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This week was all about Beyonce, from the epic visuals that accompanied her latest album Lemonade to questions over the ambiguous “Becky with the good hair” and even accusations the term Becky is a racial slur — if you ask Iggy Azealia that is. Watch and weigh in with the editors as they discuss all things Lemonade as well as Lil Kim’s resurgence as an even lighter and whiter version of herself and the implications of her skin bleaching.
Can we please stop asking, what happened to Lil’ Kim’s face?
We already know what happened to Lil’ Kim’s face. And we know why she did it.
And yeah I know: self love, candy-coated rainbows, #BlackGirlMagic and all the jazz hands from the chorus line.
But let me be seriously honest here: it takes a hell of a lot of mental, emotional and spiritual energy to stand in the face of people who hate you and actually love yourself.
Yeah, I said it.
We talk about self-love as if it is a given. But the reality is that loving yourself ain’t always the easy and popular thing to do.
In many instances, loving yourself often means going against the grain. It means ignoring the people who constantly tell you you’re ugly and not good enough; it means looking past all of the flaws and short-comings society says you have and having the courage to find value in yourself anyway.
And that’s real.
As racism is real. And so are many of its spirit-crushing tenets. Like colorism. Like Anti-Blackness. And misogynoir.
The kind that has historically graced the pages of the community’s more affluent publications like Ebony, Jet and other Black publications just as much as it has always existed in Vogue, Marie Claire and Cosmopolitan. The kind that loves Afro baby hairs and Negro noses when Beyoncé says it, but looks away and shuns those same tight curls and wide nostrils when attached to a person, particularly a woman, with darker skin.
The kind that tends to personally make me feel good when I’m dolled up, looking like someone else and awful when I look more like my regular ol’ Black girl self.
Like when I wear my wig.
Although I prefer my natural hair, I wear a wig for other job purposes.
I do it not because of some unconscious hatred of my natural hair. But less sinisterly, because I dyed my natural curls ombre green and, in short, it’s not really professional.
I get the hesitation to my unnatural hair color.
But what I don’t get is what happens when I put my wig on.
I get whistles. I get stares. I get called “beautiful” and “sexy.” I get approached more. Folks are nicer and have more patience with me. They want to help me more. They want me around. They want to know me. It happens with all races of people but it is most noticeable when all of this positive feedback to my appearance comes by way of us.
It feels good, but I am also conflicted.
Admittedly, as a hairstyle, I look good in it. A short pixie cut that highlights my round face. I’m conflicted because as soon as I hit the front door, I’m ripping that other person’s hair of my head. But I’m also very disrespectful to the hair. I despise it. It’s hot. It gives me headaches. And most importantly, it ain’t authentic to me.
Whoever she is, is not me.
So, I banish it under the car seat where it sit undisturbed until my next gig. I turn on the car ignition and then rub my hair through my short afro. I love my curls. They are soft. They feel good between my fingers. I feel like I’m finally me.
But no matter how good I personally feel about my hair, I know that how society feels isn’t mutual.
I know this because it tells me – in so many words. It tells me in glossy magazine spreads and on billboard ads sprawled across urban landscapes. It comes out of the mouths of rappers and singers with a “thing” for red and yellow bones. It is shown to me on film and television screens where darker skinned women are especially violent and hyper-sexualized while lighter skin is treated as marriage material. It even makes memes about me and shares them widely on social media.
Whereever I go in this world, it is there to remind me that my natural state is not welcome here.
And this is not to say that some folks aren’t checking me out. But the attention is different – cautious, even. Folks assume things. That I’m trouble, an outsider and difficult. They think I don’t need help, that I can take the pain and that I am a lot tougher than I actually am.
I tell myself that it is probably the green hair. It’s bold and authentic. It’s a color a reminder of my yearning to be free and limitless like the ocean.
But then I recall how that the same feeling of invisibility happened when I had my locs too. For thirteen years, I felt invisible. And then I remember that this feeling wasn’t mine alone. And I have heard so many stories over the years of other Black women who too felt rejected for being their natural selves.
I had a friend whose husband went ballistic when she cut her perm out and transitioned to a short afro. As I recall, he threatened to leave her if she insisted on “looking like a boy.” And then there was the nine-year-old dark skinned girl at the day camp where I counseled, who was teased and called horrible names like “African Booty-snatcher” by some of her lighter skinned “play mates.” And also my own grandma, who one day confessed to me that for an entire lifetime she too was made to feel ugly all because her skin was not as light and her nose not as sharp as her sister and her mother.
But love yourself, they say. It doesn’t matter what people think about you, they also say.
But it does matter. It matters when you’re getting passed up for work because you’re not the right complexion.
It matters when folks actually believe that natural hair is “nasty” or not red-carpet ready.
