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You’re probably used to referring to him as “that fine man on ‘Hit the Floor,’ but that fine man actually has a name. It’s Rob Riley, one of our former Evening Eye Candy’s, and we were more than happy to catch up with one of the stars of VH1′s hit show on the golden carpet at McDonald’s 365 Black Awards during Essence Fest. The former football player and actor has been getting a considerable amount of attention from the ladies these days, which should come as no surprise, and we decided to ask him what’s life like being Rob Riley walking down the street these days.
We also caught up with Will Packer, Terrence J, Iyanla Vanzant, and Tika Sumpter on the golden carpet to ask about what they have coming up next and we managed to get Will to spill the beans on his wedding plans and Tika to let us in on her latest movie project. Check out what they had to say.
On March 1, 2004, a Los Angeles woman named Bonnie saw her life change forever. Her mother, Ella, the person she relied on for nearly everything, passed away. Up until that point, Bonnie had an unbreakable bond with her mother, never having to worry about anything and leaning on her so much that Bonnie never felt the need to exert her independence. When Ella died, Bonnie felt that a part of her died, too.
Bonnie sunk into a deep depression, unable to even leave her home. As her friends grew more and more concerned, Bonnie’s weight began spiraling out of control. Three years after her mom passed, Bonnie’s father also died, further fueling her grief.
It’s now been more than seven years since Bonnie has left her home, and five years since she has gotten out of bed. The last time she stepped on a scale five years ago, Bonnie weighed 550 pounds. Now, she says she is well over 600. Unable to care for her own basic needs, Bonnie relies on her 24-year-old daughter Jamesha for survival.
Desperate to find help for Bonnie, her friends wrote to Iyanla Vanzant in hopes she could foster the emotional and physical healing necessary to save Bonnie’s life. . When Iyanla arrived in Los Angeles, she asked Bonnie to articulate how it felt to be alive without her mother. Bonnie immediately became emotional and started to cry.
Read more about Iyanla’s new season at BlackVoices.com
If you caught the season premiere of Iyanla: Fix My Life Saturday night on OWN you already know during the episode Iyanla Vanzant laid into Love and Hip-Hop’s Erica Jean something terrible. Questioning the logic of sleeping with a man (Saigon) who didn’t even know her address, much less having a child with him, Iyanla gave her some straight “mommy talk” which some thought was a bit too harsh. When we had the chance to chat with the life coach about the explosive confrontation, she not only stood by her words during that episode, but also her previous commentary about Black women being out of order and needing to do better when it comes to their partner and parenting choices.
Check out the interview above, as well as Iyanla’s thoughts on the #BringBackOurGirls movement and the influx of domestic violence plaguing Hollywood headlines these days.
“You Slept With A Man Who Doesn’t Know Your Address” Iyanla With Saigon And Erica Of Love And Hip Hop
If you’ve watched just one scene with Saigon and Erica from the last season of “Love and Hip Hop New York,” you know their relationship is strained to say the least. One minute they aren’t speaking to each other. The next they’re moving in together trying to work on co-parenting their son and then next thing you know he’s cussing her out, calling her all type of obscenities on one of the VH1 reunion couches. If you didn’t see it…you can watch it here. It was quite terrible.
But judging by the way their relationship began, it’s not really surprising that they find themselves here today. On the show, Saigon and Erica revealed that they weren’t really in a relationship when she got pregnant. Instead, they were sleeping with one another casually when she decided she wanted to have a baby and for one reason or another Saigon agreed. The issue, of course, is that neither one of them knew each other but they’ll be in each other’s lives forever now because of their son.
I don’t know, at this point, what they want from one another, whether they’re working toward a romantic relationship or just want to be more amicable so they can co-parent their son. Whatever it is, they called in Iyanla Vanzant to help them deal with their situation. Saigon loves to turn up for the camera, so I’m sure their episode will make for some heated exchanges. But judging by this clip, Saigon and Erica won’t be the only ones bringing the drama.
In the video below Iyanla scolds both Saigon and Erica (but mostly Erica) about the actions that led to this very messy situation they find themselves in today. Here’s the transcript.
