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I like to believe that we are not the sum of our mistakes or past situations. But as women, I’ve realized that we are hard on each other and play forgiveness close to the chest. In particular, we’re not too keen on playing nice when it comes to women who have been “the other woman.” They are rarely able to have their slates wiped clean by judgmental people outside of their love triangle, and they often walk around with a permanent marking (figuratively speaking of course) to remind them of their past transgressions.
Even after delivering a great TED Talk last week on cyber-bullying, which she says she was one of the first people to deal with, Monica Lewinsky was still referred to as “trash” by commenters online. As one woman put it, “I cannot forgive what she had done to the family, and I have no sympathy for the shame she had received. She is not innocent, the people who were innocent and being hurt are the child and the wife.”
Even a Heather Wilhem, a writer for the Chicago Tribune, questioned people looking at Lewinsky as something of a “hero”:
“…what does it say about our culture that, in certain circles, Lewinsky is now elevated to a mythical ‘victim’ status, a prototype of ‘slut-shaming’ and potentially even a new feminist champion?”
Even if a woman who was “the other woman” becomes the celebrated mistress-turned-wife, her wrongdoing is rarely forgotten.
Alicia Keys has had two kids with Swizz Beatz. They are arguably one of music’s most adorable couples and have a relationship worth gushing over. But to this day, some women haven’t forgotten how she found her prince charming. If we let Keys tell it, her relationship with the producer began “long after” he separated from ex-wife, Mashonda Tifrere–but she was telling a different story.
The songstress is classy, stunning, and when she isn’t making our ears happy, she is warming hearts worldwide with her community service efforts. She has even found a way to make peace and be friendly with Tifrere! Because of that, you would think people would cut her some slack.
But not all women are so lucky.
Whether it’s a sly comment under the breath, a side-eye cast after complimenting a family picture, or outright calling a spade a spade, it seems that women struggle to forgive and forget with other women.
And while we shade these other women, the men are hardly ever a part of the conversation. What about Swizz Beatz’s involvement in his supposed affair with Keys? Or Dwyane Wade? Or even former President Bill Clinton?
Why do we give the cold shoulder to mistresses, yet we allow these men – who play an even bigger role in these situations – to get away with it?
It’s hard for women to start over with a cheating scandal in their past. But assuming that this is the one and only time something like this has happened, we shouldn’t put a woman down permanently for one misstep. If the situation is in the past and all parties are moving forward, why can’t we allow her to open a new chapter in the story of her life?
We are too hard on ourselves and should afford the next woman – who is deserving – a second chance, as we would all want. We will never know the full story behind the relationships and who played what role in them falling apart; for that reason alone, one relationship and the poor choices surrounding it should not be the defining factor of a woman’s life and how her story will be told.
Gabrielle Union says she and Dwayne Wade definitely have a prenuptial agreement, especially after the experience she had ending her first marriage in which her ex ended up pocketing a chunk of her earnings.
Union paid a visit to Access Hollywood yesterday to talk about Being Mary Jane, her beef with Charles Barkley and a few of the details behind her wedding and marriage to DWade.
When the topic turned to prenups, Union said she was all about them.
“In the first marriage, I lost a lot of money to someone who was not extra supportive,” Union starts, noting that this is a second marriage for both she and Wade. She says that she was the one learning the lines and showing up on set. And when it was time to end the marriage, the financial part made the love seem very “conditional.” She never wants to feel that way again, and doesn’t want her partner to either.
“So let’s just take that off the table. I got my stuff, you got your stuff. I got my career, you got your career. And let’s just build something together,” she says.
For more click on the video above. And below, an IG of the couple posted just this morning, showing off a little Prada action.
Like many of us, the death of Whitney Houston shook Gabrielle Union. But it also taught her an important life lesson. In a recent interview, that’s being circulated by the Associated Press, Union said, “It just kind of made everyone say, ‘What do you want your legacy to be?’ And I really doubled down on ‘I only want to do things that I care about, that mean something.”
And by things that mean something, she meant she wanted to portray characters with depth.
“So, no, I don’t want to play perfect characters that are wholesome role models…and have all the right answers.”
And if you’ve ever seen just ten minutes of “Being Mary Jane,” you know her character is messy as hell and rarely makes the right decision.
But, I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy watching her mess. I consistently holler at the screen; but at the end of the day I know quite a few women are battling those same issues, in less dramatic ways.
And Union said that she happens to love playing a character that messy.
“Within one scene I could be, you know, showing a bunch of different colors, and I’ve never been challenged like this. I’ve never been this gratified with my work. Ever.”
That has to be a great feeling.
“I don’t want to play perfect characters that are wholesome role models and everything to everyone and have all the right answers and who can get out of a terrorist cell with their bra,” she laughed, referring to a recent episode of ABC’s “Scandal.”
