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His Mother Might Overstep Boundaries And 13 Other Things Every Woman Should Know Before Getting Married
Exciting, scary, crazy, beautiful – take every emotion, ball it up and that’s the essence of getting married. It’s a really big step most of us walk into bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. The idea of forever with the one you love is magical.
The actual journey, however? It’s more like hard labor sprinkled with pixie dust.
Marriage is both fun and challenging. The more prepared you are for what’s to come, from in-laws to “submission,” the easier it is to get a running start and spend less time bickering about whose method of washing dishes works best.
Want to start off your new life in the right frame of mind? Here are 14 things every woman should know before getting married:
Just days after Kandi and Todd tied the knot, Mama Joyce came forward and revealed that there was a bit of disharmony between the bride and groom a few days before the wedding because due to Todd’s refusal to sign the prenuptial agreement.
“I got a little pissed at the bridegroom the night before this wedding,” Joyce explained. “He kind of held up on signing the prenup and didn’t come to the rehearsal dinner because he didn’t want to sign it. His mom said she didn’t see no reason for him to have to sign because they were in love. He was the one who didn’t have a damn thing, but that’s another story. But from what I understand, he did sign.”
During a recent interview with the Tom Joyner Show, Kandi admitted that there was an issue regarding the signing of the prenup in the days preceding the wedding, but not for the reason that most of us may have been lead to believe.
“He always said that he would sign it, but I guess after he had met with his attorney they were bringing up stuff that they felt like was unfair. It wasn’t anything to do with the money part. My attorney had added some things that would normally be in a will. Itwas some extra stuff.”
As for Fantasia’s colorful wedding speech, Kandi says people blew it way out of proportion.
“It really wasn’t that serious,” the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star expressed. “I hate that people tried to turn it into something else. It didn’t bother me at all. I was laughing my butt off. I thought it was funny. She had a drink or two, so she was feeling good. She’s supposed to feel comfortable around me. It bothered me that people tried to make more out of it than what it really was.”
Kandi also confirmed rumors that Mama Joyce and Todd’s mom, Miss Sharon, don’t get along so well. Apparently we’ll be able to witness the in-law drama unfold once her Bravo wedding special airs.
Listen to Kandi’s full interview below.
Some women take issue with the Biblical mandate of wives submitting to their husbands (which is actually supposed to be a two-way street) but not these celebrity wives who believe in submission and have proudly talked about how it makes their marriage work.
My mother can be difficult. Yep, I said it. I’ve said it to her as well. She is set in her ways, not big on compromising, and isn’t a happy camper when I disagree with her. It’s a bit much. Luckily, she doesn’t give my husband a hard time (she saves it all for me) and he is a pretty easygoing guy, so they get along just fine.
Thankfully, I don’t have any horror stories to share about my mother-in-law, either. We get along wonderfully. We tend to agree on things and if we don’t, the disagreement is always respectful. What we have works.
In the last few weeks, I have been watching the Real Housewives of Atlanta while the situation between Kandi, Todd and Mama Joyce unfolds. I have to tell you, in my opinion Mama Joyce is way out of line and Kandi is tolerating too much.
I respect my mother—really, I do. However, I am grown and I don’t see why my mother would ever have a vote when it comes to my life decisions. As a mother, surely she has right to show concern and have an opinion. However, a concerned opinion does not equal a vote—ever.
I think problems between a person and their in-laws often stems from an underlying issue that person’s spouse has with their parent.
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“Married To Medicine’s” Heavenly Kimes On Submission: “Black Women Need To See A Woman Who Takes Care Of A Household”
MadameNoire doesn’t know much about Dr. Heavenly Kimes other than she’s a leading Atlanta dentist and founder of Heavenly Dental Associates, Inc., oh, and a fiesty new cast member on Bravo’s “Married To Medicine” who’s shaking things up in more ways than one.
Already having to defend her stance that a dentist is also a doctor to her fellow cast mates, Dr. Kimes is now explaining her comments about submitting to her husband, who’s also a doctor. As you can imagine, the declaration from such a high-powered woman that she submits to her husband didn’t go over too well with audiences during a previous episode of the show, but wpeaking with Sister 2 Sister, Dr. Kimes didn’t back down from her beliefs, telling the magazine:
“I submit to my husband. I make my husband’s food. I take care of the household. I understand my role as a wife and a mother.
“Black women need to see a woman who takes care of a household, who’s married with children and that’s not seen a whole lot,” she said, adding that regarding the show as a whole, “It should be applauded that all of us are educated. We talk about business, money and relationships. I think that’s a part of the whole scope of life.”
Let’s get back to that whole household thing though, shall we? Dr. Kimes’ position certainly isn’t new and, for many, is a biblical mandate, but we’re going to guess what most female viewers took issue with more than her cooking dinner for her husband was calling him “daddy.” Explaining her vernacular, she said:
“I thought that was cute. When my son was born, I would say ‘Damon’ and both of them would answer.”
Guess the nickname just stuck after, huh?
I don’t know about you but I feel a side-eye coming on. True, we don’t see many brown women who are happily married with children on TV, but are we lacking a submissive role model to show us how to take care of house and home? I’m not sure about that. What do you think about Dr. Heavenly Kimes and her stance on submission?
While dropping my son off at day care one morning, a mommy friend invited me to meet her sister who was visiting. I was instantly intrigued by Bianca*, whose high energy, tight clothes and bright colors were a contrast to my slacks, sweats and earth tones. Because she was so much fun, my husband, Julian*, and I quickly formed a friendship with her. I was the family breadwinner, working 60 hours a week while also earning a business degree. Julian and I had been married for three years, and our love was stronger than ever, but the second I got home from work all I could think about was doing laundry, putting my son to bed and preparing for the next day. Bianca was like a breath of fresh air.
