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It’s a sad day when a wedding planner is heading for divorce instead of helping others get down the aisle, but according to TMZ that’s the case with one of our favorite men on WEtv: David Tutera.

The “My Fair Wedding” host is reportedly ending things with his husband of 10-years, Ryan Jurica, and what’s worse is the couple is currently expecting twins by way of a surrogate.

What could make this split even more complicated is the fact that David and Ryan aren’t actually husband and husband in the legal sense. The partners did have a lavish wedding ceremony in Vermont back in 2003, but as California residents they legally only have a domestic partnership. But David is seeking to end the partnership, citing ”irreconcilable differences,” and on top of that he wants full legal and physical custody of the twins, which are due in July. As far as Ryan goes, he’s willing to give him visitation rights to their children.

TMZ says legal documents filed in L.A. County Superior Court also show David doesn’t want to pay Ryan a penny for spousal support — which I didn’t even know was a question in domestic partnerships – and he wants Ryan to pay for all legal fees related to the split. Anyone else feel like Ryan may have dipped out on David and now he’s trying to make him suffer? Jus’ saying.

Either way, here’s hoping these two can at least figure out a way to co-parent if the marriage can’t be saved.

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Alicia Keys celebrated her 32nd birthday and love was shown via internet from all of her celebrity friends and admirers, fans and her husband, Swizz Beatz.  Her husband noted that Keys is a woman who often celebrates others but rarely celebrates herself and he was right. She posted on her Facebook that she was so overwhelmed by the birthday love that she wanted to give the fans something: new music. That’s right, Alicia released “Brand New Me (Part 2)” which is pretty much a remix to her current single. As she noted, the song samples Crystal Waters’ “Gypsy Woman” and she pretty much just changed some of the lyrics to fit the message of her single.

There’s a little bit of hip hop in it so we wouldn’t be surprised if Swizz got his hands on the production.

Keys seems to still be working really hard on promoting her album, Girl on Fire. The album only sold 159,000 copies in its first week and to date, it has sold 478,000 copies. Her last album, The Element of Freedom, sold 417,000 copies in its first week so GOF is definitely her lowest performing album to date. However, album sales as a whole are down so in the bigger scheme of things, it makes sense.

Keys performed at the Inaugural Ball last Monday with yet another version of her single “Girl on Fire,” changing it up to “Obama’s on Fire.” Yes, yes she did. She’ll also be performing the National Anthem at the Super Bowl on February 3rd so if nothing else, she is keeping herself out there.

Anyway, here’s “Brand New Me (Part 2). Check it out:

Well…what do you think? Do you like the original or the remix better?

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Dear Single Sistahs,

I am writing this letter to my Single Sistahs who are in a monogamous relationship, those who are engaged or desire to be married, those who are in the beginning stages of a relationship, those who are in a monogamous relationship with potential for marriage, and especially to those who believe they have the influence and power to change a man.

I am even writing to my Sistahs who are engaged or married to ‘reformed’ players, playboys and jiggalows. I’m writing this letter to my single and married Sistahs to let you know that you can’t turn a man-slore into a husband. Why can’t you turn a man-slore into a husband? For these simple and common sense reasons: 1.You can’t change a man’s mind about marriage, or settling down. Why can’t you change his mind? Because it’s his choice whether he wants to marry you or not. It doesn’t matter how much you cook for him, how often you clean for him, how good you sex him (or how much), how often you keep his kids for him, how much you call or text him, or how many other husband privileges you give your boyfriend or significant other. None of this will change his mind or influence him to become a husband or even your husband.

Reason 2. It’s not your job to change his mind about marriage, or settling down. Many of us believe that when we meet a man we believe to be ‘the one’ we have to do everything within our power to convince him that we are ‘the one’ for him. So we have the tendency to do the things previously listed to show him that we are worthy of the ring! But what we often fail to realize is that within relationships our only job is to be his companion while being who we are, because the bottom line is if he wants to be with you monogamously he will. And guess what?  If he wants to marry you it’ll be for who you are, not what you can do for him, because the truth of the matter is there is nothing different you can do that another woman is not willing to learn or has already done, but you can be you. So don’t wreck your brain or your body trying to change his mind. It’s not your job.

