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Poor communication is frequently cited as a leading marriage killer while an issue as prevalent as crippled marital intimacy often flies under the radar. Recently, a concerned husband asked for advice on Reddit’s Relationships message board because his sexual inexperience appears to be driving a wedge between him and his wife. For the sake of this article, we’ll refer to the poster as “Jake.” Apparently, Jake’s wife has a whole heap of experience in the sex department—and she has tried pretty much everything—which makes her a bit closed-minded in the intimacy department. Jakes writes:
I’ve been married to my wife for nearly 2 years, been with her for about 5 years. She was my first real GF and my first regular sexual partner (3rd partner ever). Now that I’m 30 and married, I keep thinking about how little I’ve experienced sexually, and I would like to go out and try some things with her. Meanwhile, my wife describes her past experiences as ‘Having tried about everything except for a three-way with two guys.’
The situation makes me feel a bit jealous, she’s done so much, and I’ve done so little, occasionally I can get her to talk about past experiences but any time I bring up the idea of doing something now, she shuts down. Now that we’re married I feel like if she says she’s not willing then I’m just sh*t-outta-luck in that department, which sucks!
I’ve tried bringing up the subject and asking her if there is anything ‘different’ she would like to try with me and/or someone else but every time I do, she clams up and says she ‘Just wants a normal husband and kids’ I get the feeling that she’s either ashamed of her past, too embarrassed to talk about her wants sexually or she’s afraid that she’ll somehow lose me in the process. (Or all 3).
What can I do make my wife more receptive to the idea of sexual experimenting?
Any advice for Jake?
Feeling close to someone comes from a series of natural, small interactions. So naturally, distancing yourself from someone can also come from a series of natural, small interactions. It can take you by surprise: suddenly you feel an emotional gap between you and your partner. But it didn’t happen overnight. Here are eight ways you don’t realize you are distancing yourself from your partner.
For many couples, their sex life starts off amazingly. Things are exciting, fun, and breathtaking, to say the least. But as time goes on, the excitement between the sheets can die down. Many couples have a sex life that goes up and down. One week things are great and the next week the sheets remain untouched. Here are 7 of the most common intimacy issues that couples may face and ways to deal with them.
Bad sex. We’ve all had it at least once in our lives. How many times have you wished you could get those 2 hours (or 2 minutes) of your life back when you could’ve spent the evening washing and twisting your hair instead? After all, he was a cute new boo and he seemed sweet, so we gave in…and maybe even gave him another chance to redeem himself – only to be disappointed yet again.
Even though bad sex can be hard to predict, especially if there’s some sort of chemistry, some would argue there are signs that the sex will be terrible before you actually have it. Now of course, there are no fail-safe signals, but if any of these signs are present, you may want to skip the romp in the sack altogether and save yourself the time and trouble.
A friend of mine recently revealed to me that, at age 30, she had never had an orgasm. Poor thing! I was shocked, but more interested in how her partners (read: egos) were able to deal with “failing” to bring her to the Promise Land. “Simple,” she replied. “I fake it!”
No one woman should ever have to fake her sexual pleasure at her own expense, or the expense of a man and his ego. If you’ve never been able to climax, even on your own, then there may be some serious issues that require healthy examination as to why you can’t “get there.” If you’ve been faking it, here are some reasons you may not be able to have the “Big O.”