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Enjoy The Season: The Couple’s Summer Bucket List

June 26th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Can you feel the ocean breeze calling your name? Even if you can’t get to it right now, you and your honey can still enjoy an amazing summer. In honor of the hottest time of year, take a look at this fun summer bucket list of items you can try in your relationship.

Don’t forget your sunscreen!

Is There A Price On Love? Ways Your Relationship Costs You Money

June 25th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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If there’s one thing I’ve learned about love, it’s that it doesn’t come free. There’s always a price to pay.

Aside from the emotional cost of courting a potential spouse, relationships can either make or break your finances. Luckily I married a man with a good heart and healthy understanding of finances. Both of us grew up in low-income environments (he is from Panama and I’m from Baltimore) that had an impact on how our family handled money. While my parents didn’t provide the best examples of saving and handling debt, his folks did the opposite. They saved what they could to provide for their immediate needs that led to their children attending college here in the States.

In the seven years we’ve been together (married for three), we had to talk seriously about our differences when it came to money. There needs to be honesty and complete transparency about money in your relationship — particularly your marriage. In the past, I was so used to keeping any and all financial issues to myself. This could’ve been a major problem if we didn’t learn how to work together. If someone isn’t being upfront about money battles happening behind closed doors, you may never know how to overcome your obstacles.

Couples also need to be on the same page when it comes to goals and saving. One person can blow their paycheck on unnecessary items while the other does what they can to build up their nest egg. For example, my guy uses his paycheck to save, pay bills and provide for our family. He rarely ever buys anything for himself. I on the other hand am not into shopping but do love to eat out weekly (I still cook though). This is an area where I had to cut back as we’re saving for a house.

It’s pretty amazing how much more you can save when you aren’t spending.

Sure you might not always be on the same page when it comes to money, but you do need to keep each other’s best interests at heart. Here are some common ways your relationship is costing you money.

Lack of interest in resolving issues. You’re going to have a major problem on your hands if you or your partner are dealing with major money issues and don’t care to resolve them. Some throw their hands up and are willing to carry debt — and pay the bare minimum — so long as they can live in the now.

One person pays for everything. Folks who are dating (married people too) need to take note. Unfortunately some people get into relationships because of financial security. The problem is you sacrifice stability when you constantly spend their money, or make them pay. Yes some couples have an arrangement (e.g one is the sole or main breadwinner), but for the most part, everyone needs to bring something to the table. No one wants to feel like they’re being taken advantage of or undervalued.

Failure to address financial concerns. If something is bothering you, speak up. Remember, you’re a part of a pair. Speak to your love about any financial concerns. Even if they’re your and yours alone, you can think of ways to resolve them. All couples should want to bring their best to the table.

Think You’re Ready? Signs You’re Willing To Open Yourself To Love

June 19th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Heartache and pain are very real. Even though most won’t damage your physical health too much, they are nonetheless a shock to the system. Once you’ve recovered from a breakup, you might want to test the waters when it comes to a new romance. Here are some ways to tell if you’re ready for love.

“It’s You, Not Me”: The Best & Worst Ways To Break Up

June 17th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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No matter how hard you try, sometimes things just don’t work out. As much as it can hurt, break ups are a part of life that aren’t always a reality that’s easy to swallow. After all, you invested time, love and energy into making it work.

Let’s just hope you don’t catch a case in the process of uncoupling.

Here’s a look at some good and bad ways to break up. Remember, it’s always best to take the high road.

From Boardroom To Bedroom? Business Rules To Apply To Dating

June 16th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Didn’t you know business and pleasure go hand-in-hand? Okay not really, but in all seriousness it can pay off to approach things with a professional mindset.

As I look back on my life, there were times when I dated that could’ve gone a different way if I thought like an entrepreneur. Heck I probably could’ve weeded out a few relationships but hey, you live and you learn right?

Hopefully you aren’t one of those people who take things to the extreme by doing a full on investigation that includes learning their social security number, blood type and how many years he worked for his company. Yes it’s good to make sure you aren’t dating a serial killer, just don’t turn anyone off because you go overboard.

Put your boardroom prowess to the test by using a few business tactics in your dating life.

Do you have high expectations when it comes to the type of person you want to date? No one is encouraging you to solely date someone based on their bank account. Just as you have goals and aspirations in your career, you need to identify the things you want when it comes to love. Don’t water down your dreams because they seem impossible.

It’s also important to know your bottom line. No matter how awesome a job sounds, if it can’t fulfill —or at least meet — your bare minimum requirements, it’s probably not worth it. The same can be said about dating. Never settle when it comes to the things that are important to you. It will only create resentment and bitterness.

When you date, are you looking for someone to fill your needs right now, or a potential spouse? While short-term gains are cool, they often come with a higher cost. They can also cloud your judgment of success and willingness to stick it out (e.g. buy and hold) should times get rough. Long-term investments focus on the bigger picture, require time to develop and have the greatest potential of return. This should be what you want to find when it comes to love.

Anyone can be a leader but it takes a team player to know how to follow. Stop trying to control your date, the conversation and the outcome. Just go with the flow and have a good time. It’s also a good idea to limit complaining. No one is interested in a negative or pessimistic person.

I’m a firm believer in the idea that we are what we attract. Do your activities and places you spend your time reflect where you want to be? You’ll find it a little hard to be successful when your environment doesn’t mirror your dreams. The same goes for dating. If you keep finding the same type of people it’s time to take a look within.

And don’t forget that good things take time. Even if you’re one of the last people in your camp to get married, sometimes success comes to people later in their careers — and life. So long as you meet your end goal, enjoy the journey. It will help build your character and discover your true wants and needs.

What are your “rules” of dating?

14 Signs You’re Bored With Your Relationship

June 10th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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If you had to gauge your relationship happiness, how would you rate it? One can only hope your answer is a positive one, and not merely a “meh” response. All couples experience highs and lows throughout the course of being together. While this is normal, you should pay attention to relationship warning signs that might indicate you’ve had enough.

Make It A Priority: 14 Ways To Spend More Quality Time With Your Love

June 4th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Have you been doing what’s necessary to help make sure your relationship works? Sometimes it might feel impossible with daily work demands and life in general, but that doesn’t mean you throw in the towel. Here are some pointers that will help you get in that much needed quality time.

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Are You Ready For Virtual Love? Things To Consider With Online Dating

May 29th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Thanks to modern technology there are so many ways to find love. If you don’t run into “the one” at the grocery store, there’s always the internet.

Online dating has definitely become popular over the years with more folks looking to make their virtual search a romantic reality. Should you be interested in giving it a try, here are a few things to consider.

What Ball & Chain? Reasons Why Married Sex Is The Best

May 14th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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Getting married isn’t for everyone. There will be ups, downs and everything else that happens in between. It’s a lifelong commitment where you vow to be someone else’s witness and love them until your end days.

While many throw in the towel (y’all seen the divorce rate), some think being married is like wearing a ball and chain. Aside from love and all that stuff, here are some reasons why activity between the sheets is awesome when you’re husband and wife.

Hard Times Or Red Flags? Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Have Their ‘Ish Together

May 12th, 2015 - By Tanvier Peart
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The goal of any relationship should be to have one full of love, honesty and growth. Sure it’s not going to be perfect for full of roses all the time, but that doesn’t mean you can’t set your eyes on the top prize.

While it’s good to celebrate milestones and achievements you might also want to pay attention to questionable behavior. Sometimes people show us who they truly are in the beginning. It’s up to us to look for warning signs. Here are some ways your partner doesn’t have their life together.