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For Better Or For Worse: 10 Ride-Or-Die Celeb Women

October 30th, 2015 - By Desiree Bowie
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The ride-or-die chick has been name-dropped and applauded throughout the history of rap culture. This is the woman who will stick by her man until the very end, no matter how much she is mistreated. But is being a ride-or-die chick all it’s cracked up to be? We’re not so sure. Let’s take a look at 10 women who are known for standing by their man through hell and high water.

Khloe Kardashian: The Epitome Of A Ride-Or-Die Chick

October 26th, 2015 - By Charing Ball
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I wish Lamar Odom a speedy recovery. Sincerely.

Still, I have questions. I specifically have a question about love. Or, should I say, how we choose to love.

I have loved some dudes. Some of it was healthy love. Most of it was not. I have loved some dudes who treated me badly. I have loved some dudes who lied and cheated. I have loved some dudes who did not respect me in the least.

But even I, in my most unhealthy of love moments, do not think I could run back and stick by the side of a man who was found unconscious from drugs inside of a brothel.

Don’t get me wrong: I am not heartless. I would definitely see him in the hospital. I would also send him flowers, cookies and pray for him. Heck,  I might even help with medical decisions and contribute a few dollars to the cause.

But the divorce, which had been over two years in the making, would go on as scheduled.

And it has nothing to do with whether or not I love him anymore. But as some of us who have labored too long in unhealthy relationships already know, you need to consider your own well-being, and more importantly, your own happiness.

So, this is me hypothetically trying to get out of that situation. And I am trying to go to therapy to figure out my co-dependency issues and what was I hoping to gain for myself by attempting to fix an already troubled man. I am also trying to set and live by the boundaries I created.

I am sure that is what I would do. I am almost certain of it. Well…it is what I envisioned I would do at least.

It’s hard to know for sure, especially when society itself seems to hold special reverence for being a ride-or-die chick. Or should I say some ride-or-die chicks. Some ride-or-die chicks are just dismissed as stupid. And others get to be Khloe Kardashian.

And let’s not get it twisted: For all her wealth, fame and, ahem, prestige, Khloe Kardashian is the epitome of a ride-or-die chick.

Let’s think about this for a minute.

Odom’s recent overdose is just the latest in a long line of troubles, including numerous reports of partying with strippers, infidelity, drug binges and failed rehab attempts. The situation had gotten so bad that Kardashian decided to pull the plug on a reality television show that had been centered around their marriage. She said she did it so that she could “support” her husband as he worked on getting his basketball career back on track.

During the couple’s hiatus from television, they would break up and make up several times throughout the course of their relationship. Although all signs pointed to a divorce, Kardashian told People magazine back in 2012: “I’m a modern girl, but you should put your husband first,” she says. “I like to think divorce is not an option.”

But shortly after a video surfaced, which showed the former Dallas Maverick rapping about using drugs and having several mistresses, Kardashian decided to file for divorce.

As far as the world was concerned, Kardashian had finally sobered up. And it certainly appeared like she had moved on. Not only had she lost weight, changed her hair color and added some extra “accessories,” but she had been linked to a number of eligible bachelors, including French Montana and James Harden.

That was until a couple of weeks ago, when once again, her “husband” found himself in trouble. The same kind of trouble that he had been getting into repeatedly during their marriage. Instead of taking his latest relapse as a sign that she had made the right decision by getting out of that hole and moving on with her life, Kardashian decided to dig deeper. She not only rushed to join him by his bedside, but she also decided to, once again, work on her marriage.

Let’s say this together: Ride or die.

Perhaps it is true that love conquers all and that sometimes we have to weather the storm. That is what we learn about relationships from the fairy tales, romance novels, and our religious teachings. But the reality is that most women (and men) usually don’t always fare too well in these type of ride-or-die circumstances. In many instances, a woman can easily find themselves broke, heartbroken, mentally ill, disease-infested, in jail or even dead.

