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A man who goes by the name of Aswad Ayinde (birth name: Charles McGill) is currently facing his second of five jury trials, three of which he is accused of raping and impregnating three of his five daughters while they were minors, reports NorthJersey.com.
In his current proceeding, Ayinde is facing two counts of aggravated sexual assault and two counts of sexual assault. This past Tuesday, his ex-wife Beverly Ayinde, whom he was married to for seventeen years, took the stand. In her testimony, she recounted the chilling details of the detestable horrors that went on in her home at the hands of Aswad. Beverly revealed that she simply could not believe that her 12-year-old daughter was really pregnant until her husband dropped the shocking bomb that he could be the father of their daughter’s unborn child.
“He said, ‘She could be pregnant from me.’ My heart started racing,” Beverly testified.
She went on to express that between 1980 and 2006, Aswad sought to control every single aspect of her life and the lives of their children.
“He equaled himself to being a prophet. As time went on, he was god-like. I had to call him, ‘my god.’ He equated himself to Jesus Christ … He would sit us all down and lecture us about his greatness and his power … At another point, he equated himself to Prince and Michael Jackson,” Beverly told the courts.
Aswad is accused of deliberately impregnating his daughters in an attempt to create a “pure bloodline.” Beverly expressed to the courts that she blamed herself for not seeing this coming, as she revealed that four years prior to the pregnancy of her daughter, he told her that spirits were telling him to perform oral sex on the child, who was 8 at the time.
“I was shocked. I said, ‘What are you talking about?’ He tried to present it in this very godly, spiritual way,” she testified.
Her testimony also revealed that Aswad frequently walked around their home in the nude and sodomized one of their daughters at least 100 times. When asked why she never called police, Beverly said that he threatened to kill her children.
“He threatened he would kill my children. He would cut them up and put them in different places and I wouldn’t be able to prove anything because I didn’t have a birth certificate for any of them,” she tearfully admitted just after revealing that some of her children didn’t have birth certificates because Aswad delivered all but two of them himself in their home.
As stated earlier, this is the second of five jury trials that Aswad will have to face. Back in 2010 he was found guilty of molesting one of his other daughters. The molestation is said to have began when she was 8 years old and continued up until he impregnated her as a teenager. He was sentenced to 40 years in prison. With all five trials combined, Aswad is being accused of raping all five of his daughters and impregnating three. If convicted on all counts in the present and pending trials, Aswad faces more than 100 years in prison. He is being tried for the rape of each daughter separately to prevent bias among jurors.
Aswad is known to the world as the man who directed the music video to accompany infamous Fugees track, “Killing Me Softly,” which went on to win Best R&B Video at the 1996 MTV Video Music Awards.
Mother Struggles Raising Son Fathered By Dad: It’s Like Which One Are You Today? My Son Or My Brother?
It’s hard enough being a single mother, but being a single mother to a son fathered by your own father brings a new set of problems for 27-year-old Columbia, SC, mom Tiara Stevens.
“That confuses me a lot,” she told WISTV local news. “It’s like, ‘Which one are you today? Are you my son, or are you my brother?’ Because he really is both.”
When Tiara was just 12 years old she became pregnant by her father who routinely sexually abused her as a pre-teen.
“He never told me what he was doing,” she said. “It was just late at night. He would come in, take my clothes off, and he would have sex. And he would leave and he would say, ‘You better not stay up all night,’ and I would go in the bathroom and I would cry. The next night he may not do it, but the next night, he would repeat the same thing.”
One night, Tiara’s father received more than he bargained for when he realized he had impregnated his child.
“He had done what he usually did to me and the baby kicked and whenever he did, he said, ‘Get up, hold your shirt up. You’re pregnant,’” Tiara said.
Unfortunately that revelation didn’t come about until just a few days before young Tiara went into labor, meaning she didn’t receive any prenatal care at all.
“The only place I went was to the hospital,” Tiara said. “Never went to any doctors appointments or anything. Only thing I remember is passing out at school. I really didn’t get big or nothing.”
DSS stepped in after Tiara gave birth in January 1999, but giving a statement to Lancaster deputies was as far as the case went. Determined to get justice more for her son than for herself, Tiara’s case against her father is finally set to go to court next month. There, she will recount the horrid things her father did to her, and the most permanent stain he left which are the health conditions his son/grandson now has to deal with — being legally blind and albino — because of their close gene pool.
“I didn’t do nothing wrong, and what the system is trying to do to me is not right, waiting 14 years for justice,” Tiara said.
