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Moving And Shaking: Kandi Burruss Talks To JET About Her Business, Todd & Why Mama Joyce Doesn’t Like Him
Look who’s on the cover of JET this month shining. RHOA star, singer, songwriter and entrepreneur Kandi Burruss spoke with the magazine about how she keeps a coin or two in her pocket. the tension between Mama Joyce and her fiancé Todd Tucker.
Kandi said, “When I speak about anything on camera I want to accomplish it before we finish taping,” Burruss tells JET regarding her drive and ambition. “I am a ‘do what I say’ person. I want people to know I’m not a [phony]. I hate when people on reality shows mention how they want to do this and that, but you never hear of it again.”
That’s certainly not the case for Kandi, every other day we hear about one of her business ventures. She has an adult toy line, Bedroom Kandi, The Kandi Factory, her Atlanta-based studio and her musical, A Mother’s Love, is set for a DVD release in April.
Interestingly enough, she admits that Todd is the one who’s helped her sharpen her business skills.
“I love that Todd is affectionate and relationship-oriented. But he’s also a leader and a planner, and because of his production background he makes me a better businesswoman.”
So about Mama Joyce…though she admits that she will be the first to apologize if they get married and it lasts, Kandi says there’s a reason why her mother is so concerned about Todd’s intentions.
“When my mother was younger it was all about getting a man to be a provider. She leans toward a man who is financially more well-off than the dude who is just a good guy. I’ve dated guys who are more successful than me, and my mom is like, no matter what he does wrong, you have to work it out.”
Hmm… we’ve talked about Mama Joyce and her foolishness many, many times before. But what do you think about the mother believing that a man should be more financially secure, above all else?
You can check out the full interview in this month’s JET on newsstands now.
The emotional tug of war known as the Kandi Burruss, Todd Tucker and Mama Joyce saga ensues. The trio appeared on “The View” today and though they spoke calmly to one another, no one really seems to be budging on how they’re feeling about the situation, namely Mama Joyce.
“Well, really Todd seems like a very nice person,” Joyce explained. “When I met him he seemed like a very nice person. But I have a problem with after his first job, which was doing the Kim and Kroy wedding, he took like two months off. Now, I come from a family of men that work. I had a problem with that, you know? And also, he said that he was using part of his savings and when you’re already to me, stepping up, I feel like you don’t need to use part of your savings to take two months off.”
Though he remained calm, Todd, who clearly appears to be at his wits’ end with all of the drama, explained that Joyce’s attempts to break up their engagement are taking a toll on his family.
“I think everyone has a breaking point,” he expressed.”The lies, that stuff is really tough. I have a mom and it affects my mother. It affects my daughter. It affects Kandi’s daughter. The other day Kandi’s daughter told Kandi ‘I don’t like that he said he would leave you.’”
Interestingly, “View” host Whoopi Goldberg chimed in, suggesting that Joyce pull back a bit and allow Kandi to make some of her own mistakes.
“Now okay, you and I are minutes apart in terms of age. We don’t have time for this mess. Let her make the mistake, if she’s gonna make the mistake. You gotta let her do it. You can’t do this for her. We listened kind of to our parents, but we had to make our own mistakes. She gotta do it.”
Joyce, however, refused to waver and argued that her granddaughter, Riley, is the reason she refuses to just let go.
“It’s not all about that. If it was just Kandi, I would agree with you. But Kandi has a daughter. And that’s who I’m worried about.”
She also pointed out that she found it quite odd that Todd expressed so much concern for Kandi’s friend Carmon and her son during his recent appearance on “Watch What Happens Live.” For the most part, Todd and Joyce were able to keep their composure, but poor Kandi couldn’t hold it together at certain points during the interview and shed a few tears over her mother’s inability to allow her to live her life.
“It is very frustrating. I love my mother to death. I do feel like Ma, you had kids too. Your mother didn’t interfere with your relationships. I just feel like you treat me like I am just stupid and I have no sense of responsibility and I don’t think that’s fair.”
