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Celebrities are so funny, especially on social media. For better or worse, mediums like Instagram and Twitter have the potential to really expose a person’s true character. We find out who is thoughtful, conscious, concerned about the world around them. We see which ones will tell you a lie to sell you a dream. (*cough* Flat Tummy Tea.) And my personal favorite, is that social media gives us the opportunity to learn each celebrity’s threshold of petty.
While public figures may think they’re slick with their post and delete, the liking of shady pictures and statuses, we know what’s up. And the ultimate sign of petty is the “unfollow.” Tamar Braxton found herself the topic of discussion recently when the internet discovered that she had unfollowed “friends” Toya Wright and Monica Brown. What made the situation even more interesting was that she did so shortly after each one of them appeared on “The Real.”
When people asked her why she’d done that, Tamar tried to clean it up, suggesting that she only unfollowed because these two were posting too much and too often on their timelines. No one believed her.
Well, on a recent sit down with “The Breakfast Club,” Wright spoke about her relationship with Tamar and offered another reason as to why she might have been feeling a bit salty.
Angela Yee: She was upset that you went on the show, allegedly, we don’t know if that’s what the real situation was?
Toya: That is.
Charlemagne: So she was blocking you from making appearances on “The Real”?
Toya: I mean, I will say this. I was out promoting— you know I came here when they did “My Super Sweet 16.” I did a promo tour for that. Somebody reached out about me going on the show and her response was they wasn’t allowing any reality stars on the show is what I was told. So I’m like, ‘Ok.’ Turn next week, Tiny, Shekinah’s on there. So I’m like, ‘Ok cool. It’s whatever.’ I ain’t tripping off that. I did Wendy Williams. After that, my publicist reached out this time for me to get on the show and they said they never heard about me coming on the show. So it was a like a first time thing. I did the show not to throw shade, not to be disloyal, to promote my project. I’m working. I don’t have a platform. I don’t have a television show that comes on every Tuesday. So any time I’m able to promote what I’m working on, of course I’m going to take that. And if you’re my friend you’re going to be supportive of that because you want to see me win, right?
So I’m like, I go and do it and then when I leave, the next day, it’s like all of this stuff all in the media like ‘Tamar Braxton unfollowed Toya and such and such’ because they appeared on the show. I’m like, ‘Is this real?’ So I make a phone call to someone just to make sure that it’s real before I even— my friend was like ‘Yeah, she just felt like you were going on the show and blah, blah, blah.’ And I was like, ‘Okay…but I wasn’t going on the show to take her job. I was just going on the show to promote my book.’
One thing my loyalty has never been questioned by a real friend. All of my friends that’s been my friends are still my friends. Industry friends, my old friends from back in the days are my friends. I don’t compete with my friends, I don’t hate on my friends, I don’t knock my friends. I want all my friends to win. If I consider you a friend, I’m happy for you. Anything you’re doing, I’m going to support.
And I have nothing against Tamar, she’s a cool girl. But in that situation, it shows me, you were never my friend. Because you would never get mad…First of all, I’ll clear this up, I hadn’t spoken to Tamar, it was like 8-9 months. We don’t talk all the time. We have a mutual friend which is Tiny. And Tamar and I became friends from Tiny. We were cool but not to where she’s like my best friend. I still consider her to be a cool girl. I done went to her house, she done came to my house. We done hung out together. So she’s a friend of mine. But for that situation to take place, that was a little petty to me.
Because when I had that situation going on with K. Michelle, I wasn’t mad that you performed with her. That’s your job! Like I would never. I’m not that type of girl, ever. And all my friends know that. I don’t expect you not to grace the stage with her if you do the same thing and this is how you promote your music. You have to do what you have to do. I don’t come in between your coins. And I feel like a friend shouldn’t come in between me trying to better myself. And then they like, ‘The network was being shady because they know y’all friends…’ I don’t even think it was that deep.
Yee: You’d been trying to get on the show.
Charlemagne: Why do you think they weren’t letting you on the show when she was there? You think it was her blocking?
Toya: I mean, I just don’t know. It just didn’t work out. It’s not my first book, this is my third book. I haven’t been on tv in a while but I did “Marriage Bootcamp,” I did “Untying the Knot,” I did my daughter’s “My Sweet 16.” I had things to promote. And I wrote a book before this book so why was I able to go on this book and not the book before.
Charlemagne: And you were able to go on Wendy, if you go on Wendy, you can go on “The Real.”