“Everyday, I look at my son, his health conditions because of what [my father] did, so [my father] has actually got it easy. I’m the one that’s got it so hard.”
Hopefully those tables will turn when the trial against her father begins November 5.
My Story: For Colored Girls Who’ve Considered Suicide When the Law Couldn’t Protect Them From Incest
Before the barrage of Tyler Perry movies that uncovered family secrets and before the Oscar nods for Monique’s depiction in “Precious” of the horrors of child abuse, I was 5. He was strong. There were no camera crews to capture my anguish, no protests in honor of my tears, and no advocates to collect my screams. I’d begin to learn that the law does little to protect you if your molester is in your immediate family.
Incest is not punishable in the state of New Jersey if both the perpetrator and the victim are over the age of 18. In fact, it’s perfectly legal. The law which fiercely penalizes rape and sexual assault coughs and turns its head when the perpetrator lives under your roof. The problem with New Jersey’s law is that many children are too scared and/or confused to prosecute or testify against someone so close. It’s a hurdle most us are terrified of attempting so we wait. We wait normally until adulthood when we can finally formulate the words to confront our captors and by then it’s too late to seek retribution because in New Jersey (and several other states) it’s legal. Some would say there are laws against molestation and abuse but proving them is difficult. In an article by Janice Friedman she sums up how I felt, “Imagine, if you aren’t marked up or if you’ve been drugged, you won’t be a victim, you’ll be an accuser.”
So I lived with him day after day caught in a suburban prison. I cooked breakfast every morning− scrambled eggs, fried potatoes with onions and cheddar cheese and poured him orange juice in an burgundy mug that ironically had a scripture about forgiveness on the front. If the butter happened to turn brown in the pan and tint his sunny scrambled eggs I could be sure that it would warrant punishment. Yet, the love of a child is unconditional and I grew to love him and justify his sordid ways as a coping mechanism. A child’s mind will justify heinous things the best way it knows how because a child cannot fathom that a person so close to them would ever intentionally hurt them. So sex is justified by statements like “he loves me the way he loves Mommy.” However, as I grew older the love I once felt turned into resentment and resentment turned to hate.
What price can be put on a stolen childhood? When people ask me why I look so young, I respond that I’d like to think God gave me the gift of youth because my childhood was taken from me. I never prosecuted the man who hurt me. I was 24 when I came forward and he was forced to confess. Some people ask “why did you wait so long?” “Why are you airing the dirty laundry now?” Fear crippled me. I knew a secret like that would tear our family apart. I knew it would make things difficult. There would be pain. There would be tears. So, I waited. Even now that he is no longer a part of my life; learning to forgive has been a difficult road for me. However, my pastor said that as long as I chose to hold onto anger, his power over me would remain just as strong as it was all of those years ago. I. Forgive. Him.
All of us carry pieces of our past into our future. Some of us are blessed enough to recover from tragic moments in our lives. However, there are those who cannot drown out the nightmares called memories. This…what I’m writing… is for them. It was in realizing that I am not a ‘victim’ but a survivor that I was able to overcome the past and forgive. Some of us have survived trauma that others would commit suicide over. This is the harsh reality of the disparity in our penal system. America obsesses over the trivial details of their lives and somewhere a little girl decides between cooking “him” breakfast and kingdom come.
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Kissing cousins are one (odd) thing but a brother and sister in a relationship with four kids together? That’s the crazy case that was brought before a European Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg, Germany recently.
Patrick Stuebing and Susan Karolewski didn’t grow up together but they are biological brother and sister. The couple met in their 20s after Patrick, who had been adopted, tracked down his biological family. When the siblings’ mother passed away, they grew close and eventually fell in love, now they have four children together, two of whom are described as having “disabilities.”
Intercourse between relatives is punishable with imprisonment of up to three years or a fine under German law, and Patrick has already spent more than three years in prison for his actions. The sister reportedly wasn’t convicted because she suffers from a severe personality disorder. The case came before the court because the couple argues they have a right to have a life together and say the court is responsible for the damage done to their relationship while he has been away.
The court felt otherwise and upheld the law which deems incest illegal, stating that the law does not violate the fundamental right to protection of family life as the couple argued. The damage caused to offspring as a result of inbreeding is the main reason the law was upheld, and considering two of these siblings’ children have such disabilities, the ruling makes sense. MSN Now points out that it wouldn’t have been totally surprising if the court decided to legalize incest, though. Other European countries have given it the OK, such as France, and Sweden allows half-siblings to marry.
I’m still trying to wrap my head around their entire relationship so I don’t know what else to say. Do you think the court made the right decision?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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