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When I first heard a parent billing a child for missing her kid’s birthday party, I thought it was a joke. Are folks really that petty?
I guess so.
As a new parent, my husband and I both made the decision not to overdo it when it comes to our child’s birthday. Will a one-year-old remember the bouncy castle and elaborate setup you had in their honor? Granted this child was older, it proves my point that parents need to chill out when it comes to these kiddie birthday parties. Yes it is a special day to you, and yes people who RSVP should come–but does that mean you flip out and threaten small claims court if something comes up in their schedule?
Perhaps this parent shot herself in the foot. There wasn’t any contact information listed for the parents of the no-show child to use. Regardless, you shouldn’t expect a guest to compensate you for money spent on your child. What if they purchased a gift that in your eyes wasn’t worthy of the price you spent on their plate? Would you still send a bill?
I have been to numerous birthday festivities for small children that were sometimes way extravagant. One of my friends in particular began throwing huge parties for her child when she was a year old and found it difficult to top the following years. As her child grew older, she expected bigger and better things with each birthday that put more of a focus on who did what for her instead of what really matters. At one of her birthdays she rejected a gift because “it didn’t go with the theme!”
Some parents have no problem going the extra mile for their kid’s birthday and that’s totally fine. It’s your child and you have the right to do whatever you want. I personally enjoy more intimate gatherings during the early years that focus on family and close friends. This is not to say I don’t use my Pinterest skills and make a room look nice, but it’s on a budget. My husband and I put most of our money towards our son’s college savings plan.
We’ll do a little more with his parties when he gets older and can comprehend the idea of a birthday party. Hopefully we can teach him to have his cake and eat it too without setting crazy expectations about what should and shouldn’t be done. And if a parent has to cancel last minute–or even no-show–I can only hope they give us a heads up with the contact information we provide. Heck we had a couple family members not show up to our wedding (and it was nice!). Rather than try to recoup the money, we focused on our special day and the ones there to celebrate it with us.
Our little ones are watching us and pay close attention to the things we do and say. There’s nothing wrong with a large birthday party so long as you set your sights on what’s important.
These celebrities have lots of kids.
We all met DMX’s estranged son on his infamous episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life. But did you know that DMX has a total of eight kids? And if you ask some of DMX’s former lovers, the number is closer to 13…
In this episode of One Bold Move, we show a few series extras that didn’t make the final cut. Curly Nikki gives tips on maintaining natural hair for kids, YouTuber Missy Lynn gives advice for makeup newcomers, The Curvy Fashionista addresses plus-size fashion misconceptions, Mother/Daughter fitness duo Ellen and Lana Ector share their fitness inspiration and the co-founders of Black Girls Run! discuss whether you have to workout to stay in a relationship. What do you think? Let us know in the comments section below.
From Your Tango
By: Paula Mooney
When I was a silly little 22-year-old, freshly graduated from college in 1991, I eloped on the shores of Panama City Beach, Florida. High from too much weed, giggly all giddy-like while serious marital vows were being spoken over me, I didn’t think about the months and years to come – and how distance would affect my new marriage. With that marriage, I didn’t have to pursue the man who would become my ex-husband. He chose me. Thank the good Lord above and inside that union ended in divorce, as it should have ended.
Before long, I’d be remarried – but I wouldn’t say outright that I had to chase after that man to land him, either. In fact, I believe in just the opposite. Those Facebook viral photos of a woman on her knees proposing marriage to her boyfriend kind of make me cringe inside. I’ve always believed that a woman should wait for a man to show interest in her, but that doesn’t mean she shouldn’t let him know – in subtle yet obvious and ladylike ways – that she likes him.
Therefore, when the dating site Millionaire Match asked, “Is it a turn-off to men when a lady pursues them?” they received interesting answers on both sides.
This writer would land squarely on the side of yes – even though I’m not a man. However, as a female, I’ve learned that it helps to wait for a man to make the first move. If he’s shy, throwing on a nice dress and pretty make-up doesn’t hurt to get his attention, but as far as pressuring him for a date – that just seems desperate to me. Men know what they want and if they are really into us, they’ll find a way to make it happen.
Of course, us Christians like to point to the fact that the Bible says that “he who finds a wife finds a good thing,” a verse that insinuates that it’s the man who does the looking, not the female that’s on a major hunt for a husband. (Even if she is, she doesn’t need to look like a Needful Nelly all the time.)
Are acting dynasties the next big thing to take over Hollywood? You’ll never guess which of your favorite celebrities are chips right off of the A-list block.
Recognize that smile? Alex Martin is the daughter of comedienne and The View host Whoopi Goldberg. Where have you seen her before? In Sister Act 2: Back in the Habit, Strange as Angels and behind the scenes producing the groundbreaking short Sensitive Men.
Let me start this post off by saying that there will never be a “perfect time” for anything. No matter what you want to do, there will always be at least one wrinkle in the fabric of life that you can’t iron out. With that as well, I know that you’re not perfect, and life is all about trying to do better.
