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According to NewsOne, a Memphis minister who was arrested and charged last year with criminal exposure to HIV for knowingly infecting a woman he had relations with was caught trying to look for love on BlackPeopleMeet.com recently.
Pastor Rodney Carr, 47, tested positive for HIV in 2005, but after dating a MARRIED woman in 2010 and 2011, he reportedly infected her with the virus since he didn’t divulge information about his sexual health to her. The woman found out she had HIV when she went for a routine visit to her gynecologist. According to NewsOne, she said that she trusted Pastor Carr and didn’t think he would do such a thing because he is a minister…despite the fact that he was already living foul by having an affair with her.
Although Carr isn’t in jail and is free to try to mack online, he’s still being prosecuted for his crime. At a recent court appearance, he claimed that he didn’t knowingly try to infect the married woman, but if he’s found guilty he could at the least face a $500 fine, and at the most, face two years in prison. According to the Inquisitr, under the profile Minterwonderful, Pastor Carr was trying to make love connections on the popular black dating site, BlackPeopleMeet. The married woman he infected heard about his antics and basically said to NewsOne that after what he put her through, trying to connect with other people on the site is deplorable.
“He’s not wonderful. He’s a creep. Going around doing what he’s doing. He’s not wonderful at all. He’s really trying to get with other women. He has HIV and he’s spreading it so he just really needs to be off the site. He needs to be off the site.”
This story is just all bad, and the fact that he’s trying to date with this court case over his head and with an HIV positive status that he’s clearly not trying to make people aware of is ridiculous. Not sure if dating sites like BlackPeopleMeet can do anything to keep people like this from making such profiles (Background checks? I know a few have already started using those.), but his behind doesn’t need to be meeting anybody but a cell mate–not a soul mate.
HIV and STD testing are a no-brainer when it comes to casual hookups, partners you’re dating on a semi-regular basis, and even monogamous relationships, but an area that seems to get a little tricky — for some — is the idea of continuing these tests after marriage.
This past weekend, I attended the Blogalicious Five Conference in Atlanta, and in a relationships panel, Jacque Reid, Demetria Lucas, Telisha Ng, and OBGYN Dr. Tosha Rogers Jones, discussed the topic of safe sex, based around the new OraQuick at-home HIV testing kit. Once the discussion moved past the usual subjects of when to bring up testing, whether you should get tested together, and the awkwardness of trying this test at home, Dr. Jones spoke on how frequently couples should get tested and recommended partners doing so once every year — even after marriage. And that’s when the ball dropped.
From the women seated at my table alone, I heard remarks of disbelief as a few questioned, “after you’re married?” More than one woman gasped and a couple more added that their husbands would not go for that. To those reactions, Dr. Jones simply restated, “yes, after marriage.”
Not being married myself, I can’t say whether this would be a pleasant conversation to have with my non-existent husband, but what I do know is that this doesn’t sound like a bad idea — in fact it sounds like a damn good one. Over the course of a 10-, 20-, 30-, 40-plus year marriage, who’s to say someone won’t slip up? I’d much rather deal with the issue of infidelity when it’s not compounded by concerns over my sexual and reproductive health. There’s also the issue of some diseases just not showing up rapidly. Let’s say you meet, begin dating, get engaged to, and marry someone all in the course of six months to a year — when those initial test results come back negative, can you really be certain that there’s nothing else lurking under the surface that hasn’t shown up yet?
I get that walking down the aisle with someone and vowing to love, honor, and obey them all the days of your lives carries with it an expectation of unwavering trust, but I don’t think requiring annual STD and HIV testing has to be looked at as an, “I’m about to catch this mother f***er up if he’s been cheating on me” scenario — particularly if this is a routine you establish early on in your relationship. Two women at the conference — one engaged, the other married — shared that they get tested with their partners every year on World Aids Day as more of a social awareness thing, as opposed to a relationship checkup and that works well for them. That’s the approach I’d like to bring into my future relationship so that testing becomes a part of our annual doctor’s appointments like anything else — and at the same time if something does comes up funny, I know who I’m coming to with questions. JK!
