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It’s no secret that we’re obsessed with the notion of celebrity, so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that according to a recent study, 86 percent of mothers view celebrities as their inspiration for maintaining a good work-life balance.
Can this really be true? Are we more inspired by Ciara’s ability to check her kid’s math homework after jet-setting across the globe than we are a single mother working a double shift at a diner who still reads her kids a bedtime story every night? While it may appear to be that way at face value, there some other data points in the survey that add a bit of much needed context for this statistical phenomenon.
It is interesting to note that this same survey found that the majority of mothers feel money is the least important factor in raising good kids. Nearly all the mothers interviewed would prefer to be a good person than to make a name for themselves and earn lots of money. This may seem odd because celebrities obviously are known for making a name for themselves and getting paid lots of money to do it. However, there are some celebrity parents who are known for valuing their family life above their career aspirations.
Regardless of any mom’s socio-economic status, we are all faced with the same challenge: how to meet life’s demands and still be present for our kids. We don’t always have to find inspiration from those who are living life from the same vantage point as we are. We can be inspired by those who face similar circumstances, but are at the other end of the spectrum and have found a way to make it work.
Celebrity moms have a tremendous amount of pressure and competing demands for their time simply because of their notoriety. They are faced with the challenge of not only being present for their kids, but they also have to work to protect their kids’ privacy in ways that many everyday moms do not. Their work obligations can make it difficult to be home and tuck their kids in at night or drop their kids off to school in the morning. These are simple things that the average mom might take for granted, but are a central part of ensuring that the child has a balanced life.
For this reason, it can be said that a lot of “normal” moms find it inspirational when a celebrity mom is willing to make the necessary sacrifices to be present for her kids and give them a normal life. If we can admire Tamera Mowry Housely or Solange or Viola Davis for wearing a great pair of shoes, surely we can also admire her for being ever-present in her children’s lives despite the demands of her business.
We don’t care who you are or how much money you have, being a mom is still the toughest job on the planet. We’re inspired by any mom who does whatever she has to do to put her kids first whether she is a celebrity, or not.
Do you look to celebrity moms to inspire your motherhood journey?
By Yolanda Darville
I’ve always been a visionary. I specialize in dreaming up big plans for my future. Now implementing these plans is another story. And I’m not alone. Many of us struggle with getting the vision out of our heads, onto paper and into reality.
According to statistics published by flokka.com, an online community for business women, only three percent of women actually sit down and plan out their goals. Sobering statistics considering that 100 percent of us have goals that we want to achieve.
If you’re like me, then you probably wonder how to get started in putting those dreams into motion. Here are a few tips to stop just dreaming amazing dreams, and start living an amazing life:
• Write down your goals. This simple step is a critical start to making a change. Whether it’s starting a new business, going back to school or buying a new home, writing your goals is key.
• Crystalize your dreams with a vision board. Don’t be intimidated by the fancy phrase “vision board.” It’s just a poster board you create that depicts your ideal life. Find pictures online or in magazines that show what achieving your goal looks like. There are even apps compatible with smart phones that you can download to help you. Be sure to put this visual reminder up somewhere prominently as motivation.
• Find a mentor to help you connect the dots. Not sure what steps you need to take to see your dreams through? Find someone who’s paved the way and have them mentor you. Mentoring is more than a touchy-feely motivational idea – it’s proven business sense. According to the American Society of Training and Development, 75 percent of executives say that mentoring was key to their success. And according to Fortune Magazine, 76 percent of Fortune 25 companies have mentoring programs.
It will be easy for them to help you map your way since they’ve successfully done it themselves.
• Use a schedule to discipline yourself. A plan is no good if you don’t implement it. Make sure you make time in your schedule every week to work toward your goals. Treat your daily scheduled time like a “can’t miss” appointment with your supervisor. Try to schedule a time when the kids are in bed and all your family obligations have been met.
There’s nothing wrong with dreaming, mommy. But if you really believe in your dreams, take the needed action to launch those dreams!
Mommies, what recent actions have you taken to make your dreams come true?
The search for purpose and calling is a powerful stage on our life journey. It’s the moment that defines us and brings meaning to life and our little roles in it. Internal questions like “what am I here to do?” and “how do I even begin?” sprout from the depths of our soul, consuming us whole. But here’s the thing: many times we already have the answers to those questions.
