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Today OWN released a teaser for the new season of “Iyanla: Fix My Life” that is sure to have people talking. Following her past of doling out tough love, Iyanla prepares viewers to watch her tackle a man whose reckless behavior has left him fathering 34 children by 17 different women. It’s no wonder OWN reports this premiere will turn into a multi-part series for this “mega-fix” because, honestly, how can you address that nonsense in an hour, let alone two?
As crazy as this situation is, we can’t wait to watch so we can get answers to the obvious questions: Does this man not believe in condoms? Who are these women who keep sleeping with this man — unprotected no less — and having multiple children by him? And most importantly, what’s wrong with all y’all? The premiere airs on September 6 at 9 p.m. EST. Watch the drama-filled teaser below.
Will you be tuning in?
When I learned that Iyanla Vanzant was traveling to Ferguson, Missouri I’ll admit I had a bit of trepidation.
I love Iyanla but the fact that she was taking her cameras with her didn’t exactly comfort me. Then there was the picture of police chief Thomas Jackson, seated with Michael Brown’s uncle, Charles Ewing, a pastor, the two of them holding hands with Iyanla’s clasped over them. I’m a Christian and I know we’re supposed to heal and forgive but it seemed to be a little too soon, no? Was that healing authentic? Had Brown’s uncle really forgiven the police department, before he’d even had a chance to bury his nephew?
It felt like too much too soon.
That’s the thing, I’ve started to question about these types of tragedies. It’s a double edged sword in losing your loved one in the public eye, the way Michael Brown’s family lost him. On the one hand, you feel an outpouring of support from strangers who affirm that your relative’s life meant something but on the other hand, the grieving process is a bit rushed and unnatural when you have to explain the depths of your sadness to the media or fight and grieve at the same time.
And apparently, I wasn’t the only one who felt Vanzant’s actions were a bit ill timed.
Though she released a statement through OWN saying she was traveling to Ferguson to “provide a set of tools to begin the healing process while also promoting peaceful change,” Black Twitter didn’t take too kindly to program. And really, that picture, the one you see above, set people off.
People interpreted the message to mean that, once again, Black people would have to be the bigger people and forgive an injustice that has yet to stop hurting and literally killing us. One person wrote:
“There’s been reports of black professors, actors, sheriffs and so on being racially profiled. How much more ‘acceptable’ do we have to be? As a black person, you should not have to prove your worth, your value in order to be treated as a human being.”
Of course, she’s right. Officer Darren Wilson hasn’t been arrested yet. The Ferguson police department has released very few, hard facts about what actually went down during the moments when Brown was killed; but somehow, in the midst of that very important work, police chief Jackson had time to sit down with Iyanla Vanzant…on camera?
And still others are questioning whether or not Vanzant traveled to Ferguson so that she could profit off of the people’s pain.
While I agree, it might have been a better idea to chill on the cameras for a minute, I don’t think she went there with ill intentions.
After all, Iyanla herself has lot a daughter. She knows what type of “work” it takes to heal from something like that, if complete healing is even possible.
And while people outside of Ferguson, looking in, may feel a way about her being there, the people on the street seemed to appreciate having her there to listen to their grievances and even found comfort in the prayers she offered at the site of Michael Brown’s death.
In her prayer, it was clear to me that Iyanla was not there to stunt. OWN’s cameras might not have captured this moment but it was a powerful one. During her prayer, she said:
“We know that in the DNA of our beings, we know what to do. And we are calling it forth right now God and we ask that you give it to us more than we fear it. We ask that you give us the voice, we ask that you give us the clarity. We ask that you give us the courage to call out the things that need to be called out to make life better for those coming up behind us.”
I always found it so interesting that people always take issue with Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson. And I guess I get it. People think that they’re “ambulance chasers” seeking to gain shine in the midst of tragedies. But I never felt that way. And listening to Sharpton eulogize Mike Brown this past week, that feeling was reaffirmed.
We might not like the way Jesse, Al or even Iyanla seek to bring awareness to these issues but they are doing something. And the only thing worse than making a mistake in doing something is doing nothing and condemning those who are trying.
Did Y’all See? is back! After going on a bit of a hiatus this summer, we’re back with new commentary from our editors discussing the shocking news that happened across the nation during the past week.
Today we’re talking about Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon’s divorce, of course. Did you see their split coming? Do you think one party is more at fault than the other?