Toya: It just didn’t add up. But hey, it is what it is. I wish her the best. I just wish things work out with whatever. I was never trying to be shady, I’m not a shady girl. I don’t play those type of games. So if you work at Saks and you get fired from Saks, I can’t go to Saks no more? I love Saks.
Charlemagne: So you think she just wanted you to call her and say you got booked for “The Real”?
Toya: So…do you call me for stuff that’s work related?
When she came to my brothers’ funeral, I was actually surprised to see her. I thought it was a really nice gesture to come. But like I said, I hadn’t spoken to her in a long time. I remember I hit her, all of my friends posted my book but her. So I said, ‘Can you post my book for me?’ And she was like, she can’t post the book because her team is against whatever, because it’s called How To Lose a Husband. First of all, it’s not about how to lose a husband. And if my team tell me I can’t promote my friend, that’s shady. So I’m just like, that’s how she get down. And I just don’t— like I said, ‘When people show you who they are, believe them.’ I don’t want a friend like that.
Charlemagne: She unfollowed Monica too, have y’all talked about that?
Toya: No comment.
Yee: You’re like we wasn’t that tight.
Toya: I mean we was cool on the strength of Tameika and we developed our own friendship. But if you get mad with me for something like that and you don’t pick up the phone and call me, and you decide to do this big, public thing, you’re not my friend. That’s not cool.
You can watch the entire interview in the video below.
I’ll never forget my cousin’s second wife. Though he’s on his fifth one now, it was the second one who taught me a valuable lesson. She was a very attractive woman, face always beat to the nines. And one evening, she was giving my aunt a tutorial on her makeup routine. As I watched her, I was shocked by the amount of foundation she put on. Layer, after layer. And then what took me all the way out was when she proceeded to cover my aunt’s entire neck. I was mortified. And I vowed then and there that I would never be the type of woman who was scared to leave the house without makeup. I’d never be the type of woman to cover my neck with foundation.
I’m glad I made the choice because in today’s society we’re so conditioned to seeing women fully beat and done up, that when she shows herself, naturally, as she was born, without makeup or a filter, people have all types of questions. Is she sick? Is she on drugs? What happened?!
And to me, that’s really a sad statement.
We saw that very thing in action this weekend with Keke Palmer. The young actress posted this picture on Snapchat.
She was talking about her love of tanning. But after it went live, someone took a screenshot and the image went viral on Twitter. But people weren’t talking about the tanning. They were talking about Keke. People said she’d “fallen off,” that she was “washed.” They said she looked older than her real age. Some suggested that she was on drugs. Someone even through the word ‘disgusting’ out there.
Thankfully there were those who came to her defense, including singer K Michelle.
Keke Palmer is beautiful, and some no-courage crusty asses scared to post their own makeup-free selfies gonna hate? pic.twitter.com/NAVLh0aR5L
— Akilah Hughes (@AkilahObviously) May 21, 2016
Keke Palmer literally just took a selfie w/no makeup and is being accused of drugs. What kind of mental gymnastics are y’all trying today??!
— Dementor (@TheSassyPhoenix) May 21, 2016
@KekePalmer gets dragged on Twitter bc of a photo with no makeup, but let some girl with lighter skin do it and she gets praised
— drink some water (@ellistress) May 21, 2016
I’m glad somebody said it. I’m certainly not here to tell any woman how she should or shouldn’t dress or present herself to the world. But there is something wrong with people publicly shaming someone for their looks and suggesting that her natural appearance is wrong. It’s sentiments like this that keep the magazine industry photoshopping celebrities until they’re unrecognizable on their covers. It’s thoughts like this that make women, famous and not, scared to leave the house with a bare face, for fear that someone might hurl the same judgement they lodged at Keke onto them. Not to mention, women are the only ones who are taught to fix, adjust, enhance their natural selves when they step out of the house. Men can roll out of the bed with crust in their eyes, dirty, smelly balls, hair uncombed and be well-received.
And what’s even so hypocritical about it all is that the very same people who went in on this photo will be the same men telling women they like women natural, without makeup. It’s hard out here for us. So much so, you can’t even take a selfie sans a filter without people wanting to throw stones.
This week’s news cycle has been quite juicy. From all the drama that transpired after PartyNextDoor posted a picture of himself in bed with Kehlani, the backlash she received, most notably from Chris Brown, and then the announcement of her suicide attempt. And after all of that, both Kehlani and Kyrie acknowledged that there was no cheating on anybody’s part.