Reason 3. You should accept him for who he is, and who he’s not. If the man you are seeing is not one for settling down and wants to continue playing the field, then your best bet is to leave the relationship because you don’t want to waste your precious time waiting for him to marry or settle down with you and he’s not interested in marriage, or monogamous relationships. On the other hand,  the man you are in a relationship with may not be interested in marriage or monogamy at this point in his life, and you have to be okay with that because it’s who he is at this time in his life. It doesn’t make him a dog or a playboy; it’s just who he is and what he wants to do with the relationships he’s involved in at that point in his life.

Reason 4. A woman cannot teach a man how to be a husband; that’s something he must learn from other men, married or even those that are divorced. Trying to turn a playboy, or even a man who is not a playboy into a husband is not something a woman can do because a woman may know the traits and characteristics they want in a man for a husband, but only a man knows how to execute those traits and characteristics, and only a man can show another man how to do so. He has to be willing to watch other married men, and listen to their advice on marriage. He can even listen to men who are divorced and listen to what not to do in a marriage. But the main thing a man has to do is have the desire to be married. My Single Sistahs (and married ones) it’s not our job to convert boys to men and men into husbands, but it is our job to walk uprightly as women they will want to marry.

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I don’t know about you, but I’m most interested in that last statement because although Karrine Steffans can technically call herself a best-selling author, no one really knows how she keeps the checks rolling in after exposing her sexcapades in the industry back in 2005.

Seven years removed from the video vixen exposay, Karrine does manage to keep herself somewhat relevant the same way most people who are famous but really shouldn’t be do—Twitter—especially when those suspect tweets are speculated to be about her husband, and when they’re not about him, they’re about Lil Wayne. This is why The Jasmine Brand caught up with the video model to essentially see what her purpose is in life and what men are a part of it. Here’s what she had to say:

On what she does for a living

“I get this question a lot because I think people want me to define my brand and myself and people cant seem to get a grasp on me what I’m doing and why. I can’t define myself. I’m indefinable. I do what I do. I’m just living my life the way that I live my life. There are a lot of businesses that I own. I do a lot of everything and so if I’m able to share that some of it I can’t, some of it I’m just starting to share now and I do. I just don’t think that I can be defined; I don’t think anyone should be defined and put into a box because you begin to think that you are only this one thing. I just live my life and I do some of that publicly.”

Whether she’s really getting a television show on Fox

“The president of the studio wanted me to write a show. We’ve been friends for 11-12 years now. I’m consistently turning down the president of a major studio. I don’t want to write a show because I feared that, it’s something I’ve never done. Finally, he showed me how to write a show and we started. He optioned the Vixen Manual then I wrote the script for that pilot which I just got finished after 2 years. I went through 10-12 drafts. Everyone in the studio has to agree and like everything. It took 2 years and 10 versions before it was ready to go out. Were deciding on the network currently for the Vixen Manual Show and I’m [going to] keep the title to myself, for now. I recently signed another development deal with FOX for Confessions and now has to be optioned for 1 hour long. My executive director can not be exposed quite yet due to contract purposes but I’m super happy to have her. I have two development deals and two television shows underway. It will hit the screen but I don’t know when, television takes forever. I couldn’t work with any other writer but chances are Vixen Manual will probably come sooner because the script is complete. After development then production and we will still have to go in for pick-ups. I have no way of knowing when it will hit the screen.”

On her outrageous tweets

“Everything is strategic. There are no accidents happening. When I tweet outrageous stuff it’s for marketing purposes. Everything is business!”

