We told you a few days ago about Lil Wayne’s rant about how he was banned from NBA games and events because of the Miami Heat. This is something an NBA executive told TMZ was not true, and that in fact, he was kicked out of that particular game of the Lakers versus the Heat (Weezy was rooting for the Lakers by the way) because reports say he made a gun gesture with his hand at a fan. Either way, the rapper was none too happy with the Heat and their players because of it, and even took time out from an All-Star Weekend performance to throw shade at Lebron James, Dwyane Wade, Chris Bosh, and even his wife, Adrienne Bosh, by letting the world know that he allegedly had slept with her.

While Chris Bosh hasn’t responded to such claims as of yet, Adrienne took to her social media (aka, Twitter) to respond, indirectly, by speaking words of positivity and talking about karma, taking more of the high road.

“Truth prevails. Today stand in your truth and ignore the chatter around and about you. #myhighestself #TodayICan #chakrawisdom. Some people create hate for profit, and some people create love for free. Pay no mind to the haters, embrace the love. #TodayICan. #TodayICan ignore those who live in hate for their own ego, and keep my eyes on pure love. They will never bring me down.”

Bosh also posted a picture of a woman with the words, “KARMA: What goes around comes around. Keep your circle POSITIVE. Say good words. Think good thoughts. Do good deeds.”

However, the rumors going around about her past are hard to ignore. Global Grind did a little digging and found out that Adrienne Bosh did date Lil Wayne in the past, before she was with Chris, but before they parted ways, she scammed him out of money by claiming she had cancer and needed help for treatment. Allegedly, Wayne didn’t go looking for her and just took it all as loss and moved on. And if that wasn’t enough, now rapper Cam’ron is coming forth posting pictures of a much younger Adrianne, implying that she used to run around trying to get a check from industry folks and ballers, including a friend of his:

“My man @britishthetitan been had bosh wifey under wing b4 Wayne. Lol she use to be pissy drunk in my club in da Cincinnati”

Well all right. While all of this might sound a bit messy, reports say that Chris Bosh knew about Adrienne’s past when he met her, and as it seems, she’s turned herself around, and comes off as devoted wife and mother. Well, from what we can see on social media of course. I’m not surprised one bit that a majority of the people hobnobbing with celebrities and getting wifed up have cloudy pasts, and if they’ve moved past it and their current partner/homie/lover/friend doesn’t care, then hey, it is what it is. Though, if she did swindle some money out of the rapper, that’s dirty..but that’s between her, Weezy and God.

Serious question though: What’s really up with these rappers publicly talking about who messed with who and trying to bring drama into people’s homes??? Geez. Now THAT’S really messy.

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Yesterday, the calm, cool and collected Hollywood actress that we know as Gabrielle Union showed us a completely different side. It seems that she doesn’t take kindly to reckless women seeking to throw a wrench into the happy home she’s built with her Miami Heat-playing beau, Dwyane Wade. The Being Mary Jane actress took to her Twitter page to address a rather bold “groupie” who was circulating an extremely disrespectful open letter to Union, claiming that she has a sexual relationship with Wade. The woman also released photos, which she claimed were proof that her story was legit. In a spit-fire Twitter-lashing, Gabby lets the groupie know that she’s onto her games and she’s not phased.

“Dear Batsh%t crazy loon, u seemed to have forgotten that u used the “valentine” pic on another blog last year when u claimed I was cheating. Take ur meds,” Gabby tweeted in retaliation to the letter.

“Once again…just cuz loons are talkin, u aint got to listen especially when they can’t keep their lies straight,” she continued.

“I’ve found that when dealing w/ ppl who want to see u miserable, the best “revenge” is living an amazing happy life. #Strut,” she finished before posting a photo of Dwyane holding her Being Mary Jane script.

We can’t say for sure who this woman is, but judging by these tweets, she’s a repeat offender and Gabrielle is clearly fed up with her. If you’re interested in reading the actual letter she penned to Gabby, you can check it out here. But, we advise that you take it with a grain of salt, as it was sent to MediaTakeOut and we all know how iffy that site can be.