I felt young and free as we started to hang out and she shared steamy stories about her dating life. As someone who never felt sexy, I was fascinated. She was constantly telling me I was beautiful, and the compliments grew. One night we were having a drink when she leaned over and told me she loves going down on women. Then she whispered in my ear, “Let me kiss it.”
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Dear Dr. Sherry,
I got married in May 2011 and my husband left six months later after a heated argument when I asked him to leave my house. Needless to say he never returned. I reached out with very little response and the times he wanted to talk he blamed me for everything. Eventually he cut off all communication with me. This went on until June 2012. At this point, I was lost and I prayed and prayed until I said I’m going to try to call him once more. Well, he answered but the response was devastating. He pretended that he didn’t know who I was! My reaction, of course, was filled with tears and pain. I said, “This is your wife.” He laughed at me and hung up. Once again, there was no communication. I filed for divorce on May 1st and he signed the papers the next day. Our divorce was final by July 2012. The process was so swift and fast it was hard to deal with. My question is, why was divorce such an easy outlet for him when he is the one who left and never returned? Why wouldn’t he file for the divorce? It has been almost two years. I feel I’m better and this is my testimony. But I must live with fact that I will never truly know why he left, cut off all communications and made me feel obsolete like the marriage never occurred. It’s a hard factor to live with for the rest of my life. Any advice or thoughts to help me through this?
A Sweet Lady
Read Dr.Sherry’s response at Essence.com
Another celebrity couple is throwing in the towel…
According to TMZ, Melika Payne, wife of “Martin” actor Carl Payne Jr., filed for divorce with the L.A. County Superior Court last month. It’s unclear what ruined the couple’s 22-year marriage, but Melika cites “irreconcilable differences” in her filing.
Melika’s decision probably doesn’t come as a huge surprise to her famous husband, as the couple has been legally separated since 2012. She is requesting sole physical custody and joint legal custody of their son. Melika is also requesting spousal support from her actor husband.
The estranged couple tied to knot back in 1992. They have been legally married for twenty-two years, but legally separated for two of those years.
‘What Lie Y’all Gon’ Tell Him When His Daddy Ain’t There?’ Tiffney Cambridge Files Restraining Order Against The Game
Last week we told you that rapper Jayceon “The Game” Taylor has been accused of breaking ex-fiancée, Tiffney Cambridge’s, nose in a vicious attack. With the exception of a few cryptic Instagram posts, Tiffney has remained pretty quiet regarding the alleged attacked. The Game, however, spoke out about the allegations. While he admits that there was an incident that took place, he insists that he never laid a finger on Tiffney.
We’ve recently learned that Tiffney obtained a protective order against the rapper-turned-reality-star on Apr. 2, which according to TMZ, prohibits him from coming within 100 yards of her. The order also prohibits him from having any contact with Tiffney whatsoever. The former couple is scheduled to appear in court later this month. Until then, The Game has reportedly been granted weekend visitation to see the children.
Interestingly, the “My Life” rapper recently took to Instagram with claims that Tiffney is not allowing him to see his children. His heartfelt post reads:
“Doing the best I can not to break.. But it’s funny how someone you’ve done so much for can be so ugly & cruel as to keep my children away from me vindictively because I’ve decided to move on with my life. I love all 3 of my kids more than life itself & it’s one thing to keep me away from them.. & them away from me but @harlemcarontaylor hasn’t seen his younger brother or sister in a month & just texted me ‘Dad, how come Justice can’t come to my house’ & I have to lie to him because he’s to young to understand the real reason why.
I know they ask about me, I know they love me & I know they miss me as much as I miss them but were not allowed to see each other & for what ??? As if I haven’t been there for them everyday since the day they were born…. They are the only reason I care about breathing another day on earth… They are the sole reason I have become a better person… They are the reason I give back, the reason I help people & the reason I wake up everyday with a smile on my face. Most importantly… They are MY CHILDREN & we deserve to be in each other’s lives forever.
What kind of person would get in the middle of someone’s devoted fatherhood when there are countless women out here that are raising there children on their own with no one to help. You would think a father that loves his children the way I do would be the least bit appreciated & not have to beg someone to see his own children. I have worked so hard at being a good parent only to have it taken away by someone who cares not about me, nor the welfare of our children but only about themselves. All of this just so you can keep me away from Justice on his birthday. What lie y’all gone tell em’ when his Daddy ain’t there ? Like I have been the past 6 birthdays ? The past 6 Christmas’s ? The past 6 years of a son’s life whom got his name from a father that patiently awaited his arrival here into this world ??? & Cali….. I’m not gone even start.. I will end this by saying…. Daddy loves you…. Misses you… & will always be here no matter what happens !!!! I am a REAL FATHER.”
We’re not 100% sure what’s going on here, but we can only hope that these two can amicably work things out for the sake of their children.
For awhile it looked like Robin Thicke and estranged wife, Paula Patton, were definitely going to get back together. But now that nearly two months have passed since Paula announced the separation, chances for a reunion look a bit bleak. Of course, we’re on the outside looking in and who’s to say that the couple isn’t busy privately working things out. However, judging by a recent interview done by Robin’s famous father, Alan, it looks like the couple is still apart.
“They’re doing great [post split] and Robin is pouring himself into the musical artistry,” Alan told ET Canada. “There will be a fabulous album coming out within months… he’s almost finished it.”
When asked if he believes that there is a chance for reconciliation between Robin and Paula, Alan candidly answered that he wasn’t really sure.
“They’re grown ups. I wouldn’t bet on them one way or another.”
As you may recall, back in February Paula Patton issued a statement that the couple would be separating after nearly 10 years of marriage.
“We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time.”
I guess we’ll have to stay tuned to see whether or not the split is really a permanent one.