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As told to Veronica Wells
Growing up, I hated going to my mom’s church. My parents were raised in two different denominations so sometimes we would go to my mom’s church and sometimes we would go to my dad’s. One of the main reasons I hated my mom’s church was because children’s church was required for children under a certain age.
It wasn’t the content of children’s church that I couldn’t stand, it was the people. Well…one person in particular.
I’ve changed her name because I’m a Christian and she might stumble across this.
But every Sunday in children’s church she would consistently find new ways to torment me. I don’t know if she was adamant about rejecting me because an adult told her my family was more non-denominational than hers or just because I was the new girl and she was a career bully. Either way, at seven-years-old, it only took me a few weeks to learn that she had no intention of welcoming me with open arms.
It all started off small. She’d go out of her way to tell me that I couldn’t sit next to her. She always said it under her breath so the teacher couldn’t hear her. If we had any type of artistic activity that corresponded with the lesson, she’d always need the exact supply I was using and come over and snatch it out of my hand. I was new to that church, eager to make friends and already intimidated by her. So I didn’t tell anyone. And as is usually the case with bullies, once she saw that I was a pushover, things only got worse. She’d push me on our way up the stairs, trip me when I got up to use the restroom. Pass notes about my clothes, hair or general appearance to the other students in the class or just pretend like I didn’t exist at all. Sometimes the teacher would notice her behavior and discipline her accordingly; but most of the time, she went unchecked.
It got to the point where the thought of going to my mother’s church made me physically ill. My stomach would be in knots. And as our car, rounded the corner into our church parking lot, I was sweating and swallowing hard so I wouldn’t vomit.
Though I never told my parents, they were experiencing some adult bullying in the lower sanctuary, with the the rest of the congregation. By the time I was turning ten, we left that particular church entirely and I couldn’t have been more thrilled. Enough was enough.
My grandfather goes to my mother’s church, so we’d occasionally return for special events. I’d see her once or twice a year during middle and high school. But we both kept our distance, exchanging knowing, but unimpressed looks before ignoring each other.
So, fast forward to today. I’m four years out of college and guess who just found me on Instagram? You guessed it, good ole Roxanne!
Now, for those of you who know Instagram you realize you can
stalk view anybody’s page as long as it’s public, which mine is. But if you don’t slip up and accidentally like something, there is no way of telling who looked at what. Well, Roxanne didn’t just look. She literally liked 15 of my photos before adding me as a friend.
When I saw my phone blowing up with notifications, I did a double take when I saw her name and profile picture. Did this girl forget how she made church, a place that was supposed to be sacred and loving, into a living hell? Even when she stopped messing with me, we were never on speaking terms; yet, here she was acting like we were long-lost friends fortuitously reunited through social media.
The fact that she was sending me a friend request, acting like none of that ever happened, literally blew my mind.
But I can’t lie, I was interested to see how she turned out over the past decade or so.
Nothing could have prepared me for what I saw. She looked…older. Not like she was much older than me, but like life hadn’t been all that kind to her. She looked worn and tired. She hadn’t gained much weight, but the few pounds she had put on, hung low like a kangaroo pouch. And judging from those tired memes that get shared, retweeted, regrammed and reposted by the unpleasantly single, she didn’t appear to be too pleased with the way her love life had turned out either.
I just shook my head.
For a while I contemplated blocking her…but then I figured why deny her the pleasure of seeing how wonderful my life turned out to be. I certainly won’t be following her back. But she’s more than welcome to look and like every last one of my photos.
My team has become sort of obsessed with I Don’t Do Clubs’ Slide in their DMs promotion in which people send a photo along with their name, age, occupation, and location to the IG account to have the admin post the pic on their feed giving potential suitors permission to slide in their DMs and get it popping.
It’s a cute promo, but one that always leaves me asking, “Who would really send in their picture for this?” It’s a silly question because daily my timeline is filled with new selfies of men and women across the country with the hastag #IDDCslideintheirDMs and routine messages from the account admin stating “We’ve received hundreds of submissions. It will take us months to post all of them. Be patient.”
Consistently, my next question is always, “And who is actually sliding in these people’s DMs?”
“It happens” one of my coworkers said the last time I asked that question aloud.
