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I wouldn’t say that I have a relationship with reality television. I watch maybe three of those shows, then I leave my mental palette for other outlets, like books, scripted shows and creating balloon music. However, one of the reality shows that I watch is “Real Housewives of Atlanta. I’ve been a fan since its first season, and have a standing date with Bravo on Sunday nights. But, has it just been me, but do you feel as though sometimes when you’re watching it you’re seeing a reversal of growth? Now, I know this might be hypocritical coming from a person who just admitted that they liked watching “Adventure Time” via a link, while also admitting that I’m going to be thirty in a few years, but still, I can’t be the only one feeling this way.
As a girl, I always found it hilarious when my father would yell at the television while watching his favorite sports team, and now I’ve adopted that same trait. For the last few episodes of RHOA, starting with the wine tasting brunch fiasco, I found myself yelling at the television, as if these women could hear me. Unlike my father, I wasn’t yelling things that the people should be doing, I found myself yelling things that they should know. ”YOU ARE GROWN WOMEN!! WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!”
Along with Meg Butler’s hilarious article, I’ve began to feel embarrassed watching it and my other reality shows, but not for her same reason. I find myself embarrassed for the women that I’m watching. Knowing that the freedom to act-now-think-later is gone, and they have an entire audience (and in some cases, children) to have to account for. That’s heavy.
Now, I’m not going to be tough on these participants (this isn’t just about the women, the men are just are immature acting as the women). Lord knows if you have a camera following me all day, you’ll see some pretty unflattering moments. I’m not the most mature, or upstanding individual at all times. I’m also cognitive that though the emotions might be real, certain things are manipulated to increase drama and tension. You put all of that in a fishbowl and that’s what brings the last few episodes of Bravo’s hit series and many other reality shows that are airing now, or just ended their seasons (“Love and Hip Hop”).
But at the same time, I’m just a little dumbfounded by some of the actions. But then again, I’m beginning to see older women outside of the realm of reality television beginning to behave younger as well. There isn’t an age limit on selfies, or posing with your butt sticking out, but you tend to think that that type of behavior is beneath people of a certain age. But no. Social media isn’t just for the young anymore, and you can come across your mentor in a bandage dress taking a bathroom selfie at any moment (don’t say I didn’t warn you).
I once wrote an article about my decision to stop shopping in the junior’s section, only to recently see a woman older than me shopping with her young daughter and trying on the clothes in that same section.
Is it them, or is it me? Am I in too much of a hurry to be a mature adult that I’m forgetting to enjoy my youth? My mother always says that “the only thing that age dictates is how long you’ve been on the earth, nothing else.” So, am I placing ridiculous standards on older women and men? At what point is someone just being themselves, and when does it get to the point that they should “grow up,” if they’re already grown?
Let’s seriously discuss this, because I’m beginning to feel lost in the sea of age-(in)appropriate behavior.
Yesterday, we reported Love And Hip Hop Atlanta DJ Traci Steele will join the cast of Atlanta Exes. Unfortunately since Steele joined the cast, another cast member has reportedly decided to not be featured on the show.
According to Rolling Out, Usher’s ex-wife Tameka Raymond will no longer star in “Atlanta Exes” because while Raymond and Steele were filming this past Saturday, the two got into a heated argument at Raymond’s Estelle boutique. Apparently Raymond was hosting an event in honor of her son Kile who passed away two years ago when Steele approached Raymond to ask why she doesn’t get along with Steele’s friend and Kevin Hart’s ex-wife, Torrei Hart.
Michelle Brown from StraightFromTheA reported:
“With camera’s rolling, Steele immediately ‘turned up’ for the show and acted out at the event in front of several surprised customers. From what I’ve heard, Traci came into the store yelling and screaming at Tameka asking why she didn’t like Torrei and blah blah blah. Tameka could be heard stating, ‘this isn’t the place for this’ and Traci continued to press the issue.”
After their argument, Raymond allegedly resigned from the show because of the drama that ensued at her late son’s event. DJ Traci Steele, on the other hand, stated on her Instagram: @torreihart Why are they stalking my page???You are always going to be mad at what you see. @vh1 I’m making cast members quit.” She has since deleted her subliminal post.
“Atlanta Exes” will debut on VH1 this spring. What do you think about this mess?
I’ll be honest, I’m still a little naive when it comes to reality television. I don’t think that everything is authentic (because if it was, then it would be called a documentary series, rather than a reality show); however, part of me doesn’t think that it’s as scripted as people make it out to be in various comment sections. I’m not too big on watching a lot of reality television, but while watching an episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta” this season, I experienced entertainment whiplash.
Now, I’m not sure if everything is scripted, but I do know that I’ve seen certain scenes before, like:
Relationship Stress and Health Scares
A few episodes ago when Mama Joyce finally agreed to step out of Kandi’s and Todd’s relationship. One of the reasons that she gave was due to her health. Well… did anyone else have a flashback of “Flavor of Love 2″ when Sister Patterson, New York’s mother mentioned a health scare as a means of dealing with New York’s relationship with Flav?
