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Should You Take Your Bonnet Off For Your Man?

February 27th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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We’ve already talked about the communication problems Kandi and Todd are having, all being played out on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In addition to dealing with distance and the failing of their musical, “A Mother’s Love,” the two are only having sex once a week.

And Kandi is in her feelings about it. So she suggests that they attend marriage counseling. Todd doesn’t really think it’s that deep and feels that if they make some compromises, they should be good. But apparently, “they” is just Kandi.

He did have a suggestion about how they could fix their bedroom issues.

“Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?” 

Then Kandi said: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”

Todd: If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on. Like, you have to compromise. 

And then in his confessional:

“Man have you seen a lady at night with a bonnet on? The most thirstiest dude wouldn’t get it up!” 

The words sound harsher typed out than they actually were, which is why I included the video at the top. So you can get a true sense. The way they discussed this situation, with jokes, laughter and even some touchy-feely throughout, I think Todd and Kandi will be just fine.

But this bonnet discussion has always been so fascinating to me.  I mean, Black women have been wearing bonnets for at least a century at this point. But all of a sudden Black men are coming out of the woodworks talking about how they don’t find them sexy.

Before Todd, there was Shawn Bullard from “Match Made In Heaven” and one of our male writers made a similar comment about bonnets killing the mood in a random g-chat conversation.

I mean, I get that they’re not exactly the sexiest things around but since when did a bonnet stop someone from getting it in? As a man, you can make a production out of ripping the bonnet off before you get started or gauge your skills in the amount of time it takes for you to work it off during the deed itself.

I’m with Kandi, Todd knew about her bonnet before they got married. Just like a whole lot of other Black men. Someone suggested that Black men started dating White women and now they want to act brand new. Who knows? But the brothas gotta be more sympathetic to our hair struggle. Matter of fact, if they think back to the days when they were wearing braids and waves, they know that they used to have to sleep with a scarf on as well.

Black hair requires care.

And we’re not our hair but our hair is a part of our lives. And just like other elements of life, when it comes to sex, you just have to work around it.

I Don’t Have Any Loyalty To Amber Rose: Deelishis Talks Relationship With Wiz Khalifa

February 26th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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I don’t know what was really going on with former “Flavor of Love” winner Deelishis and rapper Wiz Khalifa. With all his personal drama playing out on a very public level, their newly sparked “friendship” seemed a bit opportunistic.

Life after VH1 ain’t no crystal stair.

Though Deelishis always claimed, two months ago, when she posted videos of her and Wiz together,  that they were just friends, folks weren’t exactly buying it and even questioned her morals. Dealing with a man who was (and still is) legally married can be a slippery slope particularly when that man is not completely over his ex wife.

So with all this in mind, people were giving Deelishis all types of side eyes.

Well, recently she appeared on Kandi Koated Nights to discuss the relationship and why she didn’t see a problem with it.

“So here’s Wiz, he’s a really nice guy. He’s cool. He’s a stoner. They got together and I thought it was a really nice union. However, when I was approached with going out to the concert or whatever– I’m still a woman– and I don’t know her personally so I don’t have any responsibility or any loyalty to ‘Yo, I can’t talk to you because you were once married to Amber Rose.’ No, she’s one that I respect as an entertainer but I don’t know her. So I obliged. And from the that that happened, then I was a problem because I was breaking up a marriage or a happy home. No. I was not around when that house was being wrecked. I don’t know anything about the wrecking of that home. I just said ok to an offer to go to a concert and we became friends. But as it became a big frenzy, I felt a little uncomfortable. But we’re still cool.”

Interesting.

Do you think Deelishis owed Amber Rose more than this? Do you think Wiz and Deelishis’ relationship was inappropriate?

Kandi Burruss Says “Bug A Boo” Almost Didn’t Happen For Destiny’s Child

February 19th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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It’s always amusing to hear stories about artists who passed on (or almost passed on) hit songs. For example, Rihanna’s “Umbrella” was turned down by Brittany Spears; B.O.B’s “Nothin’ on You” was turned down by Lupe Fiasco and Brittany Spears’ “…Baby One More Time” was turned down by TLC. It’s difficult to imagine that Destiny’s Child’s popular track, “Bug a Boo,” may have become the hit of another ‘90s group, but according to Kandi Burruss, who helped pen the track, that’s exactly what almost happened.

“When we first played the track ‘Bug A Boo’ to Destiny’s Child, I remember, they were kinda looking like, ‘Eh, I don’t know about this,’” Burruss told Yahoo Music.

Burruss went on to say that the girls weren’t really crazy about the tempo of the track.

