Thank you K. Michelle for fulfilling your purpose on Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta.

Sometimes these stars forget that the reason they are on TV is supposed to be to put music out, but K. Michelle has finally gotten around to doing just that with the release of a new single, “V.S.O.P.”

Sampling Debra Laws’ “Very Special,” K. is coming strong with the Keyshia Cole-esque hardcore R&B on this track, with lines like, “We gone do whatever you like, very special/got some Henny chilling on ice, very special.”

Overall, the song is a fun summer love track that can get you in the right mood for your boo thang. Listen below and tell us what you think. Pass or Play?

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I admit I enjoy the soap opera that is Love & Hip Hop Atlanta. This series is far from a “reality” program; however there are scenes in the show that provoke thought when it comes to issues that plague men and women every day. This past Monday’s episode left me scratching my head yet again, this time wondering: Why do “baby mamas” have this false sense of entitlement?

Let me fill you in on the background. A local ATL radio personality, Traci Steele, has a son with Chris Brown’s DJ, DJ Babey Drew.  Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. In order to stay local, he decides to open a sneaker store and convinces Traci to invest $25,000 into “their” business. Traci insists that she’s giving him the money for their “family” but makes it a point to say that she doesn’t want any “groupie h*es” to “benefit” from her money – whatever that means.

She decides to pop by Drew’s house unannounced in order to give him the check he’s been asking for. Well, to her surprise (not that the producer’s had anything to do with it), she finds him there with a “random” girl and goes ballistic. Even though Drew reminds Traci that they are no longer together, it seems she thought her “investment” would keep them together as a family. She goes off on him, and the poor girl who was sitting there, and storms out. As Drew follows behind her trying to understand why she’s ripping up the check, she tearfully proclaims that she never wanted to be a “baby mama,” and that he made that choice for her.

And that is where I begin scratching my head. Huh?

Let me first say this post is not to bash single mothers. I prefer to use that term rather than “baby mama,” but since Traci referred to herself as such, I’ll just go with it. There are plenty of women who never chose to be single mothers, but are holding it down nonetheless and they deserve to be respected if they’re doing it all alone.

But to say that someone made you a “baby mama” is a bit dramatic. If you are dating a man and not married to him and decide to engage in unprotected sex, there is a chance you could become pregnant. It is a woman’s choice to engage in that behavior and to deal with the consequences. Drew didn’t make her a baby mama, she chose to be one. I’m not saying that women should get abortions or give up their children for adoption so that they can’t be labeled as a “baby mama,” and I’m also not suggesting that people run out and get married in order to legitimize their children. All I’m saying is everyone has a choice when it comes to having sex and having babies. No one forces anyone to do anything.

Now Traci,  that poor girl has unresolved issues. And unfortunately she isn’t the only one.

There are many women who feel that giving birth to a man’s child entitles them to the man himself. While I understand that many of them felt that they would get married, or at the very least stay together, a woman needs to understand that her status as “mother” is very different from her status as “significant other.” Once the romantic relationship ends, a woman can’t expect her child’s father to show her the same love, affection, or consideration that he would show a new love interest. The feelings simply aren’t there anymore, and if a woman still feels that he should put her first, rather than the child, then she is delusional.

There are a lot of baby mamas out there who feel that she and the child are a package deal. She may determine that if he doesn’t want her, then he can’t see or be with the child either. It’s sad, but true. She doesn’t just want him to be a father to their child. She also wants him to be her lover, her husband, her bank…her everything, even when he isn’t obligated to be anything other than a father and provider to his child(ren). The child’s mother feels this man owes her his life, when in fact all she is entitled to is his respect, his financial support for the child if she is the custodial parent, and his commitment to co-parent.

Traci’s problem, like so many other women in her situation, is she hasn’t let go and moved on. She probably felt that baby Drew was her insurance policy to keep Big Drew around. But the fact of the matter is if he doesn’t want you, no baby is going to change that. His responsibility is to his son, not to make Traci an honest woman. He doesn’t belong to her, and he can’t be bought with $25K. Traci thought she could buy a false sense of security, therefore making him feel like he “owes” her his loyalty or that he “belongs” to her somehow. Poor girl was sadly mistaken.

