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No sooner than Keyshia Cole boldly proclaimed that she is officially done with husband Daniel Gibson, he took to Instagram with what appears to be another gesture to let the world know he doesn’t want to let go. The former Cleveland Cavaliers player shared a series of nine Instagram posts, which together form one whole picture of his estranged wife.
While he didn’t caption any of the posts, we get the message loud and clear. What’s confusing, however, is that Daniel had finally been granted the opportunity to work things out with Keyshia and he continued to pursue other women. As you may recall, several days after the couple made a public appearance together and made it quite obvious that they were trying to work things out, Keyshia blasted the aspiring rapper for trying to get with the model cast as the love interest in his new music video. From there, things spiraled out of control and the singer accused him of being a deadbeat father who failed to contact their son on his birthday.
While we would love for these two to make this work, it’s becoming painfully obvious that this may not be the best option.
In an interview with Harvey Levin and Charles Latibeaudiere of TMZ Live, Keyshia Cole spoke about the messy public spats she has been having as of late with her estranged husband, Daniel “Booby” Gibson. It was an interesting interview, as Cole spoke openly on why things between the two had fallen apart, and fallen apart in the public eye yet again. It seems that Cole finds social media therapeutic, because when she was asked if she regretted airing him out on online numerous times, she responded with “yeah, so no, I don’t. Uh uh.” She wants everyone to know that at this point, their focus is on their child and nothing more. It’s a wrap.
At the beginning of the chat, Cole was asked why she was angry about Gibson’s attempts to get to know other women, considering that they were separated and working on their “friendship.” She had this to say:
“Be clear that the friendship stage is within the marriage. I wouldn’t get back with you just to be a ‘friend.’ We’re married. Clearly. Every time we go through things that’s an issue: ‘You’re still a married woman.’ ‘You’re still a married man.’ So if we connect and say that we’re going to start off as friends…I’m trying to figure out how it didn’t work out in the beginning. We’re always supposed to be friends. Let me ask you guys this though: Do you really believe that you should still be able to talk to other people if you’re starting over in a marriage? Do you think that’s healthy??”
Cole went on to say that it was okay for Gibson to date other women after they initially split, but when he made it seem as though he wanted to get back together, he should have known better than to try to flirt and court other people while trying to win her back.
“There were things that he dealt with before that I was like, you shouldn’t just cut people off. It’s unfair to people. Unfortunately, what we went through, you should speak to them young ladies or whoever they are about whatever we’re doing. Be honest with people. But it’s not right if you’re trying to be like, ‘Oh yeah, let’s go. I need to be with you.’ I don’t think that’s healthy. But I don’t know. Maybe I could be living in a crazy world.”
When asked whether or not there was a chance they could still work things out, Cole made it clear that she’s put herself through enough pain and that they’re “100 percent” done.
“No, we’re not going to work it out.”
So instead of worrying about reuniting, Cole says their main focus needs to be on their son, Daniel, Jr.
“I spoke to Gib last night and he came by to see munchkin. That should be our focus. We should realize that the relationship is not going to work and it’s just not for us. We can move on from there. We have to get over this hump of not being together first. I think there will still be feelings and tension, but ultimately, the goal is to just focus on DJ and move on.”
My heart goes out to women like Karrueche Tran and Keyshia Cole. They’re in the public eye, and they had to suffer through the devastation of learning that their men stepped out on them with other women. Being in the public eye puts them in a position to be heavily criticized if they make the decision, for themselves, to take Chris and “Booby” back. I couldn’t deal with that.
I was cheated on by my fiance many moons ago, and deciding to take him back wasn’t an easy decision to come to. It took a lot of time and a lot of healing. Taking a man back after he’s cheated requires a different level of strength. You have to be an extraordinarily strong woman to continue to love and live with a person after they’ve betrayed your trust in such a way.
So how does one deal after finding out that their man has been emotionally or sexually connecting with someone else? Though every individual has their own way of dealing with a cheating spouse, here’s what I did and what you can try if you’re considering taking him back.
Do Not Blame Yourself
For a lot of women, including myself, the natural reaction to learning that your man ran to someone else is to question your own worthiness and actions. You ask yourself, “what did I do that pushed him out the door and into the arms of another woman?” And when the comparisons between yourself and the other woman begin to cloud your mind, you ask yourself, “what didn’t I do?”
