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Tiny Sends Loving Anniversary Message To T.I.

July 31st, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Tiny and T.I.’s marital woes have taken center stage over the past few months, but it appears that the reality TV couple is committed to working through whatever problems they may be facing in their relationship. It just so happens that today the reality stars are celebrating their fourth wedding anniversary. In honor of the special day, Tiny took to Instagram with an affectionate message for her rapper hubby.

“4 yrs ago @troubleman31 made me The Mrs. Harris, this was the best day ever!! My own Fairy Tale Wedding….El Debarge singing “All this Love” for our first dance and @iamjamiefoxx sung me dwn the aisle. It doesn’t get much better than that!! Happy Anniversary to the man I LOVE, my husband!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️”

Her message was also accompanied by photos from their ceremony.

Tiny recently spoke about the issues that she and her husband are experiencing and the two songs that they recently released about one another.

“I’ve had people say, why not just talk to your husband about all this instead of talking to him through a song,” the singer-turned-reality-star told Vibe’s Aliya S. King. “Please believe, I’m doing that too! You’re not in our house. You’re not in our conversations. You’re not in our bed at night. This song is not all there is to this relationship.”

“Will our music affect our real-life relationship? I really don’t know,” she continued. “I mean if it does, I hope it’s in a good way. Hopefully, it works out in our favor in the end. All I know is that I’m working on it. We’re working on it.”

Happy Anniversary!

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#BeyoncifyMyBoyfriend: Toronto Teen Photoshops Ex As Beyonce

July 30th, 2014 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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Life will twist and turn while you’re dealing with a breakup. You may find yourself munching on sugary cupcakes by day and dancing on tables by night and in between these moments, deleting all your “so-in-love” photos on social media. But before you hit that “delete” button on your pictures, Toronto native Cassandra Blackwel has another option for you: Beyoncify your boyfriend! Buzzfeed reports when Blackwel broke up with her boyfriend instead of deleting every picture of them together, she photoshopped his face with the face of our Beloved Queen Bey.

Blackwel even turned her post-breakup photo project into a Tumblr page and is taking requests to Beyoncify everyone’s ex-boyfriend. She says: “It’s an ode to how much effort I put into the relationship, if you will.” In an interview will Elle Magazine Online, Blackwel said her project doubled her Twitter following and helped her forget about her break-up. Although many find her breakup recovery tactic a bit strange, Blackwel says of her project:  “I think it’s doing so well because everyone can relate to it. It’s just fun and innocent I think that’s why everyone is enjoying it. I made the blog for my friends and never expected it to get like this.”

With submissions streaming in for her to Beyoncify other men, Blackwel claims the project helps alleviate the pain during any breakup period. She notes, “ If imagining yourself at your happiest with Beyoncé doesn’t help, I don’t know what will.”

Blackwel ain’t say nothing but a word!

Below you will find some pictures of Blackwel Beyoncifying her ex-boyfriend via her Beyoncify Beyonce Tumblr Page:
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cozy night in with B

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For more pictures, check out Beyoncify My Boyfriend. Will you be submitting a photo?

Keyshia Cole Reacts To Boobie’s Claims That He Doesn’t Believe In Divorce Because He’s A Christian…

July 30th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Folks love getting all spiritual after they have screwed up royally. Last week, we told you that Daniel “Boobie” Gibson claimed that he wouldn’t be filing for divorce from his estranged wife, Keyshia Cole, because he’s a Christian and doesn’t believe in it.

“She would have to do it,” he expressed. “I am a Christian. I believe in ’til death do us part.’”

Of course, it’s no secret that Daniel is a believer, but considering that he practically confessed to stepping out on his wife, the idea of him suddenly wanting to rest on biblical principles regarding marriage was slightly comical. This morning, during an interview with The Breakfast Club, Charlamagne informed Keyshia of Daniel’s comments and her reaction tickled me quite a bit.

“He did not say that,” Keyshia responded before laughing. “He did not say that!”

After getting her giggles out, Keyshia seriously responded to his comment.