Iyanla: This is what happens when you have a baby with somebody that you don’t have a relationship with.
Erica: He’s saying he didn’t know where I lived, it’s a lie
Iyanla: Instead of saying that, you should be saying ‘Oh my God, what have I done here.’ That’s what you should be saying.
Erica: You’re absolutely right. But he…
Iyanla: But don’t make it about him! Own your stuff little girl, own it!
Iyanla: The shame of it, the embarrassment of it, that you slept with a man who doesn’t know your address and had his baby. Own that. Now, that’s some mommy talk for you. ‘Cause as long as you pointing at him, you ain’t cleaning up your stuff.”
Take a look at the video and let us know what you think.
Do you think Iyanla was too hard on Erica? Will you tune in for this episode? Saigon and Erica’s episode, “Fix My Celebrity Parenting Nightmare” airs on Saturday, May 10 at 9pm on OWN.
Three months ago we covered an update on Erica Jean and Saigon’s relationship post-”Love and Hip-Hop New York.” As we saw on the VH1 reality show, the couple had a tumultuous relationship. Instead of allowing their drama to infiltrate co-parenting their son, Brian, the couple enlisted the help Iyanla Vanzant. Both Erica Jean and Saigon will appear in the premiere of OWN’s newest season of”Fix My Life” May 10. In the preview Saigon notes:
“Ya’ll know I couldn’t let the story end like that. Check out both sides of the story on ‘Iyanla: Fix My Life.’ This show isn’t about yelling and screaming. It’s about the facts.”
Saigon seemed especially excited to meet with the 60-year-old life coach to resolve the issues he has with Erica Jean. Their episode will debut on May 10 at 9 p.m. est.
Check out the clip of Erica Jean And Saigon On “Iyanla: Fix My Life” below. Will you be tuning in?
Nia Long Says As A Single Mom, It’s Important To Introduce Your Kids To A Guy You Date “Kinda Early”
We told you yesterday that Nia Long nabbed the cover of the new issue of Essence as the stunning star promotes her new film, The Single Moms Club, which is the new Tyler Perry project. To talk about the realities of being a single mom, Long has been chatting with Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah on Oprah’s Lifeclass and they’ve discussed a little bit of everything. On Part II of their sit-down, which airs tonight on OWN, they talk about single mothers navigating the dating world. Long had a very interesting story to tell about a first date she went on, and talks about the awkward moment at the beginning of that date that helped her realize it’s not a bad idea to introduce your child to a prospective partner early.
“I actually do have a funny story. My son was a bout two. I had just broken up with his dad and I said, ‘You know what? I’m going to go out and I am going to reclaim my sexy!’ This gentleman came and I said, let’s do a group date. I didn’t want to do a one-on-one thing. Let’s do a group date. So I called my sister and I said, ‘You’re going on my first date with me.’ I was living in New York at the time. We walk out of the apartment, he’s in this big truck like a Suburban, but it was a driver and a car. And I was like, ‘Oh he’s fancy.’ We get in the car and my 2-year-old goes, ‘My daddy has a big ol’ blue truck and it’s faster than this one!’ I just went ‘Oh my goodness.’ So they know. They know. Even when you try to hide it, when you try to pretend like, ‘This is just mommy’s friend’ they know. That guy didn’t last so him and his truck went bye bye, but what it did teach me was to introduce kind of early.”
Of course, Long will go in depth about why she thinks this is necessary on tonight’s episode of Life Class (airing at 9/8c). But check out the clip of her talking about this date and let us know what approach you would take when it comes to dating as a single mother, and when you think it’s best to introduce your children to the men you are getting to know on a romantic level.
Tune in Friday night at 9/8c.
Dang, who knew?!
Looks like Iyanla Vanzant needed someone to fix her.
On “Super Soul Sunday” on OWN, Vanzant sits down with her mentor, Oprah Winfrey, to talk about everything from her suicide attempt to the first time she saw God.
