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You’re walking down the street on a beautiful Spring day. The sun is shining, the birds are singing, and a gentle breeze of sweet air is blowing through the trees. Everything is perfect in this moment, and you feel the magic of the Universe come alive. But then, a thought pops into your head: This is such an amazing moment, if only I had a boyfriend to share this with me. And then, suddenly, your mood shifts. You go from being happy and peaceful, to being sad and anxious. What happened?
So often we focus our attention on the things we don’t have, rather than noticing and appreciating the things we do have. A lot of this has to do with our American culture, no doubt. Marketing has done a great job of convincing us that we are not really happy right now…that in order to experience *true* happiness, we must have whatever they are selling. Only then will you be truly happy, as if that *thing* is some magical key that unlocks your door of happiness. They do this with cars, retirement accounts, technology, sex, drugs, and even love. When was the last time you saw an advertisement for a new dating site that promised you unlimited joy and happiness by finding the love of your life on their site?
We’ve become so accustomed to this, that we no longer even need outside marketers to remind us of our current unhappiness and need for something else. We now do it ourselves. Whenever we feel a moment of happiness, we quickly remind ourselves that we can’t possibly be truly happy because we don’t have a boyfriend yet, and the new iPhone just came out and we can’t afford it, and we have no plans for dinner tonight. And if only we had those things right now, *then* we would be truly happy. But here’s the irony…you can never have it all. Because no matter what you have, there will be always more to get. Our Universe is infinitely abundant; there is always more to expand into and accept into our lives. So when do you have enough to just be happy right now?
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You know what they say, this is the year of Pharrell. Coming off of hits, like “Blurred Lines,” Daft Punk’s “Get Lucky,”and of course “Happy,” he is doing it…in a very big way. So it only makes sense that he would sit down with Oprah for one of her telling interviews on “Oprah Prime.” In it, Pharrell discusses everything from his childhood experiences listening to Luther Vandross and Stevie Wonder in the neighborhood to wanting to be the guy in the front when he first started producing.
Then things got personal as Pharrell described why he chose Helen Lasichanh to be his wife, how Elton John, Stevie Wonder and Herbie Hancock partially inspired him to name his son Rocket, how he wrote “Happy” when he was completely out of ideas and how the universe conspired to make the achievements of his career possible.
Take a look at the highlights from the entire interview in this video below.
You can read and watch Pharrell speak about naming his son and writing “Happy” on the following page.
I can’t tell which is more popular, Pharrell Williams or his ridiculous oversized Vivienne Westwood hat (it even has its own Twitter account!). But it seems like the multifaceted music maven’s face is splattered everywhere we turn! The ageless star, with a diverse and long-lasting career, has re-emerged onto the public eye with his contributions to Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines and, most recently, his hit single Happy.
“Life is good,” Pharrell said. Let’s take a look at how well 2014 has treated Pharrell so far!
Pharrell Williams Performs “Happy” At The Oscars With Help Of Lupita Nyong’o, Meryl Streep And Amy Adams
How can you listen to Pharrell Williams’ “Happy” and not want to at least bob your head or tap your feet? So infectious!
The Academy Award nominee for Best Song was the first to perform out of all the nominees in the category, and he had everyone up and moving in their ball gowns and suits during his performance of “Happy,” which is of course from the Despicable Me 2 soundtrack.
Williams stepped out in his Vivienne Westwood hat and a track jacket and jeans to shake a leg or two with the crowd, including Lupita Nyong’o, Meryl Streep and Amy Adams, who all danced with the producer and singer as he made his way through the front of the crowd of celebs. And can we talk about the dancing during the performance? Amazing! The background dancers were hitting the Nae Nae and showing off some moves I’m going to have to steal for my next club outing.
And did we mention that the song is number one on the Billboard Hot 100? It’s Pharrell’s first number one song as a lead performer. If Williams wins the Academy Award tonight, this will be yet another great year for one of our favorite producers.
But check out his performance below and share your thoughts (and also be sure to get up and dance a little!).
