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Erica And Tina Campbell Talk Sex And The Church: “I Wish That I Could Say I Was A Virgin When I Got Married”
Most Christians will tell you the way the church educates the flock about sex leaves a lot to be desired. The emphasis on sex as something non-married believers shouldn’t do, often leaves Christians feeling like sex is bad or dirty, but just looking at Erica and Tina Campbell’s social media timeline on any given day will let you know these married sisters see it as anything but.
Asked why they make it a point to be open about their sex lives as Christian women, the singing duo explained that sex, when done in the confines of marriage and with someone with whom you have a divine connection, can be completely mind-blowing. Tina also confessed to wishing she’d been a virgin when she got married and explained how much pre-marital and post-marital sex differ.
The sisters also discussed the responsibility of spiritual leaders to come forward about their relationship issues, a la Israel Houghton, and let us know what we can expect from the next season of their WeTV reality show Mary Mary. Watch and see what all they had to say in the interview above.
Did you know that Kim Fields’ real life mother is the same mother who beat Penny with an iron on the four-part special episode of “Good Times”?
Okay, apparently everyone knew this already.
But I’m just finding out this bit of stale news. I’m also just learning that her sister is an actress too. More specifically, Alexis Fields is the woman who played the best friend on “Sister, Sister” and “Moesha.”
While the news is old, it does provide a bit of context to a question, which has been boggling the minds of many for a couple of weeks now. In short, why is Kim Fields on Real Housewives of Atlanta?
It’s a question that has mystified even the most skeptical of reality television watchers. We have seen some mismatched and questionable cast mate pairings before, but Fields is by far the most baffling.
That’s why I don’t blame all the lazy folks who are hoping somebody else starts a petition to get her fired from the show. And while I won’t go as far as to say she is boring, compared to the uncompromising carefree spirit of her fellow cast members, I will say that she would probably feel more comfortable holding a bottle of prune juice instead of a peach.
And it is not because she acts like there is not life, an ecosystem and an entire universe of happenings outside of the insular existence she created with just her husband and family. It’s not just because she doesn’t understand why a woman would dance with another woman, just to dance. (I am almost positive that if those same women were grinding all up on dudes, she would scrunch up her nose and have something righteous to say about that too.)
It’s not just because she claims to not understand the cattiness and sheer extra-ness of the other women, but then does something catty and low-key shady like opting to sleep on a lounge couch in the living room instead of a semi-private room with one of the girls. And it is not because she dresses like she just stepped out of a Roamans’ catalog.
It’s because she does all of that while acting as if she hadn’t seen the show before she actually signed up to star on it.
So either BRAVO is using this boring Fields storyline to teach us all a lesson about asking for more respectable Black women on reality television or Fields is only here so she won’t get fined.
Listen, if we are talking about the latter, ain’t no shame in that. Everybody has bills. And most of her talents revolve around film and television (both acting, producing and directing). So why not collect an easy check?
But fans of the series ain’t checking for Tootie on roller skates. We want Regine.
And regardless of how you feel about her and the rest of the RHOA cast members, you have to admit there are other shows, or show templates that would make much better fits.
For instance, “Hollywood Divas.” Surely she could fly out to Tinseltown for a few months…er, I forgot who we are talking about here. Okay let me revise: surely she could uproot the family for a few months to film in sunny California with women who are more aligned with her sensibilities?
Or here’s an idea: let Fields star in her own show. How about a petition for that lazy, internet people?
While Fields may not fit in with the mean girls of RHOA, she might have much better luck starring in a series, which revolves around her family. And not just her children and husband, because if I wanted to watch people talking about reading on lawn chairs all day, I would watch C-SPAN’s Book TV.
But bring her other famous family members into the mix. Picture it: a show about mothers in strapless smock maxi dresses talking about family values and being more Jesus-approved than other women. It could be like “Mary Mary” but with a touch of “Braxton Family Values” woven into it.
I smell a hit!
And I am certain the entire Fields clan would appreciate the steady check too.
Of course there is another theory worth considering: perhaps Fields is not as righteous as she is playing herself up to be? Perhaps beneath all of that smock-wearing and finger-wagging, is a woman dying to unleash her inner carefree Black girl, but just doesn’t know how to be that without looking like a hypocrite?
I’ll admit that it is entirely possible because – and again – why else would she be on the show? And I guess we’ll all have to wait and see how that theory plays out during the remainder of the season.