*Goes to DMs and pulls up random old message from a stranger that read “Hey gorgeous.”*
She’s right. It does happen indeed.
But while I expect the ‘gram thirst from the male species (mostly because I still have randoms from college pop up in my Facebook messages whenever I change my profile picture), I’m always interested in the curious behavior of female DM sliders.
Last year in the midst of casting for “Ask a Black Man” I found myself sliding in a number of DMs seeking eye candy for the web series which we were planning to shoot in multiple locations, and comforting myself with the fact that I was doing so under the guise of work. But as for my personal life, never in a DM have I slid. What I don’t know is whether that makes me normal or out of touch with the times where social media has seemingly become fair ground for pursuing all sorts of interests — casual, professional, or romantic.
Still, I keep wondering: What do women say to these men? What kind of pics are they sending? And how do men perceive their approach on the medium? Thus far I’ve yet to meet a woman in person who can answer my questions. So, humor me a little and tell me what your Instagram game is about. Ladies, have you ever slid in a man’s DMs? If so, how’d you do it?
This morning, groundhog Punxsutawney Phil didn’t see his shadow in Pennsylvania and similar findings occurred with groundhogs in Canada, New York City and Georgia meaning spring should arrive early this year.
To celebrate such great news, planning a spring break trip is a must! With destinations like Santorini, Lima, Havana and Abu Dhabi awaiting your arrival, you need to bring your swimsuit A-game!
To inspire you, we’ve compiled a list of the hottest swimsuit styles for 2016 on Instagram. From designers like TopShop, Gabi Fresh to Mint and small business newcomer Drip Swimwear, we’re sure people will give you a double take when they see you poolside in these ensembles.
Did your favorite brands make the list?
Every woman, if she’s being completely honest, has the potential to be a jealous girlfriend. It’s just that for most of us, like the Hulk’s super powers, it just takes the right situation to bring it out of us.
Usually, that situation is a man who has proven that he can’t really be trusted, an ex who underestimated your truth-detecting abilities, or seriously suspicious social media activity that you know is shady–because you asked three of your best girlfriends.
If you’ve ever felt like a jealous girlfriend, been called a jealous girlfriend, or put the badge on yourself, join the club. And then join us while we laugh at these hilarious moments that every occasional or consistently jealous girlfriend can identify with.
These Kinds of Questions
That sounded like perfectly valid question at the time, but now you see how you could sound just a little crazy. But that’s still no reason not to bring him lunch to work from time to time.
This year, why not infuse a little fun into your fashion? Playing around with gold accessories can be the perfect way to remind yourself that you’re worth it as you start the new year.
Celebrity women are always taking heat for selfie obsessions, but celebrity men have some consistent moves and hashtags they use on social media too. Recognize any of these?
If you’ve vowed to get fit in 2016, a celebrity fitness role model might be just what you need. Check out these celebrity workout selfies and images for the #fitspiration you need to hit the gym when the snooze button is calling!
From Barack Obama’s “dad jokes” to Iman Shumpert’s surprise home delivery, these famous fathers proved that celebrity dads won 2015.
Earlier this week, Steve Harvey was under much scrutiny and fire after accidentally crowning the incorrect winner of this year’s live Miss Universe pageant. The Family Feud host named runner up Miss Colombia, Ariadna Gutierrez, the winner instead of Miss Philippines, Pia Wurtzbach, during the live TV broadcast – ouch!
However, after social media read him for filth with endless tweets, Facebook posts, and memes, it looks like Harvey is actually having the last laugh. Yesterday (Dec. 25), he gave everyone that articulated their thoughts on his flub a run for their money by making fun of himself. “Merry Easter y’all!” he captioned a photo of himself where he’s throwing up the peace sign and enjoying a cigar. Conveniently, the background shows his lavish backyard area where the pool is decorated with Christmas fixings like red bows and garland.
We see what you did there, Mr. Harvey! Good to see that the comments didn’t get to him in the least bit.
Serena Willilams’s haters may not understand that strong is beautiful, but Sports Illustrated’s 2015 Sportsperson of the Year keeps proving it. From the red carpet to the court, check out how Serena Williams redefined tired beauty standards in 2015.