Union said on the day Whitney passed, she was in a meeting with Salim Akil, the executive producer for “Being Mary Jane” and his team. Akil had also directed Houston in Sparkle.
“They had just done ‘Sparkle’ with her. … and there were so many people in that room and we were having this great conversation about basically my career going this great direction with this great character. … and you see this other light just literally go out and you see … everyone’s looking at their phones, you hear people gasp and run out of the room, and it was one of those really life-affirming and life-questioning times.”
Union remembered that she admired the fact that Akil asked the team to end the meeting early. “There’s a lot of producers who would have kept going.”
Union realized that with her characters she wanted to send a more honest message.
“It’s Ok to be a flawed person because we’re all flawed human begin and we’re just doing the best that we can.”
And even though she says watching the sex scenes with her husband Dwyane Wade can get a little uncomfortable, it was the best creative decision she’s made.
“I felt like a lazy actress. … You get complacent, and when the checks are coming in it’s like, ‘Eh, maybe I’ll get to challenge myself next week.’ The next thing you know years have gone by and you’ve not really done anything that feeds your soul.
“And then there’s this.”
Update: Someone got on the good foot and returned this marriage license to the Miami-Dade County marriage license bureau. And the information on the website has subsequently been updated. No conspiracy, someone was just sleeping on their job.
I know some of you are still in your feelings about the Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union’s relationship. And though they’ve been through some pretty public messiness, I happen to really like them together. They’re pretty cute.
But for as much as I love them as a couple, they might not actually be legally married.
Yes, they had a ceremony and Essence officiated; but in the eyes of the state of Florida they’re not legally bound.
According to the Miami Herald, the couple’s marriage license hasn’t made it to the state records office.
And their wedding was six months ago.
Also according to the Miami Dade County Marriage License Bureau, the license hasn’t been returned.
Miami-Dad county marriage license manger Roberto Reboso, naturally, that this could present a problem if they ever need to prove that they are in fact legally married.
“We know they’re married from what they said on TV; and they obtained a marriage license before the ceremony, but they still haven’t returned the license signed by the person who officiated the ceremony. So their marriage has not been recorded by the state.”
In the state of Florida, couples are asked to sign the license and bring it back to the county within 10 days to make their marriage official.
Y’all know what it is, if you can’t prove you’re married that doesn’t entitle you to any property or assets should the person die or should divorce proceedings come into play.
As a person who almost lost my scholarship freshman year because I didn’t submit paperwork, I can relate.
But in my defense, I legitimately didn’t know that was required of me. In this case, both Gabby and D. Wade have been married before. So they know the drill. This not signing and returning the marriage license could be a gross, six-month-long oversight. But I would be lying if I said I didn’t wonder if this is a way to protect themselves should the marriage turn sour and they have to end up going their separate ways.
No judgment. Get it how you live. This is just a things that make you go hmmm kind of story.
What do you think about this story? Did they just forget or do you think something else is going on here?
Gabrielle Union On Why Black Actresses Don’t Earn Smart Roles: “They Want Us Shucking And Jivin’ And Cooning”
Gabrielle Union certainly has a sense of humor — and we’re not the only ones who agree.
Following her appearance in 2014’s “Top Five,” Chris Rock likened Union’s on screen wit to “30 Rock” star Tiny Fey during an December interview on “The Angie Martinez Show.”
“People don’t realize that Gab Union is one of the funniest people out there…she’s like ‘Tiny Fey funny,'” Rock said. “With the right parts she could do something big, and turn around and play Rosa Parks.”
While Rock’s comment may ring true to some, this week the “Being Mary Jane” star shared her thoughts on the challenges of taking on a comedy role as a black woman in Hollywood.
Read more about Gabby’s commentary at BlackVoices.com
Gabrielle Union On Heckling Fans And D. Wade’s $15K Fine: “Be Happy All You Got Was A Middle Finger”
A couple of weeks ago, we told you that Dwyane Wade had been fined $15,000 by the NBA after he responded to nasty hecklers by giving them the finger. According to Wade, the out-of-control Hornets fans began saying some wild things about his wife and he felt the need to defend her.
“You can talk about me all day,” he said. “I really don’t care what you say about me because I know at the end of the day when I walk off that court most of those guys would see me in the back hallway and want to shake my hand. When it gets too personal about your family, that’s too far. But it’s not going to stop.”
During a recent interview with Angie Martinez, Gabrielle Union addressed her hubby’s suspension.
“Well, he’s cool until he’s not. He can take the ‘Boo, you suck. You’re old.’ But you know, when you start saying crazy sexual things about someone’s wife and you’re sitting courtside and you say it in front of the referee and the referee looks at the person who’s saying it, the people saying it and does nothing, that’s what he’s talking about when he says the NBA needs to be more proactive about protecting the players. Be happy all you got was a middle finger. You say something about somebody’s wife, are you crazy?”