It matters when your hair, your skin and even your movements become synonymous with all of society’s ills like poverty, crime and violence.
It matters when many of the men who you love – your brothers – can’t even look you in the eyes because your hair, your skin and even your movements remind them of everything they are trying to run away from too.
And it matters when these same hazardous messages about your supposed worth in society are told to you over and over and over again.
I don’t care what anyone says but it messes with your psyche. It eats at your soul and invades your thoughts. It brainwashes you. And after a while, you start thinking that maybe you do look a lot better in that wig that you hate…
In an early 2000 article for Newsweek, Lil’ Kim spoke candidly about her changing appearance. In short, she said it had to do with always been told that she was not worthy of love.
More accurately, she said:
“All my life men have told me I wasn’t pretty enough–even the men I was dating. And I’d be like, ‘Well, why are you with me, then?’ ” She winces. “It’s always been men putting me down just like my dad. To this day when someone says I’m cute, I can’t see it. I don’t see it no matter what anybody says.”
In the same interview, she added:
“Guys always cheated on me with women who were European-looking. You know, the long-hair type. Really beautiful women that left me thinking, ‘How I can I compete with that?’ Being a regular black girl wasn’t good enough.” And the implants? “That surgery was the most pain I’ve ever been in in my life,” says Kim. “But people made such a big deal about it. White women get them every day. It was to make me look the way I wanted to look. It’s my body.”
We can try to pretend like we don’t know what happened to Lil’ Kim’s face, but we actually know it – and perpetuate it – very well. Because it happens (ed) to me and I know that it happens to many of you too.
And while we’re all taking this moment to shame her for the carnal sin of “not loving herself” let’s also take a moment to reflect on the ways in which we don’t make it easy for that love to manifest.
Last night (Dec. 5), Newark, New Jersey’s Prudential Center was turned all the way up for Hot 97’s “Hot for the Holidays” concert presented by none of other than master of ceremony, Busta Rhymes.
The lyricist brought a number of artists out to celebrate like Puff Daddy, Lil Wayne, Mariah Carey, Fetty Wap, French Montana, Rick Ross, and more. However, the highlight of the night was truly Mary J. Blige’s set when she surprised all and reunited with Lil’ Kim for their 1997 hit “I Can Love You.”
Of course, probably have not seeing the two perform this classic jam together for some decades now, the crowd went absolutely wild when the beat dropped on the smooth, mid-tempo joint. In all of her braggadocios bravado, a pint-sized Kim strutted out on stage in a mink shrug, leather thigh high boots, and a pair of black hip-hugging shorts, as she spit her verse.
The surprise set ended with the two divas embracing each other and leaving the crowd up on their feet applauding.
Check out the performance above.
The 2015 MTV Video Music Awards is right around the corner, and if the promos are any indications, the show is probably going to one of the most talked about television events of the summer. The VMAs are where both big moments happen and stars are made. Let’s take a look at 15 of the most epic VMA moments, ever.
Won’t He do it?
After knuckling up for what would have likely been a long and ugly child custody battle, Kimberly “Lil Kim” Jones and her ex-boyfriend, Jeremy “Mr. Papers” Neil, have made amends. As we reported Wednesday, Neil took to Instagram with a lengthy apology aimed at his famous ex (You can check out his full statement here).
Shortly after Neil waved the white flag, Jones also released a statement on Instagram letting him know that she accepts his apology and that they will always be a family. Her response reads:
Look at God ! …. As mad as I am and was .. How can I be mad at this smh .. This is very sweet @mr_papers …. We all make mistakes none of us are perfect, but it’s when we can acknowledge our mistakes is when we begin to grow into the beautiful men and women God intended for us to be.
I love @mr_papers and always have. We have been thru hell and heaven 2gether and have made a beautiful baby girl, we were on our way to being a very happy family but the devil has tried to intervene many of times even to the point of bringing us into court to a nasty custody battle but what the devil meant for bad God turned into good.
The things that he’s done have been a hard pill to swallow, and I know it is for a lot of Kim supporters ……I still want to put some of Royal ‘s dirty poop diapers in his suit case without him knowing. But this Mr. Papers is some beautiful grown man shit. This is the side I always wanted ppl to see. At the end of the day, it’s all about Princess Royal Reign. And now we can move forward to being a happy, healthy family and my daughter will have her Mommy and Daddy in her life. God gets the victory!!!
Thank you #teamkim and the #killerbeehive for always being there through good and rough times. After weeks of going to court…Now it’s back to the money!!! On my way to the studio.
It’s unclear what this means for Jones and Neil’s romantic relationship, but we’re so happy that they were able to put their differences aside for the sake of their baby girl.