A great read on the consequences of being a ride-or-die chick is the essay entitled “What Happened to Kiesha?” which first ran on the website Ride or Die Project, a site dedicated to demystifying the trials and tribulations of women who stay in toxic relationships.

As the title suggests, in the essay, writer Amanda Parris breaks down the tragic life of the Kiesha character from the 1998 Hip-Hop film Belly. Although she is a fictional character, Kiesha has become sort of a symbol of not only steadfast loyalty, but also a type of beauty, which was missing from the “light-made-basically-white, surgically enhanced, highly photo-shopped images of beauty paraded with little disruption in today’s Hip Hop scene.”

But as Parris notes, this admiration we have for Kiesha never really translates into actual concern for her well-being. In spite of all of her beauty and faithfulness, Kiesha spends a good portion of the film monitoring the whereabouts of her philandering and ephebophile boyfriend, Tommy. She also physically fights and is brutalized by a home intruder who is after her boyfriend. And finally, she defends herself against the FBI after Tommy locks her up in jail for refusing to snitch on her boyfriend who has now flown the coup.

As Parris notes about this twisted admiration we have for Kiesha:

Absent are the images of her fighting for her life, in the moment left to pay for the decisions made by her lover. What happened to Keisha? What happens to a woman who is repeatedly betrayed, abandoned, incarcerated and assaulted? What happens to a woman who puts her lover at the center of her world when that lover leaves? What happens to a woman who does not have homegirls or support systems that can build her up when the world tries to break her down? What happens to a woman who loves someone that is targeted by the state and in turn becomes the state’s target? What happens to a woman who has learned how to fight for someone else but has no one to fight for her?

You can almost say the same thing about Kardashian.

The most interesting aspect of her toxic relationship to Odom is how well-received it has been by the mainstream. Unlike the lottery winner who was vilified and dragged throughout social media for spending her money bailing her drug-dealing boyfriend out of prison, Kardashian is painted almost angelically for going back and helping Odom on his road to recovery. Of course, some have speculated that her sudden benevolence is all for the sake of money and possibly ratings.

While that might be true, nowhere in any of this criticism is there any concern about the actual prudence of being devoted to a man who is troubled, and as a result of his troubles, does her harm.

And this is not to say that I think we should go around belittling women who opt to ride hard for their relationships. And while I truly believe Kardashian is setting herself up for a world of hurt, the truth is she is much more protected (emotionally, financially and spiritually) than the average Kiesha would be in similar circumstances. But I do think the Kardashian’s public relations machine and the media are both masking some pretty regressive values and ideas around this idea that love conquers all.

And I also feel like we should be conscious of the narrative that continue to tell women that the only way to be a good woman in a relationship, as well as in life, is to be a dedicated dumping ground for a man’s wayward seeds, sins and lack of self-esteem.

After all, what could she have seen in Odom in this latest incident, which led her to believe him to be a better man? And no, almost dying doesn’t count.

I wish both Odom and Kardashian well. But I do believe that his demons are deeper than his drug addiction. And truthfully, so are hers.

Khloe And Lamar Call Off Their Divorce

October 21st, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom have apparently determined that their marriage is worth saving because they’ve called off their divorce.

According to TMZ, Kardashian’s attorney, Laura Wasser, appeared in court Wednesday and asked the judge to withdraw their signed divorce papers. The papers were just sitting in a pile waiting to be reviewed and processed. Lamar and Khloe reportedly signed the withdrawal request from his hospital room.

Wasser’s request was granted, and now the divorce is off. As previously reported, Kardashian filed to end her marriage in December of 2013.

According to reports, the reality star has been by Odom’s side since he was hospitalized after being found unresponsive last week.

While most folks probably aren’t here for this reunion, deep down inside, I’m hoping that these two will be able to do what it takes to make their marriage work.