Have you heard the rumor that Cyn Santana and Erica Mena from Love and Hip-Hop might get there own show? We’re not too excited about that, but here are a few reality TV spin-offs we would actually like to see.
“We Have Something In Common”
Nick Gordon and Bobbi Kristina just got hitched. And we’re sure we’re not the only ones who’d love to see a season or two of this particular chapter of black music royalty play itself out — unlike that Lifetime mess that came way too soon.
Despite it’s name, we all know Love & Hip-Hop has about as much to do with Hip-Hop as the Country Music Awards. And just because you throw a bunch of women who can sang on one reality TV show together doesn’t mean the show is actually going to be about their musical talent as much as it is their ability to throw shade.
Thanks to these sad realities of (faux) reality TV, the general consensus is that the medium tends to do more harm than good and there’s little doubt Nicci Gilbert and Kelly Price wouldn’t co-sign that sentiment after their stints on R&B Divas. But then you have women like K. Michelle and Tamar Braxton whose antics on VH1 and WE tv have catapulted them to major success as singers (y’all can debate that later), which begs the question of whether the problem isn’t really reality TV, but how you use it — or let it use you.
That’s a question that was mulled over, among many others, as part of Music Choice’s Black History Month program entitled “The Diva Debate,” featuring MN’s Deputy Editor, Brande Victorian, alongside actor/singer Mack Wilds, Roc Nation singers Bridget Kelly and Melanie Fiona, Music Choice’s VP of Programming Damon Williams, Moguldum Media Group Managing Editor Anslem Samuel Rocque, and Essence.com Entertainment Editor Yolanda Sangweni, and hosted by Amanda Seales. While Bridget and Melanie vowed to never do reality TV, some entertainment writers noted that there are a few ladies who are doing it right.
Check out a clip of the debate in the video below and tell us what you think about the discussion. Are their any women singers winning in the reality TV game right now in your opinion?
Have you ever been watching television, or having a YouTube binge fest and you recognize a face from reality television? Now, some of these participants were in music videos before appearing on shows, and others appeared in videos after being on the shows that made them household names. Whether you see it as a lateral move or not, these reality stars have been able to find multiple avenues to keeping their names out there.
Now, sometimes we can be serious (I know that my articles can be a little heavy), so let’s have a little fun with this post. At the very least, you can enjoy some of your favorite songs, and if you make it to the last page, you can help me decide who this person is. IF it is who I think it is…
Let’s have some fun! Starting with:
Nearly two years ago, when K. Michelle was just coming onto the scene. I wrote an Open Letter to her in which I warned that her behavior on the reality show, threatening to fight cast members, stirring up unnecessary drama, calling men gay etc wouldn’t lend well to her career path. I wrote that even though she had been through some mess, she shouldn’t allow it to keep her from moving on to the next level.
I doubt she read it.
Instead, K.’s behavior escalated as the show progressed. She started fighting and bickering with people she had once been cool with… Record execs warned that her behavior was tarnishing her brand. And eventually she admitted that she needed to leave Atlanta so she could focus on enjoying life and the blessings God had bestowed on her, career wise.
And her limited appearances on the New York cast of “Love and Hip Hop,” her lack of appearances in the blogs and the extension of the olive branch to Tamar Braxton–even though she didn’t accept it– all prove that she really is trying to do better. And we have to commend her for that.
But apparently there are some who aren’t quite convinced that K. Michelle has in fact turned over a new leaf.
And so in response to those people, the soul singer recently posted this video, answering the question of whether or not her attitude and behavior will keep her from “crossing over.”
Well, I didn’t come in the game to be class favorite. I didn’t come in this game for people’s approval of my everyday’s life behavior. I came in this game to shake it up a little bit, to be 100 and offer honest music. And that’s what I’ve been doing.
Whatever I want to sing, I’m going to sing it this year. It doesn’t matter, no one’s going to box me in a genre and no one’s going to tell me what I need to sing because of my ethnicity or because of my attitude.
Listen to her full response in the video below.
What do you think, will K. Michelle’s attitude and behavior on reality show hold her back in her career? What do you think of her response to those claims?
From The Grio
To take inspiration from Beyoncé‘s hit song, “If I Were a Boy” — if I were a man, I would be spitting mad about how my black maleness is being presented on the Love & Hip Hop franchises.
Seriously, week after week, and over the span of three years, six seasons and two series (with plans of expanding the franchise by two more series), we have watched black men routinely embarrass and flat out dishonor themselves by engaging in some the worse representation of black manhood to be witnessed on television.
And yet it is black men who have been the least likely to stand up and speak out against these unflattering caricatures of their collective image.
The proof speaks for itself
Think I’m exaggerating? Well, let’s take inventory of the “men” who have thus far graced the sleazy showcases of both the Love & Hip Hop New York City and Atlanta franchises. Here are their main stats:
- Peter Gunz: Living with the mother of his two children for over 13 year; has a history of infidelity; keeps his marriage a secret while continuing a live-in relationship with the mother of his kids.
- Lil Scrappy: A self-proclaimed mamma’s boy, with a long criminal rap sheet; did a stint in rehab for marijuana addiction in order to avoid jail time for failing to pass a drug test while out on probation; a womanizer, who regularly cheated on his fiance and mother of his son; had on-air violent fight with fellow Love & Hip Hop Atlanta cast member Stevie J.
