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There’s a time and a place to tear the club up, but one day you’ll walk in a party and suddenly everybody looks young, it’s hot, and your feet hurt. Don’t be sad when you hang up your sky high heels for good. There are lots of reasons to be glad that your clubbing days are over.
No More “Guessing Game”
The Guessing Game is when a man from last night calls you from the club and you’re trying to guess from his voice whether he’s really as attractive as you thought he was. Everybody looks good at 2am on a Saturday. In the cold light of day, its another story.
Made up your mind about not having kids in the future? You might want to think again. Although there are some benefits to not having children (as we featured previously on Madame Noire here), having children also has its variety of benefits, from physical to emotional.
Although having children is a major life change and responsibility, a family might do more good than harm. Check out a few life benefits of being a parent.
With the ups and downs of the current economy, Americans are becoming more acquainted with the thought of living a child-free lifestyle. According to a recent article in The Daily Beast, having children is becoming more of a preference than an absolute for many single and married men and women who are now giving the option of a childless life and marriage more thought.
For many, the choice of not having kids seems selfish and combats the ideal of a woman’s “obligation” to be fruitful and multiply, but given the cost of raising a child and the rise in women who are becoming more educated and more motivated to become a bigger part of the C-level workforce, a childless lifestyle seems to have more advantages then it does disadvantages for some.
Going against the grain, have you ever thought about the benefits of not having children? Here are a few reasons how this choice might benefit you and your lifestyle. (And on the flip side, check out some benefits of having bambinos right here.)
While nearly three-quarters of Americans believe that legal recognition of gay marriage is inevitable and an increasing number of states are proving their belief to be true, a new documentary is telling a different story about support for same-sex marriage in the U.S.
Produced by award-winning filmmaker and journalist Yoruba Richen, ”The New Black” takes viewers into the pews and onto the streets and provides a seat at the kitchen table as it tells the story of the historic fight to win marriage equality in Maryland and charts the evolution of this divisive issue within the black community, the film’s website explains.
According to Richen, the documentary, a follow-up to previous works that includes “Promised Land” and “Take It From Me,” is fraught with politics and personal stories on both sides of the same-sex marriage campaign. And at the core of it, the black church’s homophobic tendencies, she says.
“The reality is that the African-American community and the black church is diverse and opinions on this issue have reflected that,” Richen told POLITICO. “There were some black public figures who took stances very early on in support of gay rights — look at Jesse Jackson’s rainbow coalition in the 80’s — while others spoke out against it. Also in terms of polling, African-American support (like other groups) has varied depending how you phrase the question and the religiosity of the respondents.”
In one such poll, conducted by the Pew Research Center earlier this month, 66 percent of African Americans said that they believe being gay is a choice, a lifestyle that gay men and women decide to lead.
The poll also revealed that fewer Americans would be upset if their son or daughter were gay or lesbian, and that more people favor gay and lesbian couples raising children, findings that Pew attributes to the fact that most Americans now say that they know someone who is gay or lesbian. As Pew noted, “even holding demographic factors constant, those who have many gay acquaintances, or close gay friends and family members, are more likely to favor same-sex marriage than those who do not.”
Read and see more at BlackVoices.com
Sherri Shepherd Discusses How Her Diabetes Diagnosis Saved Her Life And Pushed Her To Drop The Pounds
Sherri Shepherd has been very vocal in the past about her battles with her weight. At one point, she came out on the stage of The View in a swimsuit and on the cover of OK! to show off what she was working with after a big weight loss. But like most women, Shepherd’s weight has gone up and down over the years, mainly because of her love for things like pasta, pancakes and more. However, she knew she had to get it in order after she was diagnosed with diabetes, right around the time her weight was hitting near 200 pounds.
She opened up about this in her new book, Plan D: How to Lose Weight and Beat Diabetes (Even If You Don’t Have It), which comes out today. As she explained in an interview with USA Today, the threat of losing her life and limbs to diabetes and possibly not being around to take care of her son, Jeffrey, really was the wake-up call she needed:
“I was going through a nasty divorce at the time and I thought, “I’ll be dammed if my husband’s girlfriend is going to raise my son.”‘
“She said [her doctor] ‘Sherri, you love wearing those shoes, don’t you?’ I said, “Yes, I do.” She said, ‘You won’t be wearing them with your foot cut off, because if you keep eating the way you are eating, that’s where you’re headed.’”“I learned how to get rid of the white foods – the pasta, pancakes, cereal, anything loaded with sugar.”
“If I didn’t have diabetes, I would probably be at the International House of Pancakes eating a stack of pancakes with butter and syrup,” says Shepherd, 46. “I would probably be 250 pounds. I would not be going to the doctor. I probably wouldn’t be married to my husband, Lamar Sally. I wouldn’t be healthy for my son, Jeffrey.”
