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When we think about sex symbols, Mario might not be one of the first names that come to mind. But maybe all of that is about to change. Recently, the “Somebody Else” singer posted a picture of himself on Instagram looking quite chiseled.
He included this caption:
Ladies only | I had a dream that I would play in the next spartan movie so I woke up like this | God
We could certainly see the spartan movie thing happening. And if he’s going to be looking like this, complete with a glow only baby oil can give, I’d have no choice but to buy a ticket.
This could have easily turned into an
unimpressive and tacky, package pic. But we’re glad Mario is a classier than that.
This doesn’t appear to be the work of funky lighting and a filter. There’s plenty of evidence that Mario has put in work to get this body. Check out the other pictures and video on the following pages.
“There’s People With Way More Talent Than I When It Comes To Singing”: Rihanna On Her Talent, Influence
In the March issue of Vogue, which will be Rihanna’s third cover for the American version of the magazine since her first in 2011, writer Plum Sykes chats with the mega-star about fashion, her talent, and why she flocks to Instagram so much. The interview is a very colorful one, as Skyes meets up with the singer to be styled by her at the Alexander Wang boutique in NYC. In between trying on capes and men’s leather bombers, we get to read Rihanna being herself–honest and silly (in a good way):
On Her 11 Million Instagram Followers:
“Instagram is my way of communicating to the world,” she says. “When I’m on tour, I keep fans in the loop. I don’t really think about it too much. Literally, I can be sitting in a car and be bored, so I do a selfie just because I’m bored. Or if my dog is running around in circles and I think that’s funny, I put it on Instagram.” As for who Rihanna follows on Instagram? “I follow girls from the Middle East. It gives you ideas.”
Why She Thinks Fashion Sense Is A Big Part Of Her Success–Not Really Her Voice:
“It’s not all down to my voice. There’s people with way more talent than I when it comes to singing. Bigger voices. But people want to know who you are. Fashion is a clear indication, a way to express your attitude, your mood.”
Ri Ri On Her Ever-Changing Hair And Her Love Of Weaves:
“It’s not my hair, but the girl who donated it, she’s the bomb,” says Rihanna. “Black girls never let anyone see this,” she adds, pulling apart the locks at the back of her head to show me the intricate workings of the false hair, which is woven into a net attached to her own. “I have two main hair people I work with. They’re always with me. I’m like, ‘I’m bored! I wanna change my hair!’ That’s the good thing about a weave. You can do whatever with it.”
Going Against What Folks Consider “Normal”:
“I don’t go out of my way to be a rebel or to have that perception, but a lot of the decisions I make, a lot of the direction I want to move, is against the grain, or against society’s tight lane, and I’m aware of that sometimes. It might not be fitting with the norm, but that’s OK for me.”
As I said before, I really dig her honesty in this interview. It’s pretty refreshing, right? Check out the full interview with Sykes at Vogue.com, see the images from her gorgeous Vogue spread on the next two pages and let us know what you think!
Earlier this week, we asked ya’ll if it seemed like there was trouble in paradise for T.I. and Tiny based on the way he tried to scold her, like a child, for posting pictures of her behind on Instagram. And let’s not forget the rumors from Grammy weekend about this big blow up the two had and a possible love child. Just all around mess.
And the plot thickens ladies and gentlemen. Tiny posted a picture on Instagram and someone wrote this message as a response.
“My homegirl f*cking Tip…this sh*t hilarious…”eats popcorn.”
Well… Tiny has quite a bit of hood in her. So, she didn’t let this ride…at all.
Then, seeing that foolishness was being acknowledged, another chick stepped in with her two cents.
By now you have all read the reports about rapper T.I slut-shaming his wife Tiny on Instagram.
I’m not going to rehash it as you can read it for yourself in the link above. And while I’m not interested in the personal dealings of their relationship, I am quite intrigued by what has been a very vocal public reaction to this story. There has been lots of virtually hi-fiving T.I for checking his disrespectful wife and preserving the wholesomeness of his household. And lots of body snarking over Tiny’s unusually-shaped derriere. And of course lots of pontificating about the perils of black womenhood, particularly how this “ratchetness” is indicative of why black men wont marry y’all ungrateful skeezers.
In a way, I am not surprised at how, once again, the burden of respectability and morality for an entire community has fallen on the unclothed backside of a black woman. It would appear that culturally, men are unquestionable kings of the household and always deserving of respect while women, who are conditioned to submit all free will (including one to wear a swimsuit at the damn beach), are treated as if respect has to be earned. I am surprised, however, at how many women have agreed with that sentiment.
I’m not the one for traditional gender roles or ideals of respectability. But to those women in particular, who do preach them, don’t you think that if we are going to hold women, to traditional roles and rules of respectability that we should also make sure those expectations apply equally to men too?