I Know Lamar’s Story: Family, Mental Illness And Lamar Odom’s Downfall

October 14th, 2015 - By Clarissa Joan
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I personally know what it is like to stand over the comatose or deceased body of a loved one that has experienced tremendous pain and suffering over the course of their lifetime. I buried my mother over two years ago at the age 44, and my grandmother six years ago at the age of 55. Both of these individuals died young from cardiac arrest. They also had similar addiction issues in addition to experiencing poverty, trauma, and mental illness in America.

When I awoke this morning to the news about Lamar Odom, I was deeply impacted by his condition and utterly disgusted by the media coverage.

Piers Morgan, TMZ, and others, shaming and blaming the Kardashian family for this tragedy is not only immoral, but ignorant, especially in the wake of Mental Health Awareness Month and an America that is on the edge of a mental illness epidemic, if we are not already there.

Per Nami, The National Alliance on Mental Illness, nearly 44 million American adults experience mental illness in a given year, and 8.4 million adults have co-occurring mental illness and addiction disorders. Sixty percent of these adults go without treatment, and African Americans and Latinos use treatment services at half the rate of white Americans. These serious mental illness issues cost the United States about $193 billion per year.

Piers Morgan was right to highlight the tragedies faced by Lamar Odom over the course of his lifetime: “It’s not been an easy life for Lamar. His mother died when he was 12, his father was a heroin addict, and he lost a six-month-old child to sudden death syndrome. But many others have survived similarly catastrophic blows and emerged stronger and better from the emotional wreckage. Though they did not marry a Kardashian.”

Where his analysis takes a wrong turn is in his assumption that Lamar Odom, a Black man from South Jamaica, New York, and a superstar basketball player, knows how to handle grief management. Lamar’s addiction history alone signals otherwise.

The statistics show that African Americans are less likely to seek counseling services in time of need. For example, my mother suffered from schizophrenia and bi-polar disorder her entire life. However, it was not until her own copping mechanisms, the use of narcotics, were unmanageable that she sought psychiatric care. Like Lamar Odom, my mother experienced unaddressed traumatic events during her childhood: parental neglect, alcoholism in the home, sexual abuse and mental instability.

When I was born, I thought that my mother chose to be a drug addict. No one in my family discussed the underlying issues. This created an unclear narrative about the causes of addiction and dysfunction within our family.

I can imagine that Lamar Odom losing his mother at the age of 12, not having another responsible parent to help him cope, and immersing himself into basketball to deal with it all created a foundation of emotional instability.  They say money and fame only enhance your issues, and the tragic death of his infant child possibly triggered it all.

Enter Khloe Kardashian…

It amazes me how people call the Kardashians fake. Every time I turn on the show, I see someone crying and complaining. I love this because I was raised in a household where I was told not to cry. All my life, trauma and addiction, and people pretending they did not exist overwhelmed me.

I finally decided I had enough after my younger brother was shot and comatose for two months. First, I spiraled out of control with alcohol, sex, and work addiction. When that did not help, I went to church and eventually grief counseling.  My family’s drama and my own process of healing inspired my inspirational platform, The Clarissa Joan Experience. I am pleased to say I live a very healthy, happy, and emotional life, but this was not an easy process.

When Piers Morgan says lightly, “many others have survived similarly catastrophic blows and emerged stronger and better from the emotional wreckage,” it pisses me off! I worked really hard to develop a stable emotional life. Trauma and grief management are not easy feats. I think it’s time for us to wake-up to the seriousness of unhappiness and pain in America, or else we will continue to lose loved ones and great talents before their time.

Lamar Odom’s downfall didn’t have to happen. I pray for his recovery. Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston, your deceased family members and mine, they did not have to die.

Maybe we should all cry and complain a little more like the Kardashians, crying for help just might be the key to saving lives.

Clarissa Joan is a spiritual life coach and editor-in-chief of The Clarissa Joan Experience. She resides in Philadelphia, Pa with her Husband, their two girls, and a yorkie named Ace. Clarissa is also an expert in impact investing. She is the Communications Associate at Impact America Fund.