What do you think of Gabrielle responding to the alleged groupie? Was she justified in lashing out or was she better off keeping her cool?

A few years ago, after a string of small performances at local cafes and schools, I was asked to open up for a rising underground emcee. Well, I must admit, I wasn’t the only one. There were three other female poets who were also asked to present during other intervals during the show.

I walked into the dressing room, where the other girls were already adorning their faces with foundation and giggling galore. They inquired quickly, before asking my name, if I knew whom I was about to perform for. They awaited my answer, excited to hear my take on their adoration. I shrugged; I’d only heard one song he’d done with a famous mainstream artist.

They instantly schooled me: Grammy bound, poetic and cute. He had morals and values, unlike most of the other hip-hop artists they confronted.

I snickered at their clamor while I threw on a tee with fresh Nikes. Even the enlightened and intellectual buzzed with hopeless romantic and crush.

Soon we were confronted by spotlight. We spit rhythmic verses that descended into the crowd and correlated with the songs that were up next. The adrenaline sifted through my veins and promised that I’d stand on a literary platform several times during my future.

There was a euphoria that laced the dressing rooms as we tumbled backstage. We swung our legs from the tall stools and bantered our experiences. In the middle of our chatter, the door flung open. The emcee we’d just opened up for, stood at the door, lit up with pride, “You guys did an amazing job! Man, I wish I could have you spit every time.”

We swarmed him, questioning his plans and lyricism. After an incredible set, even I was now enthralled by his work. After an hour-long conversation, his “posse” came to fetch him, ready to hit the road.

It was then he uttered those magic words. Words that groupies and good girls alike often yearn to hear from “men like him.”

“You guys want to come back to the hotel with us? We can finish the conversation there.”

Pause. Stop. Halt.

Conscious, indie or mainstream; I wasn’t following any rapper anywhere. Yes, it’s possible he might have good intentions, but even on the first date you don’t shadow a brother home. (Or the second & third, for that matter.)

The other girls accepted immediately and I started to pack my bag.

“You down love?” He asked.

I looked him up and down and then around at the too eager faces of the other people in the room.

“Nah, I’ll rain check this one.”

I threw my backpack over my shoulder and headed out while waving small goodbyes to everyone. As I left the arena, I heard quick footsteps behind me. It was Mr. Underground Emcee. His hand was pushed forward, handing me a business card.

“In case you ever need a feature, feisty girl.” He laughed.

I smiled, “Sure.”

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There is nothing more powerful than a woman’s intuition. You know that indescribable gut feeling we get when something is wrong, that tells us to research and react immediately. For many of us this gut wrenching gift has come in handy when uncovering things hidden from us in relationships. We’ve used this secret weapon to expose those who have wronged us without rhyme or reason.  Our only explanation is “something just told me so”. Also known as our “sixth sense”, we’ve grown to depend on this truth telling tale to have our backs when needed.

But sometimes it’s not our intuition that leads us to investigate a perceived problem, it’s our insecurities.  Yes, I said it – our insecurities and unaddressed issues can be easily masked or confused with a “woman’s intuition” and cause us to look for things that aren’t even there.  If we are lacking in the trust department or don’t think we are deserving of a monogamous and happy relationship than we can easily fall victim to believing that our man is up to no good and possibly ruin a perfectly fine relationship.

It’s important that we don’t get these two “feelings” twisted and drive ourselves crazy imagining things that don’t even exist. If you sense something is wrong in your relationship, check the conversation in your head and figure out if you have evidence to support it. If not, then it could be your insecurities getting the best of you.  I know it’s hard to admit that you may have insecurities but trust, we all have them and if you don’t manage them they can hold you back from having the fulfilling relationship you deserve. I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying “seek and you shall find even if nothing is there”.  Remember, regardless if it’s our intuition or insecurity when we look for something wrong, we’ll most likely find it.

Woman to woman, our intuition is powerful, yet our insecurities are real, know the difference.

