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Tara Wallace has been on VH1’s popular show “Love & Hip Hop: NY” for the last three seasons and, as you may know, her storyline has been full of the requisite drama that’s known in reality TV. But it’s been the real-life drama that has her social media fans and followers reaching out to Wallace, sharing their stories and asking her for advice on how she’s been dealing with it all.
Now tuned into a drama free life, she’s the mom to her third son, getting her mind right and body back in shape, and she just wrote a new book on women’s empowerment called “The Goddess Potential” with Mommynoire contributor Allyson Leak. Here’s what she shared in our recent talk.
Mommynoire: What inspires you as a mom?
Tara Wallace: What motivates me is to try to be the best mom I can be. I tend to overextend myself and I get that from my own mom. The passion I had to move to New York to be an actress is the exact same passion I had and have about being a mom. People ask me all the time, ‘What’s the thing you’ve done that you’re the most proud of?’ and it sounds corny, but I always answer, ‘being a mom.’
So now you’re the mom of three sons–Jamison is 8, Kaz is 4 and Gunner is now four months. How has becoming a mother this time been different for you?
Tara: From Jamison to Kaz until now, it changes drastically. This time I feel more relaxed than ever. When I had Jamison I didn’t know what to do, it was just pure instinct. I just did a lot of reading. When he cried, I got extremely tense because I was trying to figure out what I was doing wrong, and it’s just the reality of having a baby. With Kaz I was a little better, and now with Gunner I’m so much more relaxed and just enjoying it. Also all my boys are such mama’s babies so they get calm when I’m around.
Also, before when I was with the older boys, I was trying to work on a relationship and that also had me stressed out. Now, for the first time I’m able to just enjoy the moments with him and the older boys too, and what ever is, just is.
Do you feel like you’re more balanced?
My acting coach, once she found out I was having another baby, told me to keep the artistic part of myself going even if it’s just doing crafts, but just keep creating. Auditioning and acting are a bit difficult for me now, so I have to keep being creative. But I struggled for a bit because I had the college degree and the graduate degree, I had the relationship and the beginning of a career and I couldn’t let the idea go of what a perfect family should be. It took me a long time to adjust to things not being what I thought it was going to be.
Having three, I have stressful moments, but all in all I’m more relaxed.
You have had a very public life for the past few years, what has that been like?
I feel like such a small part of my life has been public and grown weeds everywhere.
What is the biggest misconception about you?
I’ve always tried to take the high road in all of this, but a friend told me, ‘you taking the high road has put you in the position that when you do start saying things that are truthful, people take them as anger or bitter.’
But from day one, I’ve kinda taken the high road, but I never dealt with my own issue in all of this. Like I never sat down and said, hey, do you want to work this out or do you want to do something else? In all of this, Peter left our home and got married and then we started dealing with each other, but from day one I never dealt with my feelings in any of this, I just kind of took it. And to be honest, there was really no time to deal with it–before I could stomach one thing, it was something else, and something else…and in the meantime I was still working my job. It was like a whirlwind. Just because someone makes choices in their life it doesn’t mean you have to comply and make them happy. Everybody can’t now want to play by the rules.
Can you explain what you mean by ‘play by the rules’?
Once they make a crazy decision, now I have to do the right thing for everybody…or what they think is the right thing. That’s not fair. There are songs written that say, ‘Even if it’s wrong I want to be here.’ Now, you can’t have it both ways and want to play fair. In my situation it goes for the both of them…whether it’s him not understanding when I say, ‘Well I’m about to start dating.’ And he’s like ‘What?’ Or with her, it’s: ‘This was wrong, what I did, but now we’re married.’ In the meantime, he and I still lived together.
The huge misconception is how all of this happened, and how people think I don’t have a right to choose. Right now I’m not done, and I don’t have to be nice and I don’t have to explain that to anybody.
How hard is it to having people judge you?
Out in public it’s sometimes hard, but then there are people in my DM’s pouring their hearts out and they’re in crazier situations than I’m in. So that’s motivation for me to keep going. Women are in my DM’s taking the time to write me these paragraphs about what’s going on in their lives. They need someone who has been through this, or something similar, to talk to.
[Being betrayed] is like the worst thing that could happen in a relationship, so every woman is bracing herself for that to happen and thinking that they know what they would do in that situation.
Can you say where Peter and your relationship is right now?
