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“Hey Beautiful…”: That Time My Ex From High School Tried To “Check On” Me 15 Years Too Late

September 30th, 2015 - By Cynthia L. Dorsey
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There are many things I can’t stand. And high school, as well as the people I came in contact with during those four years, is on the list.

High school. The mecca of teenage idiocracy. Despite it being a time full of people and things that won’t matter in the long run, nobody could tell you otherwise when you had your heart broken by Abdul. Or when you realized that Keisha really wasn’t your Best Friend Forever. High school came with many struggles. However, it did prepare you for adults who act like teenagers and manage to increase in age numerically but remain 16 mentally. But that’s another story for another day.

High school, for me, was like a plane ride. I had a window seat, but I could only see clouds. There was so much emotional turbulence, but I knew if I could just descend upon my destination (graduation day), I would be free. Senior year I could finally see through the clouds, and it looked as magical as when you’re flying into Vegas at night. I couldn’t wait to get up out of there. Once the door opened, I didn’t look back. Fourteen years later and I’m still not checking for reunions, meetups, or random run-ins out in public. So when an ex from high school slid into my inbox on Facebook, you could imagine my angst.

Let me preface this story by taking full responsibility for his thirst. It was totally my fault. I was grocery shopping and instead of sticking to the items I had on my list, I ventured off into the candy aisle. I had no business there, and because I made such a gluttonous decision, I ran into a girl (the school gossip) I went to high school with. With one hand, she was pushing a shopping cart with an infant snuggled in a carrier. With the other, she was holding the hand of a 3-year-old.

“Hey Girl!” she exclaimed.

Every internal organ I possess recoiled. What’s worse than high school? Seeing people you can’t stand from high school! They ask the same questions, and they are hype for no reason. Which is especially confusing considering that the people I have to face and make phony conversation with didn’t like my a** to begin with.

“Heeeeey,” I replied. You know, like in the dry, that’s-what-I-get-for-coming-down-the-candy aisle kind of way.

She went on to introduce me to her two kids as “Auntie Cynthia” before grabbing my hand to touch her stomach. I could feel the new biscuit baking in her womb. She went on to say she was engaged and marrying the love of her life. After several kaw kaws and kee kees, watching her yell at her 3-year-old for running up and down the aisles, and my restless legs syndrome flare-up, she ran down her list of questions for me:

“You married?”


“Got kids?”

“Talk to anybody from high school?”

After I had answered “No” to all of the above, she replied with pity: “Oooooh.” You know, like in the dry, that’s-what-I-get-for-coming-down-the-candy aisle kind of way.

She then said, “Well, it was nice seeing you boo, take care of yourself” and dragged her cart and clan down the aisle. I can’t stand when people say, “Take care of yourself.” Uh duh, that’s what I’ve been doing.

I quickly purchased my items and jetted out of there with a quickness. I got home and hadn’t even put my Talenti in the freezer before my phone sounded the ding of death. The Facebook message application was notifying me that I had a new message. It was from my ex whom I had not seen or spoken to since high school.

“Hey beautiful, I have been thinking about you a lot lately and people have said they’ve seen you around town so I thought I would check on you. How are you?”

She had to have called him as soon as she got in the car. Why me Lord? is what ran through my head, right before I made a pact with the Lord and myself: I shalt never go downeth the candy aisleth ever again. Only trouble lies there.

I put my phone down, ignored the message, and continued to put my groceries away. I watched Basketball Wives and went to bed. The next morning I woke up and looked at my phone and my ex had sent three more messages.


“Are you there?”

“Wow. So you ain’t going answer after all these years?”

 I didn’t. And no, I don’t plan to.

You see, I don’t consider relationships that didn’t carry over into adulthood relevant to my life today. My life has had a surplus of amazing days and opportunities, which I am sure will continue to increase. There is no room for people who will only check in when they hear about me from other people. An ex is an ex for a reason, and like the rest of my high school classmates, he can stay in the past.

So on behalf of all the women across the world whose exes try to creepy crawl back into our lives via social media and text messages, please exit the “new message” template. Your check-ups are not required, nor desired. And no need to worry or wonder if we are okay. We’re doing just fine. You missed the memo because you’re about 15 years too late, bruh…

Back To School: Fictional High Schools And Colleges We Wish We Could Have Gone To

September 14th, 2015 - By M A
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After a blissful, school-free summer, it’s time to hit the books and get back on that grind. While many of us have already finished up our studies, that doesn’t mean we don’t get a little nostalgic around this time of the year — especially when we watch classic TV shows and movies about college and high school. So in the spirit of a new school year, we take a look at the fictional high schools and colleges we wish we could have gone to.

