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You have two sweaters in your car (and one in your bag) at all times. You have a love-hate relationship with the air-conditioning, which your co-workers feel is necessary to have at full blast. You’ve been known to shiver in July.
If this sounds like you, you’re one of the millions of women who feel cold more often than not.
But being cold all of the time can be about more than preferring things at room temperature. Sometimes your cold nature is real problem. However, it’s a fixable problem. So if you’re tired of silently hoping that one of your co-workers turns the air off, check out one of these reasons you might be cold all of the time (and how to go about fixing it).
Did you know that living a healthier lifestyle can add years to your life and even make your kids smarter?
Of course, doing so can seem easier said than done and come off as a daunting life change, but it can be surprisingly easy if you focus in on making small changes at a time. In fact, for most of us, changing just one thing about our diets and how we operate is all we need to see some positive changes.
Pick just one of these easy changes from the list, stick with the healthy swap for two months (but it really only takes 21 days to form a habit), and before you know it, you will be ready for another.
There are quite a few keys to a healthy relationship depending on what your personal needs are. We can go down the line from trust, to communication, to intimacy, but one very important one that people overlook is the self-fulfillment of both parties.
When you are secure in yourself, have a solid foundation as an independent woman, and can take care of yourself without the help of others, these things make for a healthier relationship with someone else. I couldn’t pinpoint why I was having so many difficulties in my dating life, but I realized it was because I had a lot of building to do on my own. There were gaps in my life that needed to be filled by myself and not by someone else. Being self-fulfilled can be the missing key to the puzzle because when you’re happy with yourself and grounded in yourself, you will be in a better head space to be happy with someone else.
Relationships take you through all of the good and bad parts of who you are. If you haven’t found success in yourself yet, if you haven’t realized or at least attempted to see your hopes and ambitions through, how are you going to be equipped to handle the good and bad coming from someone else? How do you know if you’ve reached that desired place of self-fulfillment in your life?
You realize that you are the most important person in your life.
When my last relationship of six years ended two years ago, he was my excuse for the reasons I hadn’t accomplished all that I wanted to. I would talk about how that relationship and being with him had distracted me, it was why I didn’t do everything that I had planned. I blamed him, but not once did I take responsibility for my own choices. In that relationship I hadn’t established myself as an individual, which in turn, caused me to view myself in him and not as a standalone individual. I’ve dated since while continuing to build for myself. I’ve also realized that no one will look out for me better than myself. Yes, you can build with someone and establish a foundation for yourself at the same time.
You take the time out for your own friends and interests.
It’s nice to have things in common that you enjoy doing and it’s great when you can build friendships with people as a couple, but sometimes you just get tired of each other and need some space. You just need time to create a bubble of isolation to do and enjoy the things you love on your own. You want to have your own friends to confide in. Friends who know you deeply and friends you can let loose and have fun with. Don’t put them, and your interests on the back burner, because no one is sadder than a person who lives vicariously through his or her significant other.
You find security in yourself.
You should make your own money, lease or buy your own place, and save for something significant on your own before committing emotionally and financially to someone else. In my last relationship, I didn’t feel like I had accomplished anything partly because I got comfortable knowing that someone else would take care of me. At that point, which was during my early 20s, I had never leased an apartment before, I was no stranger to overdrafts in my bank account, I didn’t have a single bill in my name except for my cell phone, and I was just horrible with my spending habits. At some point, I wanted to experience financial security and freedom for myself. I wanted to go through the process of signing a lease and getting the keys to my own place. I wanted to pay my own bills. I wanted a salary and benefits. I wanted to be able to afford traveling and I didn’t want to have to worry about having a meager bank account. I needed to do this for myself before jumping into a lease agreement with someone else, joining bank accounts with someone else and sharing expenses. I simply needed to know how to provide for myself. I needed to be able to meet my own physiological and emotional needs.
You are aware of your surroundings.
Some people get so lost in love that they are literally lost. They lose sight of everything around them and what’s happening in the world because their thoughts are not of their own. They’ve become a mirrored image of their significant other. Our entire way of thinking and viewing the world becomes less original when we aren’t aware. When you’ve reached a high level of self-fulfillment, you are confident and strong in what you believe and the way you see the world regardless of who disagrees with you.
Some people believe that you don’t have to have it all together in order to have a successful and healthy relationship, and while that may be true in some cases, I believe that my freedom has allowed me to unapologetically achieve some of the things I probably couldn’t in a relationship. Being self-fulfilled is about having something established for yourself. It’s about leaving your own footprints in the sand. It’s about establishing your legacy. Granted, I will build with the man I get into a committed relationship with, but I’ll also have my own foundation to stand on as well. So when people ask me why I’m single or why don’t I want a relationship right now, I say that it’s because my efforts and focus is elsewhere at the moment: on myself.
