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Since the U.S. Census Bureau has been keeping record, interracial marriages have been on the rise. While there are more than 2.4 million mixed marriages in the U.S., Hollywood has been a bit slow in keeping up with times and portraying more interracial couples, but low and behold we’ve managed to find a few favorites over the years. Take a look.
“I Love Lucy’s” Ricky and Lucy Ricardo
Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz were one of, if not the first, interracial couple on television. Debuting in 1951, “ I Love Lucy” made groundbreaking history when it aired with the real-life husband and wife stars. The show followed the antics played out by comedian Lucille Ball while her husband looked helplessly on. The show lasted for six seasons and more than 60 years later, “I Love Lucy” remains popular with over 40 million Americans still tuning in.
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Writer and producer executive Mara Brock Akil rocked television networks’ boat with her story of black successful female friends, Girlfriends. The show became a favorite of black women who loved seeing their narratives play out on national television. After the CW network canceled Girlfriends, Akil moved onto her iconic show The Game. Modeled after the lives of professional football players, the show became an immediate success with fans. So much so that fans petitioned networks to bring it back after it, too, was canceled. Since returning to television The Game is still on a winning streak.
But Akil has a new baby on her hands and it’s the coolest kid on the television playground. Being Mary Jane starring Gabrielle Union, reaches on average of over 2.5 million viewers (more than the HBO hit show Girls).
BloombergBusinessWeek profiled Akil about her life and work. And here are three things you may not know about the woman who has created some of your favorite television shows.
She sees herself in the ladies of Girlfriends
Raised in Kansas City, Mo., and educated at Northwestern University, Brock Akil began her career in the writers’ rooms of UPN’s Moesha and WB’s The Jamie Foxx Show…
Girlfriends ran for eight seasons; when the CW canceled it, Brock Akil and her infuriated fans were powerless. “Girlfriends was my first expression in the medium, my full voice, and it allowed me to document myself,” she says. “It was: I’m here, I deserve to be here, and I’m entitled to it.”
She orchestrated a social media campaign to “Save the Game”
“Whenever a new network starts, they typically start with a black audience, then dump them once they get ratings and bring the other programming on,” Brock Akil says. But this was 2009, and the black fans who’d clogged phone lines in 2006 had grown into a powerful force on social media. So Brock Akil savvily coordinated a massive social media campaign. A “Save The Game” YouTube (GOOG) video featuring all her show’s stars implored fans to complain on their Facebook and Twitter accounts and CW’s message boards.“Before, the studio held the narrative,” Brock Akil says. “I heard that when Girlfriends got canceled, the fans broke the phone system. The mail was overwhelming. UPN or the CW didn’t have to report that the fans broke the phones! With social media, it was all out there.”
Mary Jane is purposely flawed
An earlier generation of black television writers felt a responsibility to provide Cosby-style role models. But realistic imperfection, more often afforded to white male characters than minority women, has become Brock Akil’s signature.“The thing about writing for African American characters is, people think you have to right all the wrongs that were done in the past, and I can’t do that,” she says. “I believe if we keep trying to fix something that’s over, we’re missing out on what is in the moment. If I do that, my art is stale. I’m chasing a ghost.”
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‘Think Again Flip Flopper:’ NeNe Accuses Cynthia Of Ending Their Friendship To Secure A Storyline For Season 7
Well, it looks like NeNe Leakes and Cynthia Bailey’s relationship may be a thing of the past. Last night, NeNe took to social media to discuss the ending of their friendship and she basically accused Cynthia of sacrificing their friendship to secure a storyline and spot on season seven of “Real Housewives of Atlanta”.
“As hopeful as I was for us to be friends for life, I’m not surprised that our friendship has ended and it truly saddens me!” the “Dancing With The Stars” contender announced in an Instagram post. “Reality friendships never last anyway. So how foolish was I to think I had something special?”
NeNe went on to say that with Cynthia’s lukewarm personality, their broken friendship was more than likely inevitable.
“It’s amazing what people are willing to do for the love of money, relevancy, and to stay on TV. With Cynthia’s sell-out personality and blow-in-the-wind persona, I knew it was only a matter of time! It’s always the ones that are closest to you that will turn on you! I was totally blindsided by all this!”
