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Serious question: How often is Black love celebrated these days? Millenials like myself are pretty much chalking up the idea of true love to rare chance, nearly as rare as getting out of student loan debt before 30. These things simply don’t happen often enough.
In a sea of #MCM, #WCW, #relationshipgoals, Love & Hip Hop dysfunction and a mountain of scholarly articles on why we aren’t getting married, Joe Budden is further contributing to our issues with his recent comments about Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj’s relationship.
I won’t lie, when these two first got together, I thought it was a complete joke. I didn’t believe it and refused to. Then I saw the heavy social media promotion on both sides – can you believe that two people involved in a relationship are both excessively claiming each other on the ‘gram? – and accepted the new hip-hop couple. As Budden’s co-host on his podcast “I’ll Name This Podcast Later” stated, they’re cute.
For the most part, many of us ladies see sappy captions, and we melt. But the Slaughterhouse MC has an issue with the way some women swooned over the way Meek Mill looked at Nicki Minaj during their performance at the 2015 BET Awards.
“Girls are fucking idiots,” he said.
Oh. I’m sorry that a Black man on stage – who isn’t President Obama looking at Michelle or Jay Z staring at Beyoncé – makes us smile. I think it’s actually refreshing. But I don’t find Budden’s critiques of their relationship anywhere near delightful. In fact, I find his reasoning for considering Meek Mill’s open display of adoration as “nasty” to be even more trippy.
“Meek’s music is too hard for me to look at him with this fucking sappy fuck shit. Be the hardcore guy that I’m sure she was attracted to at some point,” Budden said.
Ah, yes. Be hard. “Be a man.” Here we go again with that.
Sure, I blast Meek Mill when I’m feeling a little thuggish on my morning commute, but I do the same with Jay Z. Why is Meek Mill scrutinized for openly adoring Nicki Minaj when Jigga has done the same thing on countless stages and for an entire tour? Perhaps Budden knows that if he tried to criticize Jay, the vet would lyrically assassinate him on wax, and the Beygency would probably wage war across countries – he simply would not be safe.
But as far as Nicki’s “type,” how does he know what it is she is attracted to? And most importantly, why does Meek Mill’s personality have to be one-dimensional to folks? It’s typically the toughest men who are the softest on the inside. We all crave and certainly deserve love and tenderness, and there is more to people than just the persona we see on social media, through their records and when they’re with one group of people versus another. We all manage to have significant parts of ourselves that we only expose to certain people.
Joey, if you’re jealous of Meek just say you’re jealous of Meek. There is nothing “simp” or “nasty” about the way the Philly rapper salutes his girlfriend. We should stop discouraging rappers, athletes (Hey, Russell Wilson) and everyday men for that matter, from openly expressing the way they feel about the women they love. It’s not a weakness. In fact, it can be a beautiful thing when done right. As Minaj expressed via Twitter, “Why would you be bothered by another man showing love to his girl? Let’s celebrate black love.”
There aren’t enough positive relationships being celebrated or even cultivated today. And considering that Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj seem happy while Budden (and the world) has seen his own romantic life go to hell in a handbasket, he has no room to tell anybody how they should express or handle themselves in their relationship. I’m sure Tahiry and Kaylin Garcia have plenty advice for him…
Let’s be honest, do we really ever know what people want in relationships? Sometimes I just feel so confused. You have some people who hate drama, and others who gravitate to it. Some people like those who are head strong, and others who like those who are submissive. The problem is, that when some people get what they feel like they want, they don’t want it anymore. Hanging with my guy friends I would always hear what they wanted from a girl, but when they got it, they would complain that she was “too much” of it. Really, dudes?
The one thing that seemed to be a constant would be that guys disliked high maintenance girls. There seemed to be ultra prissy girls that wouldn’t eat food in front of men, and the ones who were just too much. Nothing was ever good enough, and they sought to change the man that they dated. To be honest, I’ve never met these women, they more so seemed like the over the top stereotypes that only resided in movies and dating urban legends, but to some men, not only did these women exist, they have stories, examples, parables of these women. So, I figured that as long as I was low maintenance I could be successful in relationships. That wasn’t a hard thing to do, because I’m low maintenance period, like a Toyota. I don’t like to argue, I stay away from drama, and if you’re exuding bad vibes I’ll avoid you (while also being cordial).
So when I started dating and being in relationships, I tried to be Super-Kendra. I would be attentive to him, but if anything bothered me and I wanted to address it, I would suppress the urge to talk about it. My mind would immediately ask: “Is this fight really necessary? What do you hope to get out this? Are you reading too much into this?” So, I would try to pick and choose my arguments wisely. But it would sometimes seem that when I would finally speak up, the dudes I was with would play the: “Man, I thought you were different. This is some high maintenance type stuff. …You whining right now…” So, I would stop the addressing, that had apparently turned into complaining, and see the men I was involved with get this entitled smirk on their faces as if they got me to stop talking. Like they knew something that I didn’t.
The truth was, they did know something that I didn’t. I had gone from being low maintenance to being a doormat, and they reveled in that. There was no need for them to be the best boyfriends that they could be, because I would just handle all of their foolishness. But you can’t deal with something like that and be ignorant to your feelings for too long. After a while, I stopped feeling like a Toyota and began to feel like a Pinto.
