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Too Soon, Don’t Do It: 14 Signs You’re Not Ready For Kids

May 21st, 2014 - By Kendra Koger
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Let me start this post off by saying that there will never be a “perfect time” for anything.  No matter what you want to do, there will always be at least one wrinkle in the fabric of life that you can’t iron out.  With that as well, I know that you’re not perfect, and life is all about trying to do better.

So, with that, if you’re contemplating having a child, self-reflection is a good thing to do.   Now we all know the material things that we should have together before having a child (like a job, a place to stay and the such).  I want to discuss mental and emotional well-being.

We all have our rough edges. Trying to make sure that they’re as smooth as possible before having kids is a good thing to do.  So if you see these rough edges in your life, try to smooth them out before you throw a kid in the mix.

15 Of The Cutest Kids On The Internet

March 19th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Everybody loves a cute kid and there’s no shortage of those on the Internet. Check out a roundup of our favorites!

“Oh That’s Vine!”

Like this little girl who is super excited to be on social media.

8-Year-Old Boy Hangs Himself; Parents Believe He Was Re-enacting A Movie Scene

January 27th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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The 13-year-old brother of Julliani Plascencia, 8, was shocked to find him unconscious on the floor of his parents’ bedroom with a scarf wrapped around his neck, while the other end of the scarf was wrapped around the door knob. Just hours before the discovering Julliani, his brother says he came in and announced that he was going to hang himself. Not thinking much of his little brother’s words, the teen threatened that he would tell their mother Julliani was saying such things. Meanwhile, the boys’ mother, Shfawn, stepped out for a quick trip to the grocery store.

After some time had passed and the teen didn’t hear anything from his younger brother, he went looking for him and found him lying unconscious on the floor. He acted quickly, dialing 911 and calling their mother. When Shfawn arrived back home, she tried to give Julliani CPR, but unfortunately, her attempts were unsuccessful. The paramedics eventually arrived on the scene and were able to revive him as he was being transported to a Sacramento hospital. Unfortunately, Julliani fell into a coma after arriving to the hospital. He died hours later.

Julliani’s father, Ronnie, spoke to News 10 about the tragic incident, expressing that he did not believe that his son took his life on purpose.

“He must have been re-enacting something he saw on TV,” said Ronnie. “He probably knew it was dangerous but not the severity of trying it out.”

Family members remember Julliani as a child with a big heart who frequently gave money to the homeless out of his allowance.

“Let him be happy in heaven, because I know that’s where he went,” said the boy’s heartbroken mother. “His heart was too big for this world.”

We send our prayers to the Plascencia family.

3 Things To Discuss With Your Partner Before Starting A Family

January 10th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From YourTango 

For some couples, the decision to have children is something that was decided well before marriage. But for many couples, choosing whether or not to have children can be one of their most daunting issues. Because this decisions is irreversible, it’s one that can’t be taken lightly.

Sometimes the argument for parenthood is obvious: parenthood can be infinitely rewarding on many levels. There is no bond like that between a parent and child. Having children can also create a special bond between you and your partner as co-parents and may ultimately lead to the incomparable joy of having grandchildren later on.

At the same time, raising a child is an enormous task and its intensity cannot truly be imagined until experienced.  Parenting means an incredible energetic, emotional, and financial commitment. Every aspect of life changes when parenting and this new life will account for much of your time. It may even define you!

Exploring the question of whether or not to have children can bring your deepest values, joys and fears to the surface.  Start the conversation well before you plan to start your family to make sure you two are on the same page. Here are four of the most important considerations to talk through with your partner.

1. It can’t be about your friends.
The decision of whether or not to have a child needs to be made solely by you and your partner. Yet the pressure from others can cloud your thinking. Just because others around you are starting families doesn’t mean it’s the right time for you. Don’t let the desire to maintain your friendships by ensuring you are in similar lifestyles be a factor in making the best decision for you and your partner. Ask yourselves, “Why do we really want children?”

It’s also not your parents’ decision. Many couples feel pressured by their parents who want grandchildren. Your parents may want grandchildren and be disappointed if they don’t have them, but they’re not entitled to grandchildren. Conceiving out of guilt is not going to serve anyone in the long run. Ask yourselves, “Are we ready to make parenting our top priority? If so, what sacrifices are we specifically ready and willing to make?”

Read more about family planning at YourTango.com 

From The Mouth Of Babes: Kids Rap Ratchet Lyrics To Raise Awareness About Music They’re Exposed To

December 19th, 2013 - By Madame Noire
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From MommyNoire

As much as no parent wants their kid cursing, the truth is, a lot of us like ratchet music. And while (most) grown folks can separate the sexist, violent, drug-fueled fantasy from reality, it’s hard to tell just how much kids internalize the lyrics. Los Angeles- based company Amusement Park Entertainment TV says kids actually do internalize the messages–and we should be more upset than we are.

The production company, run by brothers Jarrel and Jimmy Smith, created “Kids”, a beautifully shot video of kids playing and then reciting lines from some of the year’s biggest rap songs. They even have one cute little girl rapping those lyrics that cost Rick Ross his Reebok sponsorship and a few girls just saying “twerk” over and over again.

In an email sent to Fastcocreate.com, the brothers said,

“We just wanted to hold up a mirror to the types of messages we pump into our heads all day. We hope this film pushes some of our favorite, super-talented artists to push themselves toward more honest and balanced art. Not cleaner or censored, but honest … if you have 12 songs about money, where are the songs about the things money does NOT fix? Nobody is perfect, but as creatives we can always be honest. Honesty–it’s what makes truly great art, great.”