Her post continues:
“Yes, I said Peter was a b***h early October of last year and I have apologized numerous times for it! Cynthia & Peter accepted my apology and we simply moved on! Yes! moved on to talking, traveling and texting several times a day as we always did!”
In addition to hosting events with one another and spending Thanksgiving together since the “b***h” comment, NeNe says she also spent New Years Eve with Cynthia.
“When the episode aired for all to see and Twitterverse had their say, I guess she changed her mind and decided she needed to be mad nearly six months later! I know you trying to pull the sympathy card, but if you were such a good friend, why didn’t you pull me aside and talk to me about how you were feeling instead of dicing our friendship up in front of a bunch of people who don’t care! Surely I am worthy of that considering that I carried you on my back!”
“I can admit something hurts the same way I can apologize when something I am wrong. But hey, who cares about a stupid friendship when you need to secure another season on the show [...] P.S. If you or anyone else thinks the demise of our friendship is your storyline for season seven, think again flip flopper.”
Interestingly, NeNe also released text messages that seem to imply that the “b***h” scene was planned.
“Change of plans for the scene. Not going to do the b***h thing with Gregg,” a text message believed to be from Cynthia reads. “I thought it would be funny, but I really don’t want to call him out of his name—even as a joke. Think we should have a real grown conversation, address our concerns as friends, apologize, hug it out and have cocktails.”
She captioned the screenshot:
“Did you forget you sent me this text after Mexico? The morning before Gregg & I shot the scene with you & Peter. Don’t play dumb friend! I know you innocent.”
The posts were later removed.
Have NeNe’s words changed how you look at their situation? Do you think their better off ending their relationship?
Let’s be honest: when it comes to stalking your ex, your detective level is on expert. From creeping his latest pictures with his new girlfriend to going through his statuses just because they’re readily available, you hardly notice when your digital stalking becomes a full-blown habit. Why is that? Even though you swear that you’ve moved on, there’s a small part of you that can’t help but wonder how he’s coping without you.
Is it possible that there’s more to this than curiosity or jealousy?
Intrigued by human behavior, University of Missouri School of Journalism’s Kevin Wise set forth to crack this code through the use of facial EMG sensors which, when connected to the eye muscles, detect the levels of positive reaction stemming from visual stimuli. In his study, the assisstant professor of strategic communication closely documented the facebook activity of over 30 subjects.
In the results of his social experiment, he found that most of the participants used facebook to search through the pages of both friends and former partners; he believes that his findings show that people often experience an instant “emotional gratification” from connecting to fellow users through their personal pages. While Wise sees facebook “social searching” as a form of emotional bonding, other critics aren’t as ready to accept this conclusion.
Read more about stalking at YourTango.com
From Hello Beautiful
We all know the cliche, “Nice guys finish last,” but what about us? Nice girls finish after way after nice guys. Think about it. There’s books dedicated to men loving witches with a capital B. When women are apathetic, no-nonsense and could care less about what people think often serves as a challenge for men and we all know that men love challenges.
Nice women who are loyal, supportive and just want honesty and respect in return usually get the short end of the stick. I know because I’ve been all of these things to men and have seen my stick get shorter and shorter.
Somewhere along the way, romantic and genuinely sweet gestures have become annoyances and expected, so they are never truly appreciated. Love cannot be bought or earned. The receiver of the nice treatment does not always feel love for the giver. In fact, they may feel manipulated, burdened or just ungrateful.
A few years ago, I met this adorable guy named Gavin. He was tall, smart, funny, ridiculously sweet and attentive. I thought I’d hit the jackpot. One night, Gavin wanted to hang out, but I explained to him that I was going to be celebrating my friend’s birthday at a local restaurant.
Gain sighed heavily, “And after?”
His desperation was adorable in the first couple of weeks. He loved spending time with me and was never shy to vocalize that. But after the hearts and stars in my eyes began to fade, I became increasingly irritated by his urgency. “After, I don’t know. It’s Lisa’s birthday, so we’ll probably be out,” I rolled my eyes. “I have to go babe. I’ll call you when I’m done.” I hung up, ready to complain to my girlfriends about how thirsty Gavin was becoming.
“I can’t believe you’re complaining about your boyfriend wanting to spend time with you. Why are you even with him?” One of my girlfriends challenged my disdain.