Now, I know that you all have seen and discussed these people to death, but remember, all of this is new to me. In that episode of Love and Hip Hop New York where Mendeecees gave that informal suggestion of “we should go and get married,” and Yandy’s response was shock with a: “Is that supposed to be your proposal?!” I became inspired. Now, she loved Mendeecees, but she knew she deserved more than that suggestion of marriage over a dinner table. The same way I felt like I should have realized that over the proposal that came over a text message (which my immediate reaction to the message was: “Are you drunk?” Yep, should have seen that that wasn’t on a good path to eternal happiness).
So my message to you ladies is that at the end of the day, whether you’re high maintenance, low maintenance, or any other maintenance, you have to find someone who is going to love you. Not someone who’s going to give you the bre minimum and then get mad when you express yourself about it. You are amazing, and if you’re an Escalade, CR-V, Lexus, BMW, whatever, just make sure that you know your worth and never let anyone make your value depreciate.
Kendra Koger is feeling like a Ford Mustang right now. How are you driving? Let’s discuss it on twitter @kkoger.
EXCLUSIVE: Beef Between Rashidah Ali and Raqi Thunda Gets Physical During ‘Love & Hip Hop’ Reunion Taping
If you’ve been watching Love & Hip Hop lately, you know that things have really been heating up between cast members. In this week’s episode, we saw characters Rashidah Ali and Raqi Thunda get into a rather heated verbal exchange during a charity event. Things got so out of hand as the ladies hurled below-the-belt insults at one another that event attendees looked on expecting a weave-pulling catfight to break out. Although the dispute did not get physical at the event, an exclusive source tells Madame Noire that they did get into an altercation at the Love & Hip Hop reunion show taping yesterday that forced security to step in.
What caused the the ladies to get physical, you ask? Well, it appears that Raqi isn’t really fazed by people calling her industry p***y and other insults, which imply that she’s promiscuous, but she does get rather bent out of shape when you talk about her child’s father and her religion. And that’s exactly what Rashidah did. Our source tells us that the dispute got turned up a notch when Rashidah called Raqi a “fake muslim.” We’re also told that Raqi lost complete control when the redheaded spitfire began talking about her baby’s daddy, going completely off and storming off of the stage. Clearly, her child’s father is a sensitive subject because even Mona Scott Young said, “Everybody knows they can’t say anything about her [Raqi’s] baby daddy,” revealed our source. Looks like Rashidah knew which buttons to push. We can’t say for sure whether or not the two actually fought before bouncers intervened, but we can confirm that they came very close to tearing each other apart.
We’re also told that Joe Budden and his barely legal girlfriend, Kaylin Garcia have called it quits. But catch this: Joe and Tahiry announced that they are working on their relationship. They’re working on their relationship so much so, that they’re willing to jump into the ring for one another. According to Joe’s Twitter page, during a filming break, as he and Tahiry made their way outside to smoke, Consequence snuck up behind him and sucker punched him, which caused Tahiry to quickly react, “snuffing” Cons. Yes, Tahiry punched a man.
And then of course, there’s Cons’ side of the story.
What do you make of all of this? Will you be tuning in to the reunion show?
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Even though season 1 of Love & Hip-Hop is about to come to an end, most viewers can't say they know much about Kaylin Garcia -- other than she's Joe Budden's girlfriend and doesn't have time for him to be hopping on tracks with his exes. As it turns out, Ms. Garcia has quite the cult following on Instagram, most people trying to figure out how she keeps her curls so fly, not to mention that body. We decided to check in with the budding reality star to figure out who she really is, outside of her relationship and scripted TV, watch and see what she told us.
When there’s drama, everybody and their mama usually has a cent or two to contribute to the conversation. The latest contribution in the weird 3-way relationship between “Love & Hip Hop” cast members Tahiry Jose, Joe Budden and Kaylin Garcia is resident hothead, Erica Mena. The aspiring singer recently chatted it up with the YBF about all things “Love & Hip Hop” and of course, the interview couldn’t end without discussion of the show’s popular love triangle and those harsh rumors that Tahiry has herpes. Check out what she had to say.
On why Tahiry is jealous of Kaylin:
“Um… I think Tahiry needs to admit to the fact she is in love with Joe, and kind of acknowledge the fact that she is a little bit jealous of Kaylin. I think honestly Kaylin is playing her position the right way, Joe puts Kaylin on a different pedestal than Tahiry, and I think that’s what kind of bothers Tahiry, and that’s what made her react the way she did.”
“He kind of brags about Kaylin more ( as far as social networks). He’s quick to put out there that he’s in love with this woman. She’s young, she’s intriguing, she’s fresh, and aint nothing like good meat. Ain’t nothing like good fresh meat.”
On rumors of Tahiry having an STD:
“God bless if that’s true and definitely stop spreading it. If you’re a walking disease you should put yourself in a bubble and stay there. I think that could be true though… but then it may not but if it is she should definitely slow her roll.”
Interesting enough, Tahiry and Joe were recently spotted at her single release party together looking rather cozy.
What do you think of the constant back and forth between Tahiry and Joe? Is she jealous of his new lady?
Jazmine Denise is a news writer for Madame Noire. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise
Madame Noire’s deputy editor, Brande Victorian, had the distinct pleasure of attending the “Love and Hip Hop” Premiere screening last night. And not only did she attend the event, she got to speak to cast members Joe Budden and his new boo Kaylin Garcia, the girl in the revealing red blazer.
As you can tell Brande seems a bit apprehensive to speak to these two…perhaps it has something to do with Joe Budden’s alleged issues with domestic violence. Don’t wanna ask any questions that might get you chin checked on camera. One never knows. So, looking at this image, what do you think is going on? What are Brande, Joe and Kaylin thinking to themselves in this picture?