Is It Really Fair To Blame The Kardashians For What’s Happened To Lamar Odom?

October 14th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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With one hand, I can count the number of episodes of Keeping Up With The Kardashians and any other spinoff show it has produced that I’ve seen.

While the family is a colorful bunch, I’ve never been a fan. Not for some of the more mean-spirited reasons others bring up, but because they don’t really do anything. And I can’t support that. But according to my friends who tune into the exploits of the K clan, the relationship of Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom was always a genuine and admirable one. And from what I could read in the news, it was a supportive one as well. When he felt overwhelmed by the reality TV spotlight, Khloe had no problem standing by him. They ditched their spinoff, Khloe and Lamar, and moved to Dallas to help Odom reboot his career. But when that stint fell apart, and he found himself bouncing from one NBA team to a Spanish league team and back, not only did Odom’s career take a hit but so did his life. His marriage. His sobriety. It was all bad from there, and he’s never been the same.

But is it fair to blame the Kardashians for that?

Odom was found unresponsive in a brothel in Crystal, Nevada yesterday. Ever since the news came out about it, folks have either been blaming the Kardashian family for his struggles, or focusing on what they’re doing as opposed to Odom’s condition. Need an example? Here’s one: “Kim Kardashian and Kris Jenner ‘Dropped Everything to Comfort Devastated Khloe’ at Hospital with Lamar.”

He may as well have been an afterthought in that whole story.

Commenters on social media have said the Kardashians are the reason for his struggles. And in a piece for the Daily Mail titled, “Lamar Odom’s tragedy is that he just couldn’t keep up with the Kardashians,” Piers Morgan had this to say:

When Lamar Odom met Khloe Kardashian in 2009, he was an outstandingly good basketball player. I know, because I used to watch him at the LA Lakers performing wondrous feats with his great friend Kobe Bryant, helping them win back-to-back NBA championships in 2009 and 2010. He was focused, intense, combative and brilliant. The consummate professional.

Then he fell in love with a Kardashian and his life became public property.

Morgan went on to say that “those sucked into their crazy world need to be very, very careful it doesn’t also suck them down in the process.”

And there are aspects of Morgan’s argument that I can jibe with. Anyone can see that once he got mixed in with that family, his life went into a tailspin. But to me, that’s because he signed up for something that he wasn’t ready for, and that’s not to be a part of the Kardashian family, but to take on the attention that comes with being attached to them. He was concerned with that at a time when he should have focused on basketball. His two kids. Still, as a grown man, that’s the decision that he made. The same decision Scott Disick, an alcoholic, made. The same decision Kanye West, a narcissist who hasn’t been the same since losing someone who rooted more for him than even he could root for himself, made. The same decision a former Bruce Jenner, now a free Caitlyn, made a long time ago. And what do they all have in common? They’re broken individuals all dealing with past pain, loss, and dysfunction. And for a family filled with that, it only makes sense that they would all be attracted to the Kardashian women.

But not every person who tangles with that family is brought down by them. Think about it. Reggie Bush made it out okay. He jumped out of the tub before the water got too cold, and the attention surrounding his relationship became too much. And while he clearly still has a physical attraction to women who look like Kim Kardashian, he’s managed to get married, have two children, and continue to thrive in the NFL.

Kris Humphries, though embarrassed as all hell by a 72-day marriage, is doing just fine as well. He’s still the butt of some jokes for his time with Kim, but he’s back to being focused on his career, playing for the successful Washington Wizards, making $4 million a year.

Hell, even French Montana knew when to get out of dodge. He wanted that notoriety. He did, for a time, try to keep up with the Kardashians. Buying Khloe Jeeps when she already had Benz trucks and Bentley coupes. Eventually, he realized he couldn’t hang, and now he’s rumored to be getting cozy with Sanaa Lathan. I would say he’s doing damn good considering how gorgeous Lathan is.

