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It’s 2014 and we’re all created equal…right? Men and women may be on more even footing than ever before, but there are still a few limits on us ladies lives. Quite a few if you really think about it.
Bad news for K. Michelle fans who were looking forward to the second leg of her Rebellious Soul Tour. The controversial reality star recently announced that she will be canceling part two of the tour and taking a bit of a hiatus for some self-reflection and to pursue musical inspiration.
“Dear Rebels,” the former “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” star wrote in a Facebook post earlier this week. “I will not be doing the Rebellious Soul Tour (Part 2). I personally decided that I wanted to take the next couple of months to journey off to some different places. A writer has nothing to write about with no inspiration.
I will be traveling to South Africa to spend some time preparing for my new album #AWBAH, and reflect on the woman that I’ve become. I need this time for myself. So much has happened so quickly and I’m forever grateful. The only noise I desire to hear is the inner music. My soul has a song to sing and I have to be quiet to hear it. I have so much in store for you. I promise! Love y’all!”
Though fans are probably disappointed by the news, this time away may be exactly what K needs. Hopefully she comes back calm, refreshed and ready to give fans the new music they’ve been hoping for.
By my title, I’m pretty sure you’ve assumed this post is going in the typical direction of business owners/service providers complaining about black folks always wanting a hook up, but actually I have a bit of a gripe about black employees who are always trying to give black customers a five-finger discount of some sort. I know, who complains about the opportunity to save money? But stay with me.
Sunday I went into Staples to pick up postcards I’d ordered and one of the black men assisting me began acting very strange. He was the same man who’d helped me last time so I wasn’t sure if he was trying to make small talk to see if I was the same customer, flirting with me, or just weird when he had me go back and forth from register to register just to make one transaction, and then once that was done asked me to stick around for a second. Great, he’s about to ask me for my number, I thought. Instead, he told me he was going to give me the hook up if I was paying cash, but since I paid with a card he couldn’t. “That’s OK” I told him, partially thinking now you tell me? and on the other hand reminding myself that this was getting expensed anyway and he sounds suspect. But then the merchant went on to detail some elaborate ploy for how, if I could just wait a few more minutes, I could come back to the register and say my order was messed up and then he would refund the money on my credit card and I could keep the postcards and purchase something cheaper but give him cash and I was like huh?. Waiting for “Punk’d” cameras to jump out at any minute, I politely declined and thought to myself, you’re going to get fired that way.
Instantly, I was reminded of the black girls of yesteryear at my local Hale & Hearty. I’m not sure what sparked their (illegal) generosity, but all I know is one day I came in with a co-worker of mine whom they had built a rapport with and the next day I was paying $3.56 for a large soup and sparking water, and you know good and well that’s at least an $11 purchase at the overpriced eatery. Now I won’t lie and say I turned down the discount (I know I’m wrong), although the first day I did question the girl. Another time she raised the price to $5 and some change, which I guess was supposed to be a happy medium, and another time instead of a super discount she just marked off every bean on the bean card so my next soup would be free. And then one day I came in the store and all the hook up girls were gone, just as I’d expected.
I suppose I could look at these incidents as examples of improved race relations within the black community because helping each other out certainly beats throwing drinks at each other and shooting folks up. But on the other, this Robin Hood-like steal from the rich white corporations to pay back the common black worker setup just isn’t smart. I get the logic of trying to get over on the man when we can, but that’s also how one finds themselves terminated and back at home on the couch looking silly and broke because they got fired for stealing. I appreciate the comradery — trust me, I do. But I personally don’t feel right underhandedly saving a few pennies when the reality is the person hooking me up doesn’t have the authority to do so and is likely going to be worse off in the long run, even if they don’t see if that way.
How do you feel about black folks hooking you up with different services: is it overdue reparations or bad business?
No matter how far we’ve come, women will always feel a little (if not a lot!) pressured by society to want certain things, like certain things, condone certain things, disapprove of certain things…you name it. And as the social climate has it today, a lot of women are ashamed to admit the following things, but they shouldn’t be!
If you haven’t jumped on the #MyFaceWhen Memes yet, you are missing out! Check out the 15 most hilariously accurate ones we’ve seen to date.
I know you see me.
I won’t speak for you, but I personally am tired of the overabundance of disingenuous qualifiers like “no shade” that people are using these days to justify all sorts of nasty remarks that are in fact shady as hell. Although shade may be the new kid on the block in this genre, the truth is we’ve been using phrases like this for years to try to justify coming at people in all sorts of crazy ways and making it seem like they’re the ones who are wrong, when, in actually, we might want to practice the exercise of thinking before we speak more often than we do.
Michelle Williams recently thanked her haters for keeping her relevant. And we like to celebrate haters too, and all the times they work in our favor.
When They Show Up
It’s a good sign you’re on the right path.
Ever find yourself going HAM in inappropriate places and regretting it later? Try to take the high road with one of these calming techniques.
First things first, take a deep breath.
It’s OK, we all sip a little haterade from time to time.
You Hate Beyonce
But you don’t really know why.
Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world, especially when it’s true love. However, being in love and being in love with love are two different things. If you’re not sure which category you fall into, here are 14 signs you’re a hopeless romantic – not that it’s a bad thing or anything!