Unfortunately, it doesn’t appear that Joyce will ever be okay with this relationship.
As entertained as I was by all that went down on Sunday night’s episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, there were a few moments during the show that left a bad taste in my mouth–and no, it had nothing to do with the usually composed Kandi threatening to “drag” Cynthia’s sister, Malorie. I know that when we’re angry we often say things that we don’t mean or just say things that we’re not even thinking about before we spew them, but I couldn’t help but notice that on more than one occasion, the ladies (and Brandon DeShazer) referred to one another in some derogatory terms that were a bit too ugly for my liking.
After the Pillow Talk party from hell, everyone returned to their homes to talk about the behavior of their fellow cast members. It was gossip time. But in almost every scene (except for Kandi’s rundown of events to her friend Carmon), someone was either referred to as a common criminal, an animal, or…well, flat out, a “queen.” When referring to Kandi’s anger at being pushed by Malorie, Cynthia set things off by saying that Kandi acted like a “thug,” taking it a step further to say, “It was as if her body was possessed by a street thug or something.”
That’s exactly what I thought to myself as I started to feel a little uncomfortable with her use of the word and Cynthia’s exaggerated impression of Kandi–but I tried to let it go. Then on went NeNe in her confessional, repeatedly referring to DeShazer as a “queen,” and in a manner as to question his masculinity, even calling him “girlfriend in red” as she blamed him for the big fight. To make matters worse, in Kenya’s kitchen, both the former Miss America and her assistant said that Apollo Nida had behaved like a “gorilla” when he attacked Brandon, with DeShazer pounding his arms on the table at one point to drive the point home. Granted, I get that they might have meant that he pounded on top of DeShazer like a gorilla, but as black folks, they should know better. At that point, I was too through.
I asked you all on Twitter what you thought of their derogatory remarks during live tweeting, and many of you agreed that they were all out of line:
@MadameNoire yep. Self affirming statements used by the “majority” then we get mad when they do the same. Smdh
@MadameNoire extremely uncomfortable, especially coming from POC.
First of all they all needed to take several seats on using any of those words because they know better! #RHOA
Writer Xem VanAdams agreed, specifically calling out NeNe for thinking her “queen” comments were appropriate:
While some of US may use ‘Queen/Kween’ as a term of endearment when engaging amongst one another, Nene used the word on national television to defame the character of another gay man of color. Nene has spent the past five seasons, publicly praising her love for ‘the gays’; a watered down expression that diminishes the role of gay men as nothing more than accessories to her ‘fabulous’ life.
Even Brandon DeShazer and Kenya tried to comment on it with DeShazer saying on Twitter to NeNe, “Despite your words, I was born a man, raised a man and chosen as a man. IM ALL MAN! #FACT.”
Kenya also went on Watch What Happens Live to say, “It was disgusting to watch someone that’s built her entire career off of copying gay men’s lingo… for her to make defamatory and humiliating remarks. I think it was uncalled for and it’s no place to gay bash.”
But really, as with all the Real Housewives of Atlanta cast members in general, where is the accountability for their own ugly comments? As usual, the grown people on this show have nothing to say for themselves and their behavior, but point fingers at someone else to deflect from their choices. It’s tired at this point.
As I said, I know people say ugly things they don’t mean when they’re upset, but as people of color on television, and in everyday life in general, we all need to watch our mouths, especially when it comes to the words we use that demean our own people. Just as the n-word is a no-no that we unfortunately have to keep debating, these words are not a good look at all. Why refer to one another as “thugs” when that’s just exactly the terminology thrown at young men and women of color by the mainstream when they don’t want to get caught dropping the n-word? Why is NeNe calling a gay man a “queen” as a straight woman? And I’m so tired of hearing us refer to one another as monkeys (something I’ve also watched K. Michelle and Chris Brown do in front of thousands of followers on Instagram and Twitter), whether in appearance or in behavior. Clearly we’ve all gotten a little too comfortable.