But Odom couldn’t make it out okay because he’s been struggling with demons. Beasts that were within him years before he even encountered Khloe.

His family has a history of drug addiction, as his father was MIA due to a dependence on heroin. His mother died when he was but a young kid after a fight with colon cancer. He lost his 6-month-old son in 2006 from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDs). His 24-year-old cousin was murdered in 2012, and Odom rode passenger in a car that hit a motorcyclist who ended up dying that same year. And let’s not forget that two of his good friends died a few months back from drug overdoses. All of these, he’s admitted, have affected him.

He’s lost a lot. He’s dealt with a lot. He overcame a lot. But at the end of the day, he didn’t move past the pain. So as a hurt man, it was inevitable that such struggled paired with public scrutiny, not only of his private life but also of his career as a basketball player, would break him down.

What I’m trying to say is that it’s never been about Khloe or the Kardashians. And it’s damn sure not about them and doesn’t need to be about them now that he’s fighting for his life. This is and has always been about Lamar Odom.

He’s a fragile person, who like many individuals who’ve grown up in hard circumstances, tried to put on a good face and grab life by the horns. But life can be incredibly cruel.

That’s why he turned to drugs. That’s why he turned to prostitutes in a brothel. That’s why he turned in general. Lamar Odom is where he is now because life dealt him a bad hand. A hand that left him languishing in Dallas after the team and other family he thought he could count on, the Lakers, traded him unexpectedly (and floundered without him). A hand that left him defiant when the wife he forgot about while he was making videos confessing to extramarital affairs while drunk decided she wanted him to sign divorce papers. A hand that left him with a father who jumped in and out of his life and spent more time talking crazy to the media than he did being a force of love and empowerment in Lamar’s life.

This is about Lamar Odom. The choices he made, and the circumstances he’s had to try and come out from under. And I don’t say all this to defend the Kardashians. Forget them. I say all this because, again, folks are focused on the wrong things. I say all this because I feel that less time should be spent spewing negativity at that family while making this man’s highest and lowest (and every) moments about them. Instead, save your breath and use it to pray for a man and the children he has who are really in dire straits right now. That’s the family we all need to be worried about.


All The Black Men Who Helped Build The Kardashian Empire

July 17th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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black men who built kardashian empire featIn the words of Erykah Badu, “See, I been having this on my mind for a long time” and I was just waiting for the right time to lay all of this information down on y’all. This week, there’s been a lot of discussion about cultural appropriation. Specifically with the comment Amandla Stenberg made to Kylie Jenner on Instagram.

While Amandla never mentioned hair specifically, that’s what the discussion morphed into. Originally though, Stenberg’s comments were about appropriating Black culture and Black features.

You all aren’t blind, you can clearly see the ways in which the Kardashian sisters have transformed themselves to resemble Black women: Kylie’s lips, Kim’s butt, Khloe’s butt.

It’s not that these women are racist for wanting to look this way; but the fact that they are profiting immensely off a look many Black women are born with and have been ridiculed for, is frustrating, to say the absolute least. And while we might argue about whether or not the Kardashians should speak out about racial issues, (particularly when Kim has a Black daughter), I don’t think there’s anything wrong about them being made aware of the way their actions are perceived and affect others who belong to the community they are trying to emulate.

I don’t know if the Kardashian family sat down and had a meeting about all the ways in which they were going to attach themselves to Black people, particularly men, to come up. But that’s exactly what they’ve done. If you need some proof, here are a few examples.

As a disclaimer, I’m not bashing the Kardashians for dating and probably possibly even sleeping with most of the men on this list. What I am saying is that it is crystal clear that they used the backs of these Black men as rungs on the social ladder. 

Here She Goes Again: Khloe Kardashian Says Jamie Foxx Made Transphobic Joke About Bruce Jenner Because He Needs “A Little Press”

April 3rd, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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You already know that when it comes to her family, Khloe Kardashian does NOT play.