I would hope that Cole and Tran have a solid grip on the reality that when a man cheats, it rarely has much to do with you. They made that decision for themselves, and people who bend over backwards for their man can still be cheated on.
However, if you have the sudden urge for self-improvement based upon your experience, go for it! These kinds of things have an interesting way of fueling a woman to strive for better. However, be careful not to confuse bettering yourself with stopping your man’s infidelity. As far as his character goes, he has some obvious issues to unpack and that is not your fault, girl.
Give Yourself Some Time
When I took my fiance back, my best friend said to me, “You let him back already?! Girl you should have at least made him suffer for a few more months.” She was right. There should be a literal “cooling off” period. The last thing we care about after our man has stepped out on us is his feelings, but it’s unfair to him and unhealthy for you to allow him back into your life soon after learning that he’s been creeping. Give yourself time to collect your thoughts and yourself, because living together with built-up anger and distrust is like trying to build a home on top of a minefield.
When you have unresolved emotions lingering and a man who’s trying to go back to normal as quickly as he can, the healing process for both of you will be delayed. You don’t have to put an exact date and time on when you’ll take him back, but there needs to be some time for you to just sort through YOUR emotions before you decide to face him and all the mess you’ll both have to untangle. If you can, pretend you’re Usher and let it burn for a little while. It will do you both some good in the long run.
If You Decide To Forgive, You Probably Should Forget
A lot of us can forgive our men for cheating, but many of us don’t believe in letting him forget what he did. For him, being reminded of his mistake won’t be anything more than annoying, but for you, it can be like reliving that first day of heartbreak all over again.
If you’ve accepted him back, you’ve decided that you want to make it work, so bringing up the past or harping on it in your mind is a no-no. It’s easier to simply stick to solutions when talking about what happened, but be mindful that you can’t live in the past when you’re trying to create a future with someone.
In order to live in peace after you’ve forgiven him, you will have to set your attention on rebuilding the trust, not on thinking about the act of infidelity. Learning to trust again is painful, but that pain lasts longer when you’re constantly digging up the past. It keeps you in that negative space and it’s counterproductive to what you and your spouse are trying to do.
Skip The Details
I remember wanting to know everything that went down between my fiance and the other woman. I wanted to know so much so that I reached out to her and asked her to send me all the photos, text messages and emails from him. Well, she did. I was even more devastated.
Digging for details is like pouring salt on an open wound. If you’ve already made the decision to accept him back, then trying to find out any and everything is unnecessary and does more harm than good.
Trust me, you don’t really want to know all of the details. For the most part, you will only see and understand what your hurting heart perceives, but you’ll rarely get the full truth. Skip all the details and focus solely on rebuilding if that’s what you want to do.
Depending on how well you know this man, you should quickly be able to figure out if what happened was truly a mistake, or if this will be the first of many uphill battles when it comes to your man’s infidelity. As a human, being flawed is expected and inevitable. But a woman should not allow herself to constantly be disrespected by a man who can’t commit to only her. Taking him back after multiple cheating incidents will begin to set a precedent in your relationship. It lets him and the world know that you are down for whatever. If that is what you agreed to, so be it, but be careful not to continuously take this man back simply because you are in love with what he “could be.”
In the end, taking a cheating spouse back is a difficult decision to make. But in some cases, surprisingly, doing so can completely change the relationship for the better.
Did Y’all See? Chris Brown’s Baby Drama, Keyshia Cole & Booby’s Beef And Internet Trolls Gone Too Far
This past Tuesday evening while some of you were “going up” in the club, we found out that Chris Brown could very well be the father of a 9-month-old girl. If that wasn’t enough, Keyshia Cole and her estranged husband, Daniel “Booby” Gibson, aired out all their dirty laundry, and internet trolls created viral memes of a toddler who has chromosome 2p duplication syndrome, comparing her to monsters and leprechauns. Not cool.
See what the editors of MadameNoire thought about these topics on this week’s episode of “Did Y’all See?” and share your thoughts!
Keyshia Cole Rehashes Husband’s Infidelity, Stands By Deadbeat Claims: “You Decided To Sleep With A Woman In Our Home!”