Continue this story about being nice in relationships at HelloBeautiful.com
“I Said, ‘Ok, You Can Have My Underwear!’” Oprah Dishes On The Early Days Of Her Friendship With BFF Gayle King
Good friends are extremely tough to come by and some could only hope that they’re lucky enough to form a bond like the one Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King share someday. But their bond is certainly not one that developed overnight. According to the media maven, she met Gayle back in the 70s during her days working as a news anchor.
“Back a lifetime ago, 1976, Baltimore. We were both on a local TV station. She was a production assistant,” Winfrey told Page Six. “I was an anchor.”
It turns out that an extreme snow storm assisted their relationship in progressing from co-workers to friends.
“We became friends, especially after a big snow storm.”
“When she couldn’t go out, get home and didn’t have enough clothes, I said, ‘OK, you can have my underwear.’ But then I added, ‘And don’t return it.’”
Their friendship grew beyond the time they spent at that Baltimore news network and when Oprah made it to the big leagues, she was sure to bring Gayle along for the ride.
“When time came and things happened to me, I asked her to quit her job and come to my new Oprah magazine to help me. But the truth is, the whole time I felt guilty taking her away from TV because I know how much she loved it.”
Now that Gayle is back working in the television industry, the 60-year-old entrepreneur says she couldn’t be more happy for her friend.
“I want to say officially how proud I am of my friend Gayle King,” she gushed. “And now she’s doing so well, and I’m thrilled for her. Mostly because at least she can have her own underwear.”
We absolutely love their friendship.
From Single Black Male
1. Commenting on our friends, sisters, cousins, or co-workers looks:This can either go horribly wrong or kind of right. For example, “Your mom is so beautiful you look just like her.” And then there is, “Yeah … your sister’s boobs are bigger than yours, but all I need is a handful.” (No this is not a made up example either, but I digress.) Look, it’s not like we expect you to not look at, desire, or feel attracted to anyone else, but hearing how fine/hot/beautiful/pretty you think our best friend/sister/co-worker is, is not on our list of things we want to hear. Why? They are too close to home and too close to you. This is a scenario we see constantly played out in movies, television dramas, and the “Maury Show,” so the last thing we want to equate with you is getting a phone call from Maury’s producer. Thinking someone is beautiful does not mean you are going to cheat on us with them either, but would you want us telling you how Hot we think your brother is? Didn’t think so.
2. Trying to solve all of our problems for us: Guys, we understand you are natural problem solvers, but sometimes we just want to vent about our co-worker Tanya. (Listen, I don’t care how mature you are, we all have that one co-worker that just irks the hell out of us). For example, ‘Tanya flirts with everyone and it pisses me off! I’m sure she’s sleeping with our boss because she wouldn’t have gotten that raise otherwise!” Pause right here. What are you supposed to say to that? Should you try and solve this dilemma for your woman? Are you supposed to agree that Tanya is a Slore? Do you tell your girl she may be reacting a bit over-the-top? No to everything! Just listen and please don’t try and come up with a plan of action, unless we ask. We have been dealing with Tanya for a long time now and know what we need to do, but we can’t talk about her with anyone at work so we at times need to vent about it to you. Please put the whiteboard, markers, and note cards away — we got this.
Read more at SingleBlackMale.org
It’s a reunion!
This past Saturday night, every fabulous black women in the entertainment industry gathered together to celebrate something we all already know, “Black Girls Rock!” On top of our good fortune of just being in the presence of these exceptional ladies at the award ceremony, we also got to chat with a few on the red carpet — including our favorite “Girlfriends.”
Yup, Joan, Maya, Toni, and Lynn were all there; or should we say Tracee Ellis Ross, Golden Brooks, Jill Marie Jones, and Persia White? We had the chance to catch up with each woman and ask them about one of our favorite shows in television history, and we even caught Tracee and Mara Brock Akil, creator of “Girlfriends,” reunite on the carpet. Check out the video below as we chat with the girls about their favorite “Girlfriends” episodes and why the sitcom was the best thing ever in the early 2000s.
For those of you who’ve been wondering when Jill Marie Jones would finally get back to acting, the answer is…NOW.