For women who haven’t already established this testing routine, I can imagine their husbands hit them with the side-eye should they all of a sudden, a few years into their marriage, suggest annual testing. But like Demetria shared, just blame it on the doctor. Say, “Hey my doc told me we should be getting tested annually as a preventative measure and I agree with her, so let’s make it happ’n capp’n.” And like Jacque Reid pointed out, any man who is adamant about not wanting to get tested has something to hide. Therefore, his reluctance may be all the answer you need when it comes to the health of both your body and your relationship, know what I’m saying?
Again, as a non-married woman, I can’t speak on the delicacies of a union declared before God and how someone may get into their feelings when it comes to a sensitive subject like this. So, married ladies, tell me what you think about demanding STD and HIV testing after you jump the broom. Would you do it?
I’m not understanding how folks can be so cavalier and cold about the news that several adult film stars have tested positive for HIV.
In case you haven’t heard: Several adult film performers including Cameron Bay (above) has come forward to speak about being HIV-positive and why the adult film industry should change its rules to mandate the use of condoms in films. In one part of the press conference, which was organized by an HIV prevention group aiming to persuade the adult film industry to push condom use during filming, Bay tells reporters that during her last Adult Video shoot, the private part of her co-star was bleeding. Unfortunately, that shoot was right before she tested positive for HIV, this according to the Huffington Post. Although Bay said that condoms were available on set, it was not required to use during the shoot. She also said that she didn’t think she needed to use condoms as her co-host tested negative for sexually transmitted diseases during his last routine test. And even after noticing that her co-star was leaking blood from his private part, the production stopped only briefly to clean up, but filming continued soon after.
There are lots more details to the story, which you can read here in The Huffington Post. But that is pretty much the gist of it. Someone had HIV and passed it along. Needless to say, the story is making lots of folks cringe in sheer horror and disbelief. There were so many mistakes and so much negligence in this situation that you wonder why there was no voice of reason on that day of filming. But I will say that these performers, particularly Bay, have definitely made the case for why it is time for the adult film industry to start requiring and enforcing condom use in its films. Clearly STD testing alone is not enough to keep industry workers safe.
Unfortunately, that is not the conversation folks are having. In fact, many of the comments below the article are filled with blame, indifference, and flat out callousness to the health concerns raised by the adult film stars. I think this comment best illustrates the temperature of the thread:
“It’s sad that she has HIV.HIV is a horrible disease, but at the same time I can’t feel sorry for any of them. P**n is highly risky and they KNEW this before going into the business; no one forces anyone to do it so why cry? why “speak out”? would they be crying and speaking out if they didn’t contract it yet??? I bet you they would still be filming right now and WITHOUT A CONDOM.”
I think there is a kernel of truth to the idea that with certain jobs, one must assume certain risk. But I also believe that’s a point, which we could logically make against most lines of dangerous work. However, we don’t blame the miner if he loses an arm in an oil rig explosion; nor do we say to a doctor or nurse who might have accidentally infected themselves with HIV while on the job, “tough breaks; you know the risk; should have been a teacher.” Instead, we understand that although these often thankless jobs come with high risk, these risks that these professionals take ensure that we can have certain benefits in society – whether it be good health, crime free streets, and healthy sexual stimulation. And yes, Adult Videos are a very intrinsic art in our society – whether we like to admit it or not.
There is no denying that Adult Videos have value in our society. But just in case some of you might want to act “brand new,” there is no denying statistically the consumption of p*rnographic material in our society. Let’s just consider the online use of it shall we?
According to this article, Xvideos, one of the free Adult Video sites on the Internet, receives 4.4 billion page views and 350 unique visitors per month. In fact, it is estimated that 30 percent of all web traffic is Adult Video-related (around 1 in 4 search queries) and 12 percent of the websites on the Internet are p*rnographic. And according to the Business Insider, right at this very moment as you are reading this column, 30,000 other people are on the Internet somewhere watching Adult Videos. Moreover, it is estimated that there are 40 million regular consumers of online Adult Videos in America and account for half of the world’s online Adult Video revenue, which is estimated at $4.9 billion annually. Needless to say, the nudies are as American as apple pie – especially the warm and sticky kind of apple pie.