If we listen really closely, God speaks. Usually, the trouble arises not from being unsure of what to do, but from failure to recognize and accept the calling laid before you. If you find yourself dangling that line of uncertainty, here are a few signs to help you recognize you’ve actually already found your calling.
The Tug – When you have discovered your gift or calling, it will be all-consuming; it tugs at your spirit and inhabits the forefront of your mind. Your calling may not get you well paid (or paid at all for that matter) but when you’re not activating your gift, there’s a feeling of incompleteness.
The Need – We’re taught that everyone serves a purpose, and this is true. We are born to do good works and leave behind a legacy. I’ve had many conversations with entrepreneurs, teachers, writers, doctors and business leaders and what they all have in common is that their calling fulfills a need. Each of those individuals’ purpose was born out of a desire to help serve others and contribute toward the good of humanity. Despite the challenges that came along the way, tapping into that passion and supplying a need has led them to living and walking in their true calling.
Confirmation – A prophetic or encouraging word can come from a stranger, a godly soul on the street, a family member, friend or a pastor witnessing to you from afar. What do people tell you you’re good at? Has anyone ever prophesied to you? You never know whom God may use to reach you. I attended a church event a few months back and the one key takeaway was that a prophetic word should only serve as confirmation of what you already know. It should provide comfort and reveal your inner truth. Always pray before and after receiving prophesy.
Peace & Ease – Have you ever tried something, even for the first time, and felt a strong sense of comfort? Like you’ve been doing it your whole life, or that you’re meant to do it? That very feeling is one of the telltale signs that you are activated in what God has called you to do. Although fulfilling our life missions will require hard work, obedience and discipline, there will be such fulfillment and peace whenever we work toward that purpose that the growing pains of taking those steps will be negligible.
Determination – One second we can be planning and preparing, and the next minute life happens, and we find ourselves confused and fearful of the setback. There are going to be times in our life where we fall astray of our calling, or even run away from it. It can be a scary feeling having to succumb to God’s plan and not our own. However, stay determined in whatever it is you are called to do and believe you’ll be provided with the strength needed to see your mission(s) through.
“When People Love You, You Don’t Do Them Like Dirt” Eric Thomas Shifts Message When Student Is Talking During His Speech
Anyone who works with children knows they can be a handful. You know how we were as children, so many of the lessons adults tried to impart to us fell on deaf ears simply because we weren’t mature enough to appreciate them.
That’s what almost happened during a speech Eric Thomas gave at a St Louis high school. While he was attempting to speak to them, to share some wisdom and knowledge, a student kept talking, cracking jokes with the people sitting around him.
And instead of getting discouraged, Thomas went off script, off program and tailored his speech. Thomas’ impromptu lesson has since gone viral.
Check out a few highlights below and then watch the full thing, which just might inspire you too, in the video below.
I’m not playing now and this is why I get so frustrated. Shh…Somebody’s still talking, c’mon. Bruh I promise you, I love you bruh. Listen to me very closely. They pay me $50,000 to $100,000 when I speak to corporate America. I go to a basketball program, they pay me good. I ain’t getting a dime here. I’m here because I love you. But I’ll be darned if I come here for free and you disrespect me. I ain’t 20-years-old, I ain’t 19-years-old. I’m a grown man. I’m here because I love you. They ain’t pay me a dime. Matter of fact, I came here to use my influence to raise money so a group of kids can raise money to go to Costa Rica. I’m not here to get nothing. I’m here to give you something. And listen to me closely, when people love you, you don’t do them like dirt.
When people care for you, you don’t disrespect them. You aint got be a few people who care for you in this world…
I just heard we had a rapper here last night. How many schools did he go to? How many elementary schools? He came here and took your money but he didn’t invest nothing back into you. And you gonna have the nerve to laugh and joke when teachers try and teach you? You got the nerve to act a fool when somebody cares about you? You talking while I’m talking. Do you know when I go to a Jewish school, them kids quiet. If I go to a White school, them kids quiet. If I go to a Latino school, they quiet. The only kids that disrespect me is Black kids, that’s it. My own!
Look how we living ain’t nothing funny.
When I got my Ph.D, what embarrassed me, they asking me ‘What’s wrong with our urban schools?’ I’m embarrassed that they talk about y’all. What they don’t know is that you ain’t even trying when you take the test. You didn’t give your best. They think you’re dumb. You ain’t dumb. You can’t take our people from Africa and put us in the diaspora and spread us all over the world and we survive slavery and we can’t pass a test, c’mon! I ain’t stupid. You take everything from us and we still survive? And you gon’ tell me, we can’t learn how to write? Have you lost your mind? We are survivors, that’s all we do is survive.
