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The love lives of the men of “Best Man Holiday” have been rather eventful lately. Earlier today we told you that Taye Diggs and his estranged wife, Idina Menza, officially separated after 10 years of marriage. Meanwhile his co-star Terrence Howard is moving in the opposite direction. A few weeks ago reports that Howard tied the knot with model-turned-restaurant-owner, Mira Cristine Pak, hit the media circuit. What was even crazier than the fact that Terrence would even consider getting married again after getting divorced three times, was that he supposedly only dated Mira for a month before marrying her.
We were hoping that there were missing puzzle pieces to this story; however, it looks like it’s as bad as it sounds. Someone claiming to be an employee of Pak’s restaurant, Shabu Shabu, says they were just as shocked as we were about the marriage.
“It’s all a bit crazy this thing with Terrence,” the staff member told DailyMail Online. “We didn’t have a clue that she was even dating him, then we all heard that she’d married him, and now we don’t know where she is.”
Though the marriage was a shock, the employee adds that Pak is a pretty unpredictable person.
“Mira does what she pleases, we never know when we’re going to see her.”
As for Howard’s public marital woes with ex-wife, Michelle Ghent, the source refused to discuss it.
“I can’t say anything about this.”
We definitely wish them the best, but honestly, can things get any messier?
After 10 years of marriage, Taye Diggs and his wife, actress Idina Menzel, are throwing in the towel. A representative for the couple has confirmed the split to People.
“Idina Menzel and Taye Diggs have jointly decided to separate at this time,” a spokesperson told People. Their primary focus and concern is for their son. We ask that you respect their privacy during this time.”
According to the HuffPost, the pair met in the mid 90s when they were co-starring in “Rent” on Broadway. They eventually married in Jan. 2003. They share one son, Walker Nathaniel Diggs, who just celebrated his fourth birthday this past September. With both Taye and Idina working in Hollywood, we can totally see how their hectic schedules could place a strain on their marriage. Earlier this year Idina told People that marriage is a challenge, but revealed that both she and her husband were working hard to keep it all together.
“We work at it. I’m not going to glamorize it or glorify it — we go through tough times like everybody else, but we love each other very much. We try not to be away from each other for more than two weeks at a time, and we try to find new ways to communicate,” Idina said.
It’s unfortunate that Taye and Idina were unable to work things out. Hopefully they find a way to keep things amicable for the sake of their son.
It appears that La Toya Jackson is still single after all. Over the weekend reports of a secret wedding between La Toya Jackson and her longtime business partner Jeffre Phillips. Reports claimed that La Toya and Jeffre tied the knot during an intimate ceremony this past Friday in Los Angeles, California.
The rumors, of course, didn’t seem too far fetched, as Jeffre did, in fact, propose to La Toya on her reality show, “Life with La Toya.” Though his proposal seemed a bit odd, he expressed that he popped the question because he was sick of seeing the former “Celebrity Apprentice” star be “wooed” by other men. Though all signs seemed to point La Toya and Jeffre tying the knot, La Toya’s people are actually denying the rumors.
“The rumors that La Toya Jackson married her longtime business partner Jeffre Phillips are completely false,” a rep tells Entertainment Tonight.
The spokesperson went on to scold the original source of the false report.
“The reporting outlet should be embarrassed for their mistake and at least make an effort to find facts to back up their story before reporting.”
In that case, we’ll hold our well wishes for if/when La Toya and Jeffre ever do decide to get married.
“Your BFF’s new husband just got dropped from the 49ers,” my sports fanatic boyfriend matter-of-factly informed me one evening.
He was all too aware of the friend-in-my-head that is Kerry Washington. With me working in media and his undying love for all things sports, athletes and the women who love them, it always seems to be where our worlds collide.
“So like, what does that mean for him? Is his career like, over? You know they supposedly have a baby on the way,” I asked nervously.
“It’s a tough call,” he said before giving me the run-down on Nnamdi Asomugha’s athletic performance history.
