Although they broke up and moved on with other people, we just can’t seem to get over these high-profile celebrity relationships that we thought were a match made in heaven. Here are 15 celebrity couples that we wish could have stood the test of time.

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Kanye and Alexis

Before there was Kanye West and Kim Kardashian or even Kanye and Amber Rose, there was Kanye and Alexis. The Chicago rapper/producer met Alexis Phifer back in 2002 and the cute couple dated on and off for four years before West finally popped the question. After an 18-month whirlwind engagement the two went their separate ways citing his hectic touring schedule as the cause. West dated then-unknown model Amber Rose before settling down with the reality show superstar who is now pregnant with their first child.

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The devil is always in the details. It’s especially true if you’re technically married but dating. You can get labeled a homewrecking sinner because those papers just haven’t been processed. Too many are in such a rush to move on to the next one when they don’t need to be.

Couples stand before God and pledge their love until death do them part. Or until they can no longer stand the sight of the other which is becoming the norm. However, it’s not just a covenant with God which has been broken. You might give your spouse the pink slip but in the eyes of the law, you’re still married until a judge decrees otherwise. So should you hit the clubs and mix and mingle for a new mate before then?

Divorces are often a lengthy process and many people begin dating before officially putting their previous relationships to rest.  Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are the latest high profile example of this practice. She is still legally wed to NBA player Kris Humphries, but that hasn’t stopped her from flaunting her romance du jour for the paps. Jennifer Lopez is also reveling in her status as a cougar with Casper Smart despite her marital status with Marc Anthony. And how many folks have given women like Alicia Keys and Gabrielle Union crap for getting involved with men who were separated or getting divorced (without placing blame on the man)? Hollywood is glamorizing moving on to the next one at breakneck speed, but starting something new while the “something old” hangs over one’s head is asking for more drama than a Tyler Perry movie.

The only constant in life is change. All too often, feelings change. When they do, many yield to the temptation to act on impulse. Some think that they have more breathing room if so and so is legally separated.  Granted, there is a marked difference between stepping out with a significant other who is still wearing a ring and one who has taken it off. But at the end of the day, married is still married. It’s not over until the ink is dry.

For those who insist there are infinite shades of gray in a sensitive matter such as this, that argument cuts both ways. No relationship is strictly black and white. Love and hate can co-exist between two people. You can read someone to filth in the morning and enjoy the best make-up sex in the p.m. hours. There are so many couples who have filed for divorce only to change their minds and reconcile soon after. Everybody plays the fool but one can avoid being one by avoiding placing yourself in a dynamic that hasn’t been settled.

There is nothing wrong with being single and dating. The trouble exists when you’re dating and the one who still has the title is still in the picture. A relationship is hard enough with two people. Unless of course everyone involved co-signs on threesomes, but that is a discussion for another time.

Ultimately, dating should be like the ideal shopping experience. Layaway has its uses but it’s always been better to buy what you want outright. If it’s not on the market, there’s always another item that is.

Stephanie Guerilus is a journalist and author. Follow her @qsteph

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First of all, round of applause for Jennifer Lopez’ new boo, Casper Smart.  This young man has stepped in like a thief in the night and has made Jenny lose any tiny bit of sense she once had.  Secondly, will someone please tell Jenny that the rebound guy is almost solely used for a couple of good dates and some “hits out the park.”  He is not to be introduced to the children or weigh in on your work affairs. And he is definitely not the one to marry (okay, this isn’t all cases but it is in most cases).

But leave it to Jenny to switch it up.  According to “sources” who spoke to US Weekly, Jennifer is ready to marry her boyfriend of just a few short months and can hardly wait until October, the earliest her divorce from Marc Anthony could be official.  Another reason for the rush? She wants to have at least one more child with Casper and she doesn’t have “all the time in the world.”  It seems Jennifer was so excited to meet a man so different from Marc Anthony that she can’t even see clearly.

Now let’s give Casper the benefit of the doubt: he could be a wonderful man.  But at 24 years old, this young man has got to be soaking in all the publicity he’s getting and professional opportunities (he co-directed her latest video and allegedly sits in on her business meetings) that have surfaced since dating Jennifer. I doubt he’s ready to marry a woman almost 20 years older than him who has [soon-to-be] three ex-husbands and two children.

Something tells me Jenny doesn’t really know how to be single.  You can read the rest here.

What do you think?  Can you see Jennifer marrying Casper Smart?

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In an interview with the magazine Gala, Jada Pinkett Smith finally opened up about all those rumors swirling around that she and Will Smith’s relationship is on the rocks. Rumors were flying that she had picked up a divorce lawyer, was cheating with Marc Anthony (who was a guest star on her now-canceled show, “HawthoRNe”), and that Will even walked in on the two getting it in (and allegedly ran away crying). Even the kids had to go in on a few people through Twitter over the rumors. Though they had their reps speak on the alleged split last year, Jada wanted the world to know in her interview, from her own mouth, that she ain’t going anywhere anytime soon:

“Every year, one celebrity couple is under the microscope. This year, unluckily, it’s us! I almost want to say that we should have been expecting it. Will and I know the truth. We’re waiting peacefully for the storm to blow over.”

“These rumors are completely untrue. I travel a lot because of my work, just like Will does… But our lifestyle hasn’t changed. Before we had the kids, we were already far away from each other quite often because of separate projects.”

