Tamia hasn’t aged one bit since hitting the scene, marrying Grant Hill, and birthing two kids, has she? Madame Noire had the luck of catching up with the singer at this past weekend’s Essence Music Festival, where she gave us the lowdown on the misconceptions of NBA wives, her new album and her very supportive fans. Check it out.

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One of our favorite underrated singers, Tamia is back on the scene! (And looking fabulous, we might add. You would never know she’s battled Multiple Sclerosis.) Now the Canada-native has released a video for her latest single, “Beautiful Surprise.” Her album, which bears the same name, will be released in August. Check out this video starring her baller husband, Grant Hill. Don’t you just love these two together? We’re feeling this romantic cut and hope the rest of the album will display the undeniable talent this mommy of two has showcased ever since she hit the scene back in the ’90s.

What do you think of the song? Are you feeling it?

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By now we all know that what we see on VH1′s “Basketball Wives” is far from reality, but sometimes you need an insider to tell you what life really is like being married to a basketball player. The Huffington Post caught up with singer Tamia, who’s the wife of NBA  player Grant Hill, and she gave her thoughts on how much of the show is real, and brought up an interesting point about how women aren’t the only ones who look bad on the show. Here’s what she said:

“I think the perception is definitely not a reality. I think, to be fair, a lot of those women [on the show] aren’t wives. And I’m good friends with Shaunie. And as far as business is concerned, I applaud her, but I think that it’s definitely very misleading in terms of what our lives are about.

“I do have a lot of friends who are married to athletes, and a lot of these women are involved in charities, doing all kinds of things behind the scenes and are supportive wives, and — believe it or not — have supportive husbands who are really great guys. I think not only for the women, but I think it just paints a really bad picture about the men as well. I think for athletes in general, people are like, ‘Why would you want to marry an athlete?’ And that goes back to what I was saying to you: what works in one person’s marriage, may not work in the next. So keep your eyes focused on yours! I guess it’s interesting TV, but it’s definitely not reality.”

Tamia has a good point. When any woman has drama with a basketball player, we typically think, well, what did you expect hooking up with a pro athlete, and we forget that every man with skills on the court isn’t a dog when he steps off of it. So how do Tamia and Grant make their marriage work? Here’s what she said:

“I always say, “What works in one marriage may not work in the next. So definitely keep your eyes focused on your own relationship,” she said. “I think it’s important to understand that you guys are going to grow. Obviously, I’m not the same person that I was at 24, and he’s not the same person that he was. But we also together allowed each other to grow as well and stay connected at the same time. And I think that’s important. And obviously, communication is super important. And at the end of the day we just love being with each other and being really good friends”

Well, she said it twice for a reason. If you want to make it work, keep your focus on your own relationship and not everyone  else’s.

What do you think about what Tamia said? Does “Basketball Wives” uphold negative stereotypes about the athletes as well?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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It was clear to all that these were the thoughts of these players in the past, not the present. Despite the context of the statements, Hill proceeded to publish an op-ed in the New York Times to express his disappointment with the film. How do you express disappointment with honesty and reflection? I guess we can attribute it to saving face, which is understandable. At the same time, the best approach for Hill would’ve been to ignore it and display how he’s above it all.

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