It seems that folks’ faux-moral indignation over the career choice of these performers (i.e. adult films) is clouding their sense of what is ethically right. But make no mistake that this is not a issue over the validity of Adult Videos, but rather, an issue of increasing the safety standards of a workplace. A safe workplace should be an expectation and right of any employee – regardless of profession. Overall, I think it is very brave of these performers to come forward and share their truths in order to bring about change, especially in the face of many folks, who on one hand, have found various ways to say that they deserve it. And then on the other hand…well, we know what they are doing with that hand. Nasty.
Back in August popular Cameron Bay was shocked to learn that she tested positive for the HIV virus. When Bay learned of her diagnosis, she released a statement to inform the public, which ultimately led to the temporary suspension of the adult film industry. The actresses boyfriend, Rod Daily, also tested positive for the virus weeks later. Now, the couple hopes to use their unfortunate circumstances to raise awareness regarding sexually transmitted diseases and the adult film industry, the Huffington Post reports.
During a recent press conference organized by the AIDS Healthcare Foundation, Bay and Daily, along with three other current and former adult actors told reporters about the unsafe working conditions of the p*rn industry. Bay tearfully told reporters the shocking tale of her last shoot before testing positive. She revealed that her costar actually began bleeding from his p*nis and he was not wearing a condom. Bay went on to say that although the cameras stopped rolling momentarily, the actors eventually continued the scene.
“We continued to work even though he had a cut and we did not use a condom,” Bay revealed.
“There were up to 50 people in the room with us. And we were laying on top of them. And they were touching inappropriately. It all happened so fast. I didn’t realize how unsafe it was until I saw the pictures … You’re on a whole other level when you’re doing something so extreme,” Bay went on to describe her final shoot.
One performer, Patrick Stone, claimed that although he tested positive for HIV, his employer, Kink.com, knew this and asked him to perform in a shoot the very next week. The company, of course, denies these claims, insisting that they were never made aware of his positive test. Thankfully, Stone has taken two tests since his initial positive test, which have both come back negative.
“It’s been kind of a whirlwind week for me emotionally. I feel that the testing process for Performer Availability Screening Services is not working. If I was allowed to fall through the cracks like I did, who else is out there? I mean, they had me scheduled for a shoot tomorrow and as far as they knew, I was HIV-positive,” Stone said.
Daily also voiced his issues with the industry and their lack of concern for their actors.
“I just don’t know how an industry stands here and says they care so much about their performers and, a week after someone tests positive, they’re out there shooting without condoms,” Daily said. “Ultimately, it’s a business, and their main concern is money and not their performers.”
Bay also took to her Twitter page to say that she hopes her story will help someone else.
“I have said many times… if my story can help at least one person then good. Im not fighting for or against anyone other than fighting against HIV/AIDS,” the retired actress tweeted.
Watch full coverage on the press conference on the next page.
Just last year, Mr. Marcus was out in these streets knowingly infecting those who work with him in the adult film industry with syphilis after testing positive for the disease and not immediately divulging that information. He wound up getting 30 days in jail for such foolery. You would think such a situation would give these people a heads-up about taking care of themselves (or possibly getting out of the p**n industry altogether…), but unfortunately, news broke that a young adult film actress has contracted HIV. But unlike Mr. Marcus, the performer, known as Cameron Bay, announced the information yesterday after testing positive during a first test on Monday, and another she took to be sure on Wednesday. Because of her test results, the adult film industry has been suspended (or put on moratorium as they call it) since Wednesday, and will remain suspended until they can find and test all the partners Bay has had starting two weeks prior to her last negative test. They must all test negative for HIV in order for the moratorium to be lifted. Here’s what she had to say in her statement yesterday via the Free Speech Coalition:
“As difficult as this news is for me today, I am hopeful that no other performers have been affected. I plan on doing everything possible to assist the medical professionals and my fellow performers. Following that, my long term plan is to take care of myself and my health.”
However, folks are upset with those in the industry and in the LA County Department of Health who are still out here trying to forgo wearing condoms during shoots or not enforcing it, and in turn, affecting the health and livelihood of those who choose to participate in these films. Michael Weinstein, president of AIDS Healthcare Foundation is one of those people. As he told Huffington Post:
“How many adult film performers have to become infected with an array of preventable sexually transmitted diseases—including HIV, which is not curable—before the p**n industry actually complies with the law requiring condom use?”
