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One common bit of advice given to those who are in relationships is “keep your business to yourself.” I tend to totally agree with this advice since in most cases your family and friends will always pick a side: YOUR side. Once you tell them something, your partner will be forever hated on because they don’t want to see you hurt. It would seem only natural for your friends and family to be biased and have your back, but sometimes your good friends and family can also be your truth tellers and help you to see things clearly when you’re a blind fool in love. If you’re experiencing some doubt or have some serious questions you can’t seem to sort out on your own when it comes to your man, here are the pros and cons of discussing your relationship issues with your friends or family.
I can’t exactly place my finger on why, but when I first heard that R. Kelly was K.Michelle’s musical mentor, an alarm went off in my mind. It just seemed like something very messy could come out of that situation. Now here we are, months later, reporting on the mess.
During a recent interview with 94.5′s the Morning Grind Show, R.Kelly made some comments that seemed to imply that his relationship with the Love & Hip Hop reality star was more sexual than professional. It all began when the show’s hosts informed him that she wanted to play her album for him personally.
“Personally? Okay, alright, okay. We’ve sat and had sessions and listen to uh, uh,uh, uh, music and drinks. And we had a lot of fun like backstage, after my show and things like that,” he said.
Now, of course, his response seemed a bit suspicious, so one of the show’s hosts then proceeded to probe and inquire about what kind of fun they’d been having.
“Well um, listening to music and me giving her some lectures on what she can do to be better. When I tell her to do something, she do it,” he answered.
His response seemed to only fuel previous rumors that he and K were more than friends and when he was asked about the rumors, he seemed to confirm them in his own weird, trapped-in-the-closet sort of way.
“What? Well, you know I um, well, we did have a couple of drinks and after the show, the ‘Single Ladies’ tour and she did say she was single at some point and them I got drunk and I don’t know. I don’t know. I woke up and they said I had a good time. I had to trust it.”
We’re guessing this didn’t go over well with K.Michelle. Since the interview, the pied piper took to his Twitter page to offer a public apology to the “V.S.O.P.” singer. According to Kelz, his words had been twisted around by the morning show hosts.
Oh Robert, look at this mess you’ve made!
Check out the clip of R. Kelly discussing K.Michelle on the next page. Do you think his words were misinterpreted or does it seem like he knew exactly what he was doing?
Homophobia And Masculinity: The Real Problem With Russell “Hollywood” Simpson Allegedly “Outing” NFL Star Kerry Rhodes
“Kerry paid for everything. We had a very good life together. I always got any and everything I ever asked for. Vacations, red bottoms, the private jet in my video was us going to training camp together. I had a driver and he even gave me his Aston Martin. He later bought me my own car and because I’m not a dumb bi**h I made sure to get it my own name and he paid the whole thing off! He treated me very well. I will never talk bad about him in that way because he was really good to me.And yet you put him on blast. Listen, I am always down for the shenanigans. But I also know that if this was a woman doing this, her name would probably be all sorts of synonymous with the term, “bitter jump-off” right now. And I’m not saying that he is. Actually, I’m not saying anything because I don’t know for sure who is or who is not telling the truth. Right now, it is Simpson’s word against Rhodes’s word – as well as some very suspicious pictures. We can infer all we want, but with this week in the media, with supposed reputable news sources getting their facts completely wrong, it has taught us that it’s best not to draw conclusions too quick.
“There are also certain segments of the gay community who are using this story to promote their anti-feminine ignorance. Sites like Discreet City have been exploiting the story to further their own agenda. The Twitter account for the site sent out a tweet implying that Kerry Rhodes is in this situation because of feminine gay men, and that the actions of feminine gay men like Kerry’s alleged ex-boyfriend are why masculine gay men don’t like to mess with feminine gay men. It amazes me that people will use any situation as an excuse to scapegoat a group of people. Instead of looking at the ways that homophobia prevents all gay men from being viewed in a nuanced light, sites like Discreet City promote the ignorant view that the problems of gay men are rooted in the fact that some men are feminine. It’s as if the site thinks that homophobia would cease to exist if only all gay men were masculine–never mind that a significant chunk of homophobia rests on a overall hatred of men being with other men.”Simpson gets a pass because what he says is not only scandalous but it also helps to stoke already existing paranoia around gay men, particularly gay black men. However, he does not get a pass from being on the outskirts of what is considered normal and acceptable masculinity. And in a lot of ways, his limp wrist, shrill voice and hip switching while walking are more uncomfortable and threatening than his actual loose lips. And why is this? Probably for the same reasons some call these men, “pu**ies” or “mitches” as a way to demean them. Of course, the inference here is that anything associated with femininity and womanhood should be considered as weak, inferior, or less than manhood. And over the years I have learned that regardless of sexual orientation, there is nothing more important among men than maintaining “manhood” – or at least the perceived characteristics of what manhood is supposed to mean. It’s probably the reason why AP.9, the unknown rapper whose claim to fame was outing Ice-T’s wife Coco, can still maintain his “dignity,” despite his gossiping. And it is probably part of the reason why Rhodes doesn’t want to come out the closet – allegedly. Yet and still, I am tired of the kiss and tell genre of gossip. Everybody is trying to be the next Karrine Steffans, but they come up looking just starved for attention. I don’t know enough about Simpson to make that determination, but anyone clamoring to get on reality television has to be looked at in a fishy manner. And unless Rhodes was some sort of right-wing, anti-everything nutjob preaching hate and intolerance while living this secret lifestyle, I don’t really see the relevancy in discussing who he is sleeping with. Honestly, if not for his connection to the NFL – and the homophobic connotation that is associated with the league – most folks wouldn’t care anything about who Rhodes was screwing. Most of you are probably even saying, “Who??” Plus, sexual snitching is just the worst, just think about Ray J. Listen, I understand his feelings are probably hurt. Nobody – woman or man – likes to be viewed as a secret lover. I can imagine how it must feel to hold hands behind closed doors and once someone comes along, be shoved into the proverbial bushes – not that this has ever happened to me, but I do understand the feeling. With that said, did he not seem perfectly fine and cool with being shoved into the proverbial bushes prior to this very public outing? Maybe he had his money cut off. If you were conscious enough to accept that position before when he was tricking you off with red bottoms and car notes, you can’t quite claim victimhood now that you two are – allegedly – no longer together.
My boyfriend recently told me that guys brag about their girlfriends to their boys. This was no surprising revelation to me, especially since I know men can be just as gossipy, if not more so, than women. He didn’t exactly crack the DaVinci Code. But I got to wondering if guys gloat about the same things women do. You know how your girls are when they first meet a guy they’re head over heels for: They talk about how good looking he is, or ask him to run you and your girls around so they can see what kind of car he drives. You know, the silly superficial stuff.
But once you’re past the honeymoon stage and your friends see that he’s still there after a few months, now they’re curious as to what makes him so great that you actually keep him around. Looks, a job, his car, his money – these are all things that may attract us, but not things that make a great person. Bragging about a man’s looks or how much money he makes will only make your friends think you’re shallow – and you probably are. But if you really want your girls to give you props – because after all, why else would you be obnoxiously boasting – then make sure your man has these brag-worthy traits before you go running your mouth trying to make everyone jealous and crazy in the process.