I have an affinity for feel good stories. And for that reason I find that even in my 26th year, I still really dig children’s movies. So the other day, my sister and I watched Despicable Me 2. And in addition to the awesome story it told, the movie was made that much better because it featured music from the genius that is Pharrell Williams. The music was so good I had to purchase a couple of songs. And one of those songs was “Happy.” As the name would imply, the song has an infectious feel-good vibe. It’s soulful. If you can listen to it and be still, you might want to check your pulse because I tell you, the song grooves.
So I was excited to see that Pharrell had released a video for the song. And not just any video, loves. Pharrell has released the world’s first 24 hour video. And if you think this is some type of farce, you can spend the next day watching it here, on a website called “24 Hours of Happy.” It’s beautiful and no matter where you tune in, it’s bound to make you feel better than you did when you first started watching it.
There are several beautiful moments including a few with faces you might recognize like Jamie Foxx, Magic Johnson, Steve Carrell (who voices the lead character in Despicable Me and Despicable Me 2), Magic Johnson and I spied with my little eye choreographer Fatima. I’m sure there are plenty more but people haven’t had a chance to watch the whole thing obviously. And that’s the point, if you don’t start it in the same exact place, every time you watch it, it’s a different video. Dig that.
Just to give you a little taste of what I’m talking about I’m embedding a precious moment where Pharrell dances in a bowling alley with this little firecracker– it starts right at the 3:00 hr mark. Take a look and be sure to watch more of this innovative video here.
“How did you break free?”
Today, we’ll focus on three lessons that prepared me to do my work. I pray that you find something here to help you, or that you can share with others… but please seek medical help in your recovery:
1. I Learned Good Grief: At the age of 17, a well-meaning teacher questioned some of the changes in me. Tears overflowed as I tried expressing myself. She responded, “God is not moved by tears, He is moved by faith.” While her intent was to help, she only made it worse. All I heard was, “You’re failing God.”
2. I Let Others in My Process: I stopped denying my need for people. Depression led me to cut loved ones off for various reasons. I discovered that some people were uncomfortable with the fact that they could not “fix” me. So, I figured I’d save them the trouble and emotionally retreated.
3. I Explored My Gifts: Depression drained me and I stopped doing the things I loved. But one day out of sheer desperation, I started writing. What did I have to lose? In my writing, I found a sliver of myself again. Over time, the consistent act of doing what I loved helped me progress. Each taste of joy—no matter how faint—gave me reason to hold on and hope.
Please take some time to read the rest of Coach Felicia’s post on ESSENCE.com. Depression and other mental illnesses are very serious and it is important that we remain very aware of what’s going with our mental health.
Seriously, I’m Happy For You: Why You Should Celebrate Your Ex’s New Relationship Even If You’re Still Single
So your relationship has ended, and you are preparing to start another chapter in your dating life. You are ready to mix and mingle, or take some time for yourself away from the dating scene; either way, you are ready to begin anew with this aspect of your life as a new single person. But then you hear through the grapevine that your ex has moved on and he (or she) is happier than ever…but you’re still single! What do you do when your former mate has moved on and you haven’t? How does this make you feel? Are you upset, genuinely happy for them, or do you not care one way or the other? When you find out that your former mate has moved on, it is best to celebrate his/her new relationship, even if you are still single. I know what you’re thinking: Why should I do this? You should be happy that your ex has moved on and you’re still single for several reasons. One reason being that your former mate served a purpose in your life for your growth and theirs. Once the relationship has ended, you should have learned life lessons from that relationship that you can pass on to someone else, and that you can take with you for your next relationship. Many times, when a relationship has ended, we are often so engulfed in the relationship ending that we don’t take the time to reflect on how it made us better people when we should. Be happy that your former mate came into your life, and be happy that they are gone from it as well. You’ve lived and learned. Another reason to celebrate your ex’s new relationship is the fact that you helped make him/her a better person for their current and possibly future mates.