Whether her pregnancy tweets were about Lil Wayne

“Wait! What!? I’ve never tweeted that. Get the f**k out of here. Who said that? That’s impossible. Me and Wayne don’t have a sexual relationship. We haven’t had once since before my first husband. I’m one of the few women who hasn’t been pregnant by Wayne. YOOOOO! That’s so super off! It’s important for people to understand that I’m not going to tweet about my life every 5 seconds. I’ll tweet erotic s**t and random randomness but not everything I tweet about is about me. It’s only the internet. I live above the influence- not even a possibility!”

Whether Wayne is bothered by her tweeting about him all the time

“No, but we did have a conversation the other day about something he heard about, that didn’t actually happen. It ended well. He was having an emotional moment, God bless his soul. I told him, I’m not a fan, I’m your friend and he said something that didn’t make sense but he apologized.”

If she’s still married (despite tweeting she filed for divorce)

“Yes, I am still with my husband. We are not divorced, we are not getting divorced- at this time. Tomorrow is a whole another day. As of right now, were good.”

Whether her famous tired twitter rant was about him

“My husband is very new, he is very green. When I did my first tweet, everyone thought I was talking about my husband and some bulls***t blog put all these tweets together and said I wrote a letter to my husband. Why would I do that on twitter? This is crazy! You’re an idiot! It was random tweets I HATE YOU … random randomness. One of the lines was “give back my MAC computer,” that tweet as random as it was, came from the Monica and Brandy song when it first came out. That’s a line from that song. My husband went online and read these things and he was upset. Honey, you’re not my fan your my husband. But I had just gave him my MACbook and he was using my MAC at the time. But now he’s good and he gets it.”

On her “legacy”

“To keep coming back for more. I think for me and I think about this alot when I’m dead what are they gonna say, I’m so fearless and I spend so much of my life being afraid of everything and everybody. I want my legacy to be one that broke free of fear and stopped caring about anybody but me. I don’t care what anybody thinks or feels, I only care about me and learning that it’s actually the right way to me. Fearless and Selfish.”

I’ll give her points for claiming to be one of the very few women who hasn’t been pregnant by Wayne, but everything else she says just screams bird…. I’m actually surprised she hasn’t landed a reality show yet.

You can read more from her interview and the inspiration behind her new book, Drink, F***, Sleep on The Jasmine Brand. Thoughts?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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Remember Tiffany Evans, the “little” girl with the big voice from Star Search and a couple of the “Madea” movies (she was Tyler Perry’s choir-singing daughter in Diary of a Mad Black Woman)? Well, she’s not so little anymore and she’s been up to a lot over the last couple of years – some of which may surprise you.

In an interview with Essence.com, Tiffany talked about her new music – an EP titled Take 1 – which she says finally shows off her talents as not only a singer but a songwriter.  As she says:

“My fans have never heard any music written by me. I thought it was important to do so this time around. I also thought it was important for me to experience life and go through things to write about them from a true place. I wanted this project to be organic. I had to take myself down a notch and go through love and write about it.“

And experiencing life is exactly what Tiffany has been doing. In a pretty shocking announcement, she revealed that at 19, she’s also expecting her first child with her husband of TWO YEARS!  This came as a bit of a surprise because although there had been rumors that Tiffany might have been married over the last six months, she never said a word confirming or denying it.  Tiffany is married to a man named Lorenzo, one of Ciara’s backup dancers, and apparently they’ve been going strong for a few years now.  Tiffany said she’s just been waiting on the right time to announce it.

She certainly has a lot going on for such a young woman, but that might not be a bad thing. We wish her the best!

What were you doing at 17 years old? Could you imagine getting married that young? 

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For some women, marriage changes their lives. For others, they’re still the same old you know what with a rock on their ring finger. Karrine Steffans is the latter.

I haven’t thought much about Superhead and her vixen confessions since she aired her and every man in the music industry’s dirty laundry in her best-selling tell-all in 2005. Now the former video chick seems to be back to her old ways of putting people on blast, except this time the victim appears to be her husband, and her words are even more disrespectful than in her book.

