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10 Things You Didn’t Know About Insecure’s Issa Rae

October 10th, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Issa Rae’s Insecure premiered yesterday on HBO (though it was made available to stream on HBO GO in advance). If you missed out on the opportunity to check the show out, you need to get on it. Seriously, it’s a gem that has great potential to develop into something really amazing over the next seven episodes. From the music to the way it’s shot and the dialogue, Insecure is an unabashed look into an underrepresented demographic on television — Black women living life in their 20s.

I was going to give you an entire slideshow detailing all of the behind-the-scenes information for the making of the new HBO series, but I thought it would be more fun to give you the deets on the genius behind it. Check out 10 things you probably didn’t know about our shero, Issa Rae.

Issa Rae Big Moves in Hollywood

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About “Issa”

Such a unique name right? Issa is actually short for Jo-Issa, and it’s a combination of the names of Rae’s grandmothers: Joyce and Isseu. The name Rae actually is her aunt’s name, so Issa is representing for the women in her family big time.

Full Trailer For Insecure Released As Issa Rae Gives Us The Real Behind The Show’s Title

September 9th, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Can we talk about how there’s so much great TV out there centering around Black men and women right now? There’s Queen Sugar, Atlanta, the classic favorites like How to Get Away With Murder, Black-ish, Empire and more. Another show soon to add to that greatness is Issa Rae’s Insecure, set to debut on HBO next month. Rae has released the official trailer for the series, and it looks like it’s going to be quite relatable — and a hit.  

In the trailer for the series, Rae’s character, named Issa Dee, is fast approaching 30 and wants to change things up — her dating life, her style, her self-confidence. As she puts it, she doesn’t have time for the bullsh-t anymore. We get to watch Dee as she attempts to grow in her journey and out of the boxes she’s placed herself in for years.

And for those wondering why Rae named her new show Insecure, she broke that down on her Instagram page this week.

“It’s because there’s this narrative that’s going around that’s awesome: Black women are fierce, they’re strong, they’re flawless. And I don’t know that life. My friends definitely don’t know that life. So I wanted to center a show around weak Black women and the uncertainty they feel on that journey to get to greatness. It’s like the prequel to Black girl magic.”

Check out the trailer for the show below. It includes direction by popular music video director Melina Matsoukas (who is also executive producer), features Raphael Saadiq as a composer, and comedian Larry Wilmore is co-creator of the series. We’re loving what we see so far, and can’t wait to watch the full thing when it debuts on October 9 on HBO at 10:30 p.m.


Behaviors That Scream Insecurity

September 8th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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People who tend to be on the shy side of insecure probably know when they’re acting insecure. They don’t try to cover it up or overcompensate for it; they just try to, well, hide. But then there are people who overcompensate for their insecurities by acting extremely confident, feigning enormous intelligence, and doing whatever they can to position themselves above others. They don’t know how to operate on the same level as other people; they fear so deeply that they are below people, that they do anything they can to appear better than them. So, if you’re someone who thought you were doing a good job at hiding your insecurities, you may find out that you’re actually putting them on display. And, if you’re on a date with, or getting to know somebody who displays these behaviors, take a little pity in them; they’re desperately insecure. Here are 19 behaviors that scream insecurity.

8 Mantras That Kill Insecurity Instantly

August 12th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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Don’t let anybody tell you that they never feel insecure. They’re liars, and liars are the most insecure of them all! It doesn’t matter how much personal work you’ve done, how many times you’ve backpacked through a foreign country by yourself, how dedicated you are to meditation, how much time you’ve spent happily single—everybody feels insecure sometimes. So don’t beat yourself up about it if you thought you personal work was done, and here you are, feeling like a 5-year-old on the first day of kindergarten: terrified. Personal work is a life-long task, and we will all feel insecure from time to time –even healing gurus. Yes, even Oprah feels insecure sometimes. It’s the really strong people who don’t let insecurity cause them to spiral out of control. They face it, work through it, and tackle it head on. Here are mantras that kill insecurity.

How To Handle Insecurity In A Relationship

June 27th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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We all become insecure in our relationships sometimes. I live with my boyfriend—I got him to give up the lease on the apartment he loved, spend weeks apartment searching, and face a rent hike, all so that he could be with me more. And I still have thoughts like, “He probably wishes I looked more like this or that” or “He is probably bored with me.” No matter how loving and committed a partner is, it’s normal to feel insecure sometimes.