In a weird twist of events, Bay has worked very recently with actor Corvus Xander, who just starred in a film with Sydney Leathers. Leathers is of course the young woman who was out here sexting New York politician Anthony Weiner, so it’s possible she could have been exposed…
Definitely a sad state of events, and a reminder, whether you’re having sex on film or in the privacy of your own home, to protect yourself.
If you saw the latest Tyler Perry-directed film Temptation, then you know that it sent some very strong messages about people living with HIV. If you haven’t seen the film, and plan on doing so, you may want to click out now.
At the end of the film, Judith the adulterer, discovers she has HIV and Tyler’s depiction of the plot twist is a bit extreme. The visuals lead us to believe that HIV has taken such a toll on Judith that she has aged three times as fast as her husband . So much so, that Perry decides to employ an entirely different, older, actress to portray her character just a few years later. And in one of the most depressing scenes of the film, older Judith literally limps off down the sidewalk.
If you know anything about HIV, you know that’s not necessarily an accurate representation of the disease. One of the reasons it’s such an epidemic is because people are often able to look and live without visible symptoms, especially if they are taken the proper medication. (See Magic Johnson and probably a couple of people in the neighborhood, you didn’t know about.)
The Positive Women’s Network of the United States of America took issue with Perry’s portrayal of the disease and wrote an open letter expressing their frustrations and petitioned him to do better.
They begin the letter like this:
Dear Mr. Perry,
We write as people living with HIV and their allies to express our deep disappointment with your latest film, Temptation. This disappointment is made all the greater because you have done much that can be applauded. Audiences see your plays and films not simply as entertainment, but as opportunities for inspiration, spiritual healing, and unity.
They continue discussing stigma…
As you may be aware, one of the greatest barriers to addressing the HIV epidemic is the high level of stigma and misinformation attached to this simple virus. Stigma prevents people from getting tested for HIV, from protecting themselves during sex, from accessing care when they test positive, and from disclosing their HIV status to family, friends, and sexual partners. Myths and outdated perceptions about how HIV is transmitted and the implications of an HIV diagnosis have resulted in discriminatory treatment towards, and violence against, people living with HIV.
Unfortunately, Temptation can only serve to perpetuate stigma. Your film depicts people with HIV as untouchable and unlovable, doomed to a lifetime of loneliness, and unable to tell their own stories. It implies that men with HIV are sexually irresponsible and predatory. And the final image — that of a woman who has been infected with HIV due to an extramarital affair walking away alone and unhealthy — sends the message that HIV is a punishment for immoral behavior.
Read the letter in its entirety on the next page.
35-year-old Mario L. Hunt, a special-needs teaching assistant has been arrested following accusations that he molested and infected a male student with HIV, News One reports.
Hunt, who is said to be fully aware of his HIV status, is also being investigated in a similar case involving another student. On Monday, Hunt was charged with felony counts of criminal sexual assault, aggravated criminal sexual abuse and “transmitting” HIV through intimate contact. The incident occurred back in 2011 when the student was 17 years old. As of right now, authorities are unsure if the student was infected with the virus, but because Hunt exposed him to it, he is being charged with “transmitting” HIV.
Lt. Dennis Plew of the Cahokia Police Department says he’s unsure if the now 19-year-old student has been tested for the virus at all.
“This is horrible. I’m sure some kids come to school and put a lot of trust in a teacher, and for anyone to take advantage of that is a terrible thing,” Plew expressed to an AP reporter.
To make matters worse, Hunt is actually an alumnus of the Cahokia School District.
“You always think something like this isn’t going to happen here and we’d be able to see something, but it’s just so tough to know. Realistically, what can you do? It’s hard to tell what’s going on in people’s hearts and minds,” said the district’s Superintendent Art Ryan.
Ryan also added that Hunt was very popular among students and that he frequently helped out with homecoming and prom events.
“All of the kids certainly seemed to like him,” he said.
This is a very unfortunate situation. It’s very sad that our young people are being taken advantage of by the people they trust, especially in a school of all places.