What we love most about Tina and Erica Campbell is that they seem to have an unbreakable sisterly bond. Although it seems unlikely that they’ll ever allow business to completely ruin their relationship with one another, it does appear that Erica’s decision to release a solo project has placed a strain on their situation. And now that Tina has decided to put out her own solo album, it’s looking like the ladies will have to fight harder than ever to keep it all together.
In a clip of tonight’s episode exclusively obtained by MadameNoire, tension flares between the sisters after Tina asks Erica and Goo to sing background on a few songs from her upcoming album. Almost immediately, Erica and her hubby Warryn Campbell show signs of apprehension. According to Warryn, Erica is way too busy to sing background for Tina.
“I have a solo career and I’m a mother of three,” Erica tells Tina.
Of course, that’s completely understandable. Erica is a busy woman, but Tina quickly reminds her that she sang background for her on Help and it’s time to return the favor. Unfortunately, the clip doesn’t reveal whether or not Erica folds and decides to sing background for Tina or not. But I have a feeling that if she doesn’t, all hell will break loose.
I can understand both arguments, but if my sister came through for me when I needed her, I’d try my best to come through for her as well. Hopefully these ladies are able to work things out.
Check out the clip below and let us know your thoughts.
One half of gospel duo Mary Mary, Erica Campbell has been coming to the forefront as of late. Between her natural talent, her controversial marital journey and the announcement of her new ‘trap gospel’ single “I Luh God”, Erica is pushing the envelop. We’ve loved this diva for some time now and decide to take a closer look at this stylish mom’s best moments on and off the carpet.
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Penny For Your Thoughts: On Tina Campbell, Dirty Laundry And Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed Of Your Testimony
“Tell some, save some, girl!”
Those were the words Erica Campbell had for her sister Tina during one of Erica’s confessional interviews on the last episode of Mary Mary. Erica shared that sisterly advice after listening to a radio interview where Tina was talking about her marital troubles last year.
Now, if you watch Mary Mary, then you know how Tina can go in with her whole “He cheated, and I forgave him” story. She’s almost defiantly unashamed about going through the whole experience. For her, it’s a “testimony.”
When she shares her testimony, there’s fire in her voice. Her cadence speeds up. She sounds as if there’s a “f**k all y’all!” in her chest clamoring for release (which she would probably let loose if it weren’t for the whole “Christian gospel singer” thing).
When she shares her testimony, she’s talking about the past, but she uses the present tense. She says stuff like, “I’m gonna kill somebody,” though she doesn’t really mean that she feels this way now. She’s talking, of course, about a past bitterness that nearly drove her over the edge. Still, the rage in her voice that comes through just in the retelling of her story makes you think, This ain’t the kind of woman who should ever own a gun…
Thing is, Tina may or may not care what you think. One can never tell with people who practice such explosive candor. We assume that those tell-it-like-it-is folks don’t give a flip about what people think, but that’s not necessarily true. Sometimes the more candid people are, the more sensitive they are to criticism and other people’s opinions. Tina puts her story out there without flinching, and she appears to take great pride in doing so. But we don’t know if she’s really as resistant to doubt and regret as she seems.
Regardless of whether or not Tina has regrets about her no-holds-barred testimonial, she still continues to share it–and every time, she tells the hell out of her story.
By “tells the hell out of her story,” I mean she puts it all out there. And that all is what her sister Erica was referring to when she said, “Tell some, save some, girl!”
Some. Not all.
Most of us (especially the black and brown “us”) don’t typically like for people to know our all. We’ve got a thing about telling everything.
You know where I’m going here, right? You know what every mother and every grandmother’s favorite saying was, right?
“Don’t put your business in the streets.”
Well, in the name of Tina Campbell and all things brazenly honest, I hereby declare that cautionary rhetoric as played out.
“Don’t put your business in the streets” is one sermon that you’ll never hear me preach to my children. Although the adage has been passed down in my family, it will officially end with me.
My inner mogul knows that one mark of a successful business is when it goes from private to public, meaning there’s an initial public offering of its shares on the stock market. (Think of the first season of Empire and all the hype around the fictional company’s IPO.) So this teaches me the following: What’s private becoming public is a good thing.
So although I kinda cringe every time Tina starts telling her “testimony,” I still nod along saying, “I know that’s right!” Listening to her recount her experience in such an unsparing way feels like witnessing the best kind of protest. To me, Tina is standing up to how overly neat and overly cautious (“tell some, save some, girl!”) we typically are about sharing our personal stories.
Not to mention that when I listen to Tina, I hear myself.
I am someone who puts her business in the streets. What’s more, I am someone who, like Tina, puts her business in the streets as a part of her job.
I write for a living. To me, the easiest stories to write are the ones I write about myself. Those are the stories that are least time-consuming and, therefore, more efficient.
