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If you’ve been following BET’s “Being Mary Jane” then you know that the show can be a lot. There’s sex, there’s friendship, family and career drama.
Mary Jane is often at the center of it. Trying to figure out which man she’s going to be with this week, whether or not she’s fulfilled in her life and attempting to keep her family together, often with her financial ends.
But in season 3, it looks like all of that is going to change.
Mary Jane’s life is completely derailed by a car accident.
Aaah, perhaps I’ve already said too much.
Check out the season 3 trailer in the video below.
The new season of “Being Mary Jane” begins on Tuesday, October 20 at 9 p.m. Will you be watching?
Many women go through life waiting for the right time to settle down–find a mate, get married and start a family. While life doesn’t pan out the same for all of us, finding love and happiness is important, but so is having a career and being successful. Our biological clocks are ticking, we’re always told, and if we wait too long we’ll run out of time.
We’re not really thinking about this when we’re in our 20’s, but in our 30’s we’re so aware that as we get older the chances of conceiving a child becomes slimmer. We all know someone, or know within ourselves, those feelings of guilt and regret that start to weigh heavy on women who chose to live their lives and build careers before having children.
But are older women shamed for choosing their careers as they are trying to conceive later in life?
Gabrielle Union, 42, recently revealed in the October issue of Redbook that she was still having trouble getting pregnant with husband Dwyane Wade, 33.
“So far, it has not happened for us. A lot of my friends deal with this,” she explains. “There’s a certain amount of shame that is placed on women who have perhaps chosen a career over starting a family younger. The penance for being a career woman is barrenness. You feel like you’re wearing a scarlet letter.”
Being an older woman married to a younger man, starting a family needs to happen quickly. While age is just a number, their almost ten-year age difference plays a huge part in their attempts to start a family. It hasn’t happened the old fashioned way so they have turned to IVF treatment for help. A lot of women, Union included, feel that there are consequences for choosing a career over family. The increased difficulty in trying to conceive and a lot of shame from other people are just a few of them.
Union’s decision to work and build her success now has her facing the possibility of never starting a family of her own. During the interview, she mentions that having a family and trying to keep up a career is difficult for women because they become discriminated against in the workplace. It is a harsh truth that women who become mothers take a career hit once they have children and sometimes they never recover.
My first job out of college was on Wall Street in New York City as a budget analyst. I became pregnant with my son two years later which changed my whole career path. It all started with my maternity leave request and it snowballed from there. My boss timed my promotion to happen at the end of my six week maternity leave they wanted me to take to make sure I didn’t go for the three months I had originally requested. All of this was so their budget numbers could stay in order. Workplace discrimination against pregnant women and working mothers is real and despite the fact that things have come a long way, we still have a long way to go.
Marrying a younger man adds to the pressure of trying to conceive and start a family. While older women have the tick-tock of the biological clock, younger men have a lot more time to start families. My husband and I have the same age difference as Union and Wade. We managed to have three children before I turned 40, having conceived my last child at 38. The pressure to get it done was mounting and luckily for us, it happened. I knew waiting too long could possibly result in us not having any children. I had to make a decision–chose motherhood over career–and my career took a major hit as I stayed home for almost six years with our kids.
Going back to work is just now becoming a reality. My youngest child is in school and I can schedule a full work day. This doesn’t account for possible sick days and other things that pop up when working women have children. Even though companies are giving more time for sick/maternity/paid leave and becoming more compassionate to family matters, it’s still an issue.
Deciding to wait to start a family is a tough choice, especially if a woman wants to have children. I have friends who waited. Some of them waited too late and now, it will never happen. Marrying a younger man can make it even harder to deal with conceiving difficulties because his friends will be having children, your families may be putting the pressure on you two, and it can emotionally take its toll if it’s not happening for you.
Most younger men want to have families and as wives, we are obligated to make that happen (unless otherwise discussed). Hopefully IVF treatments will work for the Wades and they can start their family together. If not, Gabby Union joins the ranks of many women who decided to choose their career over family and lost the race with her biological clock.
Family or career?
When climbing the success ladder, finding the “right” time to have children can present quite the challenge.
At 42 years old, actress Gabrielle Union says that pregnancy simply hasn’t happened yet for her and hubby, Dwyane Wade—and that many women, like herself, who choose to have children later in life are shamed because of it.
“So far, it has not happened for us. A lot of my friends deal with this,” she said in the October issue of Redbook. “There’s a certain amount of shame that is placed on women who have perhaps chosen a career over starting a family younger. The penance for being a career woman is barrenness. You feel like you’re wearing a scarlet letter.”