But now she’s trading carbs and sugar for vegetables and taking advantage of the space around her at home to work out when she can’t get out to the gym:
“I never liked vegetables before. Now I’m a kale freak because one day we got kale and my husband sautéed it with green peppers, olive oil and garlic.”
“I have learned to turn my house into a gym. I do lunges when going to the laundry with my basket. When cooking, I do push-ups against the kitchen counter. I do toilet squats. My behind has not touched a toilet seat in years. I am an Olympic squatter.”
All in all, being diagnosed with diabetes, but it was a blessing in disguise because it’s made the TV personality and actress a happier and healthier individual. “I feel really healthy,’ she said ‘I have so much energy. I want to live and I’m going to beat this thing. I feel so blessed.”
What do you think of her open and honest comments on her struggle to eat and live healthier?
Business Insider recently published a column called “Why I’m Getting Rid of Most of My Stuff,” written by James Altucher an active writer on business matters and a guy whose made and lost millions in business, according to his website (his bio on BI says he’s managing partner at Formula Capital). In the column, Altucher says, “I’m sick of most of the things I own.” After boiling down his wardrobe to just a few articles of clothing, he says he and his wife went a measure better and starting staying in places he found on AirBnB. Eventually they would like to stop renting a home all together and just live this way, moving from place to place, finding beds online.
“I’ve mostly replaced my laptop and ipad and phone with the Samsung Note II (and random Kinkos or business centers),” he continues. “I don’t really collect anything. And I don’t need any extra coffee blenders or whatever you call them. Do I work? I like to deliver value. And value makes money.”
As a result of this more spartan life, Altucher says “my stomach hurts less,” he has more friends, “more quiet,” and he’s actually made more money.
Altucher is obviously an extreme case, albeit one you hear about more often. Perhaps we spent so much time during the boom years before the bust of this recession acquiring so much — and convincing ourselves that we needed every bit of it — that now that we’re forced to live with less, we’ve found we can. And that we prefer it.
Look in your closet right now and you probably have a few things with the tags still on them. (Guilty.) How many appliances in your kitchen have never actually touched food? How many jars of lotions and potions sit unused in the bathroom cabinet? I don’t cook. Can barely scramble an egg. But I used to buy more food than I could actually eat. Mostly because an empty fridge seemed pitiful. Maybe even a little scary. Am I on the path to starvation? Not at all. I’m actually not really much of an eater. I’m that person that an all-you-can-eat affair is wasted on. And each week, I used to go through the ritual of throwing out food that had gone bad because I never got around to eating it. So I decided to stop wasting money on food.
Right now, if you go in my fridge, I’ve got butter, a couple of containers of yogurt, a bottle of wine, some left over pasta sauce (recipe from Shape magazine… I can’t cook but I can read), and one of those tiny single-serving ice creams. That will last through the end of the week with only the addition of maybe a box of crackers and some spaghetti to go with the sauce. I laugh sometimes at the emptiness of the refrigerator. And some people do think it’s a little pitiful.
In Altucher’s case, we’re talking about big things like furniture, gadgets, even a home. I live in a New York City apartment, so we’re forced to be careful with what we gather. But spring cleaning time is upon us and maybe you can take some of that stuff in the corners and extra closets and have a yard sale. You can use that money for something you really need. Or a new hobby, which is more fulfilling than stuff.
If you could right now do away with something to simplify your life, what would it be?
Read any blog, check any fashion site and you will almost always see someone say, “If I could just rock the Halle ____.”
Well, get ready because there is a chance you may be able to get a piece of Halle Berry in your closet.
According to EURweb, the actress will soon be coming out with her own shoe line. Berry will be working with Germain retailer Deichmann Shoes to release some shoes in line with what the Cover Girl would rock on her feet.
The line, “5th Avenue by Halle Berry” are described as being fashionable yet comfortable shoes bound to fit the lifestyles of all women (soccer moms, working moms, corporate women, fashion savvy women, etc…).
Halle, being a fashionable, busy and working mom, knows that there are often two things really important to women: their hair their shoes.
“Women have always loved shoes. It’s like if your hair is not right and your shoes are not right, the woman is not right. If both of them are right, you’re pretty much OK”
5th Avenue by Halle Berry will consist of 40 limited edition designs and will starting being available by the end of the month.
Another upside? The shoes will start at $60. Now, we don’t know what those shoes will look like but with only 40 pairs, the prices likely won’t get too far out of hand if you see a pair you like.
The possible down side? The shoes are only being released in the UK. There’s been no word from Deichmann Shoes as to whether or not they’ll be available to order online and ship to the United States. If not, I guess we’ll just be looking at pictures online.
Good for Halle. This sounds like it was possibly something really fun for her to do!
Would you buy a pair if you saw some you liked?
Doing It For Ourselves: Alchemy Networks Partners With YouTube To Bring Online African-American Programming
Maybe African-Americans in Hollywood are slowly learning that if no one will give us the “green light” for programming we’d like to see, we have to start doing it for ourselves.