“It’s a lot of things you should think about before—if you really feel like that in your heart and your soul as a person, as a man, as a father. I know people make mistakes, but you know, you gotta think about those kind of things because ultimately, it’s not worth it. [You gotta learn from your mistakes] at least. How about we do that? Let’s start there. Just let it go and know what you have and let’s keep it moving.”

Keyshia also responded to Boobie publicly confessing that he “failed” her as a husband. Clearly, she ‘s had enough.

“It’s a lot of admitting and a lot of doing wrong. It just gets tired. [And he continues to do it].”

Things are so over between them that Keyshia said that while she hopes he has learned his lesson, she won’t be the one sticking around to find out.

“Recently I told him, ‘I hope you really find that woman and you be good to her.’”

She seems to be handling the split a lot better, which is great.

Watch Keyshia’s full interview on the next page. 

4 Toxic Dating Rules You Should Not Follow

July 29th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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By Lorraine Jackson, For YourTango 

Are you totally baffled as to why you only seem to attract men who are far from ideal for you? Are you tired of ending up with men who aren’t ready for the same type of relationship you want? Before you give up on the possibility of ever meeting a guy who truly measures up, you may want to take a look at how the following so-called “dating rules” may be adversely hurting your chances of finding The One.

Myth# 1. You’ll “just know” when you meet the right guy.

 We’ve been programmed to believe that we can tell whether or not a guy is right for us based on the way he makes us feel, therefore, many women fail to take less-savory aspects of his character into account when determining if he would make a good mate for them.

 

However, trying to establish a relationship based solely on an intense attraction can cloud your judgment in determining whether a truly viable, long-term relationship is even possible with this guy. While being physically attracted to him should definitely be part of the equation, intense chemistry itself shouldn’t be your only reason for choosing to be in a long-term relationship.

 

 Myth # 2: Good men are in limited supply.

 

The following expressions, “a good man is hard to find” and “all the good men are already taken” are so widely held as truth by single ladies everywhere, women not only rely on these two concepts to sooth their bruised egos and damaged self-esteem when a relationship goes awry; they’ve become the single woman’s mantra for being unable to find a suitable mate.

 

Unfortunately, this way of thinking not only causes women to latch onto the first guy who shows the slightest interest in them. Subscribing to the notion that good men are few and far between also causes women to spend way too much time trying to make a relationship work with the wrong guy.

Read more about these dating rules at YourTango.com 

Tracee Ellis Ross Talks To Upscale About Why There Are No One-Size-Fits-All Rules In Love

July 29th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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upscaleIn less than two months, Tracee Ellis Ross will be returning to the small screen with her new comedy series, “Black-ish,” starring comedian Anthony Anderson. The fluffy-haired diva appears on the August 2014 cover of Upscale magazine. Inside , she dishes on her new series, keeping her body tight and why there are no one-size-fits-all rules in the game of love. Check out some of her interview highlights below.

On what it means to be black:

“What is blackness? What is being black? Who defines that and do we need to define that? I don’t have the answers to all of those questions but I think these are the conversations we’re all still having.”

On “Black-ish:”

“The beauty of the show is that it’s just a family comedy, but it has another layer to it. I don’t know what I necessarily want people to think or talk about after watching it but for me in general with cultural identity, racial identity and feminist identity, dialogue is important. People communicating in a light and open way about issues that have a lot of depth and weight to them is a great thing.”

On loving her body:

“I’m proud of my body—I work very hard to keep my body at 41 years-old, because my booty could drop… Gravity is not a joke.”

On love and relationship advice:

“Any one rule [as it pertains to romantic relationships] that people think works everywhere is just not true. In general, with everything it’s an intimate discovery of trusting yourself and allowing yourself the room to have curiosity about life and self.”

You can check out Tracee’s full interview in the August issue of Upscale.