Most of my writing portfolio, however, consists of reported stories. Reported stories have always felt like heavy lifting to me. Sure, it’s rewarding work and I will continue to do it. But personal essays, in my opinion, are the sweet spot as far as the time and effort ratio goes.
When I’m writing an essay, the only person I have to interview is me. The only research required is mining my own feelings, memories and experiences. I learned years ago that essays feel like easier writing assignments. I also learned that the kind of essays editors want to publish are truly honest accounts of personal experiences that other people would probably never discuss so candidly or so publicly. Of course, my translation of “truly honest” usually errs on the side of brutally honest. And being brutally honest is what usually lands folks smack dab in the middle of business-in-the-streets territory.
I’ve put my business in the streets a lot over the years. I’ve announced that I date in bed (which is to say I have sex very, very soon in relationships). I’ve admitted that I still get financial help from my parents in my late 30s. And, most recently, I exposed my 22-year battle with depression and experiencing daily thoughts of suicide.
Putting My Business in the Streets (or PMBS) has opened me up to scathing responses about my lifestyle choices (like one woman’s somewhat accurate prediction that my financial habits would lead to homelessness). But I continue to practice PMBS because confessional essays help pay my bills and I believe in the tell-the-truth-the-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth approach when it comes to sharing excerpts from my personal story.
That doesn’t mean I find joy in PMBS and making my private life public. It’s not gratifying to overshare. It’s not liberating to freely reveal. But I do consider what I call “radical transparency” to be a personal and professional calling of sorts.
I know that my mother and father wish I’d keep more of my dirty laundry in the hamper where it belongs. But for now, airing it out in public (and on the proverbial “street” that is the Internet) is part of who I am and what I do.
So if Erica was my sister, telling me to “Tell some, save some, girl!” I’d quip:
“Girl, you go ‘head and save some of yours–but I’m telling all of mine.”
So tell me: Where do you stand when it comes to putting your business in the streets?
In a recent episode of We TV’s hit show ‘Mary Mary,’ there was a scene with Tina Campbells husband’s car being towed away. The car had bullet holes in the windshield and it was apparently done by Tina when she was in an angry state from finding out about all of his infidelity. In an interview with New York Gospel radio station WLIB, Tina Campbell talked about her actions.
“What men think is impossible, with God, all things are possible,” Tina explained. “My situation was busted, every other week I finding about someone else – that was devastating. I can sit here and smile because I just want to be happy because it’s a choice. I did mad, I did frustrated, I did angry, I did bitter, I did crazy, I did violent, I did all of that, and I remained miserable. But when I turned to God and made a conscious effort to pursue forgiving and letting go, that’s where I found my hope.””I was just ignorant, just talking to people all mean, inconsiderate, [and] just unkind – that is not reflecting God’s love,” the singer said through tears during the videotaped interview.
“You never know what kind of loads people are carrying and you’re supposed to be a person of God and you laughing at somebody…”
“We discriminate, we act funny, we elevate – I was ignorant like that and I take full on ownership of what I did and to everyone, I’m sorry, I did not reflect God’s love.”
“We had some days that were really bad, and the car is a clear indication of a very bad day,” Terry Campbell narrates during the clip. “It was my car and she thought I could have been riding around town with another woman in the car, which wasn’t the case. My wife, in her pain, wanted to hurt me.”
During the last season of “Mary Mary,” most fans watched in horror as Tina Campbell dealt with the reality of her husband’s infidelity. Judging by this season’s trailer, it seems that the singer’s marriage is still suffering from Teddy’s decision, but she assures us that they have survived that storm. Now, both Tina and Erica are offering advice to women who may find themselves in a similar predicament. Peep their interview above.
Last year, when Erica and Tina Campbell came into our studio, Tina was very clear about the fact that she and her husband Teddy were working on rebuilding their marriage after infidelity. But she was also particularly honest and candid about the hurt and anger she felt and how it took her to an incredibly dark place. She mentioned that at one point, she incorrectly assumed seeking revenge would make her feel better. That day, she said she’d never tell us what she did.
And we probably shouldn’t ever know what really happened; but in a sneak peek from the new season of “Mary Mary,” we see how Tina went Jazmine Sullivan on Teddy’s car.
In this particular clip, Teddy explains what happened:
“So after I proposed to Tina, one would think that would fix everything but, in reality, it doesn’t. We had some days that were really bad. And the car is a clear indication of a very bad day. It was my car and she thought that I could have been riding around town with another woman in the car, which wasn’t the case but… My wife, in her pain, she wanted to hurt me.”