Check out the clip from Thomas’ speech in the video below.
If you think Mary Jane O.D.s on Post-it notes you should’ve seen my cubicle at my previous job. After four years with the company I had become, in a word, miserable. And the constant scrutiny I came under not only had me questioning the field I was in but my ability to excel in it. I’m not typically a positive affirmation kind of girl but after so much struggle I decided I needed some highly visible reminders I could do better than my current circumstances and things would be OK in the end. So, I covered my area with these 10 quotes that I hope will be of just as much use to any of you also struggling out there.
Whether a mother of one or five, tough and trying days are inevitable. But it’s important to remember that you rock! You are victorious and more than a conqueror. You possess the infinite power to overcome anything. There is no burden too big for you to defeat. The following list includes uplifting and inspirational quotes to help with renewing and focusing your mind on what’s important: your babies. These quotes will get you through the day and will remind you of your strength and power. We often forget that the daily responsibilities of mothering show us even more just how much we rock – from balancing it all to taking care of oneself, it’s a full-time job and you’re doing it!
17 Uplifting and Inspirational Quotes for Moms
Today we celebrate two beginnings, the beginning of the month as well as the beginning of the week! It’s important to remember that with both of these new starts this season we should begin to manifest new perspectives! Try and beat the monday blues by motivating yourself! Forget coffee, let’s get serious about giving ourselves a natural boost with these 20 inspirational quotes for curving the early week blues!
I Hate Mondays: 20 Inspiring Quotes for Curving the Early Week Blues
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Every year Essence editor at large, Mikki Taylor’s role in the Disney Dreamer’s Academy begins long before the students ever set on Disney property. Taylor is a part of the Speaker’s Resource Group as well as the selection committee for the students who attend the annual event. We had a chance to speak to Ms. Taylor about how she prepares for the conference every year, not getting in the way of your dreams and what she would say to the students who were selected to be a part of the program.
See what she said in the video below.
Being 10 years older than my sister you would think I’m the one giving all the advice.
My sister is enjoying the last semester of her sophomore year in college. She’s in the honors program studying business—and come graduation will have no college-related debt as everything is paid (down to her books). Though her current status is truly praiseworthy, there were many days of darkness and uncertainty.
Two years ago my husband and I made our way from Jersey to Maryland to watch my sister graduate. I was a little over eight weeks pregnant at the time and was looking forward to catching up after the ceremony.
“So did you decide where you’re going to college in the fall?” I asked.
“No,” she responded holding her head in shame.
While my sister does have younger sibling tendencies to wait until the last minute, I was shocked and disappointed our mother and her father couldn’t get along to help their child figure out her future. She applied to the college of her choice along with two backup schools. Her father wanted her to go to one school and basically would not contribute a dime to the other choices. Our mother is not in the same financial position and could not afford the payments on her own or secure the necessary loan. Because of this, my sister was told community college was her only option for the fall. But I knew where there is God, there is a way.
With a month before the start of the fall semester, I stumbled across a Maryland college holding same-day admission in Connecticut. Paying for her own way, my sister took the train up to my house where I drove 90 minutes (each way) so she could reach her meeting on time. She was accepted that day and the rest is history.
I’m so proud at what my sister has accomplished in her two years at college. She has worked hard to secure more scholarships and recently scored a summer internship with a Fortune 500 company that pays $20 an hour, offers free housing and provides two weeks (paid) vacation. Every time I speak with her, she’s on her way to an important dinner, flying to a nearby state for a business-related project, or meeting with someone working at the White House.
And I thought I was doing well as a happily-married, work-from-home mom and entrepreneur.
There are no words to describe how proud I am of my sister and her aspirations. Without really knowing it, she challenges me to step up my game and take more risks. Who knows where she’ll be after college.
The sky is certainly not the limit for her.
2014 has been a trying year for all of us! With the recent publicized killings of unarmed black people by police officers with impunity, society continues to be fed up. Thousands continue to protest around the country with the general consensus in mind: BLACK LIVES MATTER! As we move into a new year, the following powerful quotes from our favorite intellectuals will keep you inspired and filled. Not to mention, these quotes will keep you going and pushing towards the mark, pushing towards your goals! Are you ready? Click continue and comment and let us know your favorite inspirational quotes.
15 Super Powerful Quotes to Get You Ready for 2015
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