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He Says He Can’t See Any Wife Of His As A Pole Dancer, Should I Break Up With Him?

April 29th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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Dear Abiola,

For a long time, I felt out of touch with my body and myself. I hated my dark chocolate complexion, the way I looked and everything about myself. I even hated sex because I never thought anybody could think someone who looked like me was sexy.

Then my friend invited me to a pole fitness class two years ago. Everybody knows me to be conservative. Doing something like this isn’t “me!” I was reluctant but I went and it changed EVERYTHING! Now I feel sexy and beautiful. My body is fit and toned, I feel in control of myself and I love who I see in the mirror. My friends even say I move differently.

With my new attitude I met a new man. He is very successful and says that one day he wants me to be his wife. We’ve been dating for almost 2 months. The problem is that the thing that most turns me on to myself turns him off. He says he can’t see any wife of his as a pole dancer or “pole ho,” his words.

He knows that I work in a bank and I’m not a pole dancer; this is just the workout I prefer. He goes to the gym everyday so I don’t see the difference. No one sees me except the 7 or 8 other women in my class. I invited him to come see me dance. I said I would rent a private studio so he can see what I’m doing but he said no.

He said that I need to choose and if I’m going to be serious with him I need to find another way to work out ASAP. He feels that any woman who gets with him needs to uphold a certain image. I think the truth is he finds it a little threatening. He always wants to know who was there, what I did, etc. For the last couple of weeks, I had to lie and say I was doing zumba. Nothing against zumba but I really feel a healing connection with pole fitness.

Am I bugging? Should I just give up the dumb pole fitness classes for my man? Is pole dancing something shameful for a wife? Pole fitness is like my therapy. He doesn’t know that this sexy, new me that’s been turning him out in the bedroom is a benefit of my pole classes.

By the way, thank you so much for the advice you give. I have been reading your Intimacy Interventions for a long time — but never thought I would be writing in. I am too embarrassed to talk to anybody else about this. Help!

Signed,

Pole-isha

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Tried And True Workout Tips To Get Summertime Fine

June 3rd, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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Not everyone is an expert when it comes to working out and exercising. However, there are tons of tips, tricks, and secrets that will make working out one of the best things you’ve ever done for yourself. If you are looking to learn more about physical fitness or if you have decided that now is the time to lead a more active lifestyle, here are 15 workout tips that are sure to make your experience worthwhile.

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Have realistic goals

Are you looking to lose 50lbs? Do you want to tone up and put on some muscle mass? Once you have a main goal in mind, you’ll want to divide it into more realistic and attainable goals. While you can lose 50lbs eventually, it’s a lot easier and much more self-pleasing to have mini goals, such as losing 5lbs each month. Make sure you have mini goals that lead to your main goal, or else you’ll have a hard time feeling like you’ve accomplished anything.

14 Reasons To Incorporate Strength Training Into Your Routine

April 23rd, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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A lot of women focus on the cardio aspect of exercising in order to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle. While cardio does serve its purpose and has proven to be helpful in helping women lose weight as well as strengthening the heart and the entire cardiovascular system, cardio isn’t the be-all end-all of exercising. When it comes to working out efficiently and effectively, it’s best to switch up your routine. To do this, add strength training to your routine a couple days a week. If you’re unsure that strength training is for you, here are 14 reasons that just may persuade you to pick up some weights.

14 Ways To Maximize Your Time At The Gym

April 8th, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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For most people, time at the gym is pretty precious, especially if you are paying for your membership. When you’ve done your exercise for the day and it’s time to say goodbye until tomorrow, it’s nice to know that the time you have spent at the gym was worthwhile and meaningful.

If you want to get the most out of your time at the gym, there are definitely some things you’ll want to make sure you’re doing every day you’re there. Here are 14 ways to maximize your time at the gym.

