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Falling in love, for many people, is as easy as breathing. STAYING in love, however, is something else…and much harder to do. In the beginning, you can’t imagine being without him or her, and from the moment you fall in love or say “I Do,” you hope that blissful feeling of being in love never ends. But after time, children, and life in general, you may wake up one day to find that you are no longer in love with your partner…and you wonder where the love went. That’s not to say that you don’t love each other anymore, but the “in love” feeling has faded to the background. If you cherish your relationship and value your partner, here are some things you can try to do to ignite that spark and get that good feeling back.
By Doctor Jack Singer
If your marriage is on the rocks, and your husband refuses to attend couples therapy with you, you’re probably completely frustrated. Fortunately, there is hope for your relationship.
In this video, licensed clinical psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Jack Singer explains what you should do when your marriage needs third-party assistance but your husband won’t cooperate.
“There is a twofold answer to this question,” says Dr. Jack. “Number one, we have to make sure that your husband really is committed to working on the relationship. He could be using the excuse of not wanting to go to a therapist as an excuse …”
See what this expert has to say at YourTango.com.
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I know as women we love to give advice and share our opinions amongst each other. This is how we bond, connect and build sisterhood. But we must be careful to not confuse someone’s opinion with our truth. Everyone operates differently and nobody is one in the same, so be cautious when taking advice, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
It’s easy to receive counsel from your friends instead of asking yourself those hard but truthful questions about the state of your relationship or situation. We seek validation when we aren’t confident in our decision making or ourselves. Never second guess yourself or undervalue your own feelings. If you know deep in your heart that you love your man despite his flaws, then so be it. If you want to take him back after he messed up, that is your prerogative. Or if you want to leave him, and find your happiness again, don’t wait for permission. Your friends may call you a fool (and they may or may not be right) but regardless, if that is what you want to do, then go ahead. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. You are the only one who can satisfy your needs.
We are all on a different timeline on this journey called life. Our experiences are uniquely made for us. They will teach us important lessons that will apply to our next chapter in life. So don’t block your blessings by walking in someone else’s shoes. It’s okay to share your experiences and situations with close friends to vent and get things off your chest. But don’t rely on others to be your problem solvers or the captain of your ship. Because woman to woman, at the end of the day you just have to do what works for you.
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