Moving from one couple’s separation to another’s union, we’re also talking about Kevin Hart proposing to longtime girlfriend Eniko and Torrei Hart still speaking negatively about their relationship yet again. And of course we’re discussing Ferguson and, more specifically, Iyanla Vanzant’s challenge to rappers to get involved. Is it anyones place to force others to get involved in the movement or should entertainers rise to the occasion? Watch and weigh in.
Earlier we told you that Attorney General Eric Holder was traveling to Ferguson, Missouri to meet with law enforcement to discuss how they can improve the ways in which things have been run down there. It seems to be helping a bit. Today, the governor ordered that National Guard withdraw from the protests. What we didn’t know was that Holder was also planning on meeting with the parents of the slain teenager, Michael Brown.
In a recent interview with CNN’s Anderson Cooper, Brown’s parents spoke about their meeting with Holder and whether or not it restored any of their faith in the justice system.
Here’s what Michael’s mother Lesley McSpadden had to say:
You can read a person. And when you’re looking at them and they’re looking at you in your eyes, it put some trust back there, that you lost. And he did ensure that it’ll be a fair and thorough investigation.
Anderson Cooper: Do you have confidence in the investigations- the county, state and federal investigations?
Up until yesterday, I didn’t. But just hearing the words come directly from his mouth, face to face, he made me feel like one day I will. And I’m not saying today or yesterday but one day, they’ll regain my trust.
You can watch the clip of their interview below.
And in other Ferguson news, Iyanla Vanzant has traveled to the suburb of St. Louis to not only is she there filming a special episode of “Iyanla Fix My Life” but to speak to some of the protesters and community members and pray for peace and healing for Ferguson and for our very troubled nation. Today, at 3 pm she started her 14 day peace challenge while the legal process unfolds. And Iyanla not only issued the challenge, she also asked some prominent members of the Hip Hop community to join her. She said the young people feel like the elders in the community aren’t hearing them or taking part so she asked that people who young people listen to and respect should show go to Ferguson and participate in the challenge. In a video posted on her Facebook page yesterday, Vanzant challenged rappers Jay Z, LeBron James, common, Nas, Kendrick Lamar, Schoolboy Q, Drake and Lil Wayne. Take a look at it below.
While watching Iyanla’s Fix My Life on the Oprah Whitney Network, the thought has come across all of our minds for Iyanla to fix our own lives. If you can relate, your opportunity to appear on the hit OWN show has arrived. The series is currently casting for its upcoming season and if you are a woman dating a man whose family thinks he’s too good for you, the network wants to here from you.
Visit www.oprah.com and click Iyanla Fix My Life – Share Your Story to reach Iyanla’s team or call Casting today at 312.620.0203
Good luck ladies!
You’re probably used to referring to him as “that fine man on ‘Hit the Floor,’ but that fine man actually has a name. It’s Rob Riley, one of our former Evening Eye Candy’s, and we were more than happy to catch up with one of the stars of VH1’s hit show on the golden carpet at McDonald’s 365 Black Awards during Essence Fest. The former football player and actor has been getting a considerable amount of attention from the ladies these days, which should come as no surprise, and we decided to ask him what’s life like being Rob Riley walking down the street these days.
We also caught up with Will Packer, Terrence J, Iyanla Vanzant, and Tika Sumpter on the golden carpet to ask about what they have coming up next and we managed to get Will to spill the beans on his wedding plans and Tika to let us in on her latest movie project. Check out what they had to say.
On March 1, 2004, a Los Angeles woman named Bonnie saw her life change forever. Her mother, Ella, the person she relied on for nearly everything, passed away. Up until that point, Bonnie had an unbreakable bond with her mother, never having to worry about anything and leaning on her so much that Bonnie never felt the need to exert her independence. When Ella died, Bonnie felt that a part of her died, too.
Bonnie sunk into a deep depression, unable to even leave her home. As her friends grew more and more concerned, Bonnie’s weight began spiraling out of control. Three years after her mom passed, Bonnie’s father also died, further fueling her grief.
It’s now been more than seven years since Bonnie has left her home, and five years since she has gotten out of bed. The last time she stepped on a scale five years ago, Bonnie weighed 550 pounds. Now, she says she is well over 600. Unable to care for her own basic needs, Bonnie relies on her 24-year-old daughter Jamesha for survival.