Yesterday, Karrine went on a wild Twitter rant about how “sometimes, in relationships, the pleasure is all theirs,” with a non-stop series of one-liner shots that just kept hitting lower and lower beneath the belt. While Karrine never specifically mentioned her husband, whom she married last year and “announced” she was pregnant by when she uploaded a picture of a positive pregnancy test to her Tumblr, at some points the tweets were so personal and applicable, you can’t help but think she was sending the most emasculating and disrespectful message ever sent to a man on a social network. Here’s just a small sample of the things she said:

I’m tired of being your upgrade.

We are not equally yoked.

You really deserve someone more basic.

I’m tired of pretending your mediocracy is okay with me.

I’m tired of pretending I don’t miss G650′s.

I’m tired of pretending you’re not a burden.

I’m tired of pretending I don’t deserve a f***ing BOSS!

I’m tired of you driving my car.

Stop telling me you love me as if you’re doing me some sort of favor.

I don’t need you to love me. I love me.

I’m tired of pretending like you shouldn’t be intimidated by the other men in my life. Cuz you should.

I’m tired of pretending as if I support your bullshit dreams.

I’m tired of pretending your d*** isn’t the smallest d*** I’ve ever seen in my life. Cuz it is.

I’m tired of pretending your favorite rapper didn’t just beat it up on Friday.

I’m tired of paying for everything.

Summer is on the way, n****. You already know what’s up.

*drops mic, walks off stage*

Unfortunately, Karrine picked her mic back up with an encore rant that included “I’m tired of having to pretend you’re not the 3rd worst decision I’ve ever made,” and “You should really be with that one chick who bagged our groceries this weekend. That’s more your speed.”

Um this all sounds pretty specific to Karrine’s average Joe husband, the past ballers she used to date, and her ongoing admiration of Lil Wayne. I’m sure some of you are thinking, what do we expect from this chic, and the rest are like, hey, she told it like it is. I’m still trying to figure out how someone managed to put a ring on it after she exposed her nasty past and had a relationship with Bill Maher and “Eddie Winslow”—and why she fails to realize she’s not such a hot catch herself.

Since Karrine’s TMI session has caught more eyeballs than expected, and nearly doubled her followers, she’s made it a point to say she never mentioned her husband, although she adds, “I can’t deny or confirm that fact, not on twitter.” She also says “My job is to entertain,” but she didn’t have to tell us that. We’re well aware of her former life as an “entertainer” and how she turned the story of entertaining men into a book deal that has her sitting pretty nicely, who’s to say this whole slew of foolishness isn’t a precursor to the book she says is coming this summer and refuses to confirm whether it’s fact or fiction.

Regardless of whether these tweets are rooted in pure reality or just PR, who would want to be her husband right now—or period? Karrine has already been caught in Twitterversy flirting with Lil Wayne, whom she had a relationship with in the past, and she made a provocative little video discussing how she is in love with him and always will be last month—post nuptials. If I was her husband I would be going HAM about that rapper beating it up line right now. Despite whatever this attention-needing vixen’s goal is, some things you just don’t do out of respect. And for all the ladies giving Karrine e-high fives and acting like her rant is the best thing in the world, remember these words of wisdom: Don’t try this at home. No man is going for this and there is nothing cute about exposing your real or made-up business on a social network, especially to that extent because all you’re really doing is exposing yourself.

Karrine did drop one piece of knowledge her likely soon-to-be-ex hubby should take to heart: “You should have Googled me sooner.” I bet he realizes what he got himself into now.

Do you think Karrine was really throwing shots at her husband or was she just looking for attention? Does her husband have a right to be mad either way?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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When it comes to the people you love the most in the world it can be hard to choose who’s going to get your attention, when and how much of it. We took to the streets of New York to pose this tricky question to some passers by, asking them in a marriage who comes first your spouse or your children. We made the stakes even higher by asking who would come first in a life or death situation. See what these people had to say in the video above.

