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Reclaiming My Favorite Love Songs

February 20th, 2015 - By Kendra Koger
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I have a very complicated history with music.  Like most people, I’ve always loved it, and been drawn to it.  However, my mother did what she could to keep music away from us.

It wasn’t because she was kill-joy.  It was the fact that she was a health educator for the school district that we went to, and there were too many times that some of the kids in the different schools (and even in my elementary class) would come to her facility with issues about intercourse.

So my mother put a moratorium on music, to the point that when she was driving, we couldn’t even listen to gospel music (because at that time, Kirk Franklin was turning old secular songs to Christian ones, and she was against it), we listened to sermons.

My father, not wanting us to be the “weirdo kids” who didn’t know what was going on in pop culture, but could recite a Kenneth Hagin sermon from beginning to end, would sneak us music (but if we got caught with it, we were on our own).

Though my mother is less strict on music (because we’re all grown, and what can she do?!) I hold certain music very close to me.  I don’t know if it’s because I feel like it might get taken away, or what, but once I have “a song,” I like to keep it.

The problem that came with that, is when I would date, I would share some of my favorite songs with my guys (and vice versa).  Those songs would be the soundtrack to late-night chilling sessions in dorms, cuddling moments, and cruising around in my small Hyundai because we didn’t have any money to go anywhere, but we wanted to hang out anyway.

But once those relationships ended, I couldn’t listen to those songs anymore.

This became even more evident when I had an urge to listen to Usher’s “There Goes My Baby” on Youtube and couldn’t even make it to the “turn the lights on” part.  I knew that that song in particular was going to be hard to reclaim, because that was the song my ex-husband dedicated to me, but geez-louise, I still wanted to hear it.

It wasn’t until I looked at the selection of “Suggested Videos” on the side of my Youtube browser that I was confronted with my “Love Song Graveyard.”

There were so many songs that gave me a pang in my heart just looking at their titles.  It wasn’t like I still had feelings for the guys who I listened to the songs with, but I guess I just didn’t want to be reminded  of what didn’t last.

However, I’m incredibly stubborn, and figured that I need to get over this.

First, I realized that I never really confronted my feelings on each situation.  Once the relationship was over, I just moved on with my life.  You should do that; but for me, that included ignoring my feelings completely.  I never had a time to just marinate in what I was feeling.  So, I gave myself some time to think it over.

It wasn’t in an attempt to wallow, but to acknowledge whatever feelings I’d been suppressing.

Second, by thinking about it, I realized that though the relationships didn’t work, it didn’t mean that I was losing out on anything.  For some reason, thinking back on the relationships allowed me to remove the emotions from them, and I was able to see them in black and white.  Relationships begin, and some of them end, but that’s just life.

Finally, once I had an objective view of those past relationships, I was able to reclaim some of my favorite songs!  Being objective helped me to able to separate the emotions that were tied to the song, and just enjoy them.

The end of a relationship can be hard, but that doesn’t mean that you need to end your relationships with your favorite music, restaurant, or gym.  Whenever you feel ready, you can reclaim your favorite things, no matter what the emotions are that’s attached to them.

Trust me, my world has become a lot more musical of a late, and I couldn’t be happier.

Kendra Koger is gently bobbing her head, while occasionally tweeting @kkoger.

Love Songs Inspired By Real People

February 13th, 2015 - By Kendra Koger
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Jill Scott Reveals Six Month Dating Rule



The beauty of most love songs is the fact that you can identify them with a special person in your life (past, present, or future).  But when you find out that the song was written for a particular person, it makes the lyrics more tangible and the hope for true love more attainable.  Though many of these relationships didn’t last, we still have these songs as artifacts of a relationship that was so strong that the writers wanted to mark their union in lyrical prose.  With that, let’s go through a list of songs that the writers revealed were dedicated to a particular person when penning the lyrics.

Baby, Baby Please: The Greatest Get-Her-Back Love Songs

July 15th, 2014 - By M A
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Say what you will about Robin Thicke, but that man is committed. Since the moment his un-husband-like behavior came to light, he has done everything under the sun to win back the lovely Paula Patton. Though much of his pleading has apparently fallen on deaf ears, Thicke is certainly not alone in his brand of begging. Many a heartbroken man have pulled out all the stops to win back the loves of their lives. So as a salute to Thicke and all the other men desperately trying to get their ladies back, we take a look at 15 songs that will at least get her reconsidering a return.

Turn Off The Lights: 15 Of Our Favorite Baby Makin’ Slow Jams

July 1st, 2014 - By Nicole Akoukou Thompson
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There are the sweet love ballads: the ones that played in the background as you experienced your first kiss, went on your first date, and had your first dance. You know, the “Always and Forever” types. Then there are the romantic love songs: the ones that you were serenaded with, heard at a wedding, or songs that perfectly complimented an afternoon spent on the beach with your darling…

And then there are the more erotic songs…the ones that make you blush. They bring to mind some memorable sexual experiences that you’ve had, and they do it without being gross (like some of today’s overtly sexual music). Accurately known as “baby makin’” music, the following songs are a few of our favorite panty dropping jams.

Boyz II Men – “I’ll Make Love To You”

Ladies still know all the words to this song! And who doesn’t love a song about a man making love to you, like you want him to? Show me a woman who says this isn’t her song, and I’ll show you a liar.

Panty Droppers: 15 R&B Crooners To Get You In The Valentine’s Day Spirit

February 14th, 2014 - By Deron Dalton
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 Valentine’s Day is here and that means boxes of chocolate, teddy bears, dates and lovemaking. But it takes more than a special day for lovers to set that mood. And that’s when your favorite love songs and baby-making music come into play. And MadameNoire has the list of smooth R&B crooners, and their best slow jams and ballads ladies (and gents too) love to listen to while getting it on. Some of these male vocalists have the looks and some honestly just have the voices, but either way, women love them.