For the sake of debate, let’s consider T.I., the patriarch of the family:
- During a luncheon held by Warner Music exec Kevin Liles at the Sunset Tower Hotel in West Hollywood, the “Whatever You Like”-emcee got into a fight with Ludacris’ manager Chaka Zulu. According to witnesses, T.I. punched Zulu in the face and choked him before both crews tore the restaurant up.
- During the 2008 Dirty Awards, T.I. and his entourage, got into another fight with Shawty Lo and his entourage, forcing the ceremony to be shut down and giving the police a legally justified reason to pepper-spray the audience.
- In 2007, T.I missed the BET awards because he was too busy being arrested on federal charges after his bodyguard-turned-informant purchased $12,000 in machine guns and other ammunition and delivered it to the rapper. Outside of being a rapper, T.I, whose real name is Clifford Harris, is also a convicted felon, which makes gun ownership a big no-no. Harris was sentenced to: a year and a day in prison for his weapons charges; 1,000 hours of community service; and some probational time in a halfway house.
- In 2010, Harris was sentenced to 11 months in prison for violating his probation on the above mentioned federal gun charges.
- In 2012, Harris lambasted fellow emcee Azealia Banks for daring to address him personally, despite having a beef with him personally, without the assistance of a man to speak on her behalf. According to published reports, Harris said: “See, the thing about that is I ain’t even know anything about it until just now. I ain’t even see it. I know they are going through their thing. But in regards to her speaking upon me and mine, I ain’t even see it. That is what I consider–and excuse my language–but that’s bitch sh-t. I am a man. You ain’t have no business addressing me. When you get a man, get him to address me and he and I can speak on it. But you and me … Keep dealin with that woman [Iggy]. Y’all handle that. Me and you ain’t got nowhere to go with that.”
- Last year, Harris performed along side singer Robin Thicke and super producer Pharrell in a racy video for ”Blurred Lines,: which many described as misogynistic for having women prancing around wearing a thong and nothing else while T.I and company, were fully clothed.
- I’m not going to list individually all of his debasing lyrics other than to say, despite his claim that his new “family-friendly” image has hurt his record sales, much of his music is still chock-full of usual hip hop cliches of luxury brand bragging, pimpin’ hos, and choppas in the streets. In fact, it would behoove most to know that the song “Ball” is not about playing catch with his son but rather how he spends his evenings childless, club-hopping, spending money frivolously and likely having affairs on his wife. My particular favorite line goes, “The club full of bad b**ches and they came to play. Okay it must be your a$$ cause it ain’t your face,” which is quite poetic considering his very public objection to his wife’s Instagram picture.
Now I’m not trying to sit in judgment over some of the decisions Harris has made in his life. But how do we, the public, finger-wag Tiny over her alleged immodesty when we seem content on ignoring – and even condoning through support of T.I’s artistry – her better half’s equally and supposedly shamelessness? This is why the double standard on respectability does not make logical sense. And we, as the public, should either call out T.I on his hypocrisy or else, say nothing at all.
It’s a good thing you and I aren’t God. Because as you know the court of public opinion is far less forgiving. And if you don’t agree, check out this recent tribute Antwaun Cook, Fantasia’s baby daddy, put together for his wife, Paula. You can watch it in the video below.
I have to humble myself and show true humility, put pride aside when realizing how blessed I am after all these years to still have an unbreakable bond. I wish my Dad was here to witness my life evolution.#GodsGraceandMercy #CookBoys #thankYOUJesus Fellas if you have a good one like @sloanewhite or@psloan77 #PutThatWomanFirst #AfterGodButFirst
I know I should be applauding the fact that another black marriage weathered the storm. But honestly, after watching this, my first thought was a pursed lip and side eye. Where was all of this when you were galavanting about the country, impregnating another woman?! Sigh.
And then did anyone else notice that the slideshow features Fantasia’s cousin, JoJo (of Jodeci) and she and Antwaun’s son Dallas? Not saying that he should deny the boy or not include him with his other children, it’s just interesting. Their lives will be forever changed because of this, especially since he cheated with a woman in the limelight. This should serve as a warning to these men with wondering eyes. When you step out, your infidelity doesn’t just have the potential to affect you, your wife and possibly the mistress. If children come into the situation, you’re involving a completely innocent party…forever. Looking at my own extended family, I can tell you the baggage and hurt from all of that messiness lingers.
Check out the other pictures he posted on Instagram in honor of his wife, Paula.
My parents probably laugh at what we call relationship problems today, but the truth is social media has created more reasons for couples to over-analyze and obsess and create even more insecurities.