You’re An Adult But You Ain’t Grown: Things You Learn After High School

April 29th, 2015 - By Kendra Koger
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They say that life begins at the end of your comfort zone, and this is even more true when you graduate from high school.  Whether you go to college, join the armed forces, or get a full time job, there are things that life will teach you that you didn’t have to know in high school.

Here’s a list of these things and if you feel like you have any other information to add, let’s share this wealth of knowledge with the younger generation in the comment section.

A Misspelled Sign May Have Cost A High School Principal Her Job

December 19th, 2014 - By Ann Brown
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misspelled signPublic School Number 20 in New Jersey put up a message for students outside of the school. Problem was it contained a few misspellings. December was spelled “Dicember.” Report was spelled “Reepor.” And a “1” was placed backwards.

These errors might have cost the school’s principal her job. After the misspelled sign was displayed for more than a week outside the high school, the principal was reassigned.

According to school officials, the lettering “was placed by a custodian and the sign was near an entrance not normally used by staff.” The school later corrected it, but not before photos of the sign hit social media.

The misspellings angered of school Paterson Board of Education member Corey Teague, who saw a photo of the misspelled sign on Facebook, reports Yahoo.

“At first I didn’t believe it,” Teague told CBS New York. “I thought it was Photoshopped or something.”

When he realized it was real, he shared the photo on Facebook and wrote: “How can we expect our children to learn how to spell when the administration can’t? We must be held to a higher standard.”

The mistake was costly to the school’s principal. Not only Antoinette Young reassigned to a different school but she was demoted to vice principal.

“The school district did not disclose the reason for her demotion, but according to, Young was already under review for unrelated performance issues,” reports the Post.

Young, who is still listed as principal on the school’s website, did not respond to the Post’s request for comment.

Students Protest Tweet: “Every white girl’s father’s worst nightmare”

November 19th, 2014 - By Rich
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Students at Booker T. Washington High School in Norfolk, Virginia walked out of the school after a seeing a tweet they believed was posted by their assistant principal. The picture was a retweet from the parody account “OrNahhTweets” that shows a group of teens dressed in formal wear. All of the young women in this photo are white and the young men black. The caption of the photo, believed to be opinion of the school administrator, reads “Every white girl’s father’s worst nightmare.” Once the students discovered this tweet from the Assistant Principal’s account they demanded a response.

Here’s what Michael LeMelle, a junior at the high school had to say about the matter according to

“I could have been any one of the boys in the picture,” LeMelle said. “And I really don’t see myself, like I said earlier, as anyone’s worst nightmare.”

LeMelle is part of a group of students not keeping quiet about the tweet. He said he found out about it more than a week ago when his friend showed him a screenshot of the tweet.

“Many of the students have the screenshot now,” said LeMelle.

Students told they are taking the tweet seriously and want to know how Principal Adrian Day is handling the situation. They also said they want to hear from Strickland herself.

According to students, the assistant principal is new to Booker T. Washington this year. Her bio on the school website says she came from I.C. Norcom High School in Portsmouth, and while there was awarded 2014 City-Wide Teacher of the Year.

“She has to notice that she’s in a position of power,” LeMelle said. “So, to make the statement publicly, is unnecessary, to say the least.” also spoke to LeMelle’s father, Michael LeMelle Sr. He believes problems start with “racial jokes” or “secret tweets.”

“I quite frankly hold the council, school board and administration responsible,” he said.’s three phone calls to Norfolk Public Schools’ spokeswoman Elizabeth Mather were not returned. also reached out to Principal Adrian Day by email..

News’ Liz Palka spoke to Norfolk school board members Dr. Edward Haywood and Dr. Brad Robinson on the phone. Both said they were unfamiliar with the tweet and the claim before Palka brought it to their attention.

Robinson also said the issue is a personnel matter, but the suggestion in the tweet is something the school board takes seriously. He said, the school district is looking into the matter.

Should the students have walked out of the school? Is the school response to this matter appropriate? These days it seems the educators may be using their personal opinions to teach our children, what can parents do to help educate their children for in cases such as these?