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Even though celebrities and real-life acquaintances remind us every day that love (fifty percent of the time) doesn’t last forever, we’re still sad to see couples that we really love break up – especially ones that we believe would’ve made it for the long haul.  For one reason or another, these celeb breakups blindsided us!

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Seal & Heidi Klum

I just…don’t know where “we” went wrong here, people.  Of course, not “we” literally but Seal and Heidi just seemed so good together. Yes, they gave us PDA and multiple wedding ceremonies but it was more than that; they just seemed so cool with each other. I still feel some kind of way that it is really over between them.

It’s been painfully obvious that Jennifer Lopez barely waited for the word divorce to leave Marc Anthony’s lips before she started dating again, and for the most part her soon-to-be-ex-hubby took her public displays of affection with Casper Smart on the chin, but the tables are starting to turn just a bit.

Last week, Marc Anthony posted photos of him loving up on Venezuelan model Shannon De Lima, and over the weekend they went “public” with their relationship by sending each other “look at me” tweets and retweeting congratulatory messages about their new relationship from followers. Meanwhile, J Lo was busy setting up a weekly $10,000 allowance transfer for her 24-year-old beau and back-up dancer so that he could feel like a man when they went out in public together.

Initially, both sides just seemed to be attempting to make the other jealous—which suggests they aren’t really over each other anyway—but now Marc has reportedly said J Lo needs to see a psychologist to figure out why she can’t stand to be without a man. It’s clear this divorce is about to get ugly—first comes psych eval, then comes full custody of the kids.

While bopping around town with their new lovers, neither J Lo nor Marc Anthony appears to have thought too much about their twins who are in the middle. Sure Jennifer took her children on vacation to Hawaii with Casper but that’s not exactly a good look. Most people wait a little while to expose their children to new father figures, and in some ways it’s just irresponsible to bring a bunch of side pieces around your kids. Yeah, mama has to have a life too, but mama also has to set a good example. Having uncle Casper’s and uncle Bradley’s rolling in and out of the house on rotation is not it.

And if Marc is about to play dirty, he should think about the repercussions of speaking too ill of his children’s mother. If you’ve already decided to split, there’s nothing else to say, go your separate ways and do it quietly. There’s never really any good way to get divorced but there’s definitely a better way than what these two are doing and I think it all started with J Lo’s dating. Separate, about to get a divorce, filing for the divorce, and anything similar means that you are still currently married and you should still carry yourself like a married woman. Marc Anthony could easily try to prove she’s an unfit mother and take the kids away from her, would that be worth her cougar rendezvous? I know being civil and actually waiting til things are final before you date again may not be the Hollywood way of doing divorce (or a lot of other American’s) but maybe they should try it. If they had, they wouldn’t be making a media spectacle of themselves and setting their children up to be right in the middle.

What do you think about the way J Lo and Marc Anthony are handling their divorce? Do you think they’re both just trying to make each other jealous? Are they both wrong for dating again so soon?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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J Lo’s new boo thang must be laying some major pipe! What else could explain why the pop singer felt the need to purchase a Bentley for her new 24 year old boyfriend, Casper Smart.

Excuse me, that’s a tad rude. Maybe Casper is really making J Lo happy… emotionally and she just had to show her love for him this way… even though he’s run into some legal trouble for drag racing and driving without a license. Hmmm…

Anyway, get the rest of the story and check out pics of the new ride, here.

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According to the numbers, you shouldn’t believe the hype. Divorce is not increasing at a whopping rate — in fact, it’s leveling off and decreasing after years of going up at alarming numbers. Could be because less people are getting married. Or you could attribute it to the fact that some people are actually taking their vows seriously. Maybe, maybe not.

I, like you, can only speculate what the ins and outs were of Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony’s marriage. He could have been crazier than that “thang,” or hey, she could have put her career over her relationship. Only those two–and God–know. In the newest issue of Vanity Fair, Lopez opens up about her failed marriage, and her thoughts on love. According to Jenny from the Block (and thanks to Entertainment Weekly), she loved HERSELF enough to know when to let her rocky marriage with Marc Anthony go…interesting:

“It’s not that I didn’t love myself before. Sometimes we don’t realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself — if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now.”

I understand that people shouldn’t stay in rocky relationships for the benefit of their children–believe me, I get it. That only makes things harder for the child. And I also know you shouldn’t allow a man, woman, or anyone to kill your spirit, but why so much “me” talk when marriage is about two people? Compromise much?

Jennifer Lopez and her mother Guadalupe Lopez

According to the folks over at Us Weekly, sources are saying that weeks before Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony officially broke things off, Jen’s mother, Guadalupe, sought out Ben Affleck for advice on what Jennifer should do about her failing marriage.

Crazy right!? Guadalupe was always a big fan of Affleck after Jen and Ben were the “it-couple” for nearly two years. Guadalupe trusted him and thought he could provide some helpful advice on what her daughter should do. Allegedly, Ben replied back wishing the actress/singer well and offered what little encouragement and input he could. What that “input” was, well, that wasn’t said. But we can only imagine…

Word out there is that Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony’s relationship was full of control and jealousy issues, including allegations of an affair in 2009 on Anthony’s part, but I don’t know if taking advice from an ex is the way to go. Even if you weren’t the one who directly did it…

What do you guys think? Should her mom have reached out to Ben for marital advice for her daughter? Do you think Jen took his advice to heart?