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For the most part after a breakup, you’re a big ball of mush. You just want to cry, stay in bed and feel sorry for yourself. And that’s a natural and important part of the healing process. However, there’s a little part of you that’s mad—the ever strong, sassy, “who the h*ll did he think he was?” part of you that needs to get out once in a while! You need to nurture her too, you know? Here’s how.
When you’re going through a breakup, sometimes you want to cry, sometimes you want to scream, and sometimes you want to break things or drive past your ex’s house, and there’s only one thing that makes any of those things feel a little less crazy: a complimentary song. These are our top picks for best post-breakup songs.
So you’ve just gone through a breakup and you want to be sure you keep your cool. You don’t want to do anything that makes you look (and feel) desperate or like you’re falling apart. Some acts are obvious to stay away from. Others are a bit subtler until suddenly you feel like you’re spiraling out of control right after doing them. Avoid that “Oh my god…I’m a crazy ex!” moment and don’t do these things.
I’m an advocate of feeling all the emotions that inevitably come with a breakup. If you don’t hurt every drop of hurt there is, all of your relationships moving forward will be tainted with your unresolved feelings from the past (and you’re in denial if you don’t think that’s true. Ever notice how guys who ‘don’t give a damn’ about their cheating exes also conveniently happen to be paranoid, jealous and controlling? Unresolved feelings at work…) so, this list is not about avoiding the reality of heartbreak. It won’t offer you a quick fix because there isn’t one. In fact, the word “quick” is in direct contrast to the only thing that makes you heal: time. However, there’s certainly no need to make things any worse! So avoid this.
I’m a big believer in appreciating what you have. And, that can also mean appreciating what you don’t have. Instead of staring longingly at happy couples and thinking “I wish I had that” do yourself a favor, and next time you see a couple arguing, let yourself think this: “I’m so grateful I’m not dealing with that.” You can appreciate this, too:
Yes, you miss him. You miss the consistent sex, the affection, the dependable date to plus-one events and being able to say “we” before every sentence. You lost some things in the breakup. But what about the things you gained?! Normally, it would take you weeks if not months to discover them. But, I’m just going to line them up here so you can start getting excited about your new single life now: