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If you watched Sunday’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” then you know that Phaedra and Porsha met up to chat with one another about Cynthia telling everyone that Phae Phae has been cheating on Apollo. During their conversation, Kandi’s name was brought up. Porsha tried to infer that Kandi has not been a good friend to Phaedra, and Phaedra did agree that homegirl has not been there for the very difficult time she has had dealing with Apollo and his legal issues. Both women felt that Kandi has been choosing sides, specifically her husband Todd’s side, and we all know he is #TeamApollo.
Interesting enough, knowing that Phaedra is not happy with Kandi these days, NeNe encouraged Kandi and the rest of the women to take part in counseling so that they could work on their issues. Kandi initially says no, but NeNe informs her that she needs to come along because her friendship with Phaedra is not in a good place–something Kandi was unaware of.
In a new blog post about Sunday’s episode, Kandi expressed her frustration with the whole situation, specifically that her so-called BFF was talking about her behind her back to Porsha. Here’s what she said when she was asked about NeNe’s idea for everyone to take part in counseling:
“I thought it was a waste of my time, but that’s because I didn’t know what Phaedra was saying behind my back. It’s crazy watching the show and hearing Porsha and Phaedra discuss how I’m not a friend and that I’m siding with Apollo because my husband and Apollo are friends, and blah, blah, blah. At the time that they had that conversation, I didn’t even know Phaedra had a problem with me like that. I have argued with Todd defending Phaedra. I have defended Phaedra when Apollo came around talking B.S. to everyone about their relationship. There have been plenty of times that I have taken up for Phaedra. No one can say that I have taken anybody’s side against her. Last week at the dinner Phaedra was sitting next to NeNe and Porsha. I was on the other side of the table. They were the closest to her, so they should’ve been the first to grab her. They are her friends too… Right? There is so much more I could say on this subject, but I’m going to let it go.”
As someone who has watched the series for some time now, I can say that Kandi has gone out of her way to defend Phaedra, and at times, it has caused unnecessary drama in her relationship with Todd in the past. They have enough issues right now…So to see the way things are playing out between Phaedra and Kandi is disappointing, especially when you consider that Phaedra is talking to everyone BUT Kandi about their issues.
“I’ll Just Put It On After He’s Asleep”: Kandi Says She And Todd Came To A Compromise About Her Bonnets
Last week we showed you a preview clip of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In it, Kandi and Todd were conversing about the lack of sex they’ve been having lately. If you’ve been keeping up with this season, you already know that Kandi said they were only doing it once a week, which isn’t good considering that they’re supposed to be in the process of trying to have a child. But as their correspondence went on that lack of sex, Todd blamed the fact that Kandi stays with a bonnet on her head as the reason why he can’t get in the mood.
Todd: “Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Kandi: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: “If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on.’ Like, you have to compromise.”
We all know that this scene was filmed last year, so at this point, they should have been able to figure out this whole bonnet-rocking situation. In her weekly Bravo blog, Kandi says they are trying to come to some sort of resolution that works for them both. When asked if she was shocked by Todd putting her beloved bonnet on blast, the star responded by saying that he’s been talking crazy about her bonnet for some time now.
“No, I wasn’t surprised. He’s always talking crap about my bonnet. That’s nothing new. We’re coming to a compromise about the bonnet. I’ll just put it on after he’s asleep.”
Kandi was also asked about the growing rift in her friendship with Phaedra, which has grown because she wasn’t there for her friend during Apollo’s legal and emotional troubles. It became obvious that things weren’t in a good place not only when Kandi went to Phaedra’s house, but also when the group dinner went left:
“Honestly I was just over it. Every time we all get together there has to be some lame ass ‘tea’ spilled, and I’m just tired of it. Seeing Phaedra jump up was shocking, but clearly she wasn’t really going to hit Kenya and Kenya definitely wasn’t going to do anything.
What tripped me out was hearing Porsha and Phaedra make me out to be the enemy because I left the table two seconds later than they did. That just felt like they said, ‘Hey, we’re going to put Kandi in the middle of this drama in some way.’ Well if Phaedra is really going to play into this whole “Kandi’s not my friend because she didn’t jump into my argument and run out the room faster than me,’ then OK… So be it.”
She also admitted that she’s not crazy about Phaedra’s growing relationship with NeNe, but she’s willing to be understanding and supportive.