As I was scrolling through my Instagram activity the other night I couldn’t help but notice that radio personality Big Tigger had liked a video with two women looking like they were about to showcase their skills on a sex toy. It looked rated XXX so I didn’t even bother playing it, but I instantly thought, “Damn, isn’t he dating Keshia Knight-Pulliam?” Now I’m not saying that man can’t like a girl’s picture without being attracted to her, and it’s far from cheating, but I can’t help but feeling like your partner’s social media behavior in many ways is a reflection of you.
This isn’t the first time Big Tigger has double tapped on pictures of KING-cover wannabes bent over displaying their behinds and/or breasts as the best part of their anatomy. But in the next instant he’s posting photos of the new kicks he’s bought for Keshia. I don’t know about other women but I’d be bothered if my man’s social media consisted primarily of pictures of parading unclothed women and girls twerking and swinging on poles. A man’s going to be a man, but can he do so a little more privately?
Maybe it’s not that serious. I’ve clicked on plenty of pics of French bulldogs dressed in bow ties and Angela Simmon’s shoes without putting a whole lot thought into making that gray heart red. That’s the thing about Instagram that I think cheapens it as a communication tool: It doesn’t require much thought or energy. It doesn’t actually reflect what’s truly important to anyone. I mean at least Twitter forces you to be clever in 140 characters. Instagram unites the best of both worlds for those without much to contribute to social media or otherwise: It allows people to sit in look pretty for those who are limited to visual stimulation. Does that make me love it any less? No, but let’s be honest, Instagram is not the place to form the deepest connections.
With that said, I’m not encouraging girlfriends everywhere to clock their man’s Instagram behavior, but I‘m also reminding people about yet another way social media seriously can impact your reputation and the people you actually have authentic, real-life relationships with. Don’t blame Twitter or Instagram for an already unhealthy relationship either. What social media does have the potential to do is weaken an already unstable bond. If you have a man who truly respects you, he’ll do so whether it’s in person or on his online profile.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.
Throwback Thursday on Instagram can be a lot of fun, especially with the celebrities. You get a glimpse at people way, way back in the day, before the notoriety and money, back to their humble and adorable beginnings.
Last night on Instagram, Beyoncé posted not only some very cute images of herself as a toddler and a kid, but her mother as a very young lady too. The similarities in appearance are pretty eerie (but in a good way), as Mama Tina (aka, Celestine), now 60, looks exactly like Beyoncé does now as a kid:
Beyoncé’s pictures of herself were equally adorable:
But Beyoncé wasn’t the only one who posted some images of herself (and her mom) as a kid on the social media site. First lady Michelle Obama did as well (clearly she’s becoming more comfortable with her Instagram account), including this very adorable snap of her and her brother, Craig Robinson, when they were little. She posted it with the caption, “Brother and sister. #TBT #ThrowbackThursday.”
How cute were they!? And she literally looks exactly the same:
Do you have any favorite celebrity throwback pics from “Throwback Thursday”?
After a messy divorce from football player Kordell Stewart, Real Housewives of Atlanta star, Porsha Stewart openly spoke on her struggles with infertility. In the past she experienced a miscarriage due to uterine fibroids. She revealed in a BravoTVblog:
“I was really devastated following the loss of my first pregnancy, not just a physical pain, but an aching sense of loss and loneliness like my body had let me down.”
Porsha revealed she has started dating since the divorce was finalized, but hasn’t revealed just who she’s been spending quality time with. We’re not to too quick to put every celeb who’s had a big lunch on baby bump watch, but the angles on these pictures look pretty suspicious. Her comments section of course went crazy as rumors flew that the Georgia peach may be knocked up by the-ex husband she once claimed wouldn’t even touch her. She has also blamed her husband’s lack of sexual interest on the reason why she was unable to conceive. She told her psychologist, Dr. Blake:
“I put on my lingerie, I worked out, I kept my body up and I felt like, “Hey, what is going on?”
It seems as if Porsha is repeatedly on baby bump watch. Rumors circulated last month after she posted a cryptic Instagram picture that read, “Good things come to those who wait.” And it seems everytime she poses the wrong way the “Congrats” start flying in. We don’t know how a pregnancy would affect Porsha’s presence on RHOA, but if the past indicates anything it’s seemed to work out well for RHOA stars Phaedra Parks and Kim Zolciak, at least for their personal lives.
Is Porsha Stewart pregnant this time? She has yet to confirm, but we hope that Porsha has a happy pregnancy with a decent man when the time is right. Until then what do you think? Is Porsha sporting a baby bump or is she just bloated?
We’ve all been there before. In a moment of habit, boredom or perhaps pure nosiness, we find ourselves at home scrolling through Instagram or clicking through Facebook and then you see it. A photo of your friends having a great time without you.
If it weren’t for the fact that the photo was in your feed, you’d be perfectly happy in your moment — perhaps a quiet evening at home after a long week, or time at your home office researching for a new business idea. But in one brief swipe, you’re feeling left out of a night to remember.
If you’ve ever had this feeling, you’re not alone. There’s even a name for it: FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out).