Peter and I are still in the bliss of having a baby. We haven’t really talked about the new things that are going on and him having a child with someone else. Of course, there’s a part of me that wants to be angry about it, but it’s really as simple as, let me get through this pregnancy and then you go have more children if you want. The mom is that one person that has to know everything that’s going on with the child no matter what. The mom is the one that makes the ferris wheel go around and around no matter what else is going on. When Gunner was conceived, Peter was talking about getting his own place and it wasn’t like, let me have another child and Peter’s really going to do the right thing. At this moment, when I look at Gunner, I’d go through it all for him. I do everything in my power to make sure we’re getting along.
There’s no right and wrong, it’s just all crazy.
Regardless of it all, it’s important that we all come together for the boys. What people miss is that even though we women can do this alone, it’s still dysfunctional to be in a single parent home. Issues can develop with the children because of being raised without their father, so I’m not going to do that. Peter is going to be there for the children and be an adult and deal with the consequences.
So where are you now as a new mom? What do you do for yourself?
One of my favorite things to do for myself is working out. I hired a trainer and I make no excuses–we have set times and that’s it. To be able to release physically and focus on myself for that hour, it feels good. For emotional and spiritual healing, I read a lot of Maya Angelou and Paulo Coelho books on my phone. I take a moment to read a chapter or meditate or just stop and think about something great and try to redirect my thoughts. It’ so easy to wallow in a bad moment, but the simple effort of redirecting my thoughts helps me get out of a bad mood. I was giving so much–not necessarily with a smile–but I forgot about me. Now I focus on the positive. And in the last year I got to put that to the test.
What does the future look like for you?
Reality TV goes by quicker than a hot song. Most of my girlfriends who are my age are already on their second careers and I had so many things that I wanted to do, so I want to take the time now to focus in on those things. The etiquette classes–just voice and speech–that’s something that I’ve been into for a while and never knew where I was going to direct it, so then the etiquette class came. Writing a book was also something that I had thought about and I penned “The Goddess Potential: A Guide To Developing A Relationship With Your Inner Self” with Allyson Leak, an amazing motivational speaker and journalist, and mom!
What else do you want readers to know about you?
It’s just important that we all define our lives and take responsibility for our actions. As women we have a tendency to forget ourselves, and when I think about all of the things that have been happening and what role I played, I can definitely say, oh, I kinda forgot myself because I was taking care of everybody. I’ve been hearing Jada Pinkett Smith say recently that if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anybody else. When I think back to my mom, she was always forgetting herself when taking care of the seven of us [kids].
Even in all of this craziness, I’m still so blessed. I’m in a great place. I’ve talked to so many women who’ve had crazy things happen and are having to rebuild themselves. Every morning when I wake up, I pray and say thank you because I’m able to wake up, take my children to school, do homework with them, make dinner for them, and put them in the bed. Had it not been for “Love & Hip Hop,” I wouldn’t have been able to do that. I would have still had to go to work at night at the restaurants, pay a babysitter to basically live in my house and help me with my kids…and you miss out on a lot. I want to be very clear that even in all of this craziness, I’m so extremely blessed and thankful.
Well, the season six premiere of “Love & Hip Hop New York” is just around the corner, and there are plenty of shenanigans to go around. As previously reported, Bronx rapper Remy Ma and her husband, Papoose, are the stars of the show and the season will showcase Smith trying to adjust to life on the outside after serving six years behind bars. Apparently, Remy isn’t here for the parole-ordered curfews, and her hubby is working overtime to hold everything together, which is what we get a brief preview of in the newly released supertrailer.
It appears that Peter Gunz, Tara Wallace, and Amina Buddafly are still involved in a nasty love triangle all of these years later, even after Tara and Amina made amends. This season will also highlight Yandy and her husband, Mendeecess, as they prepare for his potentially lengthy prison stint.
There are also a few new faces including exotic dancer and Instagram personality Cardi BB, who we’re almost sure is going to become a fan favorite, and Young B, who was featured on DJ Webstar’s 2006 viral hit, “Chicken Noodle Soup.”
Peep the trailer below.
“Love & Hip Hop New York” returns Monday, December 14 at 8 p.m. on VH1.
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Seemingly, it’s trouble in paradise for newly engaged Bow Wow and Erica Mena.
On Thursday (Sept. 17), the former Love & Hip Hop New York star aired out some of business on social media. Mena took to Instagram to reveal to her 2 million followers that she suffered a miscarriage earlier this year. Of course, it was her and her fiance Bow Wow’s child.