Thankfully, there are alternative options like IVF and egg freezing that slow down the ticking of the dreadful biological clock, but even with these options, Union adds that when career women do children, they’re presented with a set of new challenges.
“The reality is that women are discriminated against in the workplace for being mothers. As much as there are strides being made — you get pregnant, your career takes a hit,” she said. “You can’t have a bad day. Don’t you dare cry at work. Don’t raise your voice. Especially if you’re a black woman in corporate America — now you’re ‘the angry black woman.’”
Union also dished on the 10-year age difference between herself and Wade.
“His teammates, were conceived when I was, like, a senior in high school. I was in high school at the same time as their parents!” she said. “Sometimes he’ll be like, ‘Oh, my God, he’s so old!’ about someone who’s 35. But, Dwyane’s an old 33, and I’m a young 42, so it balances out.”
Black love is alive and well. And if you question that, then you need look no further than Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade’s newly released wedding video.
The twenty one minute video is full of fun, beauty and undeniable love.
The ceremony took place at a home built to resemble a castle, surrounded by a man-made lake in Redland, a suburb of Miami.
Wedding colors were black and white and they were reflected even in the exterior of the house. As their officiate and Gabrielle’s best friend, Essence Atkins told guests that the couple asked all the women to dress in white and the men in black. They didn’t have groomsmen or bridesmaids because they wanted all their guests to feel included and to bring them back to one another if they ever should drift apart.
The whole video goes by really fast and you should definitely check it out to witness Gabrielle and Dwyane’s vows, their handshake, the zebra (Yes, they took the black and white theme to the max), the toasts and sooo much more. There are pleasant surprises throughout this video and I don’t want to ruin them all in the copy, so just watch. I guarantee you’ll have a smile on your face when it’s over.
Gabrielle Union has a new job!
According to Entertainment Weekly, the actress will be providing the voice of Nala for Disney’s upcoming television movie, The Lion Guard: Return of the Roar.
James Earl Jones will reprise his role as Mufasa, and Ernie Sabella will do the same for his character, Pumbaa. Rafiki will be voiced by Khary Payton and Timon by Kevin Schon. Rob Lowe, Max Charles, Atticus Shaffer, and Sarah Hyland will also lend their voices to the film.
The movie will shadow Kion—Nala and Simba’s second-born son—and the rest of the Lion Guard, which is a task force of animals responsible for preserving the Pride Lands. The adorable film will be directed by Howy Parkins. It will also feature new music from Christopher Willis and Beau Beck.
The Lion Guard is set to premiere in November of 2015. A television series, which will be based on the film, will later follow the premiere in 2016.
Too stinking cute!
Gabrielle Union Dishes On Dwyane, Beauty Secrets And The Key To Success In Her Most Personal Interview Yet
Yesterday, Gabrielle Union stopped by Reddit to answer “absolutely anything” from her fans. And Gabby definitely delivered. She dished on everything, from how she and Dwyane Wade make it work to her hopes for a role on Empire. Check it out!
She’s fresh out of season two of “Being Mary Jane” and Gabrielle Union has already snagged another major role. According to The Hollywood Reporter, the beauty will be reuniting with Jamie Foxx in Sleepless Night. The action thriller is a remake of French movie Nuit Blanche.
Foxx has been cast to play a crooked cop who is forced to reclaim a bag of stolen drugs in order to save his son, who has been kidnapped by a ruthless crime boss. He is also tasked with dodging internal-affairs officers who are hot on his trail. Union has been cast to play the rogue cop’s ex-wife, who also assists in the rescue. The film is being produced by Open Road Films and directed by Baran bo Odar.
Union and Foxx have not headlined a film together since 2004 romantic comedy Breakin’ All The Rules. Speaking of Gabby, it is also being reported that she’s in final negotiations to appear in Keanu, a New Line Cinema comedy from Keegan-Michael Key and Jordan Peele. Union will be playing Key’s wife, who wishes that her polite husband would become more assertive in and out of their marriage.
Sandra Bullock may be the World’s Most Beautiful Woman according to People’s 2015 list, but we’re super excited about the inclusion of some of our favorite brown girls in this year’s annual lineup. In a special online sneak peek of this yearly issue, People highlighted Laverne Cox, Gabrielle Union, and Miss Cookie herself, Taraji P. Henson, who are all on the list of 50 beauties. Eeek!