I know this may feel like a slight slap in the face as you recall all of the hard work you put into someone, or the time you spent doing things for them; but the reality of the situation is that you chose to do what you wanted with and for this person, and believe it or not, it had some impact on them that will remain with them for the rest of their lives. So celebrate the fact that you helped make someone a better person for themselves and for someone else. The next reason you should be happy for your ex and their new relationship is because when you open your heart and spirit to let happiness out, that same happiness returns to you. And while you may be hurt and feeling vulnerable because you are still single, take a moment to find happiness within yourself in knowing that this relationship ended for a reason that will benefit you in the long run.
Not only should you be happy for your ex and their new relationship, but you should also be happy for their new mate. Why should you be happy for their new mate? Because you know they have a chance to contribute to making your ex a better person, and they have a chance to experience the things you once did with your former mate. I know that this is may be yet another slight slap in the face (especially depending on the way the relationship ended), but being happy for their new love interest shows that you are over them and their new mate will be happiest with them. Now if you are not quite over a past love, I suggest you take some time for yourself and reflect on the relationship, your past mate, and why you are still holding on. Be honest with yourself because the feelings you are holding on to can hinder your personal happiness…and nothing or no one, is worth your personal happiness. Celebrating your ex’s new relationship while you’re still single is not any easy thing to do, but it is something that can and should be done. People enter your life for a reason, and as just as soon as they enter your life, some of these people will leave as well. Relish in the lessons learned and be thankful that you met your past love for they made you a better person, and you made them a better person as well. And even if you can’t celebrate their new relationship, celebrate your life and the new possibilities of being a single individual.
Have you celebrated an ex’s new relationship and been happy for them while you were single? Was it hard for you to do?
Liz Lampkin the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
It’s about time we see this man’s eyes light up just a little bit.
On Saturday night, Kanye West and his friends hit up Miss Lily’s Caribbean restaurant to celebrate the rapper’s 36th birthday. Jay-Z and Beyoncé. whom he considers family, came out to celebrate along with rapper Nas, football player Victor Cruz and others all came out to party.
While Kim Kardashian was unable to attend (at this point, she probably can’t fly since she’s so close to birth), her sister Kourtney’s boy Scott and Kim’s friend Jonathon were definitely in attendance. Kim also posted a picture on her Instagram wishing the “love of her life and best friend” a happy birthday.
It was good to see Kanye smile in a couple of pictures because don’t get to see that side of him often. In fact, he really only does it at this point when Jay-Z is around. Bless his little heart at all that “bestie” love.
Ladies, can we talk about the most important thing: Nas is looking like a sweet treat waiting to be…nevermind. I’m keeping it clean today but I’m sure you all know where my thoughts were going with that. Why does he continue to be so fine? He should talk to me about how he preserves all that, you know, over drinks and dinner.
With a baby and a new album on the way, it looks like Mr. West will be busier than ever this year! Happy belated, Yeezy!
He Might Be A Good Man, But He’s Not The Man For You: Why If A Relationship Doesn’t Fit, Don’t Force It!
“Girl, he’s a good man….you better stick with him.”
“He’s a great catch…”
“He’s going to make a great husband…”
“Girl you better do what you can to keep him!”
How many of us have heard one of, if not all of the quotes listed from friends and family? How many of us have forced ourselves to stay in a relationship where we weren’t happy because someone else thought the man we were involved with was a great catch? Or how often have we convinced ourselves to stay in a relationship we weren’t so happy in because the man we were involved with was indeed a good man, but he wasn’t the good man that we should have been with? I recall several of the relationships I remained in being with men that were indeed good guys, but I wasn’t happy in those relationships.
I wasn’t happy because I often felt that there was something missing within the relationship, but I stayed because at that time in my life, I didn’t want to be single, and I didn’t want to let go of a good man. At that particular time in life I didn’t see the value in being a single woman. I didn’t view my single life as the blessing that it is, but rather saw it as a burden that I would have to bear. Now that I think about it, I sacrificed my personal happiness for personified happiness; and was it worth it? Not at all. Oftentimes we as women force ourselves to remain in relationships with men because we fear being alone, we think that we won’t find anyone as good, or we think that there is a shortage of good men to have happy, healthy and productive relationships with, when the fact is that none of these things are true.