“That’s absolutely awful. I really pray they can survive it. I mean, that kind of burden has to weigh
heavily on a relationship. They’re newlyweds. She’s at the top of her game right now and his career might be over.” I said that with enough concern to convince anyone who may have been listening in on our conversation that Kerry and I actually had a friendship somewhere other than in my head. But I meant it. Unemployment is hard on any relationship.
The call grew eerily silent. We had both temporarily escaped into our own thoughts.
“So how long?” he finally asked, breaking the silence.
“How long what?”
“How long can your man be out of work after a layoff before you get fed up?”
That was a great question—one I’d never put much thought into and one I tried to answer with caution. You see, I have an extremely low tolerance for able-bodied men who get knocked on their butts and decide to stay there, leaving their significant other to carry the burden of an entire household alone. In the same breath, I must admit that I realize how sucky the job market is right now and I’m fully aware of our country’s alarming unemployment rate. Securing a new gig can be pretty challenging.
“Six months to a year and a half, depending on the circumstances,” I eventually said, estimating my breaking point. I’d happily hold my family down in the interim, but I think between six months and a year and a half is a reasonable amount of time to secure a new job for someone who is actively and aggressively seeking employment,” I continued.
He, of course, felt that anything past six months was too long for a man to leave his wife carrying such a heavy burden alone.
“Hell, even six months is too long. I may not be able to get the job that I want, but I’d rather hand out flyers and scrub toilets than leave my woman paying all of the bills,” he said.
I let out a sigh of relief. Unemployment in a relationship isn’t always a money thing, but more so, a partnership thing. In my years on this earth, I’ve encountered my share of men who seemed a bit too comfortable with being chronically unemployed—family members, friends and unfortunately, some ex-boyfriends. We then began discussing a mutual friend, who recently revealed that her husband was not only unemployed for more than a year, but despite being home all day while she went to work, was even reluctant about helping out with household chores. This friend, who was never shy about professing her love for her hubby in the past, confessed that his laziness was slowly stirring up a bit of resentment within her that sometimes made it difficult to be around him.
“Kerry and Nnamdi will be fine. They have millions to fall back on,” my boyfriend eventually said.
They probably will be fine. Hopefully our friend will be too, I thought to myself.
All relationships have their challenges and rough patches, but I believe that two people wholeheartedly committed to working through those tough times and focusing on the light at the end of the tunnel are what the best love stories are made of. However, it has to be pretty tough when you’re struggling just to keep Con Edison from shutting that light (and the rest of them) off.
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Well would you look at that! After discussing that she’s ready to find love and settle down again, the word on the e-streets is that La Toya Jackson married her long time business partner/friend/whatever he is to her, Jeffre Phillips.
According to RadarOnline, Jackson and Phillips were married in a ceremony in Los Angeles on Friday afternoon. The couple were joined by Jackson’s mom Katherine as well as one of her nephews. It sounds like they could have been two of the witnesses.
On La Toya’s show on OWN, Life With La Toya, Phillips made a bold move an proposed to her on the show after he was tired of seeing her being “wooed” by other men. It seemed a little odd but many of her friends considered them to be in some sort of situation because he was always around and always seemed to have a say in how she acts in her relationships.
One can only wonder if the couple will now take the idea of adoption more seriously. Jackson said many times on her show that she had a desire to have her own family by adopting a child. There’s not much information about Phillips but if he has children, it’s highly likely that they are adults.
We haven’t heard any official word from La Toya or Jeffre but this sounds like pretty solid information.
Congratulations to the happy couple!
Your son procrastinates. Your neighbors let their lawn grow too tall. Your husband forgets what you tell him. Your mother tells you how to raise your children. Ugh: which of those scenarios annoys you most? How do you react when it arises? Do you criticize the people involved, hoping your sarcastic comments will change their behavior? Here’s a secret: more than likely all the criticism in the world won’t change another person’s behavior. Want better results? Instead, try using this simple C.H.A.N.G.E. Method.
Let’s use the neighbor who waits too long before mowing the lawn as an example. While you read this scenario, imagine using this method for whatever pushes your criticism buttons.