There is a special word for people who never feel insecure,  narcissists. But just because feeling insecure in a relationship is normal doesn’t mean it feels good, or is good. Insecurities can cause you to say or do things that stir up fights, or make your partner feel alienated from you, all over something that was just in your head. Learn to tackle those moments of paranoia and sensitivity, so they don’t blow up your day — or your relationship.

The 50 Second Trailer For Issa Rae’s “Insecure” Has Us Cracking Up

June 24th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Trailer For Issa Rae’s Insecure

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Just a couple of weeks ago, we reported that HBO announced Issa Rae’s show “Insecure” would premiere this fall. And we rejoiced.

But now, with the release of the series’ first trailer, there’s yet another reason to celebrate. With this diverse group of writers, we were extremely hopeful that this series, like the rest of Issa’s work, would be well done. And this trailer proves that our suspicions were correct, thankfully.

Check it out below.

Kudos to the first person who can tell me where we’ve seen the girl in the navy blue sweater, who roasted Issa’s outfit.

For those who need a refresher on the show’s concept, it’s based on Issa Rae’s life and centers around the friendship of two modern-day Black women, and all of their experiences. That friend, Molly, will be played by Yvonne Orji. Jay Ellis will take on the role of her unemployed boyfriend.

I happen to love the summer, but with this coming down the pipeline, it seems like there’s something to look forward to in the fall.

Issa Rae’s Insecure To Premiere On HBO This Fall

May 31st, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Issa Rae's Insecure To Premiere On HBO This Fall

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Issa Rae’s HBO pilot has been a long time in the making. We’ve been reporting about the possibility of one of her shows being picked up on HBO since 2013. Then the story reemerged again in 2015, with sources claiming that the pilot would be making its debut later that year.

But as you know, that didn’t happen either.

Recently though, HBO itself sent out a tweet confirming that the long-awaited show, Insecure, was going to be premiering this fall.

As we’ve reported, the show is loosely based on Rae’s life and centers around the “friendship of two modern-day Black women, Issa and Molly (Yvonne Orji) and all of their uncomfortable experiences and racy tribulations.”

Jay Ellis will star as Rae’s handsome but unemployed boyfriend and Lisa Joyce will play her coworker at an educational non-profit firm.

With her reputation for telling stories about the oft-ignored Black [nerd ,awkward, non-seriously rapping, non-hoop dreaming, non-drug dealing] community, we’re happy to support almost anything Issa Rae is apart of. But what makes us even more excited is the group of writers associated with this project.

Complete. #InsecureWriters

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See all those faces of color? Looks like progress.

It’s All About Me, Me, Me, Me, Me: How To Spot The Narcissist In Your Circle

February 19th, 2015 - By Alyssa Johnson
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Narcissists are some of the most annoying people because they believe that the world revolves around them. They can show up in the form of your significant other, friend, co-worker or family member, and you might not realize it until they’ve already become a major part of your life. Check out these traits to see if you have a narcissist in your circle.

Thoughts That Are Making You Jealous

April 17th, 2014 - By Ashley Page
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Thoughts That Are Making You Jealous


Relationships are meant to make you feel cared for, loved, and secure, but often times, people in relationships experience a lot of jealousy and rarely does it have anything to do with their partner. Here are some thoughts that are making you jealous and how you can change them.

Building Your Child’s Self Esteem | Mommy in Chief

June 17th, 2013 - By jade
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In this episode of Mommy in Chief, we are discussing how to build your child’s self esteem. It is very important as a mother to build your child’s self esteem from birth. We also have a special treat for you at the end of the segment. You don’t want to miss the cutest little kids expressing how confident and beautiful they are!


Iris L. Johnson, LCSW, PC, is a graduate of Hunter College School of Social Work, Ackerman Institute Externship and Hunter College’s Adoption Therapy Programs. Ms. Johnson has served in leadership positions at several New York City social service agencies and has extensive experience working with young children, adolescents, and families who have experienced trauma and socioeconomic oppression. She has presented nationally on issues that impact women and children, especially families of African descent.

She is a mother of two-one biological and one foster care/adoption.

Ms. Johnson maintains a private practice in New York City and Brooklyn, working with individuals, couples, families, and groups.


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