Mary Jane, a.k.a. Mrs. D Wade, is highlighted in a gorgeous black and white beach shot and lauded for being “not only talented and stunning but also hilarious and down-to-earth.” It should also be mentioned that she’s turning 43 this fall… jus’ sayin’.
Featured in a stunning floor-length formal gown, People said of Laverne Cox: “The actress has left a big impression on Hollywood (and America) in a very short amount of time. Cox’s skillful performance as Sophia on Orange Is the New Black and her work advocating for transgender women make her one of our boldest beauties yet.”
Taraji P. Henson
We couldn’t have said it better than People ourselves, who noted Taraji’s “captivating portrayal of Cookie has finally put Henson directly in the limelight, where she belongs,” adding that “The actress, who’s a longtime Hollywood veteran, never fails to charm us with her beauty and sharp wit.” Agreed!
People’s World’s Most Beautiful issue hits newsstands this Friday but you can check out the other ladies who made the sneak peek — including Ariana Grande, Vanessa Hudgens, Meghan Trainor and more — on People.com.
As of this winter and spring, primetime television from Tuesday through Thursday has belonged to three Black women: Gabrielle Union, Taraji P. Henson, and Kerry Washington. As of this week, Being Mary Jane, Empire, and Scandal are all number one in ratings during their collective time slots. That in itself is a huge compliment. Arguably three of our favorite and most popular actresses in films are dominating the small screen as well (How do they have time for this and movies?). Some may suggest that this is because the actresses have quite a following; but the truth is they’re all very good-or at least incredibly entertaining shows.
For each of these actresses it has been a long time coming before getting their just due. In homage to their
running dominance great performances, this week’s Throwback Thursday is dedicated to some of the films that helped establish and solidify these three women in Hollywood.
Films We Loved Before They Were Mary Jane, Cookie, and Olivia Pope
I like to believe that we are not the sum of our mistakes or past situations. But as women, I’ve realized that we are hard on each other and play forgiveness close to the chest. In particular, we’re not too keen on playing nice when it comes to women who have been “the other woman.” They are rarely able to have their slates wiped clean by judgmental people outside of their love triangle, and they often walk around with a permanent marking (figuratively speaking of course) to remind them of their past transgressions.
Even after delivering a great TED Talk last week on cyber-bullying, which she says she was one of the first people to deal with, Monica Lewinsky was still referred to as “trash” by commenters online. As one woman put it, “I cannot forgive what she had done to the family, and I have no sympathy for the shame she had received. She is not innocent, the people who were innocent and being hurt are the child and the wife.”
Even a Heather Wilhem, a writer for the Chicago Tribune, questioned people looking at Lewinsky as something of a “hero”:
“…what does it say about our culture that, in certain circles, Lewinsky is now elevated to a mythical ‘victim’ status, a prototype of ‘slut-shaming’ and potentially even a new feminist champion?”
Even if a woman who was “the other woman” becomes the celebrated mistress-turned-wife, her wrongdoing is rarely forgotten.
Alicia Keys has had two kids with Swizz Beatz. They are arguably one of music’s most adorable couples and have a relationship worth gushing over. But to this day, some women haven’t forgotten how she found her prince charming. If we let Keys tell it, her relationship with the producer began “long after” he separated from ex-wife, Mashonda Tifrere–but she was telling a different story.
The songstress is classy, stunning, and when she isn’t making our ears happy, she is warming hearts worldwide with her community service efforts. She has even found a way to make peace and be friendly with Tifrere! Because of that, you would think people would cut her some slack.
But not all women are so lucky.
Whether it’s a sly comment under the breath, a side-eye cast after complimenting a family picture, or outright calling a spade a spade, it seems that women struggle to forgive and forget with other women.
And while we shade these other women, the men are hardly ever a part of the conversation. What about Swizz Beatz’s involvement in his supposed affair with Keys? Or Dwyane Wade? Or even former President Bill Clinton?
Why do we give the cold shoulder to mistresses, yet we allow these men – who play an even bigger role in these situations – to get away with it?
It’s hard for women to start over with a cheating scandal in their past. But assuming that this is the one and only time something like this has happened, we shouldn’t put a woman down permanently for one misstep. If the situation is in the past and all parties are moving forward, why can’t we allow her to open a new chapter in the story of her life?
We are too hard on ourselves and should afford the next woman – who is deserving – a second chance, as we would all want. We will never know the full story behind the relationships and who played what role in them falling apart; for that reason alone, one relationship and the poor choices surrounding it should not be the defining factor of a woman’s life and how her story will be told.