Change your opinion of the bad behavior. Is this really your problem? The neighbor’s yard may be overgrown and unattractive, but it is not a reflection on your own meticulous care of your lawn. If the image of an unsightly lawn bothers you, put up a fence or a hedgerow. Drive to your house from the opposite direction so you don’t have to see the lawn that needs to be mown. Or quite simply, consider that this is not your problem and get on with your life!
Honor the person over the behavior. Maybe the neighbor has been sick and is unable to tend to his lawn. Maybe he has other worries that take him away from the lawnmower duties. You can’t possibly know why your neighbor’s lawn is unkempt unless you go over and talk, and merely telling your neighbor that his lawn is unsightly will only annoy him. However, offering to help your neighbor mow the lawn will show him that you care. Bring over a cake or a casserole to help him through a difficult time in addition to offering to mow the lawn. Or send your teenage son over to offer the services. Chances are, your neighbor will pay your child to do the job and in that case, everyone wins!
Accept the behavior you cannot change. Acceptance is a huge part of peace. If your neighbor doesn’t want your help, if he doesn’t see the same problem you see, or if he flatly refuses to mow his lawn more than once a month, then accept that this is his way of living. At least you’ll have an attractive lawn to look at next door during the few days immediately after he mows!
Notice the good behavior before the bad. The theory of leaving well enough alone does not work when you’re trying to change someone’s behavior. You’ll need to verbally reward your neighbor immediately after he mows the lawn with a comment something like this: “Wow! Your yard looks so much bigger today.” Or: “What kind of lawnmower did you use? My husband is looking for a new model and yours is so quiet I never heard you mowing.” In both examples, the focus is not on the fact that the lawn is now mown after four weeks of growth. The focus is on the nice front yard and well-oiled lawnmower!
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From Single Black Male
My friend and I were discussing what’s always on everyone’s mind these days: love and relationships. We were updating each other on our potential plus ones when I asked, “Why do I have to be in love with the person I marry? Why can’t I marry a man because I believe he’ll be a good father and/or a good provider?” My friend perished the thought and expressed that marrying for reasons, not including love, would be settling. I disagreed. Days later, I stumbled upon an article that eloquently echoed my sentiments in a beautifully written piece entitled, Three Reasons You Should Never Marry For Love:
1. Love is a changeable emotion. As quickly as you fall in love, you can fall out of love. Then what? Either the relationship ends or it becomes toxic. If love is your primary connection, the glue is gone. This is true for passionate, physical love as well as “soul-mate” love.
2. Love does not make for a strong enough foundation. Yes, love is strong but, due to the fact that it can evaporate, it is not something that can stand alone as the basis for a long-term relationship (especially when kids are involved). Anything built on a foundation of love is subject to crumbling.
3. Love is far from “all you need.” You need mutual respect, shared goals and compatibility way more than you need love to have a sustainable, lasting relationship. People “fall in love with love” just as Kim Kardashian showed us, because they think it will carry them the distance. We all want to be wanted and we love to love yet, if you had a recipe for a strong, healthy relationship, it might look like this: 3 Cups respect; 2 Cups shared goals; 2 Cups compatibility, 1 Tablespoon love, 1 teaspoon attraction (optional!). (Of course a relationship has many more ingredients than this but you get the idea).
Read more at SingleBlackMale.org
At the start of this year Toni Braxton dropped a rather shocking bomb on the music world when she revealed that she was considering retirement.
“I don’t know if I’m going to be doing anymore music, I’ve said that before in the past but I don’t know,” the Un-break My Heart singer said during a February interview with Tom Joyner.
“I just don’t know. Maybe I’m mad at music. I don’t know what it is. I can’t, my heart’s not in it right now,” she continued. “They’re [the record labels] actually calling and I’m like well ‘I don’t know if I want to do another record’ but that’s a blessing I guess but I gotta be in it, I gotta love it and maybe because everything that has happened to me I don’t know.”
Thankfully, it looks like her good friend Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds helped to pull her out of the musical rut that she found herself in. Back in August we told you that the duo will be joining forces for a collaborative album titled, Love, Marriage, Divorce. Radio DJs can’t seem to get enough of their first single, “Hurt You,” so it looks like it’s safe to say that Toni is no longer considering retirement. She also confirmed this during a recent interview with The Grio.