That’s more than enough for one week. But it didn’t stop there. Shortly after that, Karrine Steffans posted a photo, video and a couple of tweets, stating that she and Columbus’ marriage was over because she discovered that he was cheating, even though Karrine is the one who supplied him with shelter.
There’s even more than that, with our segments like What Would You Do?, Who’d You Rather? and Cold Tea. Check it all out in the video above.
On Post-Traumatic Embitterment Disorder And Why K. Michelle, Janet Hubert & The Rest Of Us Need To Forgive
There’s a big difference between being aware of the way people have treated you in the past while using that to propel you forward, and just being bitter.
And despite how ugly the word sounds, many of us have embodied it at one time or another, and been “angry, hurt, or resentful because of one’s bad experiences or a sense of unjust treatment.”
I know I’ve been bitter. Man, was I ever bitter! When an individual I used to call a friend tried to get me booted from my job, I held on to that rage for longer than was comfortable. I stooped to her level, and it did nothing but hold me back.
Janet Hubert is bitter. That’s why she’s become the go-to commentator on anything that has to do with her archnemesis Will Smith and his family. And no, as Charing Ball pointed out last month, bitterness doesn’t efface the points that she’s made about them that we can agree with, but it clouds her statements and emanates from her when she does those computer videos with the comic book filter. And I’ve had a less than pleasant conversation with her in the past, so trust me, I know what I’m talking about.
K. Michelle is bitter. And most of us would say that she has the right to be. If you told your story of abuse and the wife of the man who abused you called you a liar, you would be upset too. But watching her go back and forth with Toya Wright on social media last night, gleeful that she could say, “I told you so!” as Wright’s marriage falls apart (and she tries to make money off of it with How To Lose a Husband…), I couldn’t help but shake my head, especially at the people cheering her on. Sure people tried to ruin her, but they failed. Why not celebrate that? Why not celebrate that you could forgive and forget with Tamar Braxton, who also called you a liar? Why focus on detractors proven wrong?
Anyone in your life who is holding on to resentment over what you or someone else did to them to the point that it is consuming them, or they can only see what everyone else did to them but not their own part in disappointing situations, is bitter. And, again, while we all might have the right to temporarily be this way, to hold on to such anger for the long-term is not only unsightly, but it’s not safe.
Bitterness makes for some cold-blooded clapbacks and entertainment for people on social media, but it’s dangerous. Studies have shown that bitterness can easily turn into an adjustment disorder. Whether you’ve lost a job or hang on to resentment over something more or less significant, if you haven’t been able to move forward from it, it can turn into post-traumatic embitterment disorder. And that doesn’t just mean that you end up filled with rage, sadness or anxiety. According to research, it can actually impact everything from your organ function to your immune system.
So while we might smile and laugh on the outside while we talk about how karma is a bitch and that we’re having the last laugh when our former foes or detractors find themselves dealing with a series of unfortunate events, I don’t think we realize how much we’re tainting ourselves from the inside.
Dr. King once said in his “Love and Forgiveness” speech in front of the American Baptist Convention that “Men are slow to forgive. We live by the philosophy of getting even, of paying back or saving face. And we bow before the altar of retaliation.” In today’s world, we call such behaviors being “petty,” and we laugh about it. Applaud it, “sip tea” and take front row seats to such displays.
But “war is obsolete,” as Dr. King said. And the “ever-rising tide of revenge” does nothing but leave a trail of damage inside and out. It fixes nothing; it doesn’t bring the peace of mind that we are so are desperately in need of.
And despite the fact that so many celebrities and people love to compare the criticism they get and what they go through to Jesus (i.e., “They killed Jesus so I’m not surprised ___ would do this to me!”), many of us aren’t in the forgiving business. But at the end of the day, people don’t tell you to forgive just because it sounds nice. It’s more for you than for anyone else. How can one move on and remove the hump that is bitterness if we harp on the past? And while we harp and make ourselves ill, the people whom we feel did us so wrong bat not one single eyelash at our pain.
So as someone who recently worked to let go of the ugliness that is bitterness, I don’t applaud when others hold onto it and pull it out to go on attack mode when it suits them. If you’re someone who claims to be happy and “blessed” and a fighter, it’s contradictory to hold on to your hurt for dear life so others can cheer you on when you bring it up or so you can use it to throw darts and celebrate the misfortunes of people in your past. We know you’ve been through things. Who hasn’t? But when does it become unhealthy to harp on it?
Just last month, we told you that K. Michelle was decreasing the size of her surgically enhanced posterior to advance her career.
Well, in a little over a month’s time, the singer and reality star has done just that.