“Of course I’m skeptical. NeNe has been nice these last few months, but that does not make me forget the years of drama and insults that have come from her in the past. Yes, I get that people change, but it’s OK for me to proceed with caution as I would’ve thought Phaedra would. Well, hopefully things will continue to be great with them and NeNe can continue to be Phaedra’s rock.”
As for what Phaedra thinks, in her own Bravo blog she stated that NeNe only has good intentions. In fact, she says that NeNe called her daily when she was going through a lot with Apollo while folks like Kandi didn’t.
“I consider NeNe a good friend. We have not always been on the same page, however we have found a common ground of being like-minded, successful entrepreneurs and mothers of sons. When I needed a friend the most, she was there and I will always remember that. It is easy to find friends when life is going well, but it is the ones who are willing to support you during the storms that matter. During the months when my life was spinning out of control, NeNe called me every single day to see how I was doing despite her busy schedule. She sent encouraging text messages when she could not reach me. I was grateful that I had her and Porsha in my corner because they helped me through some of my most difficult days.”
While there’s nothing wrong with NeNe and Phaedra growing closer, I just hope that her friendship with Kandi doesn’t fall apart in the process. They’ve been down for too long for all that.
If you watched last night’s episode of “RHOA,” I’m sure you were just as frustrated with the ladies as I was. I was irritated not only by how thirsty folks were to put Phaedra on blast in front of everyone about cheating rumors, but also by the fact that all of a sudden, everyone is out here trying to make Kandi seem like a manipulative frenemy.
If you’ll recall, early in the episode, Kandi visited Phaedra after admitting that she hadn’t seen her in a while. Phaedra seemed happy about the visit, but during her confessional, she kept bringing up the fact that Kandi really hadn’t been there for her and that she learned who her real friends are during Apollo’s legal drama.
As the episode went on, we saw Phaedra almost throw her purse at Kenya’s head over allegations that Phae Phae had been cheating on Apollo. People, including Porsha, questioned why Kandi didn’t try and defend Phaedra from the inappropriate inquiries about whether or not she was cheating, and why she didn’t sit on the same side of the table as her friend (instead, she sat next to Claudia, Cynthia and Kenya). As previews for next week’s episode show, Kandi will continue to be questioned about her loyalty to Phaedra.
After last night’s episode, Kandi proved be pretty peeved with all the people coming for her, including both her cast mates and individuals on Twitter who said things like this:
So she decided to respond. She explained her side and also let it be known that she has no issues with Phaedra and NeNe getting close. However, considering the questionable things that NeNe has said and done in the past, she’s not sold on Mrs. Leakes…
While I’m sure that Phaedra could have used all the support she could get from Kandi and the ladies in general, Kandi has had issues with her play, her mom (as usual) and her own marriage, so she has to take care of home first…
Do you feel like Kandi is wrong for not being as supportive as Phaedra had hoped she would be? Do you think she should have stepped up in some way during the dinner confrontation? Speak on it.
We’ve already talked about the communication problems Kandi and Todd are having, all being played out on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In addition to dealing with distance and the failing of their musical, “A Mother’s Love,” the two are only having sex once a week.
And Kandi is in her feelings about it. So she suggests that they attend marriage counseling. Todd doesn’t really think it’s that deep and feels that if they make some compromises, they should be good. But apparently, “they” is just Kandi.
He did have a suggestion about how they could fix their bedroom issues.
“Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Then Kandi said: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on. Like, you have to compromise.
And then in his confessional:
“Man have you seen a lady at night with a bonnet on? The most thirstiest dude wouldn’t get it up!”
The words sound harsher typed out than they actually were, which is why I included the video at the top. So you can get a true sense. The way they discussed this situation, with jokes, laughter and even some touchy-feely throughout, I think Todd and Kandi will be just fine.
But this bonnet discussion has always been so fascinating to me. I mean, Black women have been wearing bonnets for at least a century at this point. But all of a sudden Black men are coming out of the woodworks talking about how they don’t find them sexy.
Before Todd, there was Shawn Bullard from “Match Made In Heaven” and one of our male writers made a similar comment about bonnets killing the mood in a random g-chat conversation.
I mean, I get that they’re not exactly the sexiest things around but since when did a bonnet stop someone from getting it in? As a man, you can make a production out of ripping the bonnet off before you get started or gauge your skills in the amount of time it takes for you to work it off during the deed itself.