Desperate to find help for Bonnie, her friends wrote to Iyanla Vanzant in hopes she could foster the emotional and physical healing necessary to save Bonnie’s life. . When Iyanla arrived in Los Angeles, she asked Bonnie to articulate how it felt to be alive without her mother. Bonnie immediately became emotional and started to cry.
Read more about Iyanla’s new season at BlackVoices.com
If you caught the season premiere of Iyanla: Fix My Life Saturday night on OWN you already know during the episode Iyanla Vanzant laid into Love and Hip-Hop’s Erica Jean something terrible. Questioning the logic of sleeping with a man (Saigon) who didn’t even know her address, much less having a child with him, Iyanla gave her some straight “mommy talk” which some thought was a bit too harsh. When we had the chance to chat with the life coach about the explosive confrontation, she not only stood by her words during that episode, but also her previous commentary about Black women being out of order and needing to do better when it comes to their partner and parenting choices.
Check out the interview above, as well as Iyanla’s thoughts on the #BringBackOurGirls movement and the influx of domestic violence plaguing Hollywood headlines these days.
“You Slept With A Man Who Doesn’t Know Your Address” Iyanla With Saigon And Erica Of Love And Hip Hop
If you’ve watched just one scene with Saigon and Erica from the last season of “Love and Hip Hop New York,” you know their relationship is strained to say the least. One minute they aren’t speaking to each other. The next they’re moving in together trying to work on co-parenting their son and then next thing you know he’s cussing her out, calling her all type of obscenities on one of the VH1 reunion couches. If you didn’t see it…you can watch it here. It was quite terrible.
But judging by the way their relationship began, it’s not really surprising that they find themselves here today. On the show, Saigon and Erica revealed that they weren’t really in a relationship when she got pregnant. Instead, they were sleeping with one another casually when she decided she wanted to have a baby and for one reason or another Saigon agreed. The issue, of course, is that neither one of them knew each other but they’ll be in each other’s lives forever now because of their son.
I don’t know, at this point, what they want from one another, whether they’re working toward a romantic relationship or just want to be more amicable so they can co-parent their son. Whatever it is, they called in Iyanla Vanzant to help them deal with their situation. Saigon loves to turn up for the camera, so I’m sure their episode will make for some heated exchanges. But judging by this clip, Saigon and Erica won’t be the only ones bringing the drama.
In the video below Iyanla scolds both Saigon and Erica (but mostly Erica) about the actions that led to this very messy situation they find themselves in today. Here’s the transcript.
Iyanla: This is what happens when you have a baby with somebody that you don’t have a relationship with.
Erica: He’s saying he didn’t know where I lived, it’s a lie
Iyanla: Instead of saying that, you should be saying ‘Oh my God, what have I done here.’ That’s what you should be saying.
Erica: You’re absolutely right. But he…
Iyanla: But don’t make it about him! Own your stuff little girl, own it!
Iyanla: The shame of it, the embarrassment of it, that you slept with a man who doesn’t know your address and had his baby. Own that. Now, that’s some mommy talk for you. ‘Cause as long as you pointing at him, you ain’t cleaning up your stuff.”
Take a look at the video and let us know what you think.
Do you think Iyanla was too hard on Erica? Will you tune in for this episode? Saigon and Erica’s episode, “Fix My Celebrity Parenting Nightmare” airs on Saturday, May 10 at 9pm on OWN.
Three months ago we covered an update on Erica Jean and Saigon’s relationship post-“Love and Hip-Hop New York.” As we saw on the VH1 reality show, the couple had a tumultuous relationship. Instead of allowing their drama to infiltrate co-parenting their son, Brian, the couple enlisted the help Iyanla Vanzant. Both Erica Jean and Saigon will appear in the premiere of OWN’s newest season of”Fix My Life” May 10. In the preview Saigon notes:
“Ya’ll know I couldn’t let the story end like that. Check out both sides of the story on ‘Iyanla: Fix My Life.’ This show isn’t about yelling and screaming. It’s about the facts.”
Saigon seemed especially excited to meet with the 60-year-old life coach to resolve the issues he has with Erica Jean. Their episode will debut on May 10 at 9 p.m. est.
Check out the clip of Erica Jean And Saigon On “Iyanla: Fix My Life” below. Will you be tuning in?