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Worry is one of our least productive emotions. Not only does it make you feel terrible (and give you worry lines), it doesn’t help you solve your problems. In fact, it can make them seem even bigger than they actually are. Unfortunately, for most of us, worrying and complaining is natural: The day is not long enough, we’re stressed out, and our to-do list just keeps getting longer.
So how do you give yourself some space to relax? Sometimes it’s as easy as turning all of that worry and negative energy into action. Simply switching your focus to a creative and positive head space to solve the problem when you have something bad to say about it can change your outlook — and the things about your life that are getting on your last nerve.
From problematic boyfriends to salaries that seem too low, here are all of the struggles we can shake off and stop complaining about right now.
Sometimes when you’re stuck in a rut, it seems like no matter what you do you just keep spinning your wheels. Lord knows you want to move on. And you’ve talked about it, tried it, but another year has gone by, and your goals seem like they’re just as far away as ever.
The trouble could be that even though you’re pushing forward, parts of your life are holding you back. If you want to really move on and live the life you’ve dreamed of, you have to let go of a few anchors first. From toxic friends to self-doubt, there are some weights that are too heavy to move forward with.
We don’t always know about all of the luggage we’re carrying. But once you spot it, you’ll be surprised at how quickly you can move forward when you get rid of it. Life can be a struggle, but sometimes it’s as easy as opening up your fingers and letting go.
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can be tricky. With work, family, and social lives to juggle, healthy eating and exercise can end up on the back burner. Technology is making it easier than ever to keep your body on fleek. Check out these 15 apps that will help you get your health back on track.
As cliché as it might sound, you really need to count your blessings. Far too many people focus on everything bad that happens in their lives instead of the good. Here’s a little secret: nothing is guaranteed. You can be here today and gone tomorrow.
The time has come to get back to the basics when it comes to having a grateful heart. Here are some things you shouldn’t take for granted.
I’ve been very open about my recent fixation on the meaning of life. I don’t want to sound like John Kramer. I don’t know the cure for cancer, but causing me to face my own mortality has caused me to want to try to figure out the reason for life. During this time I realized that trying to figure out what life is, I’ve discovered what life isn’t.
Though it hasn’t really answered my question, it has given me a sense of ease and relaxation and has encouraged me to enjoy whatever comes my way while I still have the time to do so. So, without further delay, here’s a list of a few things that will hinder whatever life you’ve been blessed to have.
Do your friends or family for that matter make fun of you because you’re kinda boring? Hopefully they’re not trying to be mean just because and want you to get out and enjoy life. Even if you have a routine, that doesn’t mean you turn down adventure. Life can sometimes be too awesome not to enjoy it. Here are some tips on ways you can spice up a boring life.
Productivity isn’t just for the office. These celebs have advice on how to run your life like a business and check the “success” box in your personal and professional life.
Keep A Calendar
How do you live a purpose-driven life? By writing down the path to that purpose. At work, a calendar keeps you focused on what you need to do to get the job done.
A life calendar will do the same. Have you heard of the Seinfeld Productivity Method? Former procrastinators swear by it.
For all intents and purposes, I had a great childhood. There was always food on the table, I had nice clothes, and though I was spanked, I was never beaten. I took dance lessons as a little girl, always had books to read, and graduated sixth in my high school class.
I had an all-American, Middle-Class upbringing. I know that I was more fortunate than many.
That doesn’t mean, however, that I moved from childhood to adulthood unscathed.
My mother was 5 feet tall, weighed 102 pounds, and was nicknamed “Aunt Meanie” by my older cousins. They all knew not to cross my mother. She had a fun side and many people loved her. She had loyal girlfriends that remained close for more than forty years. She was also mentally ill, suffering from severe depression. I grew up on a diet of grudges fueled by her insomnia and addiction to nicotine.
My father had what I’d call a firecracker temper. He didn’t anger easily, and when he did, he’d blow up and it was over. My mother did not. Yes, she was capable of flying off the handle at a moment’s notice, but she had this slow burn about her, like hot coals. And just when you believed that something had been forgotten, she would bring it up again and hash through every painful detail of a perceived betrayal.
When my mother was diagnosed with cancer, there were many hours of conversation in the hospital about how terribly she had been treated during her life. She would tell me that she was good with her relationship with God and ready to go Meet Him. And moments later, she would bring up an old story, detailing who had wronged her and being clear that she was unable to forgive them.
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There is something universally inspiring about the Olympics: It brings us together as a country to cheer for our team, and as a world community to celebrate our best athletes. We celebrate those who step onto the podium and our hearts break with those who don’t.
Our own lives mimic the events played out in Sochi. Whether it’s pulling together at work, celebrating when we achieve our goal or feeling the agony of a lost love, we are living the Olympic experience every day. All too often, though, we focus on what went wrong and we forget what went right. All too often, we beat ourselves up for “just” receiving a bronze medal — when that’s really something to cheer about.
When was the last time you celebrated feeling good when you crawled out of bed in the morning? Have you given thanks for having a job or finishing a task you’d been dreading? We view these everyday activities as part of life and not worthy of our time or attention; instead we wait around for the big promotion, the grand love or the acquisition of the big symbol as proof of our value. In the meantime we feel less than our best and happiness seems to elude us.
As I’ve watched the Olympics this week I gained monumental inspiration from watching the athletes … not in their performances (which are, of course, amazing) but in their attitude about their performance. It is through these role models we can learn to raise our spirits right now regardless of our results.
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For many of us, the missing ingredient to achieving our goals and making our dreams come true isn’t that we lack the ability, capacity or the opportunity. Many times, the problem is a lack of patience.
Here are ways we can actively work to build patience into our lives:
1. Count the Costs: Impatience has a price—and most times, it’s not worth what we pay. Until we examine the impact of our past actions, we won’t change.
2. Practice Daily Quiet Time: Practicing daily quiet time will produce results, clarity and focus. When we slow ourselves down, we actually speed up the process of holistic success. Sometimes we go hard, because we don’t want to hear what our hearts and lives are telling us. We have to pump the brakes if we want to slow overwhelm and get to real living!
3. Get Manual: Patience has to be built into our personal culture—especially since we lean so heavily on technology for convenience and speed. Try doing small things like actually learning a phone number and dialing it rather than relying on speed dial. Pull out a cookbook and make a meal that takes time. These are small, but important things that help us slow down and actually be present with our actions. Take time to think and enjoy!
Coach Felicia continues to break our lives down to help us build them back up and you can read more over on ESSENCE.com.