Ladies, if you feel that having a man’s baby should automatically make you a priority in his life, think again. His child should be his priority, and he has the right to move on once you are broken up. Relationships can end, and breaking up is hard to do. Letting go can be even more difficult. But once it’s over, you can’t expect him to be the partner you wanted him to be as far as a romantic involvement is concerned. You won’t get the same treatment you did before the relationship ended, and you shouldn’t expect it or “guilt” him into loving you the way he once did – if he ever did. It’s a hard pill to swallow I’m sure, but it’s time to grow up, move on and let go. He should be civil and respectful to you, and be willing to work with you to be a good parent – nothing more, nothing less. He can’t live his life tip toeing around you hoping that you won’t get hurt or angry. Put your big girl panties on, gain some closure and get over him. It’s a simple choice and not one that someone has to make for you.

The phrase ratchet reality star almost sounds repetitious since there are few, if any, individuals on reality TV with redeeming qualities  But these stars here are some of the most notorious on the tube, and quite honestly, the worst 15-minute celebs we’ve seen in the past few years.

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Stevie J

To put it simply, Stevie J is scum and think he’s God. Sorry to break it to you Stevie J, but you’re just ratchet. He has no respect for women and makes everything a joke (remember his strip club threats?) I feel sorry for Mimi and Joseline. They have a problem on their hands forever.

Last night, K. Michelle showed her natural behind on the fourth episode of LHHATL, while Kirk and Scrappy just decided to watch nekkid booties at the strip club all while swapping marriage advice. And let’s not forget the love triangles between Stevie J., Joseline, and Benzino, and Traci Steele, DJ Baby Drew, and a strange woman at his home. Bottom line: there was a lot going on and we’re still early into the season. Check out what went down.

Once we got Benzino in the office to ask him all the serious things we wanted to know — like if he really slept with Joseline and is still seeing Karlie Redd — we couldn’t help but ask a few crazy questions as well. The main thing we wanted to know is if the so-called Zino Grigio pays attention to all the people coming for his neck (literally!) every week, and if so how he feels about the personal criticism. See what he had to say as he shows off the one asset he wants everyone to know he (kinda) has.

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Just yesterday, one of my coworkers said that she was over Love and Hip Hop Atlanta, that she’d outgrown their foolishness. I was happy for her growth but I’m so not ready to give up the outright train wreck that LHHATL is and that delicious ratchetness it’s brought to my life. Maybe I’ll get there one day but that night certainly wasn’t last night. And I’m glad about it. Check out some of the more ridiculous moments from the episode.

Wait, did Shay just take a page out of the Mimi handbook of excuses for staying with a foul man?

Remember when Mimi tried to tell everyone she wasn’t the only girl in the world whose man ever cheated on her (while ignoring the fact she’s the only one who stayed for 15 years)? Shay is sounding eerily similar defending the way Scrappy played her at the “Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta” reunion last season. WRUG Media group tried to get to the bottom of the ridiculous hold Scrappy seems to have on Shay’s life — even after he proposed to another woman right in front of her face — and all she had to say for herself and Scrappy is that he’s not perfect (stating the obvious) and he’ll always have a place in her life (but why?).

Check out the highlights:

The current status of her relationship with Scrappy

“Scrappy will always be apart of my life. I will tell you that. Like I said, it started from a friendship and we’ll always continue on. That’s something beautiful that we have. Sometimes I feel like we shouldn’t have stepped over that boundary of becoming more that just friends but it happened. I can’t take it back. It is what it is. And I have a genuine love for him. But he will always be apart of my life.”

What she’s attracted to in Scrappy

“Everything. He’s a great friend first of all. We’ve been friends for over 5 years. And I think in a relationship, you should become friends before you’re lovers. And that’s something that we had that was very special and that we still have. He’s a cutie pie and he’s genuine, and he’s sweet and he’s nice. He’s not perfect at all and neither is your man (points at camera). So don’t judge.”

If she was humiliated by Scrappy’s proposal

“Well of course I was. I think anybody in that situation would be. But I can’t give you everything because there’s a lot that’s happening on Love & Hip Hop Atlanta season two. Um, there is no marriage. I will tell you that. But that’s not my business. He’s my friend and that’s just it. Whatever happened happened. Sometimes you have to learn to move forward and leave the past the past. And like I said, he’s not perfect and neither are you. Neither am I. I’ve doing lots of things in my past that I will take to my grave you know what I mean? So it just is what it is. I’m a forgiving person and it just is what it is.”

