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My Apology To Meagan Good: I Was Wrong To Judge You

July 12th, 2013 - By Caresse Spencer
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Source: WENN

Dear Meagan,

I wish I were writing this letter on behalf of all those in the Christian community who didn’t look at you on stage at the BET Awards and pass judgement, but I’m not. Instead, I’m writing as one who was actually on-air expressing my concerns about your attire. In the midst of a casual, comical discussion of the BET Awards, I mentioned your dress, wanting to stop short of judgement, but nevertheless I succumbed. I tried to clean it up afterwards, but the damage had already been done. My words sparked conversation amongst our listeners who also chimed in (via Twitter) with their judgmental commentary, and although you more than likely weren’t tuned in to our little radio show to hear, I felt horrible. To know that I passed judgement on another human being and, by doing so, invited others to do the same, is shameful.

I recently read your response to all the backlash, and my heart burned. It’s a shame how easy it is for us to throw out words about people with no thought of how those words will affect them — as if celebrities aren’t real people with real feelings. I will admit, Meagan, that I think you are a beautiful woman who is in a position as a pastor’s wife to show young girls and women how to be beautifully modest, in accordance with what our Christian faith promotes. Nevertheless, no one deserves to be socially stoned as you have been.

Others might ridicule and act without compassion, but why do Christians do this to each other? When we do it, it’s in direct contrast to the founder and perfecter of our faith; even knowing that, somehow that doesn’t stop us. It didn’t stop me. And I realized today just why. I fail to acknowledge things in my life that would raise eyebrows if they were broadcasted for all to see — my thoughts alone, not to mention my actions, would be embarrassing enough. All the things which might not be on stage at the BET Awards for everyone to analyze—but are certainly still in my heart, which God is highly acquainted with—would leave me covered in a pile of stones, had it not been for grace.  I could only look at you with such a judgmental stare, because I’m not being honest with who I see in the mirror. God looks at the heart, so it doesn’t matter how covered I am when I walk around. He sees all of our sin-filled hearts that need repairing. He knows why we do everything we do, and He is the only suitable judge.  Thank you for reminding me, and I hope more people, of that.

The grace you and I both attest to receiving from God, by way of His son Jesus, is not something to be abused, so of course we must continue to allow Him to change us from the inside-out. But not the other way around.

Again, my apologies Meagan for not regarding you as a person, even more a sister in Christ, that I should speak about with compassion or pray for if I had any concerns. I want to encourage you to allow Jesus’ perfect life and reflection of His Father’s holiness to stir you to be the best ambassador you can be, and I am sure of this, that if He began a good work in you, He will bring it to completion. As He must also do for my judgmental and often hypocritical heart.

Grace and Peace

Is It True? Miguel Takes To Twitter To Rant About Judgmental Black Folks: “We Are The Most Critical Of Our Own”

May 28th, 2013 - By Clarke Gail Baines
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Not 100% sure what spurred such a soap-box speech, but while you were minding your business, Miguel was out here letting black folks know that we’re doing the absolute most. To be specific, according to the “Adorn” singer, we are way too judgmental, especially when it comes to judging our own people. Here’s what he had to say yesterday on his Twitter page:

“…yet most of these people pointing the finger wear things like “the cross” around their neck. Historically, a PAGAN symbol.

Im proud of my heritage but honestly, black people are the most judgmental people in the world. Shits sad man.

we’ve been conditioned, pre-programmed to hate ourselves

that’s why I appreciate those who choose to think and act for themselves regardless of ethnicity or culture.

the problem can not be fixed until the problem is recognized. Not everyone is the same thank goodness. And obviously, I love all my fans

Of course EVERYONE is judgemental. I just PERSONALLY believe WE are the most critical of our own

Once again, I’m not sure what pushed the singer to speak out about his disappointment with the judgmental folks in the black community. Maybe he didn’t appreciate the side-eye he was given after the whole Billboard Awards, Miguel leg-drop stuff (and the many GIFs and memes that were made in a span of minutes over it).  Maybe he was just having a bad evening. Or maybe, just maybe, he just wanted to stop singing about adorning chicks with his love and buying them drinks so that he can do so in order to school some folks. Either way, it’s all very interesting to say the least, especially since it’s black folks who seem to support him the most…ah well. But what do you think about his comments on Twitter? Is he speaking the truth?

First World Problems: Nicki Minaj Was Scared ‘Idol’ Would Make Her Too Famous

January 5th, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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Actually, these aren’t first world problems; these are rich and famous people problems.

According to Zimbio, the producers and judges recently did an interview with The Hollywood Reporter in which they discussed trying to get the show back on top.  When they asked Nicki about finally agreeing to do the show after the rumors had been floating, she said:

“Sometimes you are afraid of being too famous because it’s almost, like, is that even cool? Being that accessible, someone you see on TV every week? I never pictured myself as that type of person. I’m still surprised I decided to do it.”

Wait, I think I get it. American Idol is a wildly mainstream show and it is understandable that some artists, particularly hip-hop artists, would be a little reluctant to join a show like that which airs weekly.  But that only applies to artists who have never crossed over into the mainstream world. Nicki has been part of the mainstream world so long that many would actually hesitate to still consider her a hip-hop artist or rapper; some just call her a pop artist who also raps.

She’s worried about how collecting a check for judging singers (something she doesn’t do quite well) on a major show makes her look versus the crazy hair, facial expressions and cheesy pop songs? Well, alright then. We all have to figure things out for ourselves.

Do you think that Nicki will ruin (not in a bad way though) her hip-hop image by being on American Idol?

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