I’m with Kandi, Todd knew about her bonnet before they got married. Just like a whole lot of other Black men. Someone suggested that Black men started dating White women and now they want to act brand new. Who knows? But the brothas gotta be more sympathetic to our hair struggle. Matter of fact, if they think back to the days when they were wearing braids and waves, they know that they used to have to sleep with a scarf on as well.
Black hair requires care.
And we’re not our hair but our hair is a part of our lives. And just like other elements of life, when it comes to sex, you just have to work around it.
I don’t know what was really going on with former “Flavor of Love” winner Deelishis and rapper Wiz Khalifa. With all his personal drama playing out on a very public level, their newly sparked “friendship” seemed a bit opportunistic.
Life after VH1 ain’t no crystal stair.
Though Deelishis always claimed, two months ago, when she posted videos of her and Wiz together, that they were just friends, folks weren’t exactly buying it and even questioned her morals. Dealing with a man who was (and still is) legally married can be a slippery slope particularly when that man is not completely over his ex wife.
So with all this in mind, people were giving Deelishis all types of side eyes.
Well, recently she appeared on Kandi Koated Nights to discuss the relationship and why she didn’t see a problem with it.
“So here’s Wiz, he’s a really nice guy. He’s cool. He’s a stoner. They got together and I thought it was a really nice union. However, when I was approached with going out to the concert or whatever– I’m still a woman– and I don’t know her personally so I don’t have any responsibility or any loyalty to ‘Yo, I can’t talk to you because you were once married to Amber Rose.’ No, she’s one that I respect as an entertainer but I don’t know her. So I obliged. And from the that that happened, then I was a problem because I was breaking up a marriage or a happy home. No. I was not around when that house was being wrecked. I don’t know anything about the wrecking of that home. I just said ok to an offer to go to a concert and we became friends. But as it became a big frenzy, I felt a little uncomfortable. But we’re still cool.”
Do you think Deelishis owed Amber Rose more than this? Do you think Wiz and Deelishis’ relationship was inappropriate?
It’s always amusing to hear stories about artists who passed on (or almost passed on) hit songs. For example, Rihanna’s “Umbrella” was turned down by Brittany Spears; B.O.B’s “Nothin’ on You” was turned down by Lupe Fiasco and Brittany Spears’ “…Baby One More Time” was turned down by TLC. It’s difficult to imagine that Destiny’s Child’s popular track, “Bug a Boo,” may have become the hit of another ‘90s group, but according to Kandi Burruss, who helped pen the track, that’s exactly what almost happened.
“When we first played the track ‘Bug A Boo’ to Destiny’s Child, I remember, they were kinda looking like, ‘Eh, I don’t know about this,’” Burruss told Yahoo Music.
Burruss went on to say that the girls weren’t really crazy about the tempo of the track.
“If you can remember what the track is like, it was like really fast. At the time people weren’t really singing over those types of tracks. You’d look at it as something they’d rap over,” she said.
Of course, queen Bey quickly called a group huddle and tried to get the ladies to be open with their feelings about the song.
“I remember Beyoncé was telling the rest of the girls, ‘Y’all, if we really don’t like this, maybe we should let him know.’ Because [the producer] She’sphere had stepped out the room,” The RHoA star recalled.
Thinking quickly, Kandi made a suggestion that ultimately won the teens over.
“I was like, ‘Well, if you don’t mind I could kinda like sing you the idea I was thinking, before you [decide],’” Kandi reflected. “They were like, ‘OK.’ At the time I think I only had like a verse and the hook kinda together. It wasn’t all the way together. It was just like a little bit of where I thought it could go. And they were like, ‘OK.’ And then we finished it together.”
The track wound up making the Top 40 list and Burruss credits her ability to speak up.
“So, it’s funny because had I not spoken up and said, ‘Hey,’ then that song would never exist,” she said.
Well, we’re definitely glad that she decided to interject when she did.
For old times’ sake…
During this past episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Kandi and Todd have been on two different pages. There were several communication issues that seemed to trip them up. Kandi’s play was canceled and in response Todd asked her if she “did her research.” And though he might have been trying to provide a solution or rationalize the cancelation, it came off as dismissive and insulting. Of course she did her research! Kandi is a businesswoman. But I digress.
Then when the two were in LA filming, Todd decided that he was going to hang back for a few days afterward and kick it with his boys.