So, with that, if you’re contemplating having a child, self-reflection is a good thing to do. Now we all know the material things that we should have together before having a child (like a job, a place to stay and the such). I want to discuss mental and emotional well-being.
We all have our rough edges. Trying to make sure that they’re as smooth as possible before having kids is a good thing to do. So if you see these rough edges in your life, try to smooth them out before you throw a kid in the mix.
Everybody loves a cute kid and there’s no shortage of those on the Internet. Check out a roundup of our favorites!
“Oh That’s Vine!”
Like this little girl who is super excited to be on social media.
The 13-year-old brother of Julliani Plascencia, 8, was shocked to find him unconscious on the floor of his parents’ bedroom with a scarf wrapped around his neck, while the other end of the scarf was wrapped around the door knob. Just hours before the discovering Julliani, his brother says he came in and announced that he was going to hang himself. Not thinking much of his little brother’s words, the teen threatened that he would tell their mother Julliani was saying such things. Meanwhile, the boys’ mother, Shfawn, stepped out for a quick trip to the grocery store.
After some time had passed and the teen didn’t hear anything from his younger brother, he went looking for him and found him lying unconscious on the floor. He acted quickly, dialing 911 and calling their mother. When Shfawn arrived back home, she tried to give Julliani CPR, but unfortunately, her attempts were unsuccessful. The paramedics eventually arrived on the scene and were able to revive him as he was being transported to a Sacramento hospital. Unfortunately, Julliani fell into a coma after arriving to the hospital. He died hours later.
Julliani’s father, Ronnie, spoke to News 10 about the tragic incident, expressing that he did not believe that his son took his life on purpose.
“He must have been re-enacting something he saw on TV,” said Ronnie. “He probably knew it was dangerous but not the severity of trying it out.”
Family members remember Julliani as a child with a big heart who frequently gave money to the homeless out of his allowance.
“Let him be happy in heaven, because I know that’s where he went,” said the boy’s heartbroken mother. “His heart was too big for this world.”
We send our prayers to the Plascencia family.
For some couples, the decision to have children is something that was decided well before marriage. But for many couples, choosing whether or not to have children can be one of their most daunting issues. Because this decisions is irreversible, it’s one that can’t be taken lightly.
Sometimes the argument for parenthood is obvious: parenthood can be infinitely rewarding on many levels. There is no bond like that between a parent and child. Having children can also create a special bond between you and your partner as co-parents and may ultimately lead to the incomparable joy of having grandchildren later on.
At the same time, raising a child is an enormous task and its intensity cannot truly be imagined until experienced. Parenting means an incredible energetic, emotional, and financial commitment. Every aspect of life changes when parenting and this new life will account for much of your time. It may even define you!
Exploring the question of whether or not to have children can bring your deepest values, joys and fears to the surface. Start the conversation well before you plan to start your family to make sure you two are on the same page. Here are four of the most important considerations to talk through with your partner.
1. It can’t be about your friends.
The decision of whether or not to have a child needs to be made solely by you and your partner. Yet the pressure from others can cloud your thinking. Just because others around you are starting families doesn’t mean it’s the right time for you. Don’t let the desire to maintain your friendships by ensuring you are in similar lifestyles be a factor in making the best decision for you and your partner. Ask yourselves, “Why do we really want children?”
It’s also not your parents’ decision. Many couples feel pressured by their parents who want grandchildren. Your parents may want grandchildren and be disappointed if they don’t have them, but they’re not entitled to grandchildren. Conceiving out of guilt is not going to serve anyone in the long run. Ask yourselves, “Are we ready to make parenting our top priority? If so, what sacrifices are we specifically ready and willing to make?”
Read more about family planning at YourTango.com
As much as no parent wants their kid cursing, the truth is, a lot of us like ratchet music. And while (most) grown folks can separate the sexist, violent, drug-fueled fantasy from reality, it’s hard to tell just how much kids internalize the lyrics. Los Angeles- based company Amusement Park Entertainment TV says kids actually do internalize the messages–and we should be more upset than we are.
The production company, run by brothers Jarrel and Jimmy Smith, created “Kids”, a beautifully shot video of kids playing and then reciting lines from some of the year’s biggest rap songs. They even have one cute little girl rapping those lyrics that cost Rick Ross his Reebok sponsorship and a few girls just saying “twerk” over and over again.
In an email sent to Fastcocreate.com, the brothers said,
“We just wanted to hold up a mirror to the types of messages we pump into our heads all day. We hope this film pushes some of our favorite, super-talented artists to push themselves toward more honest and balanced art. Not cleaner or censored, but honest … if you have 12 songs about money, where are the songs about the things money does NOT fix? Nobody is perfect, but as creatives we can always be honest. Honesty–it’s what makes truly great art, great.”
Watch the video on Mommynoire.com.