Watch the video on Mommynoire.com.

Me-Time: How to Pamper Yourself As a Mom

December 17th, 2013 - By jade
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE 

In this episode of Mommy in Chief, Laila Ali reminds all of you busy moms that you need to take time out for yourself. She also invited some of her celebrity friends to share their secrets on how they make time for themselves.

Instagram handles are below:

Amber Noble Garland @ambernoblegarland

Holly Robinson Peete @hollyrpeete

Shanice @shaniceonline

Lail Ali @thereallailaali

 

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Mommy In Chief: Laila Ali’s Fly & Fit Workout Plan

December 13th, 2013 - By jade
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE 

In this episode of Mommy in Chief, Laila Ali demonstrates exercise tips to staying in shape when you’re a busy mom on the go.  Still trying to get rid of that baby bump? Don’t worry because she has something for you too!

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Learn How To Make Laila Ali’s Famous Oven Fried Chicken

December 10th, 2013 - By jade
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE 

The holidays are here and if you’re a busy mom it means your time is limited! In this episode of Mommy in Chief, we are showing you to make Laila Ali’s Famous Oven Fried Chicken.

The full recipe can be found here.

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15 Reasons Having A Baby “Out Of Wedlock” Isn’t The End Of The World

October 15th, 2013 - By Meg Butler
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Vanessa Simmons was worried about telling Rev Run about her unplanned surprise, but all he did when he heard the news was get excited.

With 14 million single parents in the US, the stigma surrounding solo parenthood is officially old school. Besides, their are some great things that come out of single-parent households. Read on to find out 15 reasons why being a single parent can be pretty great — or at least not the end of the world should you find yourself in this situation.

This Child is Bad! How I Learned To Deal With Other People’s Ill-Mannered Kids

October 2nd, 2013 - By Nicole Akoukou Thompson
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Babysitters, nannies, wet Nurses, teachers, educators and au pairs have made a career out of dealing with other people’s children. They understand the nuances of a child’s speech and expressions. They know when treats, verbal rewards and stickers should be given, as well as harsh tones, time-outs and verbal warnings. They know how to manage children, regulating a child’s time so that they achieve the optimum amount of fun, education and discipline. But for the rest of us who aren’t in that field, or even some of us who are, dealing with other people’s children is not a well-timed production– it’s a damn nightmare. Some of us struggle with wanting to curse a child out or lay hands on him/her, especially when that child is mouthy or even a little too touchy-feely themselves.

Some people have BAD kids, and they know this before they leave their children with you. They give you a brief, false perception about how their child will behave, perhaps saying that said child “gets a little energetic around lunchtime” and then hurry to leave. And as soon as the door shuts, the child comes alive like a Chucky incarnate, hell-bent on destroying the house and wrecking your nerves.

In my life I’ve had to deal with hundreds of children: nieces, nephews, cousins, neighbors, and children I’ve worked with at camps, after-school programs and during tutoring. With all that said, I can still honestly say that I don’t completely know how to deal with some kids. Not even mentioning the countless children I’ve met with undiagnosed ADHD, Asperger’s, Dyslexia, OCD and other challenges, I’ve dealt with children who are so unbelievably difficult that it took me a great deal of time to understand what their issue was, let alone how to solve it.  I once dealt with a child who would scream for an hour straight before I realized that he was an easily frustrated child who sometimes needed time away from others so he could write and process his feelings. I have also dealt with a child who would suddenly go limp and act helpless, for no apparent reason, doing this because he was seeking the attention that he wasn’t receiving at home.

Most children simply want people to listen to them, because they often feel that most adults only demand things and set rules in place. One good trick when dealing with some children is to give them options. If a child does not want to participate in an activity, simply give them a choice between doing said activity or sitting by themselves –or doing something less favorable. Also, try to have real conversations with them. Children respond well to being asked questions about their interests and opinions. And, it never hurts to find out things about what they are interested in so that you can talk those things over with them. You don’t know how many cool points I’ve received for knowing the names of all of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. Also, if you’re punishing or reprimanding a child, explain to them why, restating their name throughout, so that you know that they are listening. Remind them of any rules set in place, why it’s important that they follow rules and listen, and ask them why they broke the rules.

Often, I speak to children about respect and responsibility. I explain that respect is about listening, and that if I respect them, then they need to respect me. That means that I expect them to listen to me, and if they don’t, then I won’t listen to them when they’re in need; for some children, that’s enough. Responsibility is explained by telling children that they have control over things that they say and do, and they can be responsible by practicing self-control. Also, I tell them that they show responsibility by keeping up with their things, and making sure never to bother other people’s things that don’t belong to them. The spiel about respect and responsibility is repeated so much that some of the students I work with know it by heart, and others groan in anticipation of it.

Essentially, knowing how to deal with some children is as simple as treating them like an employee (who can’t be fired). Give them instructions, assignments and tasks, but try not to be too upset when they make mistakes. If they behave well then they should be rewarded, and if they behave poorly then they should be reprimanded. Allow the child an opportunity to be creative whenever possible, and praise them when they’ve done something well. I find that when it comes to dealing with other people’s kids, treating them like more than just a child, or a bad child at that, goes a long way.