 

The Real Reason You Need Boundaries In Your Relationship

July 28th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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Inevitably, when I work with couples that have long-standing problems in their relationship, I come across a litany of boundary issues strewn along the way starting from the very beginnings of the relationship. In this particular article, I want to focus on the very specific but essential topic of boundaries. Typically when people think of boundaries, they are actually thinking of cut-offs, or situations in which such a firm wall is put up that it literally cuts off all further communication or connection. For example, “Don’t call me after 9pm,” is a cutoff; the idea being that there will be absolutely no further phone contact after 9pm. Or “I’m so mad at you that I never want to speak to you again.” Again, I think it’s clear that statement is more of a cutoff than an example of appropriate boundary setting.

So, what exactly are boundaries then? The way I see it, boundaries are guidelines that people put in place to allow them to enjoy their lives and relationships better. In this sense then, boundaries are built on internal values. For example, if someone values his or her free time, then they will set boundaries on how many hours they are willing to work. If an individual values their time (and therefore promptness), they will place a boundary on people showing up on time to meetings and appointments. Again, boundaries are based on values. If we are not clear on our values, we will have absolutely no boundaries. If we don’t place a priority on our values and we subordinate them to the values of others, then we will also lack boundaries.

 Let’s take a closer look at the issue of promptness as an example. If we are going on a date and value our time, we will have a clear boundary about how much we are willing to tolerate lateness. If our date shows up half an hour late, that would be a boundary violation. What we call “red flags” are really boundary violations. For someone who values his time, if the date shows up half an hour late without an excuse, that will be a red flag. For individuals who don’t value promptness and show up late all the time themselves, if their date also shows up late, that probably won’t be considered a red flag. So again, boundaries (and boundary violations) are based on values. Red flags are really another term for boundary violations.

Read more about relationships and boundaries at YourTango.com 

Why Are We Obsessed With Eating The “Cake” In Our Bedrooms?

July 25th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From Single Black Male 

You know, it’s said that we live in a microwave society. We are trendy. We want instant gratification. I’m sure we’re conditioned to be that way at this point. At least in small doses we all have a little microwave society in us. This day I examine a small part of what’s hot in the streets. You all probably have a good idea what it is I’m referring to. Analingus, tossing salad, and eating ass are all terms we’re familiar with by now. I mean hell,(black) twitter and instagram have made it hot! These are damn near household conversations. Just last week  a friend of mine tweeted that she didn’t go a day on twitter without seeing this stuff on her timeline. She wasn’t alone, my timeline mirrored the same. How about yours? I’ll tell you one thing, it wasn’t always like this. How did we get here? I’m not totally sure but I have an idea how.

I started high school in 2002. Music had a huge influence on all of us. Where I’m from hip hop was king. And with the culture being what it was it didn’t speak much about catering to a woman’s needs. This of course has changed some by now. But back then rappers weren’t talking about pleasing a woman. With that said, anyone who ever uttered a word about going down on a girl was shamed. It seemed a huge part of our culture didn’t support it so kids cracked on each other. If a kid had an acne problem and might’ve had a pimple close to their mouth it was a wrap. “Must’ve been eating that box” we might’ve said. Yes this is extremely juvenile but our pop culture backed us up. In hindsight, when you make a joke like that you tend to not look at the other side. The other side would mean that person was getting girls at least, right?

It’s hard to really pinpoint when I sensed a change.

But around maybe 2005 the climate seemed to change. Music seemed more content with going down on women. Hip hop at least wasn’t shaming the act hardcore like it once did. With that, people  felt more comfortable speaking about the act and doing the act. So now there’s an interesting dichotomy.

Continue reading about the latest sexual trend at SingleBlackMale.org

My Egyptian Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I’m Black

July 23rd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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By Cassandra Guerrier For YourTango 

“I didn’t think you’d want to know.”

This was how my boyfriend of three years told me that he was leaving me for a different girl. A white girl.

 As I watched him struggle with what to say, I remembered that I had seen them together around campus before, but had figured it was nothing; a harmless friendship that might be a little flirtatious, but not serious. Standing there on the sidewalk, I slowly began to understand that despite immersing myself in years of stolen glances, goodnight calls and sun-kissed smiles, it was all over. And even more shocking was the realization that he had always known it would have to end.

