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Now, I don’t know if I agree with Jaden Smith’s theory that babies are the smartest people on the planet, but I do think that there’s something about a toddler’s innocence and willingness to learn that is commendable and something that should be noted. As a mother I spend a lot of time watching my daughter and while I’m teaching her the rules of life, she’s teaching me as well. Because I care about you, readers (yes, even you) I wanted to share:
We can’t do right all the time. Sometimes it pays to go for what you want without considering the consequences. These bad bishes may live in the shade, but refusing to pump their brakes has gotten them to where they are today. Here are a few life lessons we’ve learned from their bad behavior. Have you ever stepped out of line to get what you want? And is that ever OK? Share your story in the comments section.
Three words: You.Better.Werk. RuPaul has been inspiring us to be fierce and fabulous since the ’80′s, even though many of us didn’t catch wind until the early ’90′s. Either way, this little piece of advice isn’t the only jewel RuPaul had for us. Check out some of RuPaul’s most inspiring quotes on the following pages.
How many times when you were in elementary school did you think: ”When will I ever use this information when I get older?” That was a thought I had whenever I went into gym class, or any other class that I thought was bunk. Regardless of whether the knowledge of how to solve fractions or the ability to decipher an adverb from an adjective is helping you out in your daily life, there are many informal lessons that were also inadvertently taught to you that can still apply today. Universal things that teachers would say in between teaching their lessons. Let’s examine some of these key phrases:
Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Paper – I wish I was clever enough to have thought of this on my own, but I got this gem off of Instagram. However, truth is truth, and this universal colloquialism that was heard across classrooms in the US can still be applicable to adults now.
If you’re obsessed and worrying about how someone else is getting their money and why they are relevant, then you’re clearly not paying attention to your own pockets. If there’s that one reality star (or multiple ones) that seem to be “winning,” despite what you perceive to be a lack of viable talent, begin to focus on improving your own grind. Don’t worry about their paper, keep your eyes on your own.
Write Your Name on your Work – I heard this up until high school. Teachers’ reasoning was “how do I know whose work this is? And how do I know to give you credit if you’re name’s not on it?”
As you should know, if a task is done well, and there’s not a name on said work, please believe that others who want the acknowledgement of a job well done, but don’t want to do the work, will definitely take credit for it. As you become older, you become a brand. Anything that you do (especially if it’s done well) should be attributed to you. If not, someone else can take the credit.
If you Don’t Know, Ask Questions – Your teacher just got finished teaching you something, and then turned to the class and asked: ”Does anyone have any questions?” You are clearly confused, but don’t raise your hand. How many times can you remember doing that in school?
As an adult, the fear and insecurity of what others think when you’re confused about something should go out the window. You can’t be your best, or work your best if you don’t really know what you’re doing. It’s better to ask questions to ensure that you don’t look like an idiot, than to not and prove yourself to be.
Have your Supplies – A few of my old teachers main gripes were: ”I’m not Office Depot! Stop stealing my pencils and pens!” You’re given a pass as a child, but once you get older your habits become your reputation. So, if you’re constantly in lack of “supplies,” or when crunch time comes and you’re not prepared, that’s what you’re going to be known for.
Sit up Straight in your Seat – Good posture is something that we should have all learned, but it’s something that you might have struggled with. Just know three things: 1.) slouching isn’t a good look when you’re at work, 2.) it can negatively affect your mental and physical health, and 3.) bad posture can help contribute to those lumps and bumps in the midsection that you’re trying to get rid of. If you want to get rid of your pooch, one step (besides healthy eating and exercise) is straighten up. It’ll help activate your ab muscles. Don’t trust me? Just check out this info.
Class is dismissed.
Kendra Koger loved recess, and you should love her twitter @kkoger.
When we’re young, our parents are always spouting off food for thought that we mostly roll our eyes at or ignore. And then one day when we find ourselves drowning in the reality that is adulthood, one of those nuggets of knowledge pops in our brain and we think, “that’s why my mom/dad always said such and such!”
That’s right, they weren’t trying to curb your fun, they were trying to instill values in you and raise a self-respecting adult which you now most likely are if you understand these childhood lessons.
No one knows it all, and sometimes the things that you do know, you might have to be reminded from time to time. Now, I don’t want you to think that I see you all as incompetent, or “fell off of the potato truck,” but everyone needs a helpful reminder. I’m not above self approving and through out my life there are things that I learned that I still have to remind myself each day. I also know that the site carries a myriad of readers from high schoolers, college aged, and fly women, so to each, here are a few things to remind yourself as you go through your daily life. Also, feel free to add in the comment section anything that I might have missed. Remember, self-improvement is the best improvement.
According to an article in The Atlantic, “The National Marriage Project reports that 58 percent of first births in lower-middle-class households and 40 percent of all U.S. births are to unwed mothers.” This is being attributed to young adults in the United States who delay getting married until their mid-20s.