Mena posted a photo that was captioned with a poem where she poured out her emotions regarding her loss. She also tweeted about not being ashamed of speaking her mind. “I’m open about it. I’m not the only one,” she wrote. “Speaking my mind has always helped me deal & heal. So I’m NEVER ashamed. Can you say the same?”
However, Bow Wow disagrees with Mena’s sentiments.
After her big social media reveal, Bow Wow posted a video speaking about his opine on the matter. In the 44-second video, he says that his fiancee was “attention seeking.” Why would he say such a thing? Well, according to him, Mena’s miscarriage occurred five months ago, explaining that the situation was in the past and didn’t need to be brought up.
“First and foremost, I feel like telling your personal business on social media, I feel like that’s one of the lamest things you possibly can do,” Bow Wow said. “I feel like it’s attention seeking, especially when it’s news that happened five months ago. It’s not recent, it’s five months ago.”
Erica’s initial Instagram post has since then been deleted, but watch Bow Wow’s reaction for yourself below.
You could probably count the number of actual celebrities who appeared as cast members (both past and present) on Love & Hip Hop using one hand. Sure they’re all famous now, but when it comes to those who were actually famous prior to appearing on the show, the numbers are pretty scare. It appears that this wasn’t Mona Scott-Young’s intention though. There’s constant chatter about celebs that she was courting to be on the show, for instance, Charli Baltimore. Rumors regarding Charli’s addition to the cast have been circulating for some time now, but after three seasons and no Charli, it seemed pretty safe to assume that it wasn’t happening. During a recent interview with Mara the Hip Hop Socialte, Charli opened up about why she decided to pass on her chance at reality TV stardom.
“I was in talks with Mona [Scott-Young] to do LHHNY last year. I don’t think I really fit the format for the show. I don’t know if I’d be comfortable having every aspect of my life in public. That really takes a certain kind of personality. I’m a rather private person for the most part and I had to take into consideration my daughters lives as well. If I was offered a different sort of show, I wouldn’t be opposed to it, and it’s awesome to see Mona single-handedly turn her show into an empire. I’m all for women empowerment,” she said.
She went on to share how she feels that he relationship with Biggie overshadowed her music.
“I feel there have been times, especially in the beginning of my career, when it did overshadow my music. But I can never not acknowledge his influence and initial vision for us to create a rap super group, The Commission. I’ve grown to accept and respect that BIG is and always will be hip-hop royalty, a legend, and an Icon. I embrace it at this point. I’ve come far enough in my career that I have my own fans and established my music in its own right.”
Charli definitely would’ve added an interesting twist to the show’s storyline.
Do you think it was wise for her to decline Mona’s LHHNY invite?
Part one of Love & Hip Hop Atlanta’s reunion special hasn’t even aired yet and K.Michelle is already beefing with her New York cast members. The surprising showdown took place on Twitter between K and Erica Mena. It’s difficult to tell exactly where the beef began, but according to Erica, K said some not-so-nice things about her during the first day of filming.
Surprisingly though, instead of barking back at Erica, she tossed a little shade and gloated on Twitter about being the show’s highest paying cast member.
Well, at least we know the new season will be a little more interesting than the last.
There appears to be a bit of tension on the set of popular reality show, Love & Hip Hop New York between VH1 executives and nearly the show’s cast members.
According to TMZ, the entire cast was supposed to report to set on Tuesday to film next season’s trailer and only half of them showed up! Sources say the rest of the cast stayed home in an effort to protest their dissatisfaction with the way that recent contract negotiations went down. Word on the street is that some cast members want double what they made last season!
But wait, there’s more. The source also said that the cast members who did show up to film got upset when they learned of their co-stars’ decision to protest. Feeling that they were also entitled to contract revisions, they too decided to protest and stormed off of the set.
We hear that money isn’t the only issue, though. While some cast members are asking for more money, others are pissed at the manner in which they were portrayed on the show last season and want more control over the footage that gets aired. An insider says that emergency negotiation meetings are being held sometime this week. Supposedly, the displeased cast hopes that their demands will be met by the end of this week. If not, they plan to continue their protest until they get what they want.
Mona Scott-Young probably isn’t too pleased about all of this. VH1 has yet to comment on the speculations.
What do you think of this?