We told you at the beginning of the week that Jamie Foxx was heavily criticized for jokes he made about Bruce Jenner, who we all know is officially going through gender transition.

While hosting the iHeartRadio Awards on Sunday, Foxx said, “We got some groundbreaking performances here, too, tonight. We got Bruce Jenner, who will be here doing some musical performances. He’s doing a his-and-her duet all by himself.”

Foxx continued, saying, “Look, I’m just busting your balls…while I still can.”

Foxx’s name ended up trending on Twitter right after he did the joke and many said that it wasn’t funny, but rather, disrespectful.

No one felt that way more than Jenner’s family, including Khloe Kardashian.

During an interview with The Insider, Kardashian was asked her thoughts on Foxx’s joke, and she said that based on the fact that the Kardashian family knows the comedian, it wasn’t cool.

“I just think it’s a low blow. I think it’s very mean, but you know, I wish him all the best. It is what it is.”

She continued, saying, “I just think — and I know Jamie, so I think that’s also why that’s a really low blow, but hey, guess that’s what he felt the need to do for a little press.”

Considering that this statement is coming from someone in the Kardashian family, such a comeback is quite laughable…

But this isn’t the first time that Kardashian has tried it in an attempt to defend her family members. In February, she went at it with Amber Rose after Rose gave her two cents on 17-year-old Kylie Jenner’s decision to openly date the 25-year-old rapper, Tyga.

As for this particular controversy, Kardashian wasn’t the only family member who spoke out about Foxx’s jokes. Bruce Jenner’s son, Burt Jenner, even tried to call Foxx a Kevin Hart clone. He told TMZ, “I think he is just copying Kevin Hart because Kevin Hart is taking all his movie opportunities.” He continued, “He’s copying him — man’s on a roll and Jamie Foxx is on the way down.”

Ouch, much?


Amber Rose Organizes A Slut Walk In Response To The Kanyes And Khloes Of The World

March 17th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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Amber Rose is tired of being shamed and dogged for her assumed behaviors while men are congratulated for them and women with lighter skin and faker bodies are rewarded. So she’s arranging a Slut Walk in Los Angeles. And she sat down with “Entertainment Tonight’s” Brooke Anderson to talk about just a few of the recent actions that caused her to put this whole thing together, like the Twitter back and forth with Khloe Kardashian and Kanye West’s recent comments about having to take 30 showers after the two broke up.

Check out a few highlights from the interview and then the whole thing in the video below.

Why she’s having a slut walk?

It’s important for me because I deal with it everyday. I deal with it via social media, people out on the street. They don’t quite understand why I post what I post and how I speak on social media. I just recently dealt with that with my ex saying that he had to take 30 showers after he’s been with me.

We were happy when we were together and now all of a sudden I’m getting slut shamed because we’re not together anymore and it’s unfair. And I feel like women deal with that constantly on a daily basis and I’m sick of it. And I’m here for my girls and we’re going to do the Amber Rose Slut Walk this summer and it’s going to be awesome. I’m going to do it in LA this year and then hopefully, New York, Chicago, Miami like branch off.

How are she and Khloe these days?

She can come to my slut walk too. I mean, I don’t hate Khloe. I don’t hate her.

This is the thing because I was a dancer at a very young age– yes, I could have totally minded my business when it came to her younger sister and her relationship; but me being a dancer at such a young age, dealing with older men gave me the humility and knowledge to speak on such a subject. So I can understand why it came across the wrong way to her. I get it. But that’s a phone call she could have had with me.

She didn’t have to tweet 11 times and try to humiliate me when the only reason why these girls have careers is because their older sister had a little fun on tape. Let’s be realistic. Which I never ever hated on that. I’m all over a woman making something out of nothing. If you can do something and bring your whole family on, make millions of dollars? That’s dope to me. I love that. But I feel like because Kim is dating my ex is kind of weird. But I would love for them to reach out. I don’t have a problem with those girls.