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It’s not every day that a girl get’s the chance to become a Victoria Secret model, but Kylie Bisutti, a model in one of the lingerie brands most coveted positions—an angel—recently walked away from it all to honor her husband and her commitment to God.

Kylie won Victoria Secret’s model search in 2009 at the age of 19, and although she enjoyed the perks that came along with the job, she said she started to feel torn spiritually.

“Victoria’s Secret was my absolutely biggest goal in life, and it was all I ever wanted career-wise,” she told FOX411’s Pop Tarts. I actually loved it while I was there, it was so much fun and I had a blast. But the more I was modeling lingerie, and lingerie isn’t clothing, I just started becoming more uncomfortable with it because of my faith…

“I’m Christian, and reading the Bible more, I was becoming more convicted about it.”

Kylie’s marriage was also a big part of her decision to leave the brand. She got married right before winning the model search nearly three years ago, and said didn’t feel comfortable posing for men’s magazines and baring her body for other people.

“My body should only be for my husband and it’s just a sacred thing,” she said. “I didn’t really want to be that kind of role model for younger girls because I had a lot of younger Christian girls that were looking up to me and then thinking that it was okay for them to walk around and show their bodies in lingerie to guys.

“It was pretty crazy because I finally achieved my biggest dream, the dream that I always wanted, but when I finally got it, it wasn’t all that I thought it would be. Especially being married I just wanted to keep my marriage sacred because divorce rates now in America are pretty high, and I just want to do everything I can to keep my marriage special.”

“It is a very hard industry to be in without falling into things you don’t want to do,” she said. “I’ve fallen into many things that I wouldn’t have wanted to do, it’s a very tempting industry.”

I’ve done a few drive-bys in my day—no, not the kind where you shoot up someone’s house. The ones where you and your girl take a ride past her man’s house in your car because he doesn’t know what you drive and you don’t want to get caught, she just wants to know if he’s really at home like he said he is—yeah, those kind.

I’ve also checked a few emails, a Facebook message here or there, but I never went through a man’s phone. There was only so far I was willing to stick my nose because I knew at some point I would drive myself crazy, and if I had to do all that, it was probably time to go anyway.

A paternity lab is breathing new life into the word snoop with infedility DNA testing that allows men and women to send in their partner’s underwear, boxers, tighty whities, panties, etc. for DNA testing to determine if they’ve been faithful or not. Creepy, right?

“The process is real simple” says Kip Charles, the man behind the operation. “Just provide us an article of clothing, preferably underwear or panties and we will do the rest. We can identify if semen is present, make sure it’s viable for dna extraction and then do a final comparison to make sure the DNA belongs to the correct person.”

“Most of the men callers want to check for someone else’s semen in their wife or girlfriends panties,” according to Tashunda H., one of the lab’s “specialists,” “but the women all want to know if female DNA is present in their husband or boyfriends underwear.”

The price for whatever piece of mind this testing could provide isn’t cheap either, running slightly under $200, plus it just isn’t practical. Your partner would have to have unprotected sex, stain their undergarments, and leave them somewhere in your home where they were accessible to you. By the time you packaged them, sent them off for testing, and got the results, you could have a disease. Probably makes more sense to stick to the tried and true method of simply asking: where were you last night?

I’m assuming none of you has ever gone this far to prove your man was creeping, but what is this craziest thing you’ve done to see if a man was faithful or not?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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If you live in Parma, OH, you better know your pop culture—-or else you might get stabbed. That’s what happened to a 48-year-old Garfield Heights man there following an argument.

According to Det. Marty Compton of the Parma Police Department, Ronald Deaver, 31, stabbed the 48-year-old during an argument that started because the victim didn’t know that Jay Z is Beyonce’s husband. The attack happened around 11pm on New Year’s and the victim was taken to a local hospital where he was listed in good condition. Deaver, however, now faces a felonious assault charge.

I bet he’ll try to blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-a-alcohol, but if his lawyer doesn’t know who sings that song he might be in trouble too. SMH.

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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