“I was going to retire because I was thinking about my career. So he [Babyface] told me you can’t think about that, you have to go back to being an artist and performing and loving your artistry,” Toni told Chris Witherspoon.
“Retiring is off the table now. I don’t know what I was thinking. I will never retire… ever, ever,” she continued.
We’re glad she came to her senses!
Check out footage from her interview on the next page.
Yesterday we reported on allegations that Best Man Holiday actor Terrence Howard tied the knot with his fourth wife, a Canadian woman named Miranda, after only one month of dating. These rumors have yet to be officially confirmed by Howard’s reps, but it wouldn’t be a total shock, as Terrence has confessed to falling in love rather quickly in the past. Unfortunately, if in fact Terrence and Miranda have tied the knot, their season of carefree marital bliss may be short-lived, since it looks like Terrence still has some unfinished business with his ex-wife, Michelle Ghent. The former couple’s tumultuous marriage officially ended in May, but Michelle is accusing him of failing to pay spousal support, reports RadarOnline.
“Since the commencement date of 5/15/12, Terrence Howard has only made sporadic payments to me totaling $18,435 and owes an arrearage sum of $63,303… the Court finds that Terrence Howard owes me $122,221.64 including interest… legal fees to my lawyer, $15,500,” court documents allege.
The documents go on to say that due to Terrence’s failure to cough up the monthly payments, her credit was ruined and she was forced to vacate her apartment. She also accuses Terrence of forcing her to foot the bill for their messy and allegedly violent reconciliation trip to Costa Rica over the summer.
“During our recent reconciliation, Terrence Howard frequently made charges on my credit cards as Respondent does not have his own credit cards and promised to reimburse me for his charges. At Terrence Howard’s request, I charged our 7/2012 trip to Costa Rica on my credit card. The unreimbursed charges for the Costa Rica trip and prior charges are approx. $18,282,” the documents read.
Jazmine Denise is an entertainment and celebrity news blogger. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise.
Rashidah Ali Talks Shaunie O’Neal-Produced Wedding Special And Why She’s No Longer Friends With Tahiry
In case you were disappointed by Rashidah Ali’s lack of camera time in the current season of Love & Hip Hop, you’ll get to see a lot more of her, as she recently announced that she will be collaborating with Shaunie O’Neal for a wedding special.
“Well right now I am actually currently working on a wedding special with Shaunie O’Neal executive producing it of course with the support of Mona because that’s my heart right there and you’ll be able to see him [my fiancé] there since I can’t do the wedding special by myself cause if I could I would,” Rashidah said during an interview with Bossip.
She also surprisingly revealed that her friendship with Tahiry is a done deal.
“The funny thing is that the people that you expect not to get out of line are the ones that get out of line. Tahiry and I are no longer friends and that’s not someone that you would expect to get out of line,” she continued.
Only God knows what caused a rift between the ladies and unfortunately, we may not see it play out on the show. Tahiry responded to Rashidah’s revelation during a follow-up interview with Bossip.
“I really don’t know if it’s gonna play out on the show. I really don’t know what Rashidah is talking about. She’s probably talking about it so you guys can talk about it. At the end of the day, I know what friendship means to me. I know the definition of a friendship. So I guess she’s saying that because she needs to so you guys can ask me about it because there’s nothing else going on. I’m highly disappointed. It hurts me bad, but everyone does what they want to do when they’re on TV, I guess,” Tahiry said.
“We’ve known each other for eight years—in passing—the last five. When Joey and I lived together, Rashidah was our neighbor for like a year tops [...] There was a level of respect I thought we had. It was a level of friendship that I thought we had. Friends are not friends because you see each other everyday or you connect everyday. Friends are friends because no matter what happens, it’s like y’all never left,” she continued.
It sucks that these two aren’t friends anymore.
Watch Rashida’s interview below and Tahiry’s response on the next page. Would you watch Rashidah’s wedding special?