Check out the full video below.

Muva Knows Best: 10 Things We Could All Learn From Amber Rose

February 25th, 2015 - By Alexandra Olivier
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Amber Rose has been on “Ether” mode as of late. After inviting Khloe Kardashian and her entire family to have several seats on Twitter, Muva also proved her tact and class by choosing not to air out Kanye West’s dirty laundry after he jumped in the mix.

Amber Rose did begin stripping at the age of 15. Amber Rose does post plenty of thirst trap pics on Instagram – string monokini anyone? Amber Rose is a mother and no, that will not stop her from posting instructional twerk videos.

Muva Rose is certainly no one to play with. While her truths and way of living may turn off the prudes in us all, there is much to learn from her, including these 10 lessons.

Amber Rose, Kylie Jenner And The Intersection Of Class And Slut-Shaming

February 17th, 2015 - By Charing Ball
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The most ignorant word in the English language might have to be “classy.”

We often use it as an adjective to describe refinement and respectability. However, I wrote before about the term also being used to justify and even mask some pretty despicable behavior from folks. This time around, it’s being used to encourage slut-shaming.

We all know how slut-shaming works: Basically, a woman can be an ax-murdering, tax-cheating, baby-kicking, don’t-know-how-to-fry-a-piece-of-chicken-worth-a-damn bogey(wo)man, but she better not have had sexual relations with multiple men outside of a good religious-based marriage (with a man), or else, she’s a slut. And there is nothing worse for a woman to be in the world than a slut, right?

Hell, you don’t even have to be promiscuous to be considered a “slut.” Sometimes a shortened hemline can get you that label. Sometimes it is how you talk or even where you were born, which could result in you wearing the scarlet letter. You can just be an attractive woman in a space where men are scarce and be hit with the “slut” label. I was actually called a “dumb slut” one time for cutting a guy off in traffic. Try to make sense of that one…

But while it is true that every woman in society has to maneuver around the landmines that can get them labelled as sluts, it is also true that “class” is often used as a shield to protect some while also being used as a tool to oppress others: like women of more marginalized identities.

I see much of that at the center of the Amber Rose and Khloe Kardashian Twitter/Instagram beef. Rose, who used to date Kanye West, who is now married to Kim Kardashian, called herself standing up for her new BFF, Blac Chyna, who has a child with rapper Tyga. In case you missed it, Tyga is allegedly getting a little too close with 17-year-old Kylie Jenner, the younger sister of Kim Kardashian, who was Chyna’s good friend at one time.

In an interview with The Breakfast Club, Rose says this:

Amber Rose: “She’s a baby, she needs to go to bed at 7 o’clock and relax. Nah, I’m over that. That’s ridiculous. He should be ashamed of himself. That’s how I feel, for sure.”

Angela Yee: “What happens if you run into them in LA?”

Rose: “I ain’t speaking to them. At all. That’s ridiculous He has a beautiful woman and a baby and left that for a 16-year-old that just turned 17. Like, hah. But guess what, that’s up to her and her mother.”

I get Rose’s point here. This is a grown man who broke up with the mother of his child only to turn around and pal around with an individual who hasn’t even come into adulthood yet. There is something predatory in all of it that bothers me. If I were Kris Jenner, no way would I want Tyga, who clearly has issues he needs to sort out internally, to be around my impressionable child. And if these were non-celebrities with non-celebrity identities, I think a whole lot of other folks would likely feel the same way about this situation too.

However, Rose’s last thought about it all being “up to her and her mother” is what she probably should have stuck with when asked to comment about their relationship. After all, none of this is any of her business. You don’t see Blac Chyna saying anything and sticking up for herself. Matter of fact, when the beef started, it was Chyna who sent out an Instagram message about how “unbothered” she was with the whole dust-up (some best friend she is…). So why is Rose being so messy?