Enter Alchemy Networks. The new channel which joined forces with YouTube in December, was founded by media veteran Peter Griffith and will center around urban lifestyle and celebrity entertainment. It will also feature original programming.
Griffith told Lee Bailey of EURweb that they’re not interested in being the biggest channel but instead, they want to be the best within every market they target. In fact, they didn’t just “sign on” with YouTube when they came to the table with their ideas. Griffith, along with his partners Alvin Williams, Anthony Maddox ad Xothil Arkin, came up with their own plan, took it back to YouTube and hoped they were still on board:
“What we told them was ‘We’re not the same.’ Let us come back to them and tell what we thought was the best way to approach this community,” he recalled. “And we came to them and said ‘Look. What we’d like to do is develop not just one channel, but several channels that target different demographics of the African-American community.”
Luckily, YouTube jumped aboard. So far, they have two premium channels: Kaleidoscope, which targets 18-34 year olds with a focus on music, gossip and entertainment as well as FWD, launching this month, which targets 25-54 year olds with a focus on the same but also including beauty and fashion.
Kandi Burruss is the first celebrity to sign on with the network. Her new show, Kandi & Friends, will debut later this month. There’s been no word if it’ll be similar to her own show Kandi Koated Nights but it will feature some of her celebrity friends.
Alchemy, to date, boasts one million views per week and has 900,000 subscribers.
Hopefully, with the formation of Alchemy Networks and other independent online shows, we will see more programming that we’ve longed for. Over time, who knows? It might even filter onto actual television stations.
Will you check out Alchemy channels on YouTube?
Once upon a time (today included), there was a Queen Bey who reigned unchallenged over every facet of the pop star kingdom. Her unparalleled commitment to outperforming the lesser royals allowed her to outshine them all. Except in one dark area. Being larger than life alienated her from the masses.
Always looking to improve, Queen Bey set her sights on the Web. Other starlets had used social media to their advantage. Surely the Queen could as well. She launched a website! And a Tumblr! Sprinkling out glimpses of her life for the masses to consume, artistic candid photos and handwritten open letters to those that inspired her. Everyone ate it up… for the most part. Some complained. The Queen was showing more of herself, but she wasn’t really telling us anything about who she was.
Bolstered by the delight of fans or the criticism of detractors, Queen Bey decided to take her online presence a step further. She launched The Beyhive blog on Tuesday. She billed it as “my way of showing all the inspiring things I come across every single day… through my eyes.”
Here’s Where the Fairy Tale Gets Real…
Beyoncé’s latest endeavor satisfies the minimum qualifications to be called a blog. The Beyhive is “a frequent, chronological publication of personal thoughts and Web links” (Marketing Terms). The blog features: photo links to the star’s latest cultural and artistic finds, a collection of the notes she writes to newsmakers (previously found in the News section), street style photographed by her stylist, and an archive of fan art. All listed in chronological order.
It’s cute. But she could have just made a Pinterest board.
Let’s look at what other celebrities are doing with lifestyle blogs:
- Goop, launched by Knowles-Carter clique member Gwyneth Paltrow, features interviews as well as editorial heavy features on products, destinations, recipes, and more.
- Little Monsters, the brainchild of the only other performer allowed to make eye contact with the Queen, Lady Gaga, is a full-fledged social network for fans of the provocateur.
- Life & Times, spearheaded by husband to Beyoncé’, Jay-Z, is a full-scale online publication that runs branded video, op-eds, and accompanies all its images with at least a paragraph of text.
Every New Year many people make resolutions. But instead of focusing on the future, reflect on the past in order to make changes. According to Forbes, making a self audit of your life and career in the past year can give you a real clue as to the areas you need to change or develop.
The magazine takes a look at “career and life areas to focus on for the new year.” We have run through five of them.
1) Your morning routine. What didn’t you do last year in the morning that you wished you had? Was it exercise, planning your day, having a family breakfast, or quiet alone time? Make sure to do it this year.
2) Your evening routine. Don’t repeat bad and stressful habits from 2012. “If you normally come home from work frazzled, develop a new routine. You might stop at the gym, read or listen to a different genre during your commute, or spend a few minutes alone before checking mail, jumping into dinner preparation, or catching up with the family,” writes Forbes.
3) Your information diet. What kind of information are you digesting daily? Just like your food intake, your information intake can affect your mood. “Be deliberate about what gets your attention, and unsubscribe/cancel the rest,” says Forbes of magazine and newsletter subscriptions and your daily media diet.
4) Your online activity. How much time do you spend online? Have you become a member of every social network just to jump on the bandwagon? Forbes suggests keeping only the networks you use regularly and drop the others.
5) Your network. Are you repeating the same social scene as least year? If it is a case of been there, done that, then branch out. “Prune your relationships,” suggests Forbes. “You can still be friendly with old connections, but you may want to build new connections or deepen other relationships.”
What are some of the habits you had in 2013 that you want to shed for the new year?