On people thinking Momma Dee is manipulating her

“Um, I think opinions are just exactly what it is, it’s an opinion. And I respect everybody’s opinion. I don’t have to agree with you to respect it. I love Momma Dee to death and she loves me. And at the end of the day, I make my own decisions. Yes, Momma Dee wants Scrappy and I together for her own reasons, you’ll have to ask her. But she comfortable just knowing that we are [her and Scrappy] definitely friends. And you just never know what could happen in the future. We are just friends.”

I wonder what Erica thinks about Scrappy always being a part of Shay’s life…although after last night’s episode, maybe that’s no longer a concern of hers.

If you saw the super trailer for this season of “Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta,” you might recall an interesting conversation brewing between Karlie Redd and Benzino about a p*rn tape with Joseline. Since all we’ve seen are a few second of the discussion, we had to ask Benzino what all that was about when he came into the office — and more importantly was he Joseline’s leading man. We also needed to know his status with Karlie and what was up with those pics we saw of him and Claudia Jordan getting awfully close earlier this year. Lucky for us — and you — “Zino Grigio” told us everything we wanted to know. Check out what he had to say in the video above.

I guess Mimi is trying to turn a negative into a positive all in one camera flash — or she just wanted an excuse to dress up and show off her backside. Either way, the result is still the same: Mimi Faust in a maid outfit on Instagram.

Poking fun at Joseline coming in Stevie J’s house and addressing her by saying, “Hey Maid,” Mimi decided to embrace the title and posted the pic above with the caption:

YESSSSS I got my “MADE” outfit on  #KeepItClean

Sounds like she’s pointing out the fact that she’s a self-made woman, not necessarily a maid like Joseline would like to think. And while I’m not knocking that hustle, can we pause for the thirst that is this pic?

I’m just trying to figure out how much time went in to finding this outfit, hair and makeup, calling up a photographer, staging the scene, and perfectly tooting her booty up to snap this sultry photo. It could certainly be worse, but we can’t deny Mimi is doing the absolute most right now. Caption this pic and tell us what you think is going through her head in this photo.

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Welcome to the pot calling the kettle segment on MadameNoire.com today. In looking over an interview the newest cast member of “Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta,” Traci Steele, did with VH1′s blog, I came across an interesting news nugget. Apparently K. Michelle really does have beef with nearly every single woman on the series because at some point she came for DJ Traci Steele’s head, calling her participation in the show opportunistic.

*Blank stare*

When asked how she feels about K. trying to call her out, Traci is just as confused as we all are.

“It baffles me because I’m doing the same thing you were doing, boo. What’s the difference between you and I, honey pie. But I let you live. I’m not even sure she knows what an opportunist is. You so far into Wikipedia, look that s— up. Opportunists, they benefit off of other people and they do things maliciously just to gain. I don’t gain from other people. I got on this show to build my family. I’m not hurting anyone in the process and I’m building a brand and I’m building an empire. That’s the same thing you doing, so I mean opportunist, it take one to know one.”

Seriously, you’d be silly to not be an opportunist and appear on reality TV — otherwise you’re just out there looking crazy. See the difference between Nene Leakes and Sheree Whitfield on “Real Housewives of Atlanta. ” And regardless, I just want to know how Traci being an opportunist affects K. Michelle at the end of the day. Oh that’ right, it doesn’t.

Moving on to something that really does affect Traci, in her interview she also talked about why she gets so amped up over her ex, Drew’s, dealings with “THAHAs.” Speaking on upcoming drama we’ll see later in the season when she gets into it with one of Drews said h*s, she said:

“I blame him, honey. He puts these stupid b****es on a pedestal and makes them believe that they actually have some say so and they actually have an opinion. B****, no. The only thing you open your mouth for is to suck a d***. You don’t do nothing else. You do not have an opinion when it comes to me or my family. So that’s where another problem comes in. Big Drew don’t know how to tell these h*s you just a h*. You stand over in the corner, you say nothing.”

All the more reason why Drew’s request for $25,000 from his ex to open up a sneaker boutique seems so outrageous. Unfortunately, Traci says she’s actually considering it.

“That is a huge investment. And if I do or do not invest in this store, my whole focus is my son. What will benefit him? If I invest in the store will it benefit him or will it cause problems, and that’s the dilemma I have….

My experience in dealing with Drew… I’ve seen with my own eyes me trying to help him and someone else benefiting from it and I’m not standing for that anymore. He has to show and prove that things are going to change.”

Let’s hope she means that.