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Since the debut of her popular web series Awkward Black Girl, Issa Rae has been quite busy. Not only is she a host on new daytime TV talk show Exhale, but she’s also working on a new pilot for HBO.
“I’m writing an HBO pilot. We just turned that in, so we’re waiting on notes. And I’m always working on web series,” she tells The Huffington Post.
In addition to all of that she’s writing a book. Though she has yet to reveal specifically what the book is about, the actress/director did open up about how challenging writing a book has been.
“I’m writing a book right now — that is the bane of my existence because it is so freaking hard,” said Issa.
Though many see the widespread popularity of Awkward Black Girl and believe her success came overnight, Issa says it’s been a long time coming.
“It was a matter of good timing, but I was working towards it for awhile. In my current position, the third web series I did, ["Awkward Black Girl,"] happened to get a lot of attention but the first and the second were very slow.”
She also discusses whether or not she feels responsible for helping other women in the workplace.
“Responsibility is a strong word. I just think there should be a natural desire. I don’t feel a responsibility to, I just want to. I think that it makes [helping other women] almost undesirable if you have a sense of pressure associated with it. I just find it troubling when people try to put other women down. I don’t think that’s helpful in any way.”
As for the “glass ceiling,” Issa says she doesn’t allow it to impact her.
“I choose to ignore it. I feel like by ignoring it, it doesn’t really affect me. I’ve found that the people who acknowledge the glass ceiling feel affected by it and won’t surpass it. I feel like more women are going the route where they’re just like, “F it, I’m gonna make it happen for myself, whether you think it’s gonna happen or not.” That’s my mentality.”
Our girl is doing her thing!
Jazmine Denise is a celebrity news and entertainment blogger. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise.
Think Like A Man Too actor Terrence J recently stopped by Power 105.1′s The Breakfast Club to promote the release of his new book, The Wealth of My Mother’s Wisdom and his latest film, Baggage Claim. The 31-year-old New York native also opened up about overcoming major financial struggles and his split from former Victoria’s Secret Angel Selita EBanks. Peep some interesting highlight from his interview below.
On almost going bankrupt:
“There was a time when I was at 106 where I almost went bankrupt trying to keep up with other people. You know, you got all of these rappers coming on the show, you gotta keep up with them. You get your first AMEX, you blow through that money. There was a point where I lost everything. Then I get got diagnosed with vitiligo. I was scared about my health and everything. My skin started breaking out and I was just depressed.”
On his work ethic compared to former BET and 106 hosts:
“Giving 99% is the same as giving 0%. If you gon’ give 99%, you may as well stay home. I’m always like 110% in everything I do. You see the things that people do. I’ve seen the paths and I always wanted to excel. I knew I always wanted to do film. I never wanted to feel like I couldn’t pay my rent. When I first started at BET, I did not know how I was going to pay my college tuition. I was sleeping on the couch. I never wanted to feel broke. That’s why I hustle all of these jobs. It’s out of like, desperation. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night like, ‘Oh! Someone else is working and I’m not! Let me get back to the grind.’
On his split from Selita Ebanks:
“I think Selita is amazing. Sometimes things just don’t work. She’s a very busy woman. I work as well. I just think she’s amazing and I wish her the best.”
On being a bad host during his early years at BET:
“I didn’t think I was gon’ make it. I didn’t think was gon’ last. I’m just glad they stuck with me. I know for the first 2, 3 years I was terrible. So I’m just happy the network stayed with me. Things at E! are going really well.”
It’s inspiring to see that Terrence was able to roll with the punches and continued to chase his dreams, even while when he was faced with adversity.
Watch his full interview on the next page.
While the desire to excel is often considered a good thing, when it spills over into perfectionism it’s just a messy waste of time. Moreover, a perfectionist always pressures others to reach for this level, which is likely to get you jumped in the break room.
Your best bet is to remember that nobody is perfect; we all have strengths and weaknesses. No matter what your overachieving parents have spoon fed you, there are always things you can do better and improve upon. Focus on what is really needed and don’t worry about what you can’t do. When working on a project be sure to define a goal that you want (and realistically can) achieve. This way you’ll know when you are finished and stop nitpicking at fringe details.
Perfectionism can be self-destructive when the perfectionist is too concerned with how others perceive them. And when it comes to work, it can impede you getting the job done. A job well done and completed on deadline is actually pretty darn good.
Keep your eyes on the prize, ladies. The sexual revolution, Gloria Steinem, Alice Walker, Oprah, the shifting economy… there are countless components that have gone into the progress and success of women in the world, in the home, and in the workplace. Women have advanced in media, in politics, in sciences and in big business, and they’ve done this by utilizing skill sets, and by identifying and actualizing goals that they’ve set for themselves. While every woman can’t be Condoleezza Rice or Martha Stewart, every woman can set certain goals in place for herself so that life may be as fulfilling as possible.
When I first started out with my weight loss journey, all I really wanted was to be small enough to fit into a dress at Bebe.
