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The Surprising Health Benefits Of Being Kind

September 20th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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As the Bible verse goes: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” And while you should do nice things for people because the Bible says so, you should also try to because recent studies show that there are benefits that exceed just being a good person (although everyone should want to be a more positive person).

It turns out that being kind to other people is actually good for your health. Men and women who go out of their way to be kind and nice to people (even when they don’t have to be) live longer and happier lives.

So the next time someone throws some shade your way, throw a little kindness back in return. You will win in the long run by incorporating a little more positivity into your life.

Happy People: 8 Simple Secrets They Know Best

August 23rd, 2016 - By Kweli Wright
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Do you know people who always seem bright and cheery?

We keep hearing that R. Kelly song in our heads…

So what’s their secret? Research shows that certain simple habits often play a role in happiness. Here are eight ways to cultivate more of it in your life.

How To Take Care Of Your Emotional Health

August 15th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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We all know that we should eat right and exercise every day to take care of our physical health. But when was the last time taking care of your emotional health was on your mind?

Your emotions can go through quite the roller coaster depending on what’s going on in your life. From breakups to co-workers who stay on your last nerve, emotional see saws are a part of life. With that in mind, it’s important to know how to heal.

Our emotional well-being is important, but it’s something many of us fail to take care of. Follow these steps and you can work on creating more happiness for yourself, no matter what life tosses your way.

18 Ways to Add More Joy To Your Day

June 30th, 2016 - By Kweli Wright
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Wouldn’t life be great if we could wake up daily in a joyful mood and move through the day without losing an ounce of that joy? Okay, maybe we could lose an ounce or two, but for the most part we would remain pretty happy. The thought of it feels good to us.

But we all know that finding and maintaining joy just isn’t that easy, especially when you are a busy mom with a ton and her plate. For many busy moms, the steps needed to add more joy to your day can prove to be quite tough. After all, who has time to worry about joy when you have work to do, bills to pay, kids to raise, and places to be. Of course, we all know how important joy is, but achieving it consistently can seem impossible.

Yet, here is what we all must acknowledge and embrace as mothers; moving through life feeling weighed down and depleted is no way to live. It’s not just bad for us, but it can really do damage to our kids. You see, the way we live life teaches them a lot about how to live life. Do you want your kids to grow up thinking that joyful living is some elusive dream? We want them to feel like joy is attainable.

So, when life is too much to bear and you just want to crawl under a rock and take a 20-hour nap, how on earth do you add more joy to your day? It isn’t always easy, but I think these suggestions are a start. Doing these things doesn’t make life perfect, and it won’t fix any major dilemmas you face in an instant, but it sure will leave you with days that have a lot more joy and a lot more hope. You’ll take that, right?



Smile… even when you don’t want to.

Need To Boost Your Mood? Don’t Shop, Travel

June 22nd, 2016 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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Many of us go on shopping sprees or dine out to relieve stress and boost our moods. But do those things actually make us happy? According to Priceline’s latest survey, the answer is no.

Titled, Traveler’s Sweet Spot, more than half of those who participated in the survey told that traveling improves their attitude more than the aforementioned or even exercising. For example, 38 percent of the men and 34 percent of women who responded to the survey revealed that romantic getaways are the best vacations, whereas 33 percent of all respondents shared that family escapes helped boost their mood. Travel + Leisure reports that “four out of five Americans would rather take multiple, short getaways than one long vacation this year. Forty-four percent would like to take three to four trips this year to be happier.”

Brigit Zimmerman, who serves as the Senior Vice President of Air and Vacation Packages for says, “Research tells us that 44 percent of Americans frequently regret not being able to go on more trips, and the majority are not booking these trips due to travel costs.” Because of this, Priceline has created a list of cities for Americans to travel to so they can plan accordingly and use the vacation time they so often lose.

How I Stopped Second-Guessing What I Want And Learned To Trust Myself

May 18th, 2016 - By Niki McGloster
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I think it’s fair to say the lessons of your twenties are vast and some of the hardest to learn. Then again, I’m not 30 yet, so maybe there’s some life-altering test awaiting me in the decades to come. But something about this 10-year span is particularly and wildly difficult, exhausting and confusing. I’m attempting to figure out who I am and what I want for myself. I’m trying to learn how to save money while getting lit, date smart and in a healthy manner while not putting all my eggs in one basket, and striving to navigate a writing career to achieve success (and pay rent on time). As you can imagine, at times, adulting is more complicated than a Drake relationship status, and sometimes I question if I’m doing it all wrong. But in recent months, I’ve finally started figuring out how to trust myself and all of the decisions that come with building the life I desire.