- Stevie J: Nicknamed “Sleaze-O” for his inability to stop his womanizing and scheming on women; cheated on his long term girlfriend and mother of his daughter with an exotic dancer, whom he ended up getting pregnant and then goading into an abortion; once used money given to him by his fiance to buy the silence of his baby’s mother; proposed to both his fiance and mother of his children at the same time, which resulted in a huge fight.
- Consequence: Believes that “white is right,” yet even with his white woman has controlling issues to the point that he doesn’t allow his Christian white baby’s mom to attend family function of of respect to his own personal Islamic beliefs; is tight-fisted with money, but doesn’t want his partner to work; is notorious for having several on-air violent fights with fellow Love & Hip Hop NY cast member Joe Budden.
- Joe Budden: A womanizer; was accused of domestic abuse by two of his former cast members, including current girlfriend and co-star Tahiry; a drug addict; was involved in several physical altercations including with fellow cast member Consequence.
Read more at TheGrio.com
Remember Her? Nicole Wray Talks Possibly Doing Love And Hip Hop, And Why She Can’t Mess With The R&B Divas
I haven’t seen Nicole Wray since she was “makin’ everybody wanna bob their heads” (as Missy used to say) with her popular song, “Make It Hot.” The singer, now 32, is still out here making great music under the radar, but that might not be the case for too much longer. While chatting with Malcolm of MalcomMusic, the singer, now rocking bright red hair, talked about joining reality TV soon, and why some shows are just too ratchet for her. Ironically, she said the show that she could be joining next season is Love and Hip Hop, which some would say is the most ratchet of all, but Wray says another popular show with a few divas takes the cake:
On Possibly Doing Love And Hip Hop Next Season:
Wray: “Well someone approached me about it, Love and Hip Hop. I’m thinking about it. I don’t know, I just don’t have time for the drama. If I do it I would have so many freakin’ characters around me they can do all the drama all they want. I’m here to show people that I’m here and I’m still standing. That would be my story. You see I’m here, the cameras will be here. I’m touring. I’m doing soul music. I have big freakin’ read hair, you know what I mean? I have my family that’s supporting me. It’s a possibility.”
Why She Would Do LHH And Not R&B Divas:
Wray: “That’s not me. I don’t want to do R&B Divas. First of all, I’m not a diva. I know that’s what they want to call it but I’m not a diva and I’ve seen some of those shows and I just don’t–
Malcolm: “I would have thought you are, like, not in a bad way. You’ve got the talent and the voice.”
Wray: “I just never wanted to be categorized as a diva. It’s just me. And Love and Hip Hop would be able to show me being me and not this diva because it seems Love and Hip Hop, yeah it’s drama, but you’ve seen people’s personal lives. And LA Divas, or not LA Divas, but R&B Divas, is really about them being divas and just about that music in that pot. I’ve got so many other things going on outside music that I don’t want to just get categorized for just that.
Malcolm: “So we will never see Nicole Wray on R&B Divas, but maybe Love and Hip Hop?”
Wray: “I won’t say never…if the check is right.”
Why R&B Divas Is NOT Her Cup Of Tea:
Wray: “I love them, but I don’t like how they’re getting along. I don’t want the world to see that…I listen to a lot of Kelly Price. Lil Mo wrote the majority of my first album, and I don’t like to see them being like fussing each other out and hurting each other’s feelings because we are what the average girl is listening to. I don’t want people to see me in that light, or cursing Lil Mo out, or letting someone slap me or throw a drink on me because I’m supposed to be who I am and I want to be respected.”
I used to be a big fan of this woman and I’m glad to hear she’s still out here trying to do her thing musically. But should she mess with Mona Scott-Young and Love and Hip Hop? Sound off about it below, and watch her interview with Malcolm Music on the next page.
Steven Jordan, aka Stevie J., has got to get his stuff together. Now. We already know that his business has been thrown in the street for unpaid child support and now, he’s begging his kids’ mother to not air him out any further.
According to RadarOnline, Carol Bennett’s rep told them that Stevie J called Bennett saying they needed to just work everything out…without the public having to know:
”What’s going on, uh I see all this press it’s going crazy and then I see something ’bout a press conference on October 31. I would ask you not to do a press conference…so let’s try to figure out what we doing, what’s goin’ on aight?”
Oh yes, you read that right: Bennett held a press conference last Thursday to discuss the situation. Now, we don’t know who was at said conference – maybe some Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta cameras – but Bennett made a statement saying that her intent was not to have Stevie incarcerated but rather, “to find a resolution and to co-parent with Stevie J. and that means emotionally and financially so that our children can receive the support that they deserve.”
So while Stevie makes a fool of himself on reality television, Bennett essentially adds fuel to the fire by holding a press conference about unpaid child support.
No word from Bennett’s rep, Sibrena Stowe de Fernandez, on whether or not they’ve decided to work this out with Stevie J in public (although she did receive his message before her own version of the dog and pony show).
With parents like these, one can only wonder if the children are more mature.