In spite of all of the laughter and secrets we had breathed to each other in the night, he had been lying to his entire family about who I was and what I meant to him. Why? Because he was embarrassed of my dark skin. As a Muslim man coming from a strict religious family, he was afraid of their disapproval and so figured the easiest solution was just to leave me for a woman with Blake Lively’s complexion. I don’t know what was worse: The fact that I was blindsided by this or that all of his whispered reassurances over the years that his parents would love me had meant nothing. He had to make a clean cut from me and he had to do it without thought for how it would make me feel.

When I first met Harvey, I fell in love with his eyes and his skin before I fell for him. Even though ours wasn’t a groundbreaking love story, I don’t think I’ll ever forget how we met at the beginning of the semester. Sitting at the back of the classroom, I remember laughing in his face when he tripped over his own feet and landed headfirst in the seat next to me. He made a look of indignation that turned into what I’d come to know as his signature smirk, and then jumped smoothly into conversation as if he hadn’t just made a tremendous fool of himself. After that, we ran into each other at every turn. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but there was something about the way that he carried himself across a room that made me want to get to know him. Maybe it was his shy smile or his penchant for sarcasm, but just like that, I stumbled into his love headfirst and with abandon.

From the stories he shared with me, I knew that Harvey came from a small Egyptian family who practiced Islam. He confided in me that he didn’t really consider himself that religious and would often get frustrated pretending to be just to appease his mother. I loved hearing him speak about his family’s culture and the customs that they followed. Being of Haitian descent (with a tight knit Catholic family of my own), I couldn’t say that I shared the same struggle as him, but I understood what it meant to feel so disconnected from what was supposed to be your identity. Growing up, I was subject to a running joke among my friends that I would marry someone outside of my nationality and race because I always had crushes on guys who were not black. It eventually started to catch on to the point that my classmates teased me constantly, making comments like, “Cassandra probably wishes she was a white girl with the way she’s chasing after those white boys!” and “Why can’t you like someone in your own race for once?” I hated their bullying, and so stopped confiding in them (and really anyone else) about my romantic interests for years. Those days I felt like I was drowning.

Continue reading about this relationship at YourTango.com 


#TheScore: Man Sends Wife Excel Sheet Of Every Time She Denied Him Sex

July 22nd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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By Huffington Post, From YourTango

A man logged his wife’s rejective responses to his advances from June 3 to July 16 …on an Excel spreadsheet. While we admire his organization, can you imagine receiving something like this? On the way to the airport, no less?

That’s what happened to the Reddit user who posted her husband’’ passive aggressive spreadsheet to the site.

Is this behavior acceptable? Read on at YourTango.com 

Would You Try “Dating Naked” To Find Your Soulmate?

July 22nd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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VH1’s new dating reality series is far from conservative, but eye-opening in more ways than one.

When Dating Naked was brought to my attention, I couldn’t help but sigh deeply, shake my head and think, ‘Okay, VH1. You’re keeping it a little too real.’

At the same time, I found myself wondering, ‘Are these people really naked? What are they doing during these skin-bared dates? And isn’t the awkwardness of Tinder and OKCupid enough?’

And just like that, I found myself (and my curiosity) sitting in front of the TV tuning in to the season premiere of the new “radical dating experience” – an extreme encounter that I initially found unnerving.

The idea of seeing two potential partners stripping their bodies before getting to know each other was unsettling. Each date was as though I was watching a movie in rewind and couldn’t hit stop and then press “Play.” It kind of reminded me of a one-night stand going down before any type of dialogue, without any action in between the sheets.

The kicker for me was that these stripping sessions happened outside in a “jungle” on some tropical island. And each time a new potential dating partner was introduced, they would meet in the wilderness with nothing but their exposed body. (Adam & Eve anyone?)

But after experiencing pairs of people “dating naked“ for 45 minutes, I decided that “radical” is not the word I’d use to describe this show.

Nope. Not at all.

In fact, nothing about being naked in your birthday suit is extreme, revolutionary or fanatical per se. Nudity (or watching blurred bodies) on television isn’t anything new. I don’t see groups of people looking to make this a fundamental part of dating in America, at least not in a very, very long time. If anything, unconventional would be more fitting.

Read more about this new reality show at TheGrio.com