I’d gone into a store with one of my dear friends who was dress hunting, and I realized that I was far too large to fit into anything they sold there. I picked up a flowy top with dolman sleeves, thinking that it – with its mass sheaths of fabric and large neckhole – would fit me, only to find that it wouldn’t even come past my shoulders. Even then, I didn’t necessarily “vow to lose weight,” but I did say that I’d “be back when I could fit into something in there.”
As I’d first started out, I didn’t really set a goal. I just knew that, since I’d hit my stride, I wanted to work as hard as possible and do as much as I could to get somewhere other than 330lbs. And I’d done exactly that. I put my nose down, and I did the work, with people asking me what my “goal” was the entire time.
It made me feel like something was wrong with me – my goal? Do I have to have a goal? Can’t I just do the work? I mean, the exercise was cathartic for me – working out to relieve stress and anxiety as opposed to, say, eating to relieve anxiety – and I didn’t want to give it a relative end date.
So, though I didn’t set a goal, I did decide on a number that I’d thought would look good on me. I didn’t attach myself to the idea of that being the “stopping” point for me, but I did say to myself that I’d be this drop dead gorgeous bombshell that stopped traffic once I got there.
That number came and boy, was I underwhelmed.
I didn’t look anything like how I thought I’d look once I’d reached that size. I didn’t have the definition, the sleek curves, none of it. I’d done the work, but it wasn’t targeted correctly to build the body I wanted, and quite honestly, I don’t know that I believe the body I wanted was available at that size for someone seeking to lose weight.
That’s the struggle with setting “goal weights,” though –- it perpetuates an attachment to the scale that isn’t even necessary. The reality of weight loss is that, no matter what your reasons for losing, you still want your efforts to result in you being happy with what you see when you look in the mirror, and that feeling isn’t always something that you can guarantee will come with any given number.
The funny thing about being in that Bebe store and feeling like my goal should’ve been to just look good in the dress, was that it was a meaningful yardstick to measure my progress – one of many. Measuring my health, how I feel about myself when I look in the mirror, my physical capabilities and quality of life? All of these were valuable measuring tools to gauge my progress, far more so than a number on a scale. It not only saved me the disappointment of clinging to a number that didn’t satisfy me when I looked in the mirror, but it made me comfortable with lifting weights – something that can, in some cases, cause you to gain weight instead of lose – in order to build the body I wanted.
Goal setting can be tricky, but don’t let it get to you. Focus on the entire package, instead of fixating on a number. It helped me achieve far more than I ever even originally imagined, and it can do the same for you!
Erika Nicole Kendall is the writer behind the award winning blog, A Black Girl’s Guide to Weight Loss, where she blogs her journey of losing over 150lbs. A personal trainer certified in women’s fitness, fitness nutrition and weight loss coaching, she can be found on Facebook and Twitter.
Ever gaze off into the distance and envision yourself as a bustling business owner, entrepreneur of your own bakery or interior design company? The thing that often stops you from pursuing your dream, whether it’s to publish a book, open a gymnastics center, or launch your own pet grooming service is fear. Fear of failure and not knowing how to dust yourself off and reinvent yourself to make a strong comeback. Banish those negative doubts and thoughts of disbelief that permeate the corners of your mind. Now is the time to go after your true calling. Still having second thoughts? Seek inspiration below. And then I ask you: What are you waiting for, folks?
I can’t get no . . . satisfaction won’t be your theme song because you will. You will be satisfied with the fact that you were willing to take the plunge into uncertainty. You will have to give it your all. Nobody said it would be easy, but there is something about pulling yourself up by your own bootstraps that feels oh so good.
We all have that uncle who gives the best advice. It just may come in a package that’s a bit too abrasive, too uncouth or too raw for your more prudish family members. And though his delivery may be a little bit rough around the edges, you know at the end of the day, your uncle, no matter how reckless his mouth, cares about you.
Steve Harvey, radio, talk, and game show host and comedian is something like that uncle.
For the past six years, Havey has partnered with Walt Disney World Resort to host Disney’s Dreamers Academy. The program is designed to provide high school students with opportunities to cultivate their dreams through career workshops, inspirational speeches from celebrities and networking events.
This year, 5,000 high school students, from across the country, applied to participate in the weekend-long program. A board, including members Yolanda Adams and Mikki Taylor, helped to select only 100 students.
Yesterday, Taylor, Adams, Harvey, former Dreamers Academy students and other Disney executives spoke to this year’s dreamers about what they can expect from the coming weekend and dropped some gems of wisdom as well.
Both Adams and Harvey echoed each other in their sentiments; yet, while Adams’ delivery was polite, polished and poignant. Harvey’s was rugged.
Adams talked about how the students have so much more to learn as they “grow with grace and wisdom.” Harvey said bluntly and succinctly, these are “your stupid years.”
To be sure that neither the students or parents in attendance took offense, Harvey says that he tells his own children, who range from 30 to 15, the same thing. He said that, though they think they know everything now, when they get older, they’ll look back on their lives and realize what he meant. He said that reflection may come in a spiritual form like, “Jesus, I was stupid.” Or it may come in a “thug moment” like “I’ll be damned…that was stupid.”
