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A while ago, my daughter and I were both afflicted with some type of horrible sickness that had us both up late at night vomiting. When I finally got better, she got sick again,, and I was up for days caring for her.
You know that no matter how busy you are, the world does not stop spinning, work has to be completed, and deadlines must be met. So, through the coughing, vomiting, crying, and gentle rocking while muttering “why?!” I still worked. Got all my projects and side projects in, and felt great… Until I was completely better, and then the next wave came and I just felt so mentally exhausted.
There’s a problem with working so hard until you fall, because sometimes it’s hard to get back up.
So, I did a few things that personally helped me, and decided to share. Hopefully it’ll help you if you’re in a similar situation.
I’m not in control of my happiness. That is the theory that I accepted for a very long time.
It appeared that whenever things were going too well, for too long, some unknown force would ultimately descend upon me and effortlessly snatch away any feelings of well-being I was experiencing. I attributed this abduction of my happiness to the fact that I had merely exceeded my “happiness quota.” Essentially, the universe just wasn’t going to let me get too happy. I deduced that I had a happiness limit and if I came too close to that limit, or God forbid exceeded it, the universe would be forced to cut me down to size, humble me and remind me who was in charge.
Believe me, I had very good reasons to believe this far-fetched theory. One example of an swift and forceful response to an overabundance of happiness happened in March of 2012. During the first few months of 2012, things had been going very well for me: my career was zooming forward at the speed of light, I was six months pregnant and excited to meet my new bundle of joy, and my personal relationships were flourishing. Things were going really well. But as usual, this feeling of “well-being” would prove to be short-lived.
I remember commenting to a friend that I sensed I was getting too close to my “happiness quota.” “You know, things can’t be too good for too long,” I told her. She scoffed at me and replied that I was just being paranoid, (I mean who really believes that their happiness is rationed out by some mythical energy source that rules the universe? … Me, that’s who.)
Within a week of that ominous conversation, the biggest life-changing incident that has ever happened in my life took place. I accidentally ran over my then two-year-old daughter with the family car and was subsequently run over myself after throwing my six month pregnant body under the vehicle in an effort to save her.
Read more on MommyNoire.com.
For some women, getting a wax is a must. They have appointments booked every few weeks and know their waxer by first and last name. But for the few women left on the planet who have not yet entered the realm of having their hair ripped from their body by a hot, gooey substance, it is terrifying! Despite how that sounds, the process isn’t all that bad. But there are some things you need to know before your first wax.
You’re never too old to grow up and stop participating in foolishness, like…
Chasing a Man
It’s just not a good look.
Just as much as men try their best to understand women, us women do our darnedest to try to unravel the puzzle that is a man. While women will probably continue to hold the crown as the more complicated species, it goes without saying that there are certain things about men that we will seriously never understand. We’ve already covered the things men don’t understand about us so here are the things women don’t understand about men
Though women may not really be from Venus and men from Mars, there are some definite differences between the genders and misunderstandings that regularly occur. While the psychological gap may not be a huge one, it’s hard to admit that there isn’t one at all. From certain topics to multitasking, there are some things that men just don’t get about us ladies. Here are 14 things that men don’t understand about women and probably never will.
There’s a time and a place to tear the club up, but one day you’ll walk in a party and suddenly everybody looks young, it’s hot, and your feet hurt. Don’t be sad when you hang up your sky high heels for good. There are lots of reasons to be glad that your clubbing days are over.
No More “Guessing Game”
The Guessing Game is when a man from last night calls you from the club and you’re trying to guess from his voice whether he’s really as attractive as you thought he was. Everybody looks good at 2am on a Saturday. In the cold light of day, its another story.
Made up your mind about not having kids in the future? You might want to think again. Although there are some benefits to not having children (as we featured previously on Madame Noire here), having children also has its variety of benefits, from physical to emotional.
Although having children is a major life change and responsibility, a family might do more good than harm. Check out a few life benefits of being a parent.
With the ups and downs of the current economy, Americans are becoming more acquainted with the thought of living a child-free lifestyle. According to a recent article in The Daily Beast, having children is becoming more of a preference than an absolute for many single and married men and women who are now giving the option of a childless life and marriage more thought.
For many, the choice of not having kids seems selfish and combats the ideal of a woman’s “obligation” to be fruitful and multiply, but given the cost of raising a child and the rise in women who are becoming more educated and more motivated to become a bigger part of the C-level workforce, a childless lifestyle seems to have more advantages then it does disadvantages for some.
Going against the grain, have you ever thought about the benefits of not having children? Here are a few reasons how this choice might benefit you and your lifestyle. (And on the flip side, check out some benefits of having bambinos right here.)
While nearly three-quarters of Americans believe that legal recognition of gay marriage is inevitable and an increasing number of states are proving their belief to be true, a new documentary is telling a different story about support for same-sex marriage in the U.S.
Produced by award-winning filmmaker and journalist Yoruba Richen, “The New Black” takes viewers into the pews and onto the streets and provides a seat at the kitchen table as it tells the story of the historic fight to win marriage equality in Maryland and charts the evolution of this divisive issue within the black community, the film’s website explains.
According to Richen, the documentary, a follow-up to previous works that includes “Promised Land” and “Take It From Me,” is fraught with politics and personal stories on both sides of the same-sex marriage campaign. And at the core of it, the black church’s homophobic tendencies, she says.
“The reality is that the African-American community and the black church is diverse and opinions on this issue have reflected that,” Richen told POLITICO. “There were some black public figures who took stances very early on in support of gay rights — look at Jesse Jackson’s rainbow coalition in the 80’s — while others spoke out against it. Also in terms of polling, African-American support (like other groups) has varied depending how you phrase the question and the religiosity of the respondents.”
In one such poll, conducted by the Pew Research Center earlier this month, 66 percent of African Americans said that they believe being gay is a choice, a lifestyle that gay men and women decide to lead.
The poll also revealed that fewer Americans would be upset if their son or daughter were gay or lesbian, and that more people favor gay and lesbian couples raising children, findings that Pew attributes to the fact that most Americans now say that they know someone who is gay or lesbian. As Pew noted, “even holding demographic factors constant, those who have many gay acquaintances, or close gay friends and family members, are more likely to favor same-sex marriage than those who do not.”
Read and see more at BlackVoices.com