27-year-old singer-turned-reality star K.Michelle has been very vocal about her departure from Love & Hip Hop Atlanta over the past few months, but during a recent interview with Power 105.1’s The Breakfast Club, she dropped the bomb that in addition to starring in her own spin-off show, she’ll be switching sides and joining the cast of Love & Hip Hop New York. The “I Just Wanna” singer also discussed rumors about her relationship with former Miami Dolphins player Chad Johnson. After previously denying being romantically involved with the ex athlete, K revealed that she’s being courted by him. Check out some excerpts from her interview below.
On leaving LHHATL and joining LHHNY:
“It’s just time to go. I got some other stuff popping off. They are actually bringing me to ‘Love & Hip Hop New York.’ I do have my own show [as well].”
“Coming to New York is basically setting up my own show. It’ll kind of be my own show within ‘Love & Hip Hop.’ You really won’t see me with – you know.”
On reality TV changing her life:
“I always say this, nobody, no matter how good I was singing or what was going on, nobody was listening to my music. And now all of a sudden, I put out this mixtape. It got over a million downloads. All my New York shows, all my shows are selling out because they introduced me on this show. ‘Love & Hip Hop Atlanta’ was a great stepping stone for me.”
On if J.R. Smith is really “desert thirsty” like Rihanna says he is:
“That ain’t have nothing to do with me. But that one, she said what she needed to say to that young man so… I don’t know [if he’s desert thirsty]. When it comes to him, I said my peace. Good luck with it.”
On being with a woman:
“Yeah [I’ve been with a woman]. I’ve sang about it. It’s nothing… I have dipped out. I thought I was gay for three months. I realized what y’all men go through. The b***h actually jumped on my car. Like, I had a new car. She actually jumped on my car and scratched it up with her shoe and it was wrap.”
On Chad Johnson buying her a pet monkey:
“Yes, he did. You can’t bring the monkey to New York, so the monkey is in Florida and I’ve been trying to find it a home. Chad approached me and he tried to date me and I was like, ‘No, I don’t want no shoes. Everybody get shoes man. I want a monkey.'”
On Chad trying to woo her:
“I thought it was a sweet gesture. And no, we have not slept together. I been through a lot with this dating thing. I spoke to Chad yesterday. We are friends and I think that’s what it needs to be. I think I hopped into something that I shouldn’t have hopped into so quickly last time and I feel like now I have to pace it.”
“We are going to dinner and we are being friends. We’re talking on the phone. He’s courting.”
“He’s really nice. I’m getting to know him as a friend.”
Turn the page for video footage from the interview. What do you think of K entertaining Chad’s gestures?
We know you all remember Jen the Pen’s famous words on the last season of “Love & Hip-Hop New York” when she told Raqi Thunda she was white and it would get done. The “it” was getting a new job after the two radio hosts realized they couldn’t work together — based on the fact that Raqi liked to throw it at whoever came in the studio and Jen had no clue what to ask artists — but now it appears the reality star has made good on her declaration since VH1 decided to give her a job outside of her reality gig.
Yup, the network who put her and her foolishness on in the first place has now named Jen the host of “Very VH1.” Apparently this is an interactive chat show that the channel is rebooting this morning with its “charming new host.” The way the show works is Jen will basically be skyping on the computer with different guests and viewers can also hop on their cameras to ask questions and make comments as well. According to VH1’s blog, for the premiere show airing at 10 am EST this morning, ” Jen dives into some of the biggest pop culture stories and chats with Off Pitch stars Rob Jones and Tim Rortvedt.”
So far there aren’t a lot of details about how often the show will air or who else might appear as a guest. I just wonder what Raqi Thunda is doing right now…
What do you think about VH1 giving Jen a web show?
“It’s Just Like, Why Now?”: Yandy Talks Being Engaged One Minute, Then Watching Mendeecees Be Thrown In Jail The Next
If you were watching Monday’s episode of Love & Hip Hop New York, you probably watched the ordeal Mendeecees and Yandy were going through as he prepared to turn himself into Federal agents. They didn’t go into detail of why he was being investigated on the show, but as previous reports stated, it has to do with drug trafficking charges after allegedly moving drugs from 2005 to 2012 in New York. He turned himself in at the end of January, and while we couldn’t really tell if he was going in to stay or not, in an interview with VH1, Yandy confirms that he is indeed incarcerated.
The reality star and businesswoman opened up about how she’s handling things seeing as they were hoping to prepare for a wedding in the future, and how she is trying to keep their house together with two little boys by herself.
VH1: Is Mendeecees currently incarcerated?
Yandy: He is.