Now, you may have noticed that Harvey used Jesus in one sentence and cussed in the next. Well, he addressed that too by saying he’s not these kids’ parent or pastor so we can’t judge him. In fact, Harvey said he’s a new Christian who hasn’t quite abandoned profanity yet. He went on to say that today’s children have heard far worse from their peers, the media and music they consume. He said at least he cusses with a purpose.
While Harvey might be a bit unorthodox in his approach, it is very clear that he has the teens’ best interest at heart and was truly there to impart some wisdom. He told them to make the most of the weekend because each speaker knows something the students don’t.
What the students and the speakers all have in common though is that they have a dream. Harvey made sure to mention the importance of the dream, “Your dream is the major component in your life outside of your relationship with God.” He supported that claim by referencing Proverbs 29 saying, “A man without a dream or vision shall perish.”
He also told students that they needed to be persistent in holding onto their dreams. Harvey said he knew from 9 years old that he wanted to be on television. But it didn’t happen for him until he was 38. He said just because a dream takes a while to come true, he asked, “When is it too late to be successful?”
Harvey had the room wrapped around his finger. And he left the podium to a standing ovation from the 100 high school dreamers, one of them even shouting out, “I love you Steve!” High schoolers can appreciate messages that come from a real place. And if they were paying attention the parents, media and other adults in the room could have learned a little something from Harvey too.
What do you think about Harvey’s approach and his words of wisdom?
Keep checking back on Madame Noire for updates about Disney’s Dreamers Academy, including student and celebrity interviews.
Welcome to the “Work It!” column, where we take a look at business innovation of every kind.
Being an innovator in your field can be as easy as K.I.S.S. – Keep It Simple, Sis. A singular vision focuses your efforts on becoming the best at what you do, and reduces your chances of being sidetracked or scattered. Ory Okolloh’s rise from blogger activist to policy manager for Africa for Google is a perfect example of the difference having a vision can make on your career.
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Okolloh realized early on that her true passion was using technology to ensure African voices were heard.
In 2006, Okolloh co-founded Mzalendo.com (“patriot” in Swahili) to track the Kenyan Parliament. The country’s TV and print media took weeks or months to sort through legal developments in the country. Meanwhile, Okolloh’s blog meticulously tracked the actions of political leaders and kept records of parliamentary bills in real time.
During Kenya’s controversial 2007 presidential election, which was marked by outbreaks of violence, she co-founded another site Ushahidi (“Testimony”). This time she focused on helping citizen journalists report incidents of violence and peace efforts. Before the experts dubbed the process “activist mapping, ” Okolloh’s site leveraged web, mobile, e-mail, SMS, Twitter, and Google Maps to visualize what was happening on the ground.
Ushahidi evolved from a website into a nonprofit tech company developing software platforms for citizen journalist initiatives. The organization was called on to launch humanitarian efforts in the aftermath of earthquakes in Haiti and Chile, a wildfire outbreak in Russia, and snowstorms in Washington DC.
The Perks of Being An Expert
Okolloh’s success in online activism allowed her to move on from blogging to become a spokesperson for citizen journalism, youth activism, and technology in Africa. In a world where non-experts are championed, Okolloh is an anomaly.
The trend of the moment is to know a little something about everything. It’s true; non-experts are able to pull from a variety of sources to come up with creative solutions. However, the old-fashioned approach of focusing on what you’re good at still has its benefits.
Thoroughly understanding the space where you work allows you to recognize needs others wouldn’t. Working where your passion and strengths intersects, ensures that you enjoy what you do, and won’t mind putting in the extra work required to be the best.
“One of the best pieces of advice I received while I was at the university was to get paid to do what you love to do, so that’s my philosophy, and much of the time you find it’s not mutually exclusive and your natural talents is what you end up loving to do. But passion – you spend so much time working, ideally you want to love it.”
- Ory Okolloh, “Africa’s Most Successful Women: Ory Okolloh,” Forbes
A clear vision for your career begins with looking inside. Start thinking about what you love, and how you can use your strengths to pursue it.
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With New Year’s still fresh in our minds, self-improvement is important to everyone. But, it’s easy to be dedicated in January. The true test is honoring those resolutions for 365 days. That’s 52 weeks of discipline! Dropping the cash to lock yourself into a year-long commitment and making good habits a part of your daily routine are two easy ways to preserve that “new you” you told all of social media would debut in 2013. Here are nine ideas, some for free and others with a cost incentive, to keep you on track.
Actually Want To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions For Once? 6 Things You Should Do Before You Make That List
It’s unfortunate that most New Year’s resolutions don’t make it past January. For some of us, losing weight lasts just as long as the trial membership to the gym. Eating healthy doesn’t last as long as the expiration date on the yogurt. And the goal to have better relationships usually goes well until someone says something to us that we don’t like.
Every year people rush to make their list of resolutions in hopes of being a better person in the new year; and while it’s not impossible to keep resolutions, usually they’re broken…unless you plan for success. Yes, even your plan needs to have a plan when it comes to New Year’s resolutions.
So before you make that list of changes for the New Year, here are five things to consider that could help you with your success.