“If you can remember what the track is like, it was like really fast. At the time people weren’t really singing over those types of tracks. You’d look at it as something they’d rap over,” she said.

Of course, queen Bey quickly called a group huddle and tried to get the ladies to be open with their feelings about the song.

“I remember Beyoncé was telling the rest of the girls, ‘Y’all, if we really don’t like this, maybe we should let him know.’ Because [the producer] She’sphere had stepped out the room,” The RHoA star recalled.

Thinking quickly, Kandi made a suggestion that ultimately won the teens over.

“I was like, ‘Well, if you don’t mind I could kinda like sing you the idea I was thinking, before you [decide],’” Kandi reflected. “They were like, ‘OK.’ At the time I think I only had like a verse and the hook kinda together. It wasn’t all the way together. It was just like a little bit of where I thought it could go. And they were like, ‘OK.’ And then we finished it together.”

The track wound up making the Top 40 list and Burruss credits her ability to speak up.

“So, it’s funny because had I not spoken up and said, ‘Hey,’ then that song would never exist,” she said.

Well, we’re definitely glad that she decided to interject when she did.

For old times’ sake…

Kandi Regrets Being So Open About Her Marriage On Tv

February 18th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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RHOA star Kandi Burruss low-key denies pregnancy rumors on Instagram.

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During this past episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Kandi and Todd have been on two different pages. There were several communication issues that seemed to trip them up. Kandi’s play was canceled and in response Todd asked her if she “did her research.” And though he might have been trying to provide a solution or rationalize the cancelation, it came off as dismissive and insulting. Of course she did her research! Kandi is a businesswoman. But I digress.

Then when the two were in LA filming, Todd decided that he was going to hang back for a few days afterward and kick it with his boys.

This compounded by the fact that they’d only had sex once that week, led Kandi to believe that he might be stepping out on her. And Kandi told her friend Carmen that she suspected Todd of cheating. Sadly, all of this took place on camera.

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times; when it comes to relationships, sometimes it’s just better to keep your drama and messiness behind closed doors. And as a newlywed, Kandi is also learning that lesson.

In her blog for Bravo Kandi wrote:

As soon as Todd and I got married he had to leave for LA to start production on his show. We went from being together every day to going weeks without seeing each other. It took some time to adjust. Things were tense for a short period of time, but we’re great now. I do regret talking about it on TV. I’m a very open person, but I’m learning that it’s not always a great idea to be an open book when it comes to your marriage.

Let the church say Amen!

We could go on and on about the couples whose marriages have failed with the help of reality tv. Though most of us don’t have cameras in our homes, the same concept applies when you consider telling your friends about every argument and issue that arises in your relationship. Sometimes…no, most times, it’s better to work it out amongst yourselves, or with a neutral third party, and keep it moving.

Basically, when you tell your friends and family about the drama in your relationship, they’re listening as people who are loyal to you…not your man or partner. They’ll be looking at him crazy from now until eternity if you ever mention anything he might have done wrong. Even after you’ve moved past the argument and the dust has settled, your people will still be holding a grudge. Not to mention, you conveniently forgot to tell them how you were acting a fool. They weren’t there for his apology and the resolution and you didn’t update them on how his behavior has changed for the better. One, because those make up stories aren’t as juicy and two, because they’re not in the relationship and have little incentive to forgive his offenses.

That’s just what happens when you invite outside opinions into your relationship.

And that’s what Kandi is doing by discussing her relationship with Todd, not only with her friend, but with millions of viewers around the country and world. Inviting them to cast judgment without knowing even half of the story. As one of my coworkers mentioned, it also adds fuel to that very messy fire Mama Joyce started. God knows the world doesn’t want her to be right about Todd. But I’m sure listening to Kandi discuss what seem like normal communication issues is making her feel really validated right now.

But it’s hard not to discuss your relationship when you roll deep with your man and cameras are following you around all the time. As we were discussing this at work, someone suggested that it might be time for Kandi and Todd to step away from RHOA in an attempt to preserve their marriage. I’ll be honest, my first reaction was “Nooooo.” I don’t even watch RHOA anymore but when I did, I always appreciated Kandi’s levelheadedness and her ability to avoid the cattiness that has been associated with the show. If she leaves, doesn’t it seem like all hell will break loose? Who is going to bring the ackright?

And while the show might take yet another dip in classiness, it just might help to keep Kandi and Todd together.