“I feel like as long as if I don’t know what I have, I won’t feel sick. People always start to get sick when they find out they’re positive.”
“I’m in a monogamous relationship, so there’s no need to get tested.”
“I don’t do pap smears. They hurt.”
These are just some of the excuses you’d think I’d hear from my high school students, but they are all from the mouths of grown sexually active people who refuse to get tested for sexually transmitted infections. Most of this faulty decision-making is based on myths they’ve heard from friends about getting tested or self-diagnosis from WebMD or some other website that has led them to be in denial about their situation or allowed their imagination to get the best of them.
April is Get Yourself Tested Month. As much as I’m happy to celebrate that teen and unplanned pregnancy is on the decline, the fact still remains that 19 million new STD cases are reported in the U.S. each year and millions more go undetected and unreported. Don’t allow faulty, second-hand information be the reason to not get tested. Here are 14 things that you may not not know about STIs and getting tested:
Last night my friend called me with a “hypothetical question.”
Would you still be friends with someone who had an incurable STD if they were knowingly having raw sex with others? Or would you consider that not your business?
Initially, I didn’t read the text properly. So, I missed the whole part about the person knowingly spreading their disease. I thought she was just asking if I could be friends with someone who had an STD. In which case, I so wouldn’t care. Truth is we meet people with STDs, curable and incurable, everyday. But that’s not what she was asking. She was asking if I found it morally repugnant to have a friend who was intentionally spreading an incurable disease. Well, yeah it was definitely a helluva problem. Not only was it ethically wrong it’s also illegal.
She said that this hypothetical person didn’t want to tell her partners that she had it because she didn’t want to feel rejected and didn’t want to use protection because intercourse feels “more intimate” without it.
Well yeah that’s truly representative of a psychological issue. Maybe something like a sociopath, no regard for the pain and suffering you may be causing others in the long run. And as a friend I would definitely say something. Though, I don’t know if this person, “my friend,” would receive it when she’s using bogus excuses like “it just feels better” for having diseased, unprotected sex. It’s a sad case.
I would remind my friend that this type of behavior is not only dangerous to the people she’s knowingly infecting. It’s dangerous to her as well. I’d remind her of the man who killed a woman with HIV shortly after they’d slept together and she revealed her status. Though he never should have killed her, I, and several of MadameNoire’s readers, understood why he would be motivated to commit such a heinous crime. She was literally playing with his life.
As a friend it would be your duty to at least attempt to save her from a similiar fate. And if she refused to listen this, she wouldn’t be a friend I could associate with anymore. I couldn’t rationalize being friends with someone with such disregard for human life. Especially the lives of men she cares enough about to sleep with. If she would do that to someone she was willing to sleep with, God only knows what type of deplorable treatment she would show me as just a friend. It really isn’t that much of a stretch. People rarely reserve mistreatment for certain people in their circle. It’s more of an ubiquitous type of behavior.
And if my friend decided not to listen to me and continued sleeping with others, raw and diseased, legally I could go to the authorities and tell them what she is and isn’t saying before she beds these men. But maybe that would be taking it a bit too far.
What do you think about this situation? Could you remain friends with someone who was living so foul, endangering others? How would address the situation with your friend and what would you do if he or she decided not to change their ways?
Every 47 minutes, a woman will be diagnosed with HIV in the United States. That’s why MadameNoire is supporting The Red Pump Project’s efforts to change that statistic for the better.
Today, March 10, is National Women & Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day and in honor of this important day, we’re encouraging you to #RockTheRedPump. Rocking the red pump is about more than putting on your favorite pair of red heels — or sneakers — it’s about calling attention to an epidemic that is sweeping through our community and reminding people that they aren’t invisible. Sometimes seeing activity from a movement like this is all someone needs to remember to practice safe sex or to get tested or bring up the topic with their partner, or eventheir children. That’s all we and The Red Pump Project are asking you to do today.
We’ve already tweeted about it, instagramed it, and announced it here in this post. Now it’s time for you to take it from here. Take a pic in your favorite red pumps and tweet it to us @MadameNoire and @RedPumpProj with the hashtag #RockTheRedPump and we’ll retweet it so we all can do more to inspire someone to care more about their sexual health today.