What you do in the privacy of your home is your own business and no one else knows or has to hear it. But when you get online or on TV or out in public and refer to one another as these things, you give the impression that it’s okay. If we can’t respect one another when we speak, how can we expect other people to treat us right? Everyone on this show needs to own up to their bad behavior not only with what happened at the Pillow Talk event, but what came out of their mouths after the fact. Bravo might eat this stuff up, but I wanted to throw up at the ignorance of it all.
Apparently, she’s still NOT feeling her daughter Kandi Burruss’ fiance Todd Tucker, but she’s trying to mend her relationship with her daughter. Still, she’s shown her behind on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” — so much to the point that she blamed Bravo for making her look bad. Yeah, OK! However, she’s still a meddling and overbearing celebrity parent. She’s shouted, thrown hissy fits and tried to fight her daughter’s best friend who she thinks slept with Tucker as he is a cheating opportunist in her eyes.
But she’s not alone! There are plenty of celebrity parents who are either overbearing, meddling or just flat out bad parents. MadameNoire has compiled 15 more celeb parents who have estranged relationships with their kids or will if they don’t stop acting so cray cray!
While Kandi Burruss and her mom, Joyce, seem to be working through their issues, it appears that Joyce is still feeling funny about her daughter’s fiancé, Todd Tucker. During a recent appearance on Better Mornings Atlanta, Joyce made it clear that she’s still very suspicious of Todd’s motives for wanting to marry her daughter.
“I just don’t feel him,” Joyce confessed. “That’s just been a feeling that I had for a long time.”
She went on to say that she believes Todd is only getting certain opportunities because of his ties to Kandi.
“I feel like this is a good opportunity for him because most producers when they go from one job to another job, very few take a year off to get their lives together.”
“Now he says he’s working on something right now and sure he is but if he didn’t have her he wouldn’t have this opportunity.”
Though her feelings haven’t changed, Joyce adds that she does, however, regret some of her actions this season—like when she went off on Kandi’s friend, Carmon.
“I totally regret the wedding incident. I regret the actions of what I did because that was not me. Sometimes you get so angry, you forget all about the TV. You know, this is reality. These are people that were close to Kandi, people that worked for Kandi, people that really knew and who were around that told me things. I was so upset, I just lost it.”
Well, she seems pretty firm in her beliefs. I guess we’ll have to continue watching to see how things turn out.
Watch Joyce’s interview on the next page.
In case you haven’t heard, the city of Atlanta is in a state of crisis right now. The southern state is not really equipped to handle winter weather and yesterday presented a new challenge. There was snow and ice. And while many didn’t have fun in the winter weather, people, including children, were stuck on the road all night and had to sleep in their cars, Kandi and Todd tried to relive their childhood activities.
Tood took an innertube and tried to sled down the driveway. But it really didn’t end too well. Take a look and see what happened in the video below.
When it was Kandi’s turn, the two had wised up and Todd was there to help her out. Check it out.
Reality TV shows come a dime a dozen these days, so it’s not completely shocking that most realty stars aren’t swimming in cash from their TV salaries alone. During a recent interview with The Hot 97 Morning Show, “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Kandi Burruss opened up about the financial realities of being a reality star, noting that it’s not nearly as glamorous or lucrative as it appears.
“On a new reality show they’re not making anything,” Kandi revealed. “If they are getting anything, it may be like $2,500 per episode to $5,000, at the most. Most times, like say for instance the women who started out on our show, in the beginning they didn’t get anything for that first year. They got like $5,000 for the whole season just for the use of their house. When I first came on they didn’t really hardly pay me anything either. A lot of those shows do not pay a lot of money.”
Kandi went on to say that she always advises reality TV hopefuls not to go on reality shows without something to sell or promote.