Vh1: How are you holding up?
Yandy: You know, it’s a hard situation, especially when you don’t have any answers yet. It’s kind of just a waiting situation to see what this is all about, and that’s the hard part – the unknown is the hardest part.
VH1: It has to be tough. You’re recently engaged. One minute you’re in pre-wedding bliss then you’re hit with this news.
Yandy: Yeah, it’s hard. It’s absolutely hard. It’s hard when you kind of see your life flash before you. I know the life that we live together which has been like a storybook, like a fairytale with ups and downs of course, but it’s been good, and the love has been good, so for something like this to happen and to happen now, it’s like, “Ugh, why!” And you know you read about it with all the articles everywhere talking about the engagement. This case is from all these years ago. It’s just like, why now? You know? That’s just how I feel, like, why now of all times?
VH1: Are you putting everything wedding related on hold?
Yandy: Oh yeah, absolutely.
VH1: How do you keep your mind occupied so you’re not worrying and sad about him not being there with his sons?
Yandy: Well, you know I go through spurts, especially at night. I just keep busy. Like I told you, I haven’t had a day off, so I don’t even know if I’ve really soaked up what’s happening in my life because I’ve just been so busy. We both were busy during the day so it really hits me at night when I come home and I’m with the boys in the house, that’s when it’s like, “Aww, dag.” But I’m really faithful and hopeful that this situation will be cleared up and he’ll be back with us soon.
I feel for Yandy, because things seemed to be on the up and up for them with the baby, him getting found not guilty with the child abuse charges, their engagement–and then this happens. But then again, these things happen when your man has a history of selling drugs, which I’m sure she knew about. Can’t get too comfortable. But let’s hope that as she says, he’ll be back soon for the sake of his family.
Check out a clip of Mendeecees saying goodbye to his family from Monday’s episode on the next page:
If you jumped on Twitter last night and wondered why “I’m white” was trending, you can thank Love & Hip-Hop. During Monday’s episode, a heated exchange took place between Raqi Thunda and Jen the Pen after the ladies realized it wasn’t going to work for them to do a radio show together. Jen essentially tried to tell Raqi she didn’t want to work with her because “internet p***y” seems to be less of a nickname for her and more of a way of life, as exemplified by her overly flirtatious behavior during their trial Hot 97 interview. As expected, Raqi didn’t take that feedback too well and subsequently tried to belittle Jen’s whole life, claiming that Consequence, Jen’s man and the father of her child, tried to sleep with her, and adding that she was the one who put Jen on and the chances of her getting another shot at radio were slim to none. At this point, Jen decided to do Raqi even one lower and remind her, “I’m White. It will get done.”
Immediately my mind went back to our “I Always Wanted to Ask” series in which we posed the question,”Do White people understand White privilege?” The consensus seems to be that though there may be plenty who would try to deny it’s existence, I can only suffice that that very denial, like Jen’s statement, is proof that White people are quite aware of how the system works, most times they just don’t want us to know — except, of course, for when they want to remind us of our place. Though Jen’s comment rubbed me all types of the wrong way, it’s not because I think she’s racist like so many viewers have accused her of being, it’s because she’s absolutely right — and her boldness is making that statement was further more proof of that privilege. What’s most unfortunate, though, is she’s not talking about Jen Bayer and Antonique Jenkins vying for the same spot in the Senate. She’s talking about another urban radio station jumping at the chance to employ a white woman, who doesn’t appear to be too enthralled in the rap game, to disseminate information to a predominately Black audience, over another Black person.
In all honesty, Jen wasn’t telling Raqi anything she didn’t know. After all, Raqi was the one who pointed out Jen’s marketability to “white her wrong.” She picked Jen to be her co-host for a particular reason — because she’s White — and now that racial reality is probably going to bite her in the butt even harder than Ebro probably got in it when she practically tried to bounce up on Vado when he was on their audition show. For that reason, I’m mad at Jen, but I’m not mad. What she said during her spat with Raqi was about the equivalent of another girl calling her friend the b-word when things get a little too real during a heated argument. It was said out of frustration that Raqi might be right about Consequence trying to get on, anger that their opportunity at Hot 97 was now blown, and ego because Raqi tried to blow up her unemployed spot. It was wrong, but not racist. I just wonder what Jen is going to tell her biracial son when he’s passed over for a job because it went to someone as lily White as his mom is?
Check out the clip to see the drama that went down last night. Who do you think was in the wrong?