55 Years Later: Man Receives Diploma After Being Banned From Graduation

August 17th, 2014 - By Rich
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More than five decades ago Alva Earley was a 17-year-old living in Galesburg, Illinois smack dab in the middle of the civil rights movement. He was a high school senior, just days from graduation who attended a NAACP-sponsored picnic in a part of town off-limits to people of color and an event he says his school counselor’s warned him against.

“You will not graduate. You will not go to college,” says Earley, recalling the words of his school officials.

And those words would be ones they would stick to upon hearing about Earley’s attendance at the picnic. Earley was told that, although he had all of the necessary credits to do so, he would not be graduating. In fact, Galesburg High School held his diploma and banned him from his commencement ceremony.

But now, 55 years later, Earley, now age 73 received his diploma.

“It’s far beyond anything I’ve experienced to date,” says the now-retired attorney.

He says his high school’s decision to withhold his diploma has greatly affected him. Colleges and universities, including Northwestern University and the University of Chicago, who had once sent acceptance letters to Earley’s address withdrew such letters. Eventually, Knox College allowed Earley to enroll.

Not allowing the lack of a high school diploma to hold him too far down, Earley allowed ambition to drive him, graduating from the University of Illinois and later earning a law degree from Chicago Kent College of Law and doctor of divinity from Northwestern University. Talk about full circle!

Galesburg school superintendent Bart Arthur told NPR after a search of Earley’s transcript it was confirmed that he had enough credits to graduate and actually had great grades to boot, “He had A’s and B’s on his report card,” Arthur says. “I guess he did have a couple of C’s. One of them was in typewriting, and I can sure understand that.”

Earley says that far more than he appreciates receiving his diploma, he appreciates the hard work of present-day Galesburg school officials, “The important thing was not that I got the diploma. It was that they tried to get the diploma. They succeeded. They cared about me.”


9 Things that High School Doesn’t Teach You

May 28th, 2014 - By Kendra Koger
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For those who just graduated, or are about to graduate high school, congratulations!  You’ve made it through the entity that is high school, and whether you’re about to go off to college, enter the work force, or the armed forces, you’re in for an awakening.

Whenever you go off to your next plan of action, you’re going to find out that your high school experience placated you, and the world is a little more cold than you realized.  But don’t be sad!  Many of us have made it through, and you can too!

Here are a few things to get you an edge on real life, seeing that high school misrepresented it to you.

College Bound: 9 Seriously Great Grad Gifts

May 26th, 2014 - By Rich
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Not only is it the holiday weekend, but it’s also the time for numerous graduation open house celebrations. Are you prepared? They have bought the cap and gown, invited the family, but what do you get to send the kids into their bright future? From gadgets to sweet ways to stay in touch, here’s what your high school grad really wants (but they’ll take gift cards, too).

9 Seriously Great Grad Gifts

Solo Dolo: 9 Ways To Enjoy Prom By Yourself

May 1st, 2014 - By Kendra Koger
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In my senior year of high school I had a best friend who was a guy, and we were inseparable.  His name was Tyler and we’re still pretty good friends now.  However, even though the friendship was strictly platonic, everyone always assumed that it was more.  So when my high school prom came around, Tyler was asked by a girl he liked, and I wasn’t going to stand in the way of that.

I had no such luck getting a date.  But, being a “glass half full” girl, I went by myself.  Later, the three guys I had crushes on told me that they didn’t ask me because they thought I was going with “that dude,” oh well.

In the end, I had a blast, and I’m going to give you the nine thoughts and spins on ideas for why going to prom solo isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

This is dedicated to any person who is still in high school, or if you know a person who is in high school and is feeling down because of they don’t have a date, point them in this direction.

Breaking Stereotypes: Illinois High School Students Get Suave In ‘Suit And Tie’ Video

April 17th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From StyleBlazer 

If there’s anything that’s been made clear over the past two decades, it’s that there is a general perception of black men that’s not accurate. Hip Hop culture and pure ignorance has fueled the fire that pigeonholes many young men.

To defy these stereotypes 34 juniors and seniors from Illinois’ Central High School created a music video –of sorts– wearing their best slacks and button-ups. The gentlemen walk the halls of their school, shoot hoops and chat it up in the classroom all to Justin Timberlake’s “Suit & Tie” record.

Best part: They’re all Honor Roll students, poets, future collegiate athletes and National Honor Society members.

Read more about these students at