The popular actress recently signed on to join the cast of Fox’s new series, Sleepy Hollow,” according to The Hollywood Reporter. In her recurring role, Jones will play Cynthia Irving, the ex-wife of Captain Frank Irving and the mother of Macey Irving.
It’s been a long time since we’ve seen her in any acting jobs. While she did appear in an episode of American Horror Story: Asylum earlier this ear, we haven’t seen her regularly since Girlfriends where she appeared in six of the seasons as the infamous Toni Childs. Fans of her work have been hoping that her talents would stop being overlooked and she’d be working again soon.
Sleepy Hollow has been one of the breakout shows of the fall television season and easily one of Fox’s most popular shows. It got a boost from the African-American community who was especially excited to see Nicole Beharie, an African-American actress, as one of its leads. In fact, the show has already been renewed for a second season.
Sleepy Hollow returns to Fox on November 5th and Jill Marie Jones makes her debut as Cynthia Irving on November 25th.
Will you check it out, even if just for Jill?
It had been on my mind and heart to reach out to an old friend for a few months. We were inseparable all four years of undergrad – taking classes together, partying together, breaking bread together, planning events together. There was rarely a tear I didn’t sit with Kara through or a heartbreak slump Kara didn’t pep talk me out of. When my hair looked ridiculous, she gently suggested another option in her sweet-spirited way. When she took crap from people, I volunteered to tell them off for her.
But more than anything, we inspired each other to be the better versions of ourselves. To be dignified while everyone else was showing their behinds – literally and figuratively. We motivated each other to get our work done, to step out on faith and do what seemed to be the impossible, to be leaders in our own right.
And then we graduated and barely spoke for reasons that mainly involved a falling out between a mutual friend and me. I fell off the grid. Distanced myself from everyone and anyone with whom I had been close. Just in case. Eff all of them. People are untrustworthy and I’m over it. I’m done.
That was my hurt and childish mindset in 2008:
One person did me wrong so everybody must pay. Hell, they could be sitting with that person, talking smack about me right now! They probably are. Kara probably is. She doesn’t return my phone calls or texts. I’m done with her too.
I distanced myself so greatly, one would never have known that we were ever friends.
But after a few years of ups and downs a LOT of self-work, Kara stayed heavily on my spirit. I debated and talked myself out of contacting her each time the thought shimmied into my consciousness. Was it even possible to be as close as we were before? Would she even respond to my text?
Eff it. Closure, a new beginning, peace – I had to get past my pride if I was ever going to have any of the above.
What my invitation to dinner was met with was an ecstatic Kara, eager to meet up. I don’t know if I was shocked or touched. Maybe a little of both.
What came of that meeting was conversation between two old friends like no time had passed. Explanations of lapses in contact. Encouragement, life lessons learned over the past five years, hilarious anecdotes that made us laugh. Hard.
When she finally asked me why we didn’t stay as close as we thought we would have, I came clean about my “guilty by association” mindset back then. She was shocked.
“Ash, you should know I’m not like that. If two of my friends have beef I tell them to work it out like grown women. I don’t drop people because someone else has an issue with them.”
I felt dumb for having been so irrational. How many chances had we lost to celebrate triumphs together? How many times could we have been each other’s shoulder to lean on through tough times?
But we were here now. Five years later, many experiences wiser, more mature, able to embrace one another like no time had passed.
It was one of the most humbling experiences. I had so horribly misjudged someone with whom I had had a sisterhood. All because of a hurt I suffered at the hands of someone else. Clouded judgment caused me to miss out on years of friendship with one of the most genuine friends I had ever known. But actively humbling myself, reaching out and being real started a healing process.
I grew from that experience. I learned that people are much more gracious than I’ve given them credit for being. I was humbled with yet another example of how flawed I am. I learned all over again to leave assumptions at the door.
We’re human so we’re going to make mistakes, misjudge others, and mishandle situations. The key to forward movement, healing, and repair is to kick pride out of the way for a minute and admit our mistakes. Sometimes it’s not too little too late and we and we can begin again.
La Truly’s writing is powered by a lifetime of anecdotal proof that awkward can transform to awesome and fear can cast its crown before courage. La seeks to encourage thought, discussion and change among young women through her writing. Check her out on Twitter: @AshleyLaTruly.