This means that more and more single moms are out there navigating uncharted territory and they are definitely not a one-size-fits-all group. Maybe they are parenting without an active father. Maybe they’re single, but co-parenting with the child’s father. Maybe they are co-parenting with a stepfather. And then there are those women who find themselves parenting alone the death of a co-parent.
I fell into that last group. I got married and found myself parenting our two boys alone after my husband died. So, I’d like to share some lessons I learned you might find helpful as you walk down the path of being a single mother.
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Surely, by now you’ve learned that today is our First Lady, Michelle Obama’s 49th birthday. In just the short time we’ve known of Mrs. Obama, we watched her in pride and admiration. In that time of observation we’ve learned a few things from the our beloved First Lady, see what they are…
Never take yourself too seriously
If you’ve watched Michelle in the past 4+ years, you’ve noticed that she’s hit the dougie for the “Let’s Move” campaign, she let the family dog Boo sit on her lap while she was reading a story at a children’s hospital and during the Olympics she let one of the female wrestlers pick her up and both of the women posed for a photo. Michelle is the first lady of the United States of America and could easily have sunk into that “I’m too good for this,” mode. But instead, she’s remained down to earth, approachable and even fun. No wonder the country loves her so much.
You cannot reward foolishness and expect a different outcome
This truth spans romantic relationships, friendships, and even professional partnerships. You cannot reward people for poor behavior and expect them to act any differently than they always have. A reward doesn’t have to be a monetary token, although in business relationships it typically is, but your simple presence in someone’s life and your decision to remain there despite not having your needs met is rewarding the other person. If there are no consequences to their actions, i.e. you are still actively invested in their wellbeing or paying them for services not up to your standards, there is no motivation for the other party to treat you better or rise to the occasion. After so many instances of poor treatment, the issue becomes yours and not theirs, after all, what indication would they have that they need to change if they are still reaping the same benefits as someone who is doing what they should? Not to mention, you will not be taken seriously if you only threaten to halt the rewards if things don’t change, yet you still remain in the various relationships despite the lack thereof. The only solution is to remove yourself or your investment from the situation in order to demand and receive a more positive outcome. — Brande Victorian
By now, January 3, you ‘ve thought about the year that just passed. Hopefully, as you reflected you found that the year was full of more good than bad; but even if that wasn’t the case, there was definitely a lesson to be learned from it all. We checked in with our Facebook and Twitter followers to see what they had to say about the lessons that they’re going to take into 2013.
Tracy: Not to worry or stress over things I have absolutely no control over…..learning to let go and truly trust God!
Bernadette: You can’t pray and worry. Pick one!
Rachel: Physical and mental health is imperative for a successful happy life.
Melody: That if I don’t love and care for myself, others won’t either.
Robin: Last year I stopped hiding myself from the world and enjoyed my fullness, my loudness, my sassiness and make no excuse for who God made me…. I love it!
Monique: The value of money means nothing after losing a loved one. Living in happiness and peace is now my goal in life.
Shakeda: Always trust your instinct!
Tuere: A very wise, deep brotha told me that everything serves to further. Our triumphs keep us inspired, our mistakes are supposed to teach us and help us grow. Even the “bad” things that happen are supposed to be calls to action for us. They are there to get our attention. No matter the outcome, it ALL serves a purpose. Even if he only came into my life to deliver that message, he was a blessing for me.
Gerilyn: Don’t hold back life is truly what u make it, embrace ur God given gifts nd believe they’ll carry u through
Evita: That one sentence can change your life forever. My six-year-old son was diagnosed with Medulloblastoma; a brain cancer. He was a normal kid and we had no signs. I used to complain about my life being mundane before and now I WISH I had that “mundane” life back. Appreciate what you have now; you never know how long you’ll have it.
Mahalia: I learned that yeah your heart will be broken a couple of times. But you shouldn’t stop loving because a couple of bad people abused the privilege. Keep an open heart and you will find true happiness nothing is wrong with you!
Sheena: No matter who or what comes into your life, putting your children first will always bear the richest rewards! God blessed you with the gift of a child, so cherish, love and nurture it and He will never turn his back on either of you!
Nosi: When going through adversity there is always a break through!! Key word THROUGH.. meaning it wont stay like that forever.. It will get better.
Deborah: Follow your gut whether it is a good gut feeling or an uneasy gut feeling. That gut feeling is The Holy Spirit covering you in all aspects. Follow your gut it will not steer you wrong. Trust me!!!
Tynesha: To have boundaries and keep them, learn when to let people in a keep them out.
Bwann: ….Never log on ‘Worldstar.com’ as the level of ratchettness can slowly kill your brain cells and cause you to search online for more fuckery resulting in severe damage to your brain (frontal, parietal and occipital) lobes and cause memory loss!!