All Articles Tagged "Girl On Top"
Wrap It Up (Unapologetic Soapbox Rant)
Every December 1st, people pull out their quirky Product (RED) shirts and post things on Facebook about knowing one’s status and staying safe. A lot of statistics fly around (ranging from the accurate, to the slightly accurate and the “Girl, did you just make that up?”). It’s a lovely show of solidarity and jingoism for the millions of people across the globe who have been impacted by HIV/AIDS.
But at the end of the day, you and I both know that a lot of the most rah-rah people about this cause are STILL participating in high-risk sexual behavior and are tempting infection themselves, as they preach the gospel of “knowing”. In case you need any reminder, here are few reasons why you need to practice what you preach about safe sex on December 1st and beyond.
Too Beautiful for Your Man to Cheat? Not So Much
With the news of Eva Longoria and Tony Parker’s divorce heating up the tabloids (even though their actual marriage was about as interesting as a can of Tab), rumor has it that the baller cheated on his wife with the wife of one of his teammates. Now, that’s putting the ‘T” in “trifling” right there, you won’t hear me contesting that. However, I do take issue with the fact the chorus of men who are moaning about the infidelity of the team player’s wife as if it’s somehow worse because she’s a woman. Does the fact that this to-be-named woman cheated on her husband with his colleague make it a more bitter pill to swallow? Oh, absolutely. But to act as if a woman’s infidelity is somehow worse because of her gender? I can’t. Here are a few things I submit for consideration when it comes to this whole cheating thing.
Female Orgasms 101
The female orgasm: sometimes elusive, often misunderstood. Here are but a few of the many things you may need to know about women and their climax habits…you may want to email this to some of the men in your life…trust me!
Must. Talk. Baby. In. Bedroom!
You would think that the conversation about birth control would have became easy by 2010. You would think. And yet courts, talk shows, neighborhoods (from ‘the trap’ to your nearest buppie enclave) and maternity wards are lined with people coping with the inability to effectively do so prior to conception. Le sigh. Do better, people.
Safety Tips for Public Sex
Kelis’ “Get It On In Public” was not the first exhibitionist sex anthem. Many of us got our first introduction to the idea of public naughtiness via Janet’s “Anytime, Anyplace,” and who can forget 112′s ”Anywhere?” The idea of getting it popping in broad daylight is great for a club anthem, but what about in real life?
We’re adults with reputations and responsibilities that must be taken into consideration. You do not want to risk your career, your image or even your freedom for a kinky thrill. However, you can (maybe…maybe) make it work for you and your lover out in the streets if you plan wisely. Here are a few tips for those of you who are interested giving it a try:
How to Ease the Pain of Romantic Rejection
Rejection sucks and if you are lucky enough to clock at least 20 years of this thing called ‘life,’ chances are you will experience it at least once. Unrequited love, lust or something in between the two can be devastating, but it is important that you are able to handle romantic disappointment with grace. If not for the sake of your repuation, then for the (far more important) reason of your sanity!
Here are five ways in which you can save face (and pain) in the face of rejection:
Five Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before Sex
Deciding if or when to sleep with someone for the first time can be daunting, frustrating and even a little scary. While I champion sexual freedom, it’s still worth taking the time to weigh your options and ensure that this new lover is a good move for both of you…especially YOU! Ask yourself the following questions before you find yourself in the heat of passion and you may be able to save yourself a lot of pain in the aftermath:
Sex in 2010: More Than Just ‘Virgins’ & ‘Whores’
I have gotten a number of comments via this column that have made me pretty sad. As you can see, I’m writing about sex. And my end goal is to encourage women to feel empowered to seek out a sort of happy and healthy sexual life, be it celibacy, monogamy or something in between. That’s not to say that I advocate doing any or everything you want sexually…I personally do believe everyone should have some moral compass and the ability to know when indulging desire is a bad thing. But overall, I do have an agenda here and that agenda is “sex positivity”: making empowered choices, accepting responsibility and managing one’s own satisfaction.
Why Hasn’t He Called?
Reader Nyla asks:
I recently just had sex with a new partner. Since we had sex, he hasn’t called. It’s been a week now. What should I do or say to him?
Aww, sis. Sorry to hear that. First, let me ask: how was it? Did he perform well? Did he come too fast? If he doesn’t feel good about his work, he could be keeping a low-profile because of embarrassment. In which case, giving him a call wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world, as it would let him know that you are still interested. However, even in that case, I would file his silence under ‘cowardice.’
Sex Won’t Make Him Love You Back!
“Girl On Top” is a weekly sex column on Madame Noire. Stay tuned for more topics, comment or write us at editors@madamenoire.com if you have suggestions!
An all-too familiar scenario: Malik meets Stephanie. He thinks she’s attractive, but for whatever reason, he isn’t interested in much more than a physical relationship with her. Stephanie thinks Malik is all around awesome. They go on a few dates and start sleeping together. Malik is actively meeting and courting other women while calling girl for crazy amazing sex sessions. Stephanie is frustrated that she isn’t being treated like a girlfriend, yet she continues the affair in hopes that he will soon see how great she is. Malik knows exactly how Stephanie feels about him, yet he continues sleeping with her. Pain ensues.