When you have one of those days where the traffic is bad, your boss is breathing down your neck, your cramps are cutting up, and quitting time refuses to get any closer, what do you do?
You could complain about it. You could take an
unauthorized extended lunch break. You could curse everybody out. But honestly, how would these options really help? Instead, why don’t you try eating something that could change your mood? I’m not necessarily talking about your favorite junk food, but rather, foods rich in mood-boosting nutrients. There’s a lot of truth to the idea of changing your mindset by changing what you put in your body.
These foods have a great reputation for being able to turn a bad mood around. So when work is getting you down or your hormones have hijacked your sunny disposition, stash these snacks in your desk and change your dinner plans. A good mood can be just a few bites away.
When you carry a huge purse, every significant other you’ve ever had has wondered what’s in your big bag. The short answer? Everything. A tampon in an emergency? You’ve got it. A snack when he gets grumpy? On it. A change of shoes when you’ve been walking too long? You don’t really leave the house without them.
Your purse may weigh 20 lbs and is the size of a small suitcase, but everything you need is always on hand. You’re the person that everyone comes to when they need something in a pinch. And now that he knows that your purse is here to save the day, he tries to store his essentials right next to yours.
These are the things we keep in our big bag to keep us prepared for every situation. What’s in yours?
The best thing about becoming a grown woman? Handling your business like a grown woman. We all reach a certain age when it’s time to say goodbye to certain baggage. And when that time comes, it’s time to wave a hard goodbye to the things that used to bother us in the past. Gossiping girl clicks? Fashion faux pas? Those things are so high school — or they should be.
Once you stop wasting your energy on these worries, life gets a whole lot brighter. So whether you’ve shaken these loads off or you’re still in the process, these are things we should all work to let go. When we do it’s going to free up a lot of the time to handle grown woman business without the immature nonsense.
Being low on sleep can take a big bite out of your day. Struggle with several sleepless nights in a row? Now you’re going through the workday (or make that the work week) like a zombie, everything is on your last nerve, and coffee isn’t really doing the trick.
Inadequate sleep could even be affecting you in ways that might surprise you. Have trouble losing weight despite your diet? Sleep might be the problem. It can also make you age faster and ruin your mood. One night of fewer z’s could turn into multiple nights, and then you could find yourself grumpy for the long term. And not only that, but missing out on sleep on a regular basis and you can put yourself at a higher risk for cancer, Alzheimer’s and depression.
Such scary facts make it really important to fight for your sleep. Luckily, the following sleep hacks will start you on the road to better sleep tonight.
Smartphones are amazing gadgets. They are basically tiny computers that we carry around in our purses. But am I the only one who uses my own to mostly take selfies, browse social media and text? While smartphones are great for those things, they can do a lot more. And those things, which you may not have been aware of, can make our lives a lot easier.
From helping you remember where you parked, to assisting you in speaking and reading a foreign language while you’re on vacation, smartphones can do a lot. What’s even better? Most of these technological perks only require you to know how to use your camera or download a few apps.
Get ready to be surprised about how much easier shopping, working and getting organized can be. Do you have another secret use for your smartphone? Share it with us in the comment section so we can all take advantage.
When you’re concerned about your weight, watching the scale can become a stressful daily habit. You feel great when the numbers on the scale go down, and you feel okay when they stay put, but no one feels good when the numbers on the scale go up. Still, not every fluctuation in your weight should make you worry about the state of your diet and your health as a whole.
Sometimes gaining a pound here and there is not about you living and eating in an unhealthy manner. Life is full of ups and downs and the same thing goes for your body weight. Some days you weigh a little more, some days you happily weigh a little less.
Your body (and sometimes your life) is likely just going through some slight changes that are perfectly natural. More often than not, they’ll work themselves out sooner than later without you having to work harder at the gym or in the kitchen.
We are all likely to fall into a rut when we feel that our 9-to-5 jobs aren’t particularly fulfilling. But for the creative types, the unhappiness that comes with having to report to an office every morning can be overwhelming. Some of us are well-suited for the everyday business-like atmosphere, the afternoon meetings, and being a contributing member of a team. However, climbing the corporate ladder just isn’t for everyone.
If you’ve always had a feeling that you belong somewhere other than behind a desk, you could be working with more than just a feeling. Certain people are simply creative types. And for creative people, that novel, clothing line, photography or marketing idea isn’t just a pipe dream. The key to a happy professional life could be in embracing what your real interests are and going after them.
If you’re looking for a sign that it’s time to flex your artistic muscles full time, these might be just the hints you need.