Want to talk to me Woman to Woman or have a topic you would like addressed? Email me at rhooks@madamenoire.com or you can follow me on twitter @rashanahooks

By Selam Aster

It may be a bad economy for most folks but one thing’s for sure, hoes be winning these days. From Kim Kardashian to Amber Rose to Evelyn Lozada, women with sex tapes and high-profile affairs under their belts have given hope to a new class of social climbers thanks to reality television. Sadly enough, many young girls and women no longer have to aspire to achieving success via education or traditional entrepreneurship.

It was funny at first, seeing these basketball mistresses, strippers turned Flavor of Love contestants, video groupies and sex-tape having, publicity hounds with last names that start with K get some shine on TV. But now, it’s obvious that reality television has degraded society’s standards.

Watching Draya, the resident ex-stripper/groupie, on the Basketball Wives LA show on Vh1, talk about being a career woman dedicated to taking care of her son and her mother as a single mother herself on last night’s reunion special, I couldn’t help but laugh at how she made such a show about “working hard.” I guess this is the new image of working hard; getting a boob job, posing naked for men’s magazines, leaking a sex tape, and having the luck of landing a reality show documenting one’s trivial squabbles with frenemies. Yes, we’re officially in the Kardashian era.

I can’t hate on these women for making their money. No sirree. By all means, do what you gotta do. What I can’t appreciate, however, is how these women, many of which have married into money or capitalized from exposing their assets, praise themselves for “working hard.” The media is no better in terms of feeding into the idea that gold-digging is a sport.

The only message that comes through in the stardom of these women is that with a bit of plastic surgery and a dash of luck, you too may be able to just ditzily stumble onto millions. I’m not a staunch feminist, but I do know that everyone who has ever capitalized off a sex tape or who has invested in marrying a baller cannot be credited with setting a good example.
Since the barrier to entry for the next Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian, Draya or Superhead is so low, we now have more and more young girls abandoning the idea of education in hopes that they can hit it big with reality television, where the raunchier your past, the better your future seems to be for a potentially short-lived yet lucrative shot at celebrity.

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Poor Draya; she just can’t get a break. From the psychos on “Basketball Wives LA,” to Wendy Williams, everybody just keeps putting the poor girl and her sexual business out there.

The reality star appeared on “Wendy Williams” today and when Wendy questioned her about a rumor that she was with three basketball players in one night, she simply replied: “I haven’t been with three basketball players in the same month, let alone day. I space them out a little bit.”

Then Wendy hits her with the jab: “Do you ever feel like no reasonable man would ever want to marry you, that all you would be is a trick?”

Dang Wendy.

I heart Draya, but I have to say the way she answers questions just doesn’t help her rep. Do you think she’s really the wild child that the cameras make her out to be? Or just a little naive about how she handles herself? Watch the clip and comment below.

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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Love them or hate them, it looks like reality shows will be sticking around for a long time into the future. Toni Braxton will soon be the latest celeb to star in her own reality show. It might actually be good too! She’s had a lot going on with her fairly recent divorce, her health issues, her second bankruptcy and her offer from Playboy to grace the cover. Braxton’s sisters will be joining  her on the show too. We’re looking forward to seeing the series, but there are a few more celebs who we’d like to see with their own reality shows. Everybody else has one, why can’t they?

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Chanita Foster, wife of NFL tackle George Foster and co-star of VH1′s reality show “Football Wives,” offered up a few words about athletes and cheating:

“A basketball wife has more opportunities to get cheated on than a football wife.The NBA has 84 games a year, that’s 42 opportunities [for a basketball player] to do what they want in another city. The NFL has a total of 16 games, and eight of them you leave on Saturday, play, and come back on Sunday. Basketball players can have a game, and then too much time and opportunity to be promiscuous, especially in cities like LA, Miami, and Atlanta where they arrive a week and a half before they have to play.”

This is useful information for  fellow wives, but groupies just might be taking notes too.

See what else Chanita had to say  about trusting her husband and the realities of being married to an athlete by clicking here.