“This is what I always tell people: Don’t go on the show thinking you’re going to make a big lick off of the salary. Think of it more so as your infomercial. How are you going to make this show sell your business or your product. If not, you’re just going on there to make a a** of yourself.”
Speaking of finances, we all know Kandi plays no games when it comes to conserving her cash and embarking on new business ventures. The “Let Them Love” singer also shared that she maintains a healthy bank account by “living below” her means.
“I am pro live below your means,” Kandi revealed. “I was looking at financial books and everything since I was a teenager because my mom was always, ‘Don’t put your eggs in one basket.’ And I didn’t go to college, so you get kind of scared like, ‘Okay, I’m getting all of this money right now, but what I am gonna do now?’ I didn’t want to put myself in a position where I was living so expensively that if something happened next year or two years from now and I wasn’t making the same money, I couldn’t afford my lifestyle. So that’s the first thing, you gotta live below your means.”
“Let’s say for instance if you’re just starting out, it’s some people who can afford $1,000 apartment and go get a $1,000 apartment. That would not be me. If I can afford a $1,000 apartment, I’m going to try to find a $600 apartment and save the $400 towards something I want to invest in. A lot of people handicap themselves from being able to go after their dreams because of the kind of lifestyle they become accustomed to.”
We ain’t mad you, Kandi.
Watch her full interview on the next page. Thoughts?
“He Was Like A Son To Me”: Mama Joyce On Her Disappointment With Chuck Smith’s Statements About Kandi
While Mama Joyce has made the decision not to barge in on Kandi’s relationship with Todd on the show anymore, that doesn’t mean she won’t talk about it outside the show to press. She chatted with Essence.com and talked about her ideal man for Kandi, if she’ll apologize for her treatment of Todd if Kandi and her man make it, and why she’s so disappointed with the way Chuck Smith talked about Kandi and their past “relationship” on the show. Here is the tea that had us talking:
On How She’s Been Portrayed On The Show:
I was really not happy about it. I felt that I was misrepresented because I’m not that type of person. I just want people to know that my main thing is that I love my daughter and I know my daughter loves me more than anything. There’s nothing I won’t do for her. They were making it seem like I was more worried about her taking care of me, which is not true because I take care of myself. My daughter will give me anything I want but I’m not the kind of mother that sits back and keeps my hand out and I never have been.
Stepping Back And Letting Kandi Make Her Own Decisions:
Well, I just made up my mind that I was going to have to back off, for my health and our relationship. I’m just going to have to let her make her own decision, whether it’s good or bad, whether I’m right or wrong. If I’m right, I wont say anything but be there for her. If she’s right, I’ll be the first one to apologize. I’ll get on TV or whatever it takes to apologize.
Her Ideal Choice For A Man For Kandi:
I would say a policeman that’s a detective or a fireman that’s a lieutenant or someone that has been on the job for a long time. I wouldn’t mind if she met a working man that would be a good stepfather for Riley. If he had a good income, like say he made $60-$70,000 and he wasn’t the kind that was just there for her money and he really cared about her, I wouldn’t mind.
Her Thoughts On Chuck Smith Saying Kandi Was Just “Part Of The Team”:
He got on there and told the biggest lie he ever told. I was so shocked because I really liked Chuck. He was like a son to me when they were dating. I mean, his mother and father and myself all used to go out to dinners together. He took us out to Cirque du Soleil. I’ve even spent the night at Chuck’s house. Kandi had keys to his house. Would you let a jump offs mother keep your daughter over the weekend more that two times? Every time I saw him he would hug me like “Hey Ma, what’s up?” He bought me my first Louis Vuitton bag. He was so in love with Kandi he would call me even after she quit him. I don’t know what made him say that. I mean it was 20 years ago. I don’t know whether he was trying to get on the show or what but I’m so disappointed in him.
Am I the only one who laughed out loud at her recounting the time he took them to Cirque du Soleil? Because nothing means “you’re special” like taking a woman and her mother to see folks flipping around in tights I guess. Anywho, check out the full interview over at Essence.com and let us know if you agree or disagree with Mama Joyce.