This compounded by the fact that they’d only had sex once that week, led Kandi to believe that he might be stepping out on her. And Kandi told her friend Carmen that she suspected Todd of cheating. Sadly, all of this took place on camera.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times; when it comes to relationships, sometimes it’s just better to keep your drama and messiness behind closed doors. And as a newlywed, Kandi is also learning that lesson.
As soon as Todd and I got married he had to leave for LA to start production on his show. We went from being together every day to going weeks without seeing each other. It took some time to adjust. Things were tense for a short period of time, but we’re great now. I do regret talking about it on TV. I’m a very open person, but I’m learning that it’s not always a great idea to be an open book when it comes to your marriage.
Let the church say Amen!
We could go on and on about the couples whose marriages have failed with the help of reality tv. Though most of us don’t have cameras in our homes, the same concept applies when you consider telling your friends about every argument and issue that arises in your relationship. Sometimes…no, most times, it’s better to work it out amongst yourselves, or with a neutral third party, and keep it moving.
Basically, when you tell your friends and family about the drama in your relationship, they’re listening as people who are loyal to you…not your man or partner. They’ll be looking at him crazy from now until eternity if you ever mention anything he might have done wrong. Even after you’ve moved past the argument and the dust has settled, your people will still be holding a grudge. Not to mention, you conveniently forgot to tell them how you were acting a fool. They weren’t there for his apology and the resolution and you didn’t update them on how his behavior has changed for the better. One, because those make up stories aren’t as juicy and two, because they’re not in the relationship and have little incentive to forgive his offenses.
That’s just what happens when you invite outside opinions into your relationship.
And that’s what Kandi is doing by discussing her relationship with Todd, not only with her friend, but with millions of viewers around the country and world. Inviting them to cast judgment without knowing even half of the story. As one of my coworkers mentioned, it also adds fuel to that very messy fire Mama Joyce started. God knows the world doesn’t want her to be right about Todd. But I’m sure listening to Kandi discuss what seem like normal communication issues is making her feel really validated right now.
But it’s hard not to discuss your relationship when you roll deep with your man and cameras are following you around all the time. As we were discussing this at work, someone suggested that it might be time for Kandi and Todd to step away from RHOA in an attempt to preserve their marriage. I’ll be honest, my first reaction was “Nooooo.” I don’t even watch RHOA anymore but when I did, I always appreciated Kandi’s levelheadedness and her ability to avoid the cattiness that has been associated with the show. If she leaves, doesn’t it seem like all hell will break loose? Who is going to bring the ackright?
And while the show might take yet another dip in classiness, it just might help to keep Kandi and Todd together.
You know what’s wrong with all the relationship advice, it doesn’t take into account that everyone is not the same. You can’t paint everyone with the same tired brush. We could all save ourselves a lot of time, energy and heartache if we followed our intuition and didn’t do or agree to do things that made us uncomfortable, we’d be in pretty good shape.
While it might not be in some of our nature to hop into bed with a man on the first date, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed. Just ask Cynthia Bailey and Peter Thomas.
The couple appeared on a Valentine’s Day episode of “The Real” where they discussed who fell in love on first sight and their pet names for each other.
Take a look at the videos below.
And since we’re on the topic of #RHOA couples, Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker recently appeared on “The Steve Harvey Show” advising women on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom. The segment was cool and Steve had a good joke in there but I just really like watching Kandi and Todd together. They’re too cute.
Check them out in the video below.
“It Really Pissed Me Off What You Said”: Kandi Burruss And Tameka Raymond Settle Beef Over Kandi’s Past Crush On Usher
In today’s ‘Who knew?’ I’m wondering how many people actually knew that Tameka Raymond and Kandi Burruss had some bad blood over the years because of Usher?
Kandi broke it down on a recent episode of her show, Kandi Koated Nights. According to the singer, when Burruss joked about having a crush on Usher (who she was good friends with), Tameka Raymond talked very crazy about her on social media, because Usher and Tameka were going through their split. When someone on Twitter claimed that Burruss said that she would have sex with Usher, Raymond said this:
“Girl that doesn’t surprise me, there isn’t many left in town that she hasn’t so…… Go figure.”
From there, Burruss decided she was done with Raymond, and they didn’t speak for some time.