Teddy is watching as a tow truck man is removing the car from his driveway. Just as he’s doing so, Tina walks up, smiling. The couple embrace while the car is being carted away and Teddy says to Tina: “I want you to be happy. I don’t want you to have any bad memories. I want to create new ones.”
And then again, in the confessional: “So thank God we’re in a better place. Our good days definitely outweigh our bad ones by far. We’re still working hard. I want to Tina to know that I’m going to fight for her and my family.”
Listen, I would be lying if I said I didn’t chuckle watching this video, especially at the smile on Tina’s face. She was dead wrong for this…but that doesn’t make it any less comical. I’m not applauding her actions but she.went.in. It’s a wonder Teddy thought to try her.
But on a serious note, it’s good to see that he’s committed to making sure he’s doing everything in his power to help them both move forward.
If you thought the last season of “Mary Mary” was on ten and all of the kinks and wrinkles would have been ironed out by now, you might want to think again. In the season 4 trailer for the show, it seems that while Tina and Teddy are on the road to restoring their marriage, with a few bumps; it’s the relationship between Tina and Erica, and even Warryn, that might be taking a hit.
Evidently, Tina is still not over Erica leaving the group to pursue her solo career. And she’s let people know. Then, to add insult to injury, she’s taking meetings with their former manager Mitch.
Honestly, I don’t know if her partnering with Mitch again is real life or just for the cameras, specifically since Tina has always had the biggest problem with him. Either way, Lord knows he brought plenty of drama and that makes for great tv.
Anyway, check out the trailer for season 4 and let us know what you think. Will you be watching?
“I Prayed And I Asked God, ‘God, Don’t Let This Be My Life'”: Tina Campbell Talks Fighting To Save Her Marriage After Infidelity
Another great night on our Honeymoon/Anniversary/Vacation trip! #Hawaii #Maui #Love. #TeddyandTina
While checking out the Circle of Sisters event in NYC this past weekend, I had the chance to see the ladies of Mary Mary do their thing on stage (and boy did they take me to church!). While there, Tina Campbell spoke honestly on-stage and off about dealing with a lot of pain when she found out about her husband Teddy’s infidelity, which was featured on “Mary Mary.” But she says that they have pinpointed and continue to work on their issues.
“My husband had issues, but I had those same issues. You want to focus on your strengths and mask all of your weaknesses. And then you think your weaknesses are not creating a fire in your life that is going to brew and build one day. I was broken, I was insecure, I didn’t know how to communicate…the same thing I was, I attracted.”
In a recent chat with EnStars, Campbell also spoke in-depth about moving forward and fixing her marriage to Teddy. She says that the steps they took to resolve major issues will be shared on the newest season of the WEtv hit, “Mary Mary.”
“I prayed and I asked God, ‘God, don’t let this be my life. Does this really have to be my story? Is this how I’m going out? This is terrible. Why do I have to be the gospel chick who goes out with the horrible life and it just stays devastated?’ And I was praying like, ‘God, if you get me out of this rut that I’m in, I’ll tell the world.’ So of course I’m going to show the world how we are now. And no we don’t have a perfect relationship, but we work hard every day. We work hard to enjoy each other. All of the stuff you do while you’re dating, we just do that now. Because what happens is you practice being in love. You practice being s*xy. You practice understanding–‘oh baby, that’s okay.’ You do all of that stuff and then you stop practicing that. He practiced opening the door–‘Whatever you want, babe. I got you boo.’ And then he just stopped practicing that. And that’s how your relationship goes crazy, because everyone stops practicing being in love. We just practice being in love every day. We practice being better to each other, being friends, being understanding and being considerate. Are we perfect at it all the time? No. But we’re much better at it than we used to be because it’s our practice now. And the fool I used to be and that he used to be? We don’t practice that no more. So we’re going to show the world.”
Campbell said that during the time that she started working through her pain and on her relationship, she finished a book and completed a solo album that was completely unexpected. The feelings just came out on wax. It seems that the pain helped her in the creative process.
“If we had not have separated…I did have to through this devastation, but all this beautiful stuff was birthed out of it…I want them [the world] to see how I got through it because there are so many people who deal with what I deal with and don’t know, ‘How do I get from here to there?’ I didn’t know how to get from here to there until I started praying and trying and working. When I was so desperate to figure it out, I figured it out. So all the stuff before of ‘I just can’t figure it out, I’m trying but I never get there.’ Well, if you get broke down and devastated enough, you’ll find your way to a solution. Now that I’ve found it, I really want to share that with the world.”