Look at God ! …. As mad as I am and was .. How can I be mad at this smh .. This is very sweet @mr_papers …. We all make mistakes none of us are perfect , but it's when we can acknowledge our mistakes is when we begin to grow into the beautiful men and women God intended for us to be I love @mr_papers and always have. we have been thru hell and heaven 2gether and have made a beautiful baby girl , we were on our way to being a very happy family but the devil has tried to intervene many of times even to the point of bringing us into court to a nasty custody battle but what the devil meant for bad God turned into good The things that he's done have been a hard pill to swallow and I kno it is for a lot of Kim supporters ……I still want to put some of royal 's dirty poop diapers in his suit case without him knowing But this 👆mr papers is some beautiful grown man shit. this is the side I always wanted ppl to see At the end of the day it's all about Princess Royal Reign And now we can move forward to being a happy healthy family and my daughter will have her Mommy and Daddy in her life God gets the victory!!! Thank you #teamkim and the #killerbeehive for always being there through good and rough times. After weeks of going to court…Now it's back to the money!!! On my way to the studio team kim.
Lil Kim and the father of her child, fellow rapper Mr. Papers, have been through some things. From allegations of abuse to him posting a petty picture of her rival, Nicki Minaj, to a nasty custody battle, their love story has had a few bumps along the way.
But it seems the two are on another uphill swing. Just an hour ago, Mr. Papers took to Instagram to apologize to Lil Kim about the way he’s treated her in the past, particularly about posting that picture of Nicki Minaj. He also expressed his appreciation and gratitude for being reunited with his family.
See what he had to say in the post below.
Do you think they’ll make it work for good this time?
Kimberly “Lil Kim” Jones is embroiled in a heated custodial dispute with her ex-boyfriend, Jeremy “Mr. Papers” Neil, but she thought enough of her fans to shoot down what she feels is inaccurate information surrounding the case in a series of tweets, which she later removed.
As you may recall, Neil accused Jones of blocking him from seeing their 1-year-old daughter, Royal Reign Jones Neil. However, the 41-year-old rapper insists Neil is solely responsible for being absent from their daughter’s life
I wasn’t going to address this because this is a personal legal family issue, but I feel that my fans deserve to know the truth.
But I have faith in God and trust that he will make the decision on what’s best for my daughter.
Being as tho I’m being [dragged] into a court room ultimately they get to decide what they think is best for my daughter.
But he has a lot of personal issues that need to be worked out.
He is the reason he hasn’t seen his daughter. I would never want to take my daughter away from her father.
Jones also dispelled rumors that she dropped the restraining order against Neil.
I did not renig my statement at all. I have no reason to do that and the RTO still stands.
As you may recall, the Brooklyn lyricist accused her ex of abusing her. It’s quite unfortunate that Jones and Neil are facing these issues. Something tells us this case won’t be resolved overnight, but we’re wishing them the best.
The child custody battle between Kimberly “Lil Kim” Jones and her ex-boyfriend Jeremy “Mr. Papers” Neil has taken an unexpected turn. According to our sister publication, Bossip, the legendary rapper has filed court documents accusing her daughter’s father of domestic violence. The explosive allegations were made after Jones pulled a no-show for a court hearing earlier this month, during which she and Neil, 27, were expected to come to some sort of custodial agreement concerning 1-year-old Royal Reign Jones Neil.
“She’s playing really dirty now with the domestic situation,” said Neil’s publicist Tasha Hilton. “There has never been any domestic violence.”
Reportedly, Neil has been fighting to see the infant since he and Jones, 41, parted ways over cheating allegations when she was 2 months old.
“They had a lot of challenges with regard to being faithful and infidelity,” Hilton said.
Last month, he filed for visitation. He requested to spend one day per week with his daughter, and even agreed to have a court-approved monitor sit in during the visits.
“He’s not trying to take custody, he’s not trying to take her,” Hilton said. “He is literally just trying to see her. He’s been trying to do it very quietly.”
“He doesn’t want his daughter to grow up and think her father didn’t care about her,” she continued. “The one thing that does matter to him is having his daughter in his life.”
The former couple is scheduled to appear before a New Jersey judge later this week concerning the domestic violence allegations.
Here at MommyNoire we are forever a LiL Kim fan! This haute mama changed the game when she stepped onto the scene, stealing hearts from both men and women alike. Her sassy lyrics, bold style and signature voice has influenced Hip-Hop, Fashion, Beauty and more over the years!
All hail the Queen! And oh yea– enjoy your birthday month Kim!
All images courtesy of WENN
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As promised, Bad Boy Records graced the 2015 BET Awards stage with a reunion performance celebrating the label’s 20th anniversary and it was everything.
Participants included Mase, 112, Faith Evans, Lil Kim, and The Lox. It’s amazing what music can do. For a second, we felt like it was the ’90s again. Unfortunately, Diddy took an awkward tumble off of the stage, but he seemed to bounce back pretty quickly.