She revealed her new smaller booty, which she calls Betsy, in a series of Instagram shots.
And here’s another one, with another angle.
We’ll see what new ventures come K. Michelle’s way now that her measurements are a bit smaller.
Interestingly enough, K. Michelle’s career choices seems to be moving in a bit of reverse direction.
During a recent tour stop, the singer/songwriter, who already has the “K. Michelle: My Life” show on VH1, announced that she would be returning to “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta.”
This is certainly an interesting development considering K. Michelle left the show because she didn’t want to keep blocking her blessings by behaving so negatively in front of the camera. Perhaps she wants to show the world and her former castmates that she’s truly turned over a new leaf. But if our knowledge of reality shows proves anything, I’d bet that she’s going to go back and continue to kick up dust. After all, that’s what made her a household name in the first place.
What do you think about K. Michelle’s new booty? Is it a wise decision for her to return to “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta”?
We told you last week that Toya Wright was out here giving estranged husband Mickey “Memphitz” Wright eight days out of the year where he could go and do just about anything, and anybody. And despite knowing that such scandalous information was going to be shared on national television via Bravo’s new series Untying the Knot, the heat must have grown a little too hot in the kitchen, because Toya went on the radio to explain herself.
When the news of her controversial episode hit the Internet, Toya was pretty defiant against criticism, basically saying that people don’t really know her life–and that many put up with far worse for far less. But after the episode aired on Sunday, Toya claimed that producers cut her full response to Memphitz’s revelation about his eight hall passes. And she took to Twitter to let folks know that she wasn’t happy about it.
Feeling some type of way about the editing (per her words: “when they edit out what you really said”), Wright visited the Rickey Smiley Morning Show to set the record straight. So what’s up with their relationship and the hall passes?
Well, Toya and Memphitz are in the process of getting a divorce. They’ve been separated for almost nine months, and, unfortunately, “we’re moving in two different directions.”
They’ve been moving in those opposing directions for quite some time. Hence the reason for the hall passes–according to Toya:
“As far as the hall pass thing goes, I felt like I was already at the friend zone with Mickey. We were moving in two totally different directions, so go ‘head! Do what you do. That’s what you wanna do. Because guess what? My focus is on my businesses, and my No. 1 priority is my daughter. You can’t get it together and it’s so much going on, I’m not about to be bothered with that. And let me set the record straight: That stuff never came about when things was all good.”
To sum things up, Toya made it clear, in the third person, that “She’s not trying to keep no man that don’t want to be with her.”
As for one of the things that left their relationship in such a strain, Toya reiterated that Memphitz was pressed for years about the fact that he didn’t get to “defend himself” against abuse allegations coming from K. Michelle on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta.
“I really didn’t think it was a good look…I felt like that would be going backwards to go on the show and go back and forth with your ex. He has been holding that over my head. He blames me for it.”
As for that ex, K. Michelle has been sitting in the audience, like the rest of us, watching Memphitz’s shenanigans play out in front of and behind the camera. Clearly, she finds it comical because she posted this on Twitter on Sunday.
And she followed it up on Instagram with this message to the ladies, telling them to know their worth as she shared her testimony.
I don’t really have a response to all this because I don’t want to kick Toya while she’s down, nor do I want to talk crazy about K. Michelle (as the adage goes, if you don’t have anything nice to say, you have to shut that mouth…). But what do you make of all this?
Generally speaking, Kimberly “K. Michelle” Pate’s target demographic is Black women. Ironically, the same audiences that likely support her most are the ones she insists have been the most hateful towards her.
According to Pate, the attacks became particularly intense when she came forward to discuss her alleged affair with actor Idris Elba.
“I thought it was disgusting, the backlash I got from Black women,” Pate told B. Scott. “My whole career, the women that I fight for, have been the women that attack me.”
She went on to cite the time she accused ex-boyfriend, Mickey “Memphitz” Wright, of abuse and former “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” co-star Rashida Frost insisted that she was dishonest.
“It’s crazy because when I told about my abuse, Black women attacked me. And they said I was a liar. Then when the reports came out, ‘Oh, I always believed you.’ That doesn’t heal that scar that you called me a liar for two years, and I’m trying to be a role model.”