Check out the clip of “Super Soul Sunday” at EurWeb.com
When most of us think about colorism, the discrimination amongst people with varying skin tones in the same ethnic group, we think about the African American community specifically. But it really is a global issue. You’ll find colorism in Latino communities, Asian communities, etc. It’s not just us. And since it’s so prevalent and widespread, it’s only right that Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah address this issue. The two will be talking colorism on the upcoming episode of “Lifeclass,” which airs tonight, January 10 at 9pm on OWN.
The discussion will be supplemented by a live studio audience and viewers on social media who will speak about the impact colorism can have on a person’s self esteem. Tika Sumpter from “The Haves and Have Nots” will also Skype in to speak about her own childhood and how her parents helped build her self perception growing up as a dark skinned girl.
Check out clips from tonight’s show in the videos below.
Tune in Friday, January 10, at 9/8c.
Tune in tonight, January 10, at 9/8c.
Have you ever watched an episode of “Iyanla Fix My Life” and thought to yourself I wonder what Iyanla would have to say about my jacked up situation? What advice would she offer to me? Well, beloved, you might just get the answer to that question. Might. If you live anywhere near the D.C. area, Iyanla will be there for two three hour sessions (six hours total) offering free advice this Sunday, January 12.
In a new show called “Help Desk,” hosted by Gotham Chopra, Deepak Chopra’s son, as he sets up a little shop, similar to Lucy in the “Peanuts” comic strip, with spiritual life coach Iyanla Vanzant. Iyanla will be available in Washington D.C.’s Union Station from 9:30 am to 12:30pm and then again from 2:15 – 5:15 pm. She’ll be answering questions about relationships, health and personal transformation.
Here’s the exact address:
Union Station, East Hall
50 Massachusetts Ave NE
Washington, DC 20002
For more information on “Help Desk” head over here.
Most of us, if not all love us some Iyanla Vanzant. Besides her many accolades, she is a free therapist for us all via her Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) show, Fix My Life. Two weeks ago on the show, Iyanla counseled two sisters from San Antonio who had a deep rift between them. Their anger stemmed from traumatizing episodes during their teenage years. As OWN reports:
Iyanla has traveled to San Antonio to meet two sisters in crisis, Barbara and Geneva. Barbara grew up affluently with her aunt and uncle. Geneva was raised by their mother in poverty. At 17, Barbara invited her younger sister to come live with her, but a rift formed between the sisters after Barbara learned Geneva was sleeping with Barbara’s boyfriend, who fathered two of Geneva’s four children. Now, Iyanla wants to get Geneva’s side of the story. Watch as she shares a family secret with Iyanla and opens up about what her sister taught her about being a woman.
During the clip, Geneva confesses to Vanzant that Barbara’s boyfriend would fondle her and coerce her into having sexual intercourse. Despite telling her sister about the rape, Geneva stated Barbara did not believe her. As their sexual relationship progressed, the boyfriend would give gifts and money to Geneva. Unfortunately, during the clip Vanzant did not believe Geneva had been assaulted, instead she told Geneva she was “h-eing”. Her claim on Geneva’s juxtaposition was based on the belief that Geneva accepted the money and gifts from the boyfriend. Vanzant asked: “Did her boyfriend give you money to lay up with him?” When Geneva said “yes,” Vanzant looked upon her disapprovingly.
Although Vanzant is filled with tough-love, her response to Geneva was surprising. Perhaps it was because Geneva became pregnant with her first child at 14 and had two children with Barbara’s boyfriend that Vanzant was disappointed, but her reaction was read as slut-shamming by many media outlets. It seemed to be implied that because of Geneva’s history she knew what she was doing with her sister’s boyfriend. But as we also know, your sexual history should never be an example of how people can treat you. The age of Barbara’s boyfriend was not revealed but he was older than Geneva when he began to have sex with her while she was 16 years old. Geneva also claims Barbara taught her how to be a woman by only dating men who could provide financially for her. Geneva’s history has not given her a healthy perception of relationships but she should not have been accused of “h-eing” especially if she was taught a certain type of behavior in order to survive her living environment.
Check out the Fix My Life clip below. Do you think Iyanla slut shamed Geneva?