If Beyoncé and Jay-Z have taught us anything, it’s that it’s best to keep your relationship on the low-low. The details of it, the pride and happiness surrounding it–the less the public knows and sees, the better. But as always, some people just need to learn these things the hard way. So many celebrities jump on and in magazines displaying their love and affection for each other for the world to see (and to get publicity). Sadly, this is often the kiss of death for celebrity relationships. While they may not last, these images, somewhat comical at this point, last forever–especially now that we have the Internet. Shall we?

Evelyn Lozada and Chad Johnson

What a mess. The tattoo loving, reality-TV promoting couple jumped on the cover of Urban Ink and were picked as a “Hot Couple of 2012″ by EBONY for their love, which was sparked by following one another on Twitter. Hell, we even know that these two “lovebirds” were slated to appear on a reality show together, the infamous and now defunct, “Ev and Ocho.” But when an argument over condoms turned ugly and violent a few months ago, and ended with Evelyn rocking stitches on her head, divorce papers were filed and they were no longer one of the “Hot” couples of 2012.

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There’s been a rash of celebrities renewing their wedding vows as of late, and just last week Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon did so at the Eiffel Tower in luxurious fashion. Tori Spelling, Jennifer Lopez, Heidi Klum and LeAnn Rimes are other famous faces who have chosen to walk down the aisle multiple times with their spouses to renew their vows. Everyday couples also commemorate their anniversaries with commitment ceremonies with the passing of each year. On the surface, the gesture is romantic.

Couples shouldn’t be begrudged for taking the time to rejoice in another year of marital bliss. At the alarming rate of spiking divorces in this country, unions that are thriving should be celebrated. Marriage is a 24/7 commitment that offers the highs and lows of two people sharing their lives as one. Love, for all of its different meanings to people, is an action. It takes active work to make a marriage function. There are daily sacrifices and hurt feelings that are absorbed for the sake of the other person, and it’s no longer an “I,” but a “we,” which means give and take. If having a big party once a year to toast the effort helps, so be it.  If you have the money to spend or wish to go bankrupt in order to keep up, by all means, do so.

However, when you look at the celebrities walking down the aisle over and over, there’s an underlying issue of whether these couples are genuinely celebrating their love or attempting to prove a point about how happy they are. It all seems sincere, but there’s the lingering suspicion that it is all for show. To be in the public eye, the famous have to carry themselves a certain way and project a particular image. Those optics often include making people believe they’re in the perfect marriage. There are the cynics who raise the point that many of these celebrity vow renewals are just grabs for attention, when in reality, things aren’t so peachy keen. In Hollywood, if you can make it past the one year benchmark, that does deserve some recognition given the relationship turnover rate. However, there’s something about constantly having these ceremonies that doesn’t come off genuine. We get it. You’re happy. Do you really need to continuously prove it to everybody else?

On a smaller scale, John and Jane might also want to keep nosy neighbors out of their business by keeping up the pretenses. No one wants to be talked about behind their backs and neighborhood gossip can be just as vicious as public rebukes.

‘Doin’ the most’ isn’t just an expression that flows from the lips. It’s an observation that the eyes can see. It traces back to the first wedding itself. Many opt for grand affairs that resonate for a day at the expense of commitments that are meant to hold until death. For instance, Heidi Klum and Seal are such an example. For every year of their marriage, they renewed their vows and led the world to believe that it was only getting better. Now, they are in the midst of a divorce and many are asking if the vow renewals were just a Band-Aid to their fracturing dynamic; grasping at remnants of their original special day to rekindle a fading flame.

Ultimately, to each their own. Grown people will do what they want to do and there’s no set right or wrong way to honor an anniversary. But at the very least, it should be for the right reasons.  There’s no point in going all out for one day if that same effort isn’t being put in all year round.

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Ugh! Divorce is no joke. This we already knew, but watching it play out as publicly, and sometimes painfully, for celebrities solidifies this fact for those of us who’ve never experienced this trauma first hand.

Enter Seal and Heidi Klum.

I, like most people, felt that the two were making it work when the intention to divorce came to the forefront. But unlike most people, I can’t say that I was a big Seal and Heidi Klum fan. Not that I wanted their relationship to fail, they just didn’t leave a huge impact on me. The news of their split didn’t break my heart… until I saw Seal’s interview with Piers Morgan.

If you missed it, check the video below:

Dang! Was I the only one struck by his comments?

Either Seal needs to take his talents to the silver screen or he and Heidi need to reconsider some things. Of course we don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors, but this humble and unglamorous description of he and Heidi’s relationship, at least sounds like a potential foundation for reconciliation.

Even in their public statement about their split, the couple stated that they are still very much in love with one another. We know love isn’t enough, but it is at least a start, right?

What do you think about Seal’s comments? Are you holding out for a make-up?

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