Just when you thought Todd was catching a break from the constant criticism being thrown his way by Kandi’s family and friends, this past week, Christopher Williams’ wife showed up out of nowhere to hop on the Todd-is-an-opportunist bandwagon, bringing up his past relationship with her friend. But despite her comments about Todd, Kandi continued to stick by him (and put folks in their place for him) and still does to this day. She recently sat down with Bethenny Frankel to dish on her relationship, and why she doesn’t mind the rumors about Todd being nothing but a hustler:
“I’m a hustler. I like a person with a hustle mentality that you’re the type that’s going to get out there and make things happen. I see so many people date somebody because ‘Oh he has money’ or whatever, but then he loses the money and doesn’t know how to get it back. But you have to be a hustler to know how to get the money again and again and again. When I met Todd, he was already doing well for himself before we met each other so it really bothers me that people try to play him like he’s some dude off the street who didn’t have a job or something like that. He’s doing well and he was doing well before I met him.
People automatically feel like a woman has to have a man who makes more money than she does. But I don’t feel like it’s all about who makes the most. I just feel like, as long as we’re good and we’re comfortable, he can handle what he needs to handle and we’re good. I’m like, why do people feel like it has to be leaning totally in the man’s direction as far as finances? Because I’m sorry, I’m always going to go out and get more money. That’s who I am, that’s who I am as a person. So that means I’m going to limit who I can talk to if I’m just saying ‘Oh he has to be doing better than me.’ I’m always going to get mine.
During the episode, Mama Joyce was tuning in and called in to let folks know where she stands when it comes to her daughter’s relationship, and decided to keep things short and sweet (and less pessimistic than before):
“Well, I decided to step back and let Kandi do Kandi.”
But when Bethanny asked her if she thought she could have a good relationship with Todd in the future, Mama Joyce started to sound a little bit like her old self:
“Well…I decided to let Kandi do Kandi. Kandi says she likes a hustler, but the only thing I just don’t want is someone who’s hustling her.”
Check out both short videos below of Kandi talking to Bethanny about Todd and how they handle finances in their relationship, as well as Mama Joyce calling in to give her two cents:
After Chuck Smith went on Real Housewives of Atlanta and basically said he slept with both Phaedra Parks and Kandi Burruss when he was an up-and-coming football star and they meant nothing else to him, folks were up in arms. I mean, he basically looked like the biggest pig ever, and his comments shed a negative light on both him and his family. Since the disgust has died down, Smith spoke to a site called Gossip Extra, and the 44-year-old said that he could have talked to Phaedra differently, but that wouldn’t have changed the truth.
When asked what the hell he was thinking when he slammed Phaedra on that long ride home from the Boys and Girls Club event, he said it was all an unfortunate situation…for him:
“I should have talked about them (Phaedra and Kandi) in a different way. And I should’ve given my wife a little more information about them. It’s just unfortunate I got caught in this situation.”
But despite his behavior, Smith says that his success and years in the NFL, and all he does now, shouldn’t be overshadowed by his short time on RHOA:
“Why is what I did at 27 that important? It should be about what I do now, teaching the art of the pass rush and how to be a good NFL rookie.
I’ve been surprised at all these attacks, which are more directed at my wife than me.”
Smith says that he messed with Kandi because she was a sweet girl, and well, “her momma cooked good food.” But yet and still, he was a player, and everyone who knew him, including Kandi, knew the deal:
“…we were in a lifestyle of entertainment. I had four girls in every corner of the stadium.”
And while both he and Kandi knew the deal, according to Smith, he feels bad that Phaedra misunderstood their “relationship.”
“Phaedra was just the ugly ducking from the sixth grade. It’s unfortunate she got caught up in this.”
He needs to just stop talking because nothing he says helps his image. Just do better, bruh.
What do you think of Smith’s comments?