blackloveandmarriage.com

Your relationship is fine. You’re not getting into massive arguments. You’re happy to be around each other. You look forward to seeing each other. You do find your partner attractive. But you’ve stopped having sex. Or, you’ve stopped having it nearly as much as you used to. But sex is an integral part of feeling intimate with someone: it’s what differentiates your partner from just your friend. And if you let a sex drought go on for too long, you could be headed for the end. But it can be an easy fix if you can identify the problem.

stylemagazine.com

In the beginning of a relationship, you do nice things for your partner to impress her, rather than to make her feel good—that’s just a bonus. You want to show her what the package includes, should she decide to buy it. And so, unfortunately, once you’ve wooed her and won her, it’s easy to get too comfortable and stop making the large and loving gestures you once made. You think, “She knows that I adore her/find her attractive/am happy with her. So I don’t have to show it.” And, while she probably does know, once the effort goes out the window, so can the excitement of a relationship. And once that goes, your girlfriend/wife can start to wonder, “Is there something else out there? Is this what I want my life to be like?” A few simple gestures could keep those thoughts at bay.

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