Let me just say that it was wrong for anyone to insist that K. Michelle was lying about being abused. However, I find it particularly interesting when Black celebrities come out bashing their own people. As for the Idris Elba thing, obviously, there’s a chance it did happen and there’s a chance it didn’t—and yes, there are some members of the MN team who have made up their minds that it didn’t. Considering that he has never publicly acknowledged their relationship—and that people have known him to be in a relationship with Naiyana Garth—it’s understandable why some would assume it didn’t. If Idris was the one doing all of the talking and K. Michelle was mute about it, we’d find ourselves in the same predicament. It all comes down to perception. People are entitled to their opinions. Personally, I don’t doubt that something went down, but I wouldn’t consider myself to be a K. Michelle if, for whatever reason, I didn’t believe her.
Anyone with an Internet connection and a substantial following on social media—white, black, yellow, or green—will likely be attacked by trolls. It’s a part of the game; and the bigger you become, the worse it gets. If your target audience is Black women, there’s a good chance that the majority of your critics will be Black women; if your target audience is green men with purple hair, it’s safe to make a similar assumption. The same goes for any other demographic. To insist that Black women have somehow collectively conspired against you when many of them are the same ones supporting you is somewhat irresponsible.
K. Michelle comes off as a bit of a conflicted person at times. Perhaps we’re all somewhat conflicted in a sense. Craziness aside, I still believe she’s extremely talented and I’d like to see her win. I hope that she finds whatever it is that she is in search of, really and truly. But I highly doubt beating up on Black women is going to help her get any closer to the life that she imagined for herself, whatever that may be.
On this week’s episode of Did Y’all See? we’re talking bitter exes and butt implants. Watch and weigh in with the editors as they discuss David Justice and Eric Benet coming for Halle Berry, K. Michelle’s decision to remove her butt injections, and Yusaf Mack coming out of the closet.
Reality star Kimberly “K. Michelle” Pate is planning to have the size of her butt reduced—for career purposes. The outspoken singer made the interesting revelation during an interview with Love B. Scott Apparently, she arrived at the decision after having a heart-to-heart with Tyrese.
“I have like movies and different things [I’m working on], and I was having a real conversation with Tyrese — we’re really like great friends. I was telling him about my butt, how I hate being typecasted because my bottom is so heavy — not saying I don’t love myself, but…you know.”
Pate adds that her behind has become a distraction when it comes to business deals.
“For me, I want my normal shape back,” she explained. “For me, and my career right now, and me doing business — like really being on the frontline in business — I don’t need to have a man looking down at my a– when I’m trying to talk numbers. I don’t need to not be able to get the role. Like, I wanna be in ‘Jurassic Park’! Let me be in ‘Jurassic Park’! I don’t need to not be able to run through Jurassic Park because my ass is too heavy. Before the dinosaurs come to eat me, I need to be able to go!”
As for why she chose to go the butt enhancement route in the first place, Pate’s answer is simple: “I just wanted it. I wanted that shape. That’s the shape that I wanted.”
But now, she’s ready to move on.
“I think the older you get, you get tired of having to hop into your jeans!”
Around this time last year, K. Michelle was dropping hints about a past fling (or relationship…or whatever) with Idris Elba. Slowly but surely, she divulged more and more before she eventually shared with the world that while working together on her Rebellious Soul hip-hopera for VH1, they were fooling around. That is until she realized that he was also seeing another woman who was having his son: girlfriend, Naiyana Garth. As she told Necole Bitchie last year:
“He told me about the baby that was about to be born. But he also told me that…you know, we always wanna listen to men, and we always want to make excuses for them in order not to pay attention and basically, I was like a glorified side-chick. And sometimes you don’t even know you’re the side-chick until you look back and say, ‘Damn b***h, I was the side-chick, got damn.’ But he had this baby, and he just wasn’t for the baby’s mother. And you know, he wasn’t about her. And he spent a lot of time with me for eight months. A lot of time with me, here in America. A lot of time was spent.”
After revealing that her second album, Anybody Wanna Buy A Heart, was basically all about him and the ups and downs of their time together, she went on a press tour about it. However, Elba remained mum about her claims. And to this day, he hasn’t acknowledged them or the singer. But K. Michelle is still singing about the Englishman as she prepares for her third album. In fact, she’s bashing him, Garth, and Elba’s musical aspirations. He was recently featured on a song with Nigerian musician D’Banj called “Confidential.” But K. Michelle isn’t feeling any of it:
I think we’ve all been there when it comes to putting ourselves out there for a man who wasn’t worth it. It sucks. But man, oh man, she is quite hurt. And it probably has a lot to do with the fact that while she’s put her heart and her feelings out there, he’s still acting like he doesn’t know her from Adam…
What do you think of her new song and her thoughts about her former flame?