14 Ways To Actually Enjoy Going To The Gym

March 8th, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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If you just wanted a workout, you’d step outside your house and jog. Maybe you’d invest in some small weights to have at home. You do not pay a monthly or yearly gym membership fee, just to get in and get out. But if like most people, the gym has become just one more chore you want to get over with, then you may need some reminders on how you could (and should!) be enjoying that fancy “fitness club” you pay for.

A Workout Plan For Your Money: Nine Ways To Cut Down Gym Membership Costs This Year

January 25th, 2013 - By Blair Bedford
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There’s no bigger symbol of the new year than packed gyms across the nation. But getting fit can cost a pretty penny. Between gym memberships, gear equipment, and trainers, you start to question whether it’s worth it.

Take the edge off and save a little bit of pocket change by noting some tips on how to cut down on those fitness costs this year.

NO You Did Not Wear THAT In Public: 9 Things You Shouldn’t Be Wearing Or Doing At The Gym

December 1st, 2012 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Working on your fitness? Pat yourself on the back boo, because it takes a lot to find the time to hit the treadmill, the weights, or the elliptical rather than opting for the easy option to eat Cheetoes on the couch. Seriously, you’re a champ. However, as you get your body and mind right at the local fitness center, know that you can’t just walk up in that joint doing just anything and wearing just anything either. Too many get way too comfortable or use the gym experience as the opportunity to see how many numbers they can get. Hey, do what you do, but know that somebody (like me) is giving you the side eye if you do the following…

Michael Jordan Could Lose $1.5 Million on Gym Investment

August 15th, 2012 - By Tonya Garcia
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Michael Jordan could lost the $1.5 million that he invested in Attack Athletics, a state-of-the-art gym facility in Chicago that is now in receivership.

Attack Athletics owes more than $12 million to its creditors (MJ is an unsecured creditor) and filed for Chapter 11 bankruptcy back in April. A foreclosure notice was filed on the facility back in 2010.

Attack Athletics was founded by Tim Grover, who rose to prominence as Jordan’s personal trainer when he played for the Chicago Bulls. The Attack Athletics facility boasts four NBA-sized basketball courts, a 10,000-square-foot weight room and a client list that includes Dwayne Wade.

Chances are, MJ isn’t sweating a $1.5 million loss. Plus, the Bleacher Report says his Charlotte Bobcats have some goodness to look forward to and he’s obsessed with comparing the ’92 Dream Team to this year’s Olympic basketball team. Maybe he missed the closing ceremony on Sunday? But yeah, he’ll be fine.

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DON’T SWEAT IT! Hairstyles That Won’t Sweat Out at the Gym

July 14th, 2012 - By Tiffany Washington
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Don’t sweat it. It’s definitely possible to go hard at the gym and still have a nice hairstyle at the end. There are plenty of ways to wear your hair that will stay put and don’t involve a myriad of clips and headbands. Try these styles that will keep you looking fly at the gym and beyond.

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Party of One Please: Things I’ve Learned To Enjoy By Myself

July 4th, 2012 - By Blair Bedford
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I did not learn to enjoy my own company until I relocated to start my career. Moving from my home state to one of the biggest metropolitan areas in the world with little to no friends or acquaintances or family, loneliness began to set in. After almost a year stuck in the same bubble of insecurity and isolation, I begin to search for ways to adapt to my new lifestyle. Learning to accept the fact that I have more time to myself than I was used to back in my hometown, I began to enjoy everyday things solo, like going out to try a new restaurant or coming home to an empty apartment. Just because I was alone, didn’t necessarily mean I had to feel lonely.

There’s a certain type of self-assurance when it comes to doing (and enjoying) things alone. It comes along with time, self-confidence and being aware of what you need as a person, and primarily, as a woman. Some of us need alone time to escape the stresses of the day. Others might need their alone time to do something selfish every once in a while. Whatever the case may be, being alone should not automatically mean feeling lonely; it is the perfect time to put your guard down and enjoy the most important person in your life: yourself.

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