But in an attempt to hold less grudges in life, Burruss invited Raymond on the show so that they could bury the hatchet–and talk sex of course. Check out what the ladies had to say about why they were pissed at one another, and how they were able to let it go:
Kandi Burruss: I had promised myself I wasn’t f**king with you no more, Tameka! Never! Because I’m one of those type of people, it’s like, once I fall out with you, it’s done. I’m working on that. But years ago, we had an internet beef…it really pissed me off what you said.
Tameka Raymond: What did I say though?
Burruss: You said…This is what happened. I was on the show with Andy, “Watch What Happens Live” one year. They wanted me to say, like a person that you have a celebrity crush on. So I was like, “I don’t have a celebrity crush,” but they were like, “Okay, you gotta just say somebody.” So I wanted to say somebody who was black and successful.
Raymond: Hmph. Okay.
Burruss: Which was, at the time, Usher.
Burruss: Y’all were not together anymore.
Raymond: It don’t matter.
Burruss: How it don’t matter?
Raymond: Let me tell you why it doesn’t matter. My break up was very fresh at the time, the scars were very wide open, at the time. I was still getting a few kisses, at the time. So when you break up with someone and someone that you guys know together mutually kind of puts it out there that ‘that’s my celebrity crush’… my thought was, well how long has this crush been hampering?
I wouldn’t say that we were friends, but I would never as your associate, say that I have a crush on…like if God forbid you and Todd don’t work out, I wouldn’t get on TV and say, “My crush is Todd.” You would be looking like, how long has that been going on? And it felt like because he was local, it was kind of like, well, let me put this out there and maybe he’ll grab it at some point.
Burruss: That’s how you took it. After sitting here listening to you, I see how you took it. But for me, I was like, ‘What the f**k is she talking about?’ It pissed me off so bad because he and I have been cool for years. So we had some words and at that point I was kind of pissed off. I felt like, ‘we cool!’ So I didn’t understand why you went all extra on Twitter.
Raymond: Listen, I was a little emo. My son might have been a year old when this thing happened. It was a fresh wound. And the break up was fresh and I was hopeful at the time. It was a long time ago. It’s past us. And guess what? Community property is community property…
Afterwards, Burruss spoke further about moving past her issues with Raymond on Instagram:
Lost files from last week. @tamekaraymond came & taped an episode of #KandiKoatedNights with us! My crew was shocked because she & I had past misunderstandings & normally once I fall out with someone I'm done forever. That's definitely something I need to work on. I'm glad @tamekaraymond & I finally talked because I was able to understand where she was coming from at the time & the whole thing was really dumb for us to fall out about anyway. Follow her on IG & get tickets to her #StyleTheory tour coming to a city near you! Www.styletheory.eventbrite.com & make sure to go to TGITV.com to sign up & get alerts when new #KKN episodes are available as well as watch past episodes!
Nice to see they were able to move forward. But do you think Kandi was in the wrong back in the day, or was Raymond overreacting?
It appears that Mama Joyce has somewhat let down her guard down with her son-in-law, Todd Tucker. In a recent interview, the reality TV mom spoke about Todd’s current projects and how hard he’s been working lately.
“Todd is doing well now,” she told Radar Online. “He has a show and I hope they stay together and be happy. I have accepted that they are together and she loves him.”
Although she made it clear in the past that she did not want her daughter to marry the reality television producer, Joyce says that she has come to accept her daughter’s decision.
“I made up my mind that if that’s who she chose then I am happy for her. I am not going to stress about it and I’m just going to accept it.”
As for why she was so against their marriage, Joyce claimed that she was simply trying to protect her daughter.
“I want my child to be happy and I didn’t want her to be taken advantage of. I wanted Kandi to marry somebody that had as much as she did.”
Of course, some felt that she only wanted to protect Kandi’s finances for her own personal gain, but Joyce says that it wasn’t about her and that she has never taken advantage of her daughter.
“I didn’t take from Kandi, I didn’t use her ever,” she explained. “Kandi respects me and Kandi knows I raised her by myself and I sacrificed for her and I never spent her money. I was the one that helped her accumulate what she has.”
Though she seems to be making peace with her daughter’s marriage, it doesn’t appear that she’s looking to tame that mouth of hers.
“I think I am just straight up,” she continued. “People that know me love me to death. But I’m real. I say what other people are thinking because I don’t think there is anything to hide.”
Mama Joyce will always be Mama Joyce, but at least it appears that she’s at least thinking about butting out of Todd and Kandi’s business.