Me thinks there is tinge of jealousy and envy simmering beneath the tweets. As noted in an article from Complex, in the same interview, Rose made some equally side-eye worthy remarks about another Kardashian sister. In particular, she tells the Breakfast Club:

“When Kim first came out, I was like, ‘Who the f**k is this Puerto Rican girl with Paris Hilton?! This b***h is beautiful!’ Yeah, I thought she was Puerto Rican, I’m from the East Coast. So, that’s initially what I thought of Kim. I was just like, ‘Wow, this girl’s amazing.’” So, what changed? “But it’s just sh*t that I see her do, like she posted a selfie, and she had like one of her boobs out of the bra or whatever. It’s just fake to me,” Rose said. “If I wanna have my titties out, on a beach, that’s exactly what I’m gonna do. “I’m not gonna have my titties out and be like, [impersonating Kardashian] ‘Oh my god! I can’t believe like, uh, they caught me with my boobs out!”

Well that might be because the masses don’t react the same way to a bare-breasted Rose as they do to a naked Kim K. And that is no shade. Both are beautiful women with exceptionally crafted bodies, but as Awesomely Luvvie once wrote, The Kim Kardashian Model doesn’t work for black women.

In other words, while a topless and bottomless sex tape made by the daughter of a late high-powered attorney is viewed as shocking, cheeky and even artful, a nude Rose is not. Why? Because it’s not viewed anywhere out of the normal realm of what we kind of expected from a biracial former exotic dancer from the low-income part of South Philly. Therefore, no one is going to care too much if Rose is on the beach topless, because in the minds of the masses, she never embodied the ideals of what we deem as “classy” anyway – even if the “class” we are talking about here is who has access to selling “respectable” yet s*xy images.

And that has to rightfully bother Rose, who makes her living off of her image, especially her body. Truth be told, she should have been the one who #BrokeTheInternet with that viral and history-making editorial styled by Jean-Paul Goude. Hell, she has the better and more natural form, with the legitimate genetic roots. But that pesky white woman privilege got in the way of all of that. So once again, it is Kim K’s sexuality that gets endorsed and institutionalized by the system, while the blogs are debating if the pictures of Rose standing on a balcony overlooking a beach in a string bikini makes her looks like a classless slut, or worse, a classless slut and bad mom.

According to the Huffington Post, a study published last year in Social Psychology Quarterly has revealed “that when a particular group of women call each other ‘sluts,’ it has little to do with perceived or actual promiscuity, and everything to do with social class.” I can definitely see that. And I’m sure that’s what Kylie’s big sister Khloe meant to highlight when she decided to fire back at Rose in a series of tweets for meddling in family business. In particular, she writes in two tweets:

“’I was a stripper since I was 15 years old,’ Amber Rose told Foxx. Please don’t worry about my sister who has a career & her sh*t together at ONLY 17…people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. (2) Please stop talking about us in interviews mama. None of us talk about you.”

To which Rose would respond:

“I’ll be that lil whore to support my family like ur older sister is a whore 2 support hers. We’re even”

Well, those are just fighting words. And that’s what happened for the rest of the afternoon. The two “celebs” traded jabs, memes and old leaked pictures about who was the sluttiest of them all. A winner in the slut wars has yet to be declared, but it was clear that Rose definitely was in her feelings.

And who could blame her? If Rose was stripping since 15 years of age, then she didn’t have the privilege of protection, which Kylie has in her life. And I’m guessing the same can be said for Rose’s BFF, Blac Chyna, who started her dancing career supposedly at 18 years old. There was no silver spoon in place to pay off media, clean up images and pad her fall in the event that Tyga tried to screw her over and leave her as a single mother. Everything for those two has been a grind upwards. And while Kylie’s decisions are respected by the public at large as an exercise in being sexually liberated, unfortunately, we haven’t really come around to seeing either Rose or Chyna, who are adults now, as anything more than glorified sluts.