I was tested this week when I decided to quit my job. And while the thought may scare the average employee, I was actually terrified more at the idea of staying. I just knew it was time. For months, I racked my brain as I considered jumping the 9-to-5 ship (again) and hightailing it back to the freelance life where my schedule is my own, my creativity isn’t stifled by corporate demands, and I can execute a variety of projects. Before this leap of faith, I mapped out a plan so my bank account wouldn’t take too much of a blow and shared the vision for my next phase with trusted friends only. Sounds like the right move, yes? Well, in hindsight, I was low-key seeking validation, which is the fastest way to both kill your confidence and make you wary of your decisions. Plenty of my loved ones were supportive, but others quickly shot down my idea, saying it wasn’t very “adult” to do anything but trek to an office every morning (*insert eye roll here*).

Sure, there’s a certain instability that comes with chasing freelance checks, but I’d choose that over the specific type of mental unwellness you suffer from when you hate your job but feel as though you have no choice but to go every single day. So, I chose my happiness over a secured health and benefits package. And to be honest, the only validation I needed for that decision was my own.

Listen, when you know something and when your mind is made up about it, just do it. What I’ve realized is that trusting yourself is necessary for growth and a lifetime of happiness. Listening to your inner voice and leaning on your instincts will guide you through the life you truly want for yourself, not the one expected of you. With all of that said, I still ask for advice and consult my mentor when sh-t gets rough. However, I never allow outside attitudes and recommendations to outweigh what I believe about and want for myself.

Before I gained a modicum of self-trust, I relied heavily on the opinion of my parents, then that of mentors and BFFs. But the time finally came to solely look within for all the answers. How did I do it, Sway? Through practice and the help of Women Who Run With Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés. As special as this book is for so many reasons, it mostly taught me that all the guidance I was searching for in others’ opinions and validation was innately understood. I simply had to tap into it. And as simple as it sounds, I also just stopped f–king listening to people.

It amazes me how much I was once paralyzed by uncertainty and would second-guess what my gut told me because another person’s opinion wouldn’t reflect my feelings. Looking back, depending too heavily on others’ expectations of me slowed down my “glo up.” Ignoring myself led me into pathetic relationships, terrible career choices, and ultimately, left me unfulfilled and living a life I didn’t want to lead.

You should have the same type of self-assurance in the major decisions you make in your life as you do in your GrubHub order or in your chosen Instagram filter. Don’t allow others to dictate what you know is right for you. Instead, trust yourself like Kanye West trusts Kanye West. Because even as narcissistic as it may sound, the connection you have with yourself is your greatest, most trustworthy relationship.

Nowadays, with the trust I’ve built in myself comes a confidence that can allow me to quit my job without worries, and the faith in my abilities to create the future I want. It may take me multiple times to stop overthinking and learn how to put all my confidence and faith into myself, but I will. And when I do, I know my life will only enhance abundantly. Isn’t that the goal anyway? To live our best lives? So while I may do things opposite from what everyone in my life expects, it’s what’s best for me. And I trust that.

Stressed? Remember These Things To Be Grateful For

May 10th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Life is wonderful, but sometimes your day can be rough enough to sully your outlook. Your Starbucks order wasn’t right, your least-favorite co-worker wouldn’t stop talking, and Monday’s meeting ran way over. On days like these, it pays to take some time to remind yourself of the good things in life.

Even terrible workdays will be over in a few hours, but life is full of moments that make everything worthwhile. The trick is remembering what those things are. Every day is a gift and full of little things that it’s easy to take for granted.

So put the files away, go on your break and get grateful about the amazing things in your life. What everyday pleasures bring you joy that didn’t make the list? Let us know in the comment section to give us all a reminder.

Things You Can Stop Fretting About And Start Changing Right Now

April 27th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Worry is one of our least productive emotions. Not only does it make you feel terrible (and give you worry lines), it doesn’t help you solve your problems. In fact, it can make them seem even bigger than they actually are. Unfortunately, for most of us, worrying and complaining is natural: The day is not long enough, we’re stressed out, and our to-do list just keeps getting longer.

So how do you give yourself some space to relax? Sometimes it’s as easy as turning all of that worry and negative energy into action. Simply switching your focus to a creative and positive head space to solve the problem when you have something bad to say about it can change your outlook — and the things about your life that are getting on your last nerve.

From problematic boyfriends to salaries that seem too low, here are all of the struggles we can shake off and stop complaining about right now.