At this point, we’ve concluded that Keyshia and Daniel aren’t “all in” anymore when it comes to reestablishing their relationship. After a rocky weekend filled with accusations of Daniel still trying to get with random women and failing to make his son a priority, things have officially boiled over.
Yesterday, Daniel responded to the accusations hurled by his estranged wife by basically calling her a liar and bringing up a past incident when she was arrested for allegedly fighting over ex-lover Birdman.
“I’ll only say this. I ain’t with all this messy sh-t. This is not the place for any of this but I won’t be quiet and sit back when you decide to involve an innocent child you force my hand. Make people think I’m a hoe, cool, let people think your perfect.. I don’t care, but it takes a sick person to involve a child when they know what I do for him,” said the ex-Cavaliers player. “I FaceTime’d with my son yesterday through his grandmother because I did not want to speak to his mother.”
Keyshia, however, did not back down and made it clear that she’s standing by every allegation.
“Gib this is not the #firsttime you’ve missed his [Daniel Jr.] bday,” she expressed on Instagram. “So stop the bullsh-t. And CLEARLY I could’ve been involved in another altercation at your house when u decided to sleep with a woman in our home! In our bed! Where my baby sleeps! So stop with that bullsh!t. #Forratings?? Gib what u fail to realize is before u, I was already established as [an] artist. I don’t need to beef with u for that. I’m just tired of u trying to make people think u want this to work with your family. #CauseClearlyYouDont!”
Sadly, it seems that this attempt at a reunion has done more harm than good.
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Daniel Gibson Strikes Back At Keyshia Cole Over Deadbeat Dad Claims: “Who Was With Him When You Went To Jail Behind Fighting Over Another Man?”
It’s probably safe to assume that it’s a wrap for Keyshia Cole and Daniel Gibson’s little reunion.
Over the weekend, the “Love” singer blasted her estranged husband for continuing his attempts to see other women even though they were supposedly trying to rekindle their relationship. She called him out again less than 24 hours ago for failing to reach out to their son on his fifth birthday. Apparently, that was the final straw for Gibson, who responded to Cole in a disgruntled Instagram post. According to the ex-Cavaliers player, he did speak with little DJ for his birthday. His post reads:
“I’ll only say this. I ain’t with all this messy sh-t. This is not the place for any of this but I won’t be quiet and sit back when you decide to involve an innocent child you force my hand. Make people think I’m a hoe, cool, let people think your perfect.. I don’t care, but it takes a sick person to involve a child when they know what I do for him. For attention? Ratings?
I FaceTime’d with my son yesterday through his grandmother because I did not want to speak to his mother. & he said ‘I WANT TO BE WITH YOU because my mom been sleep all day!’ Social Media is not the place for any of this. You know Daniel Jr. is my everything. Who was he with when you went to jail behind fighting over another man? You cried on my shoulder? I went to court with you? Who taught him his ABC’s? Who flew 5hrs and drove 4 hours to bring him to you so he could bring in the New Year with his mother!! Who wakes up every morning & plays his game with him?
Don’t bring my son into your bullsh-t! A terrible father is one thing I am not. & that video was from the night of MY BIRTHDAY not his. I hope this works for you & all you’re using it for. I’m done. Crucify me but leave my son out your sh-t!”
So yeah, this is getting quite ugly. Hopefully, these two can find a way to handle their issues privately for the sake of DJ.
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We told you over the weekend that Keyshia Cole let the world know a chance for reconciliation with her estranged husband was not going to happen. Keyshia caught him trying to get close to another woman while she was in the room and put his text messages to that woman on blast. It was not a good look for Daniel “Boobie” Gibson, who recently told Sister2Sister that they were getting close again.
But it’s quite clear that there is about to be some distance between these two again, especially after Gibson failed to reach out to their son, DJ, on his fifth birthday. The child turned 5 yesterday, and according to Cole, he wasn’t present, and even worse, he didn’t bother to call to say happy birthday either. The singer posted video of Gibson turning all the way up with a group of women and told her followers that THAT was where he decided to be instead of with his son…
Not that it means all that much to anyone else, but Gibson DID show love to his son on social media yesterday, way before he decided to get it in at the club:
It’s disappointing to see the way things have turned out with these two. They need to keep it cute, classy and peaceful for DJ’s sake.