Reminds Me Of You: 10 Songs Dedicated To All The “Loves” Of My Life

January 21st, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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I never could relate to the jokes young girls used to make about boys having cooties and being gross and what not. I never found boys disgusting…never. Instead, I was obsessed with having a boyfriend. At five I solicited my “godbrother” for the role. Not that I liked him but because I was on a quest to be grown. And what was more grown than having a boyfriend? It was a huge check marked off my to-do list. Perhaps my early thirstiness is the reason I’m well into my twenties and still haven’t had a real boyfriend. But that’s a story for another day. Point is, I got really into boys, crushes, romance and love. And I don’t know about you, but all of my “love” stories–I use the word very loosely as I was mostly in love with having some business– had to have theme music. So here are the songs that remind me of my boos.

Are Maxwell And Alicia Keys Actually Working On A Duet Album?

October 11th, 2013 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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If you were feeling that sultry duet “Fire We Make” by Alicia Keys and Maxwell, we have great news. The soul-singing duo are thinking about coming out with a collaborative album. Back in July Maxwell told Billboard that he and Alicia and definiately going to collaborate for an EP.

“We’re definitely working on an EP that’s sort of Marvin Gaye/Tammi Terrrell. We got a thing musically. That’s like my little sister. What’s funny is Swizz [Beatz, Keys’ husband] is the champion of all of it. He’s like, ‘You guys have a thing when you make music together.’ We had a really successful tour together when she first came on the scene and she’s like family. She’s someone that I trust. I’m like that, by the way. Most of the people you see me working for me are actually with me. And I’m proud to say that I’ve known them for 20 years almost. I’ve written songs with, produced songs with them a lot of times. I don’t deviate form my comfort zone. I feel like when God brings people to you it’s good to keep ‘em around. Not to say I haven’t cut a few fools off [laughs], but for the essential I keep it close,” Maxwell said.

While out promoting her new film, The Inevitable Defeat of Mister & Pete, Alicia revealed to Essence that her pal was a bit premature in his duet announcement.

“Maxwell has such a big mouth! (Laughs jokingly) We’ve spoken about a couple of different things. We’ve spoken about definitely doing something creative together. But which way that comes together… I’m not sure yet.”

Hopefully they can iron out the details and make this happen! Speaking of music and creativity, Alicia also revealed that what her hubby, Swizz Beatz, loves most about her is what a great producer she is and the way that she holds their family together.

“I think what he likes most about Alicia Keys is that I really put my time into [music]—that I produce, that I create, that I write the songs. He’s always bragging that I’m a better producer than most producers. He likes that I create my own thing. What he would say he likes most about Alicia Dean… I think he would say how good of a mother I am. He would also say how I care about him and our family.”

Would you like to see a collaborative album happen between Maxwell and Alicia Keys.

Ain’t Too Proud To Beg: 15 Of The Thirstiest Songs Ever

May 29th, 2013 - By Meghan Williams
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We all love music for the feelings it evokes within us but sometimes singers and songwriters get just a little too desperate with the baby, baby, please begging and pleading for somebody’s love and affection. We’ve put these 15 songs in that category, but hey, like the Temptations say, these singers right here simply “ain’t too proud to beg.”


"Boyz II Men"

On Bended Knee

Obviously you’re not really begging for someone to stay until you’re down on bended knee begging. At least that’s the bar Boyz II Men set with one of the best – and thirstiest – joints of the 90’s.

Drake’s Not The Only One: Popular Songs Artists Dropped About Other Celebs

April 16th, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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All songs have a different meaning behind them, but with many songs, there are lyrics and verses that we can all relate to, at least on some level. Most musicians write songs about relatively unknown people, but there are some who’ve put their business with another Hollywood celebrity all out on front street. Here are 15 songs that have been written about or for another celebrity.

“The Light” by Common

At the time that Common wrote his song “The Light,” which was the second released single on his album Like Water for Chocolate, he was dating Erykah Badu. The song is written in love-letter form and the lyrics are a clear portrayal of his love for Erykah. She was even in the music video, which makes it that much more evident that the song was meant for her. Common and Erykah broke up in 2002.

The Super Bowl Bump: Beyonce and Destiny’s Child See A Boost In Record Sales

February 5th, 2013 - By Ann Brown
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We all know why companies like to advertise during the Super Bowl? The mega exposure means a boost in product sales.

The same holds true for the performers. Beyonce and Destiny’s Child saw a surge in record sales after the memorable halftime show.

According to Billboard, Beyonce’s digital album sales increased 230 percent; Destiny’s Child’s  jumped a whopping 600 percent in the week ending February 3.

Destiny’s Child saw a big boost also due in part to sales of the group’s brand new “Love Songs” compilation, released last Tuesday. The compilation features one new recording, “Nuclear.” And, says Billboard the sales gains are also helped by discount pricing in both the iTunes and Amazon MP3 stores, which discounted key earlier titles from Beyonce and Destiny’s Child to $7.99. On iTunes, the products were marked down to between $5 and $7.99.

But “in terms of digital song sales, Beyonce’s grew by an estimated 85% while Destiny Child’s rose by over 300%,” says the article.

And it stands to reason that Beyonce’s biggest selling song of the week was “Halo,” which closed her eight-song halftime set. Surprisingly however the biggest Destiny’s Child song of the week so far is “Say My Name,” which was not one of the songs from their halftime medley.

This is all preliminary data; the week’s official Nielsen SoundScan sales figures for Beyonce and Destiny’s Child will be released on February 6. Admit it. You bought it didn’t you?