There are so many great men in the world to have relationships with, but we have the tendency to hold on to one we think is good for us, and our fears won’t allow us to see that. Forcing ourselves to remain in relationships that don’t make us happy only limits who we are, it puts a hold on the relationships we deserve and it stifles our internal happiness and it is not worth it! Why isn’t it worth it? Because happiness is something that should be valued and every woman deserves to be happy in or out of a relationship. Over the years I learned that just because someone else thinks a man is a good man, it does not mean that he is the good man made for me. I often listened to my friends and family when it came to men and dating, and they would encourage me to date a guy they felt had great husband qualities and whom they thought would be a great match for me, or to stay in a relationship they thought was good from face value. I even remember a few of them saying ‘don’t mess this one up!’ While their intentions were good, I should have listened more to my instincts in regard to what made me happy in a relationship, rather than forcing myself to stay in a relationship that made everyone else happy. Now that I think about it, I didn’t really know what made me happy because I was so focused on having a relationship rather than enjoying my single life. Having a relationship is something that everyone desires, but being happy is something that everyone deserves and that should not be sacrificed. Ladies, if a relationship you’re involved in does not enlighten you mentally, uplift you spiritually, and balance you emotionally then walk away from it because it does not fit you, so don’t force it. How many relationships have you forced yourself to stay in? Did they really make you happy?
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
Dear Single Sistas,
I am writing this letter to all of my Single Sistas who rung in the New Year as a single mother, divorcee, widow, or a simply fabulous unattached single woman. I am writing this letter to continue to encourage you on this journey of greatness we call the single life. This letter is not the “new year, new you” speech that we often hear at the beginning of a New Year that’s supposed to motivate us to change things in our lives, but this letter is designed to encourage you to embrace or continue embracing the single life, and not to spend a majority of this year seeking a man and relationship. I encourage you to continue to embrace being single because it is a fabulous journey and way of life that we often take for granted. How do we often take this time for granted? By spending a majority of the time looking for a man and a relationship of course. What we as single women often fail to realize is that our time as single women is not purposed for us to spend most of it looking for a relationship. It has a distinct purpose for our lives and the lives of those who surround us.
This time spent being single is one of the most valuable times in our adult lives. Why? Because this is the time where we can get to know who we are, and who we were created to be. This is the time where we build and establish our self-worth and discover what makes us happy without compromise. Now don’t get me wrong, being involved in a loving relationship is a wonderful thing that everyone should experience, but relationships don’t necessarily make you happy. True happiness comes from within from an individual knowing their self-worth, and what better time in life is there to spend with yourself other than your time of singleness?
Single Sistas, I encourage you to spend this year in focus of a fabulous season of singleness, and not allow your focus to be solely on having a relationship. I know this is not an easy thing to do, especially after some friends and family members got engaged or married over the past holiday season…and of course with the most romantic day of the year right around the corner. I know it’s not easy seeing couples together on date night, and you are out with your girls on yet another girl’s night, and I know how deep the desire for a relationship can go. I know it’s hard, but I encourage you to look into this time of your life and embrace the beauty that it is because being single is something that should be celebrated, not overlooked and upset over.
Just think about it, when you’re married, you’ll have the rest of your life to be focused on someone else, until death do you part (hopefully), so take this time in your life to live it up and learn about yourself, because once you’re in a relationship things will change…hopefully in a positive way though. As I close this letter I say to all of my Single Sistas, spend this time in your life focusing on your purpose, and wait patiently for the mate that is on his way. How patient should you be and how long should you wait? Until the one you deserve finds you in his season of singleness. Remember ladies, it’s not your job to seek, but it is your job to be sought after, and how do you position yourself to be found? Get busy focusing, moving and living in your purpose as a single woman. Wait on the relationship you deserve, and embrace this wonderful journey. You are worth the wait, and so is the man waiting for you. Celebrate this New Year by celebrating you and all that you are!
Sincerely Your Single Sista,
LizLiz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.