. Admittedly, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most vital. Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.” Separating feelings from behavior: It’s okay to be hurt and angry, but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Instead, let what’s best for your kids—you working cooperatively with the other parent—motivate your actions.”
And this brings me to my point. My vivid imagination took me to those sleepless nights where Sharon probably waited up for Roscoe to come home. I imagine her sad and disappointed face when the paternity suit papers arrived in the mail. I imagined her sitting at her kitchen table, agonizing over the details of the suit, wondering how the man that she thought she knew so well could hurt her in such a way. Then, my mind flashed to an image of her desperately holding onto the love that they once shared, telling herself that if she holds on, things just might get better. As you can see, they never did. In fact, after dogging her out all of these years, he got up and left. While every situation is unique, most serial cheaters don’t just up and decide to stop cheating to do better, and in my opinion, simply waiting around for them to do so seems a bit foolish. I am not saying once a cheater, always a cheater, because I believe that people that really desire a change have the ability to do it. But, I am saying that if a woman simply rolls over and accepts her man’s cheating ways, why would he stop? He’s getting the best of both worlds. The Mashonda-Swizz-Beatz-Alicia Keys love triangle is another situation that comes to mind. Swizz allegedly cheating with Alicia was really only the final nail in the coffin of his marriage with Mashonda, but it certainly was not the first time he cheated on her, seeing as how he had a little girl outside of their relationship. She stuck around and what did he do? He dogged her out and eventually left her for what he considered to be a “better” prospect. A rather extreme example is the tumultuous relationship between Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta stars Stevie J and Mimi Faust. From the outside looking in, it appeared that MiMi stuck with Stevie despite his cheating (and impregnating) ways for so long that he eventually became bolder with it. And eventually, the fact that she knew he was cheating on her no longer mattered to him. I understand that there’s probably a lot that went on behind close doors between all three of these couples that we as the public may never know about, but the point that I am trying to make is that tolerating infidelity (from both males and females), only seems to breed more cheating. Have you ever been in a relationship with a serial cheater? Follow Jazmine on Twitter @jazminedenise.“I wasn’t going to jump up and leave my family.”
It’s tough being a celebrity. Why you ask? I mean how are you supposed to choose from the many, many attractive men and many, many smokin’ hot women who throw themselves at you? Easy, you can’t. Celebrities are only human, after all. And while their inability to keep their lust to themselves could cause some problems in their personal life, it provides endless entertainment for the rest of us. So for your viewing, thank God I don’t have all that drama going on, pleasure, here are 15 of the craziest celebrity love triangles.
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[They] were apart for some time before we ever got together…that doesn’t matter to those who take pleasure in trying to knock others down…there’s no need to fight what’s not true…Many waited to see if Mashonda would respond to Alicia’s claims considering the fact that she was very adamant about telling her side of the story when news of the alleged affair and the divorce first broke. It appears that their waiting has not been in vain as Mashonda recently discussed the statements made by Alicia in an interview with Global Grind. Here is some of what she had to say:
first reaction to Alicia’s interview
Not much surprises me anymore when it comes to this situation. I truly thought that everyone’s priority was the well being of the children involved. I don’t see the sense in throwing oil on a fire, it just takes us back to point A. The Jet interview just added insult to injury. I can’t figure out how this makes us better. How is it a positive, humanitarian gesture? But artists must protect their reputation and I get that.
Whether she and Swizz were together when he hooked up with Alicia
There have been many stabs and shots taken, thankfully they don’t bother me the way they used to. I’ve never lied about one thing involving the demise of my marriage. No, we were not “apart” or separated, and that’s just a fact that can be proven in many ways. Blessings have a way of disguising themselves. This situation has helped me to understand life and what really matters.
How she’s been affected by Swizz’s infidelity
There is a level of humiliation and criticism that the average person wouldn’t be able to conceive, it really altered my life, but gave me a super thick skin. It’s been a rollercoaster ride. I’ve lost weight, gained weight, lost some hair and almost lost hope and mental focus. For months I saw a therapist because I needed someone to assist me in putting the pieces back together. There was a lot of stress and pain, it’s been challenging. I’ve found ways to cope and not get consumed in a dark space. You have to take care of yourself and move forward. In my case, I have a child and live for him. I have a purpose and I won’t give up on it.We all thought this entire situation was over, but it seems that Alicia’s interview may have re-opened some old wounds. Now, I’m no Olivia Pope, but something in my gut tells me Mashonda is the truthful party in this whole fiasco; however, the only person who should rightfully have to bear the title of “homewrecker” is Swizz and he seems to be the one saying the least. Do you think Mashonda should have responded to Alicia? Jazmine Denise is a writer living in New York. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise
‘There’s No Need To Fight What’s Not True’: Alicia Keys Still Isn’t Paying The Homewrecker Talk Any Mind
Alicia Keys has reportedly finally stopped dancing around those homewrecker allegations and address them head-on in her most recent interview with JET Magazine. Keys, who has been on a drama-filled roller coaster since 2010 when her new hubby, producer Swizz Beatz’s ex-wife Mashonda rang the alarm stating that the singer had been messing with her ex while they were still married and that Keys is actually the reason why their marriage fell apart in the first place. For a long time Alicia chose not to address the allegations but she has recently become a bit more vocal about them. She shared that she didn’t bother going back at Mashonda in the press because her allegations simply weren’t true. Check out some more of what she had to say in her recent JET interview.
Why she pays homewrecker allegations no mind
[They] were apart for some time before we ever got together…that doesn’t matter to those who take pleasure in trying to knock others down…there’s no need to fight what’s not true…
Why she and Swizz are a good match
I’d never met a person where I could be fully myself…Swizz and I live in each other’s shadow. So we can occupy the same space and there is nothing but equality. There’s something really powerful about that.
Though Mashonda, Swizz and Alicia have all seemed to move on and let go of past drama for the sake of the children involved, Alicia’s image has been tainted in the eyes of many of her female fans. It could be because so many find Mashonda to be a person whom they can relate to. She seemed to be a mom who was just trying to hold her family together when her fairytale got snatched from beneath her. But, I suppose it depends on how you look at the situation. The stories contradict each other so much that it is clear that someone isn’t being 100% truthful, but I guess no of us will ever know because we weren’t actually there.
What do you think of Alicia’s response?
Jazmine Denise is a freelance writer living in New York. Follow her on Twitter @Jazminedenise
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