How To Make The Rest Of Your Life The Best Of Your Life

March 30th, 2016 - By Erica R. Williams
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Life is short. Live each day to the fullest. Life isn’t about how many breaths you take but the moments that take your breath away. We’re all familiar with these cliché, but loaded, phrases. They speak volumes to how we should model our lives, even if we hear them more times than we’d like to and often times when we’re not in the mood to hear them.

Up until recently, these phrases were simply mottos, words that I spewed out when I’d decided abruptly to try and get my sh*t together for the umpteenth time. But after having to make some serious decisions about my life as of late, these words have become so much more. After meditating, praying, and reading tons of self-help books, I’ve begun implementing these things in my life to make the rest of my life, the best of my life. Here are some of the things I’ve learned.

My Manic Memoirs: Happiness…Go Get You Some

March 3rd, 2016 - By MommyNoire Editor
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By Kasey Woods

I’m not in control of my happiness. That is the theory that I accepted for a very long time.

It appeared that whenever things were going too well, for too long, some unknown force would ultimately descend upon me and effortlessly snatch away any feelings of well-being I was experiencing. I attributed this abduction of my happiness to the fact that I had merely exceeded my “happiness quota.” Essentially, the universe just wasn’t going to let me get too happy. I deduced that I had a happiness limit and if I came too close to that limit, or God forbid exceeded it, the universe would be forced to cut me down to size, humble me and remind me who was in charge.

Believe me, I had very good reasons to believe this far-fetched theory. One example of an swift and forceful response to an overabundance of happiness happened in March of 2012. During the first few months of 2012, things had been going very well for me: my career was zooming forward at the speed of light, I was six months pregnant and excited to meet my new bundle of joy, and my personal relationships were flourishing. Things were going really well. But as usual, this feeling of “well-being” would prove to be short-lived.

I remember commenting to a friend that I sensed I was getting too close to my “happiness quota.” “You know, things can’t be too good for too long,” I told her. She scoffed at me and replied that I was just being paranoid, (I mean who really believes that their happiness is rationed out by some mythical energy source that rules the universe? … Me, that’s who.)

Within a week of that ominous conversation, the biggest life-changing incident that has ever happened in my life took place. I accidentally ran over my then two-year-old daughter with the family car and was subsequently run over myself after throwing my six month pregnant body under the vehicle in an effort to save her.

This horrific accident not only put me well below my perceived quota, it left a far greater impact on my life. Happiness seemed to eluded me. Though my daughter made a complete recovery (after days in the ICU and numerous fractures and bruises) and my unborn child was born beautiful and healthy as well, that incident implanted doubt and fear as my new constant companions. My daughter’s life was almost lost due to my negligence and my psyche responded with almost OCD like tendencies. I would check, recheck, and check again to make sure that my children were present and accounted for when in the car, even if I understood that I had taken all the appropriate safety precautions a mere seconds earlier. Anytime I was away from them I was preoccupied with wondering if they were OK. I began to have frequent and brutal panic attacks that came and went as they pleased.

Eventually, with therapy and a great life coach, I was able to come out of that space.  Through intense counseling I have learned that I was suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, a common reaction to a situation as awful as what I had experienced. That situation also “turned up” my current bipolar disorder symptoms, which at the time were undiagnosed. The effects of trauma on your mental health are well documented and something that today I know a great deal about.

Through it all, the greatest lesson that I learned was that I deserved to be happy; that my happiness doesn’t have a cap. After the hard work and dedication to my mental health that I had to commit to, I finally understood that there’s work necessary sometimes to be happy and content. No, it wasn’t easy pulling myself out of that slump but if I allowed myself to stay in that space I would certainly still be there now. Once I accepted that there was no theoretical force keeping my joy at bay, it was easier to also accept that the only thing keeping me from being happy was me.

Ish Happens!! It’s how you react to these occurrences that makes the difference. I now recognize that the lows that regularly came soon after my highs were in part due to an undiagnosed bipolar disorder, and that the chronic sadness that always triumphed over spurts of happiness was in fact depression.

Sometimes life has a way of making us believe that everything is working against us. We believe that we are not worthy of the good things that life has to offer. For years I truly believed that there was a finite limit to my happiness. Today I live by the motto: no one can want something for you more than you want it for yourself. With this in mind I have thrown away the notion of a happiness quota. I want limitless happiness. I want to end the fear that has historically preempted the happy moments in my life, and I now command my journey to be one of unbounded joy and optimism. I accept my role in achieving such a feat and I revel in the notion of grasping happiness and not letting go. I implore you to do the same.

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