We’re all aware of that “grass is always greener” saying, but this inadequate feeling is amplified through social media. Add to that, reports show that black people are the most active when it comes to social networks: 73 percent of black internet users are on social media, compared with 72 percent of whites according to the Pew Research Center. This number increases to 96 percent of blacks vs. 90 percent of whites when we look specifically at young people between the ages of 18 and 29.
Don’t be overcome by this feeling. Here are a few tips to overcome FOMO:
Awareness. As with anything, the first step is awareness. Realize that you may be feeling a bit jealous, awkward, or left out because of what you are seeing in photos. Otherwise, everything else for you is just fine and dandy.
Put It In Perspective. There’s a quote that I like to reference on this topic: “Don’t compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.” You never know what is behind someone’s smile. Realize people are typically sharing the best moments. If you see someone jetting off to a dream destination, perhaps what you don’t see are the long layovers they had to endure, or the months of working a second shift to afford the trip. What you see on social media is often the end result of a contrived, perfectly angled, filtered version of reality. It is not the whole truth and is rarely an accurate depiction of a person’s lifestyle.
Be In The Moment. It may sound cliche, but appreciate your journey and where you are in this moment. If you decided to pass on dinner with your friends, there must be a valid reason. Remember that reason and be happy that you have the willpower to know your limits whether it be your energy or your wallet.
If you’re seeing everyone out at something you were not invited to, then realize it wasn’t meant for you to be there. Who are you with right now? Enjoy them. What do you have going on? It might not be Instagram-worthy, but it’s still a valid experience — just not one that needs to be validated by likes or comments.
Use It As Inspiration. Maybe you come across something you admire on your feed. That can serve as fuel for you to up the ante in your own life or career. Instead of allowing the feeling to serve as a source of fear or jealousy, let the moments serve as visual proof that achieving a dream is possible.
Before you go into a new relationship, should you break off all contact with your exes, including on social media?
Sometime last year, I found myself on my boyfriend’s computer, using it to do some work. When I opened it up and clicked on the button for a new tab, like most Macs using Safari (he’s not up on the greatness of Chrome yet), it showed me the sites that he had been to recently. I didn’t pay it much mind, until I saw that he had been on his ex-girlfriend’s Facebook page.
What the hell?
That’s what I thought at that moment, but as it was the first time I had noticed anything like that, I let it go. Well a month or so later, I needed to use his computer again really quickly and when I opened up his laptop and opened a new tab, there her Facebook page was in his recently viewed sites. Again. I wasn’t feeling that s**t. We weren’t too far in our relationship so I just wanted to understand what it was he was doing or looking for on her page, so I confronted him about it. As far as I knew, he only got on Facebook a couple times a year (one reason is still to say thank you for birthday wishes) and she wasn’t his friend on the the social media site–so he looked her up.
He apologized and said that a friend of his had brought her up in conversation because said friend is still cool with the young woman. Afterwards, he decided to see what she had been up to by looking up her page on Facebook. He said he didn’t have her number anymore, he didn’t want to get in touch with her at all, he was just…”curious.” I told him I didn’t appreciate it because I had noticed that he had been on her page more than once, and knowing that it made me upset, he claimed he wouldn’t do it again. As far as I know, he hasn’t.
But is it jacked up that I’m still “friends” with my exes on social media?
I guess you could call me a hypocrite. To be honest though, I was friends with all of them on Facebook before I met my boyfriend (well, except for Instagram…I just joined that last year, so you know…). On all the social media sites I frequent, I’m friends with my two boyfriends from college (one who I was with for almost two years) and a love interest from post-college. I don’t start conversations with them or message them about anything, but sometimes they comment on my pictures to crack a joke with me…and I’ll joke back. I know, I know, I feel terrible…
Considering my feelings for my boyfriend and that I don’t feel anything for these fellas anymore, I thought it harmless to be connected to them (not physically of course) on social media. But when one of my exes decided to friend me on Instagram and went through quite a few of my pics to like them (even though he’s in a relationship, and on a side note, he likes none of the pics with my boyfriend in them), I started to feel a little weird. Considering the way I felt about my boyfriend just looking at the Facebook page of his ex-girlfriend (they were together for more than two years) I started to feel a little guilty. Every few days I see the pics of my exes in my feed and every once in a while I’ll even feel inclined to click through their pics to see what they were doing with their lives. What jobs they’re having, if they went back to school, etc. I guess you could say I get “curious” too. I don’t want to look petty by unfriending all of them, because before they were my boyfriends and exes, they were my friends. But then again, if the shoe was on the other foot, I would obviously feel some type of way if my boyfriend was “friends” with the former ladies of his life.
So what do you think? What should I do? Are you still “friends” or connected on social media to men and women from your past? Is it harmless or is it messy?