We told you earlier this week that at the premiere of Keyshia Cole’s new reality show, “Keyshia Cole: All In,” Daniel Gibson came through to show his support to his estranged wife. Lately, it seems as though the pair are reconnecting, and it looks like there might be a chance for reconciliation down the line. In a new chat with Sister2Sister, Gibson was asked about being seen “out with your wifey” for the first time in a very long time, and while he wouldn’t say that they’re working things out, he does say that they are on better terms and are getting “kind of close” again.
“It was more of a thing where…at the end of the day, she’s my friend. She’s somebody who, although we’ve been through a lot, she’s somebody who I consider a friend. Last night was a big night for her. It was the premiere of her show. I think the premiere of her show is tonight. Last night was major for her. So she asked if I wanted to come and I was like ‘Sure, I’ll be there to support you.’ We’re getting kind of close. We haven’t fell back into anything else, but definitely, the feelings are a little different these days.”
But before they could get on better terms, they were on very shaky ground. And not only that, but Cole was low-key dating Birdman of all people (and not to mention fighting and grinding on grand pianos for him) after their separation. So what are Gibson’s thoughts on that very crazy, and seemingly short-lived relationship?
“You know, with what happened between us, we’ve been separated. I can’t have any control over who or what she does outside of me, because we both had our own thing going on. We were separated. Sometimes that’s how it goes. But at the end of the day, I always want what’s best for her and my son. That’s pretty much it when it comes to that. I didn’t feel any type of way about it. It’s life. I’ve spoken about our situation before. I take full responsibility for a lot of the stuff that went on. It’s only right and natural that she would move forward with something else. She wouldn’t just sit and wait on me. I would never feel any type of way about it, as long as she’s happy because I feel that she deserves that.”
Talk about maturity!
You can check out Gibson’s interview with Sister2Sister in full here. In it, he also talks about life after playing professional basketball, and what’s next for him.
Earlier this month, Keyshia Cole confessed that she’s not really sure what the future holds concerning her marriage to estranged husband Daniel “Boobie” Gibson. Though her words didn’t definitely confirm that a reunion is going to happen, they did offer a glimmer of hope that was not there before. According to Cole, there is a possibility for reconciliation. And apparently, Boobie seems open to kissing and making up as well.
The former Cleveland Cavaliers player attended the premiere for Keyshia’s reality show, “Keyshia Cole: All In” and the two appeared quite cozy while posing for a photograph (above) that would later wind up on Daniel’s Instagram page.
“look what i found.. full support of this Angel at her premiere. #AllIn #GirliKnowYouWantThisDiii,” he captioned the image.
Some outlets have reported that two actually arrived to the premiere together and while that hasn’t been confirmed, we can say that it appears that the two were definitely making moves together throughout the night.
We’re still hoping that these two will make amends, but from the looks of it, they’re already working on it.
Although she has previously stated that she is through with her estranged husband, Daniel Gibson, because of infidelity, it seems that Keyshia Cole may have experienced a change of heart. While doing press rounds to promote her new reality show, “Keyshia Cole: All In,” it seemed that the single mom is is rethinking her decision to end their marriage.
“I don’t know if I’ve reached that [breaking] point yet, because I’m still trying to figure that out,” she told Hip Hollywood. “I have a child, so of course, he’s going to come before me.”
When asked if there’s a possibility of reconciliation, Cole replied with a simple “Mhmm.” However, she admits that it’s all pretty scary.
“Very much so. Hell yeah. I got my pistol by my bed,” she joked.
As previously reported, fans will be able to witness the singer work through deciding whether or not she will permanently end her marriage once her new BET series debuts on February 24.
“I can’t come to grips with love,” she confessed. “I just don’t know what it is anymore. I just don’t know what if–what is love? I don’t even know. I’m trying to figure out is it love or is it like agreement? What is it? Because love is so young and innocent and beautiful, but commitment is like…what are we trying to do with commitment?”
Apparently, she’s just as perplexed by the concept of love as she is by the definition of dating.
“What is dating?” she questioned before admitting that there are some potential suitors that she has been communicating with via telephone.
Hopefully, once Keyshia figures out what love is and all of that good stuff, she and Daniel can make amends and move forward.
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