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Your mom might point out some put-together stockbroker in a Banana Republic pullover, slacks and a Rolex and say, “That’s the type of guy you should be with—a nice, good guy.” Little does she know he cheats on his girlfriends and gets cited for indecent exposure every weekend. The point is that a “good guy” is not something you can spot from the outside. Good guys come in all shapes, sizes, job descriptions and clothing brands. The only way to know when you’re dealing with a good guy is how he makes you feel, and how you get to behave while you’re with him. If you’re ready for a good guy, you need to learn the subtle signs of them, and you may need to break some bad habits yourself.
When you’re young, you let a lot of things slide when getting to know a guy. You see behaviors as “incidental.” You don’t pick up on patterns. You don’t realize that A leads to B. But, as you date more men, you start to realize that the following behaviors all correlate with one thing: possible bad boyfriend material.
In your early twenties, when a guy tells you he’s starting his own business you see ambition, passion, money (let’s be real here), intelligence, curiosity about the world and so much more. Later in life, when a man tells you he’s starting over and thinking about starting a new business, you see a guy who is too busy to see you and even in the few hours a week he can, his brain is on the loan he just took out to start that business. A new entrepreneur sells his heart to his business until it is established and might not be the best person to try and pursue a relationship with right now.