Sex On The First Date? Cynthia Bailey And Peter Thomas Did It

February 13th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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You know what’s wrong with all the relationship advice, it doesn’t take into account that everyone is not the same. You can’t paint everyone with the same tired brush. We could all save ourselves a lot of time, energy and heartache if we followed our intuition and didn’t do or agree to do things that made us uncomfortable, we’d be in pretty good shape.

While it might not be in some of our nature to hop into bed with a man on the first date, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed. Just ask Cynthia Bailey and Peter Thomas.

The couple appeared on a Valentine’s Day episode of “The Real” where they discussed who fell in love on first sight and their pet names for each other.

Take a look at the videos below.

 

And since we’re on the topic of #RHOA couples, Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker recently appeared on “The Steve Harvey Show” advising women on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom. The segment was cool and Steve had a good joke in there but I just really like watching Kandi and Todd together. They’re too cute.

Check them out in the video below.

“It Really Pissed Me Off What You Said”: Kandi Burruss And Tameka Raymond Settle Beef Over Kandi’s Past Crush On Usher

January 30th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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In today’s ‘Who knew?’ I’m wondering how many people actually knew that Tameka Raymond and Kandi Burruss had some bad blood over the years because of Usher?

Kandi broke it down on a recent episode of her show, Kandi Koated Nights. According to the singer, when Burruss joked about having a crush on Usher (who she was good friends with), Tameka Raymond talked very crazy about her on social media, because Usher and Tameka were going through their split. When someone on Twitter claimed that Burruss said that she would have sex with Usher, Raymond said this:

“Girl that doesn’t surprise me, there isn’t many left in town that she hasn’t so…… Go figure.”

From there, Burruss decided she was done with Raymond, and they didn’t speak for some time.

But in an attempt to hold less grudges in life, Burruss invited Raymond on the show so that they could bury the hatchet–and talk sex of course. Check out what the ladies had to say about why they were pissed at one another, and how they were able to let it go:

Kandi Burruss: I had promised myself I wasn’t f**king with you no more, Tameka! Never! Because I’m one of those type of people, it’s like, once I fall out with you, it’s done. I’m working on that. But years ago, we had an internet beef…it really pissed me off what you said.

Tameka Raymond: What did I say though?

Burruss: You said…This is what happened. I was on the show with Andy, “Watch What Happens Live” one year. They wanted me to say, like a person that you have a celebrity crush on. So I was like, “I don’t have a celebrity crush,” but they were like, “Okay, you gotta just say somebody.” So I wanted to say somebody who was black and successful.

Raymond: Hmph. Okay.

Burruss: Which was, at the time, Usher.

Raymond: Oh!

Burruss: Y’all were not together anymore.

Raymond: It don’t matter.

Burruss: How it don’t matter?

Raymond: Let me tell you why it doesn’t matter. My break up was very fresh at the time, the scars were very wide open, at the time. I was still getting a few kisses, at the time. So when you break up with someone and someone that you guys know together mutually kind of puts it out there that ‘that’s my celebrity crush’… my thought was, well how long has this crush been hampering?

I wouldn’t say that we were friends, but I would never as your associate, say that I have a crush on…like if God forbid you and Todd don’t work out, I wouldn’t get on TV and say, “My crush is Todd.” You would be looking like, how long has that been going on? And it felt like because he was local, it was kind of like, well, let me put this out there and maybe he’ll grab it at some point.

Burruss: That’s how you took it. After sitting here listening to you, I see how you took it.  But for me, I was like, ‘What the f**k is she talking about?’ It pissed me off so bad because he and I have been cool for years. So we had some words and at that point I was kind of pissed off. I felt like, ‘we cool!’ So I didn’t understand why you went all extra on Twitter.

Raymond: Listen, I was a little emo. My son might have been a year old when this thing happened. It was a fresh wound. And the break up was fresh and I was hopeful at the time. It was a long time ago. It’s past us. And guess what? Community property is community property…

Afterwards, Burruss spoke further about moving past her issues with Raymond on Instagram:

Nice to see they were able to move forward. But do you think Kandi was in the wrong back in the day, or was Raymond overreacting?

Mama Joyce Experiences A Change Of Heart About Todd: “Todd Is Doing Well Now”

January 14th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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It appears that Mama Joyce has somewhat let down her guard down with her son-in-law, Todd Tucker. In a recent interview, the reality TV mom spoke about Todd’s current projects and how hard he’s been working lately.

“Todd is doing well now,” she told Radar Online. “He has a show and I hope they stay together and be happy. I have accepted that they are together and she loves him.”

Although she made it clear in the past that she did not want her daughter to marry the reality television producer, Joyce says that she has come to accept her daughter’s decision.

“I made up my mind that if that’s who she chose then I am happy for her. I am not going to stress about it and I’m just going to accept it.”

As for why she was so against their marriage, Joyce claimed that she was simply trying to protect her daughter.

“I want my child to be happy and I didn’t want her to be taken advantage of. I wanted Kandi to marry somebody that had as much as she did.”

Of course, some felt that she only wanted to protect Kandi’s finances for her own personal gain, but Joyce says that it wasn’t about her and that she has never taken advantage of her daughter.

“I didn’t take from Kandi, I didn’t use her ever,” she explained. “Kandi respects me and Kandi knows I raised her by myself and I sacrificed for her and I never spent her money. I was the one that helped her accumulate what she has.”

Though she seems to be making peace with her daughter’s marriage, it doesn’t appear that she’s looking to tame that mouth of hers.

“I think I am just straight up,” she continued. “People that know me love me to death. But I’m real. I say what other people are thinking because I don’t think there is anything to hide.”

Mama Joyce will always be Mama Joyce, but at least it appears that she’s at least thinking about butting out of Todd and Kandi’s business.

What Went Wrong? Supergroups That Could Have Been Awesome, But Were A Bust

December 17th, 2014 - By Asha Boston
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A lot of popular musicians admire one another and often work together on projects. But every now and then, these people try to come together to create an actual supergroup of sorts. Multiple established individuals working under one name, one sound. And while the idea of supergroups is cool, many don’t make it. Why? Label conflict, big egos, and sometimes, fans just aren’t feeling what they’re selling. Here are 10 examples of supergroups that have been a bust for a variety of reasons.

 

Peach Candy

Peach Candy

Ever wonder what it’d be like if “Real Housewives of Atlanta” crossed over with “Love and Hip Hop”? Meet Peach Candy. Comprised of singer/songwriter Kandi Burruss and rapper Rasheeda Buckner-Frost, the duo provided a unique sound of crunk/hip-hop tracks with an R&B flare. The group disbanded because of their busy schedules and never released an album (they ladies are still close friends though). But they did release several singles like “Crazy,” “Bam,” “Wish I Never” and “Rain At Home” featuring Lil Scrappy.

Kandi Reflects On Fighting & Making Up With Miss Sharon

December 15th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Before last night’s airing of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Kandi addressed a dispute she had with her late mother-in-law , Miss Sharon. Part of their fight appeared on this week’s episode.

“It’s so weird watching this episode knowing that #MamaSharon isn’t here anymore,” Kandi wrote on Instagram. “I truly miss her! On tonight’s episode you’ll see her let me have it about the things that were said about her, but what you won’t see is how two seconds later she was ready to go have fun.

The cool part about Sharon was that she would speak her mind & put you in your place if she needed to but as soon as she got it off her chest she was giving you hugs & wanting to have fun together. #RIPSharon”

As previously reported, Miss Sharon passed away earlier this month after suffering a fatal stroke. The reality TV mom was discovered by a friend of Todd’s, who rushed her to the hospital. She slipped into a coma that night and passed away the following morning.

Kandi And Todd Speak On Miss Sharon’s Death: “I Don’t Know What To Do. I’m Lost!”

December 3rd, 2014 - By Brande Victorian
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Last night we reported the sad news that “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Todd Tucker lost his mother, Miss Sharon, yesterday after she suffered a fatal stroke. At the time, neither Todd nor his wife Kandi had put out a statement on Miss Sharon’s passing, but last night, in the midst of their grief, the newlywed couple took to Instagram to remember Miss Sharon and express their sadness over their loss.

Todd posted a picture with his mother, writing:

Today I lost my partner, my ride or die my best friend! I don’t know what to do? I’m lost! My heart hurts so much! She was a fighter, a warrior for her son! It was me and her against the world! She’s in a better place!! Mom I love you to death! Rest in peace!

Kandi also took to IG, posting the picture above with this caption:

Today has been a tough day. Our family has suffered a terrible loss. Sharon was the best mother in-law! She was fun, energetic, loving, & caring. I loved how she liked to get up & go all the time. She would get you in check one minute & give you a hug the next minute. She still had a young spirit. It’s unbelievable that she’s gone. I’m so sad for@todd167 because they were so close… He talked to her every morning & all thru out the day, every day. It’s hard losing people that you love but when it’s out of the blue with no warning it just makes it that much harder…. I’m still in shock.

Porsha Williams instagramed a message of support to Kandi and Todd as well, saying “My prayers are with The Tucker family tonight! Todd your Mother Miss Sharon was a beautiful soul & so loving she will be missed. Love you guys.”

We’re sending our prayers to Kandi and Todd as well.