As for what the fan said, Gabby says Dwyane refused to tell her.
“He wouldn’t tell me, but it was of a sexual nature. And I was like, ‘I mean, was it good? Was it like that I was amazing?’ All I saw was the gesture, but I didn’t know what caused it. Then I was like, ‘Oh, good. I get it.’ I was like, ‘I’ll pay that fine. I’ll pay that fine.’ I’ve been at games and I love a funny diss. Be funny, there’s so many things to pick on me about. Be funny.”
Speaking of Wade, she also addressed Charles Barkley’s consistent criticism of her bae.
“Charles Barkley mistook him for a piece of chicken and that’s really what it came down to. The other thing is—God bless Charles, I’ve known Charles for a long time, we’ve always been cool—but when he was trying to dog me after my tweet, but hadn’t read the tweet […] Oh, baby reading comprehension. If reading is fundamental, reading comprehension is monumental. Then in trying to dog me, you insult Sam Jackson?”
As for how Dwyane responded to her tweet, it seems that he wasn’t really here for it.
“He was like, ‘Did you get your feelings out?’ I was like, ‘I did,’ he was like, ‘So let it live. Let’s just let it stay there.’”
Watch Gabby’s hilarious interview below.
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One of the many things that we love about Gabrielle Union is that although she’s now the wife of a wildly successful basketball star, she hasn’t allowed her husband or their relationship to distract her. The 42-year-old beauty is still actively working and making significant strides in her career. Less than 72 hours after the season two premiere of her hit television show “Being Mary Jane,” BET announced that they would be picking up the series for a third season, which the actress says took a lot of pressure off of her and her pocketbook.
“[It took] a lot of pressure off of my accountant’s shoulders knowing that the mortgage is going to be paid,” Union jokingly told “Today’s” Matt Lauer. “No, we never have that luxury—ever—of knowing where our next check is coming from. It gives us the freedom to just work and not the pressure of ‘what if no one likes this?’ It’s like we know that we’re doing great work and it’s a huge vote of confidence.”
As for where she draws her inspiration from, Union says that she studied real-life news anchors such as Soledad O’Brien.
“I would like to think that I have adopted some of the more believable qualities of respected anchors, but because we don’t know what happens in your lives when you leave, I made her a hot mess. I’m obsessed with Soledad O’Brien and that’s sort of who I patterned her after. But Soledad has an amazing life from what we can see, but Mary Jane just can’t get right.”
Transitioning from discussion of Mary Jane’s messy life to her own complicated personal life, Gabby explained how she makes her marriage work despite the fact that she and her new husband are frequently apart due to his game schedule and her filming obligations.
“I come home every weekend. I fly back and forth.”
And if it just so happens that Wade is not home on weekends, Union says that she flies out to wherever he’s going to be.
“I fly wherever that is or I’ll fly home and hang out with the kids. We figure it out and make it work and a lot of compromise.”
Watch Gabby’s full interview below.
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With “Being Mary Jane” returning for season two tonight (at 10 on BET!), we thought it would be a good time to let you know a little something something about Mary Jane Paul, her boos, and her very needy family. Here are 10 facts about the stars of the hit BET show.
Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade may have their share of internal issues, just like most couples, but they’re clearly not here for disrespect from any outside folks. Earlier this week, we told you that Wade was fined $15,000 for flipping the bird at a crowd of heckling fans who said nasty things about his wife. Union isn’t letting anyone disrespect her hubby either. Last night on TNT’s “Inside the NBA” post-game show, Charles Barkley said that he didn’t believe Wade should’ve made the All-Star team this year.
“Dwyane’s great, [he’s] a Hall of Famer, but he didn’t deserve to make the All-Star team,” said Barkley. “Dwyane Wade is not having an all-star year.”
Barkley’s co-host Kenny Smith openly disagreed—and so did Wade’s wife.
“Forgive Charles. .. Kenny Smith is a 2x champion & his opinion is most sound,” she said. “It’s like me talkin bout Meryl Streep but I ain’t won nuthin,” Union tweeted.
Forgive Charles. .. Kenny Smith is a 2x champion & his opinion is most sound… it's like me talkin bout Meryl Streep but I ain't won nuthin
— Gabrielle Union (@itsgabrielleu) January 30, 2015
However, Barkley, never being one to back down, clapped back once he heard about the “Being Mary Jane” actress’ tweet.
“Well listen, first of all never mention you and Meryl Streep in the same sentence again. Meryl Streep would never be on ‘Snakes On A Plane’ or ‘Madea.’”
Once Smith corrected him by telling him that Union was never on “Snakes on a Plane” and expressing that she’s actually a good actress, Barkley had this to say:
“Well she could have been. I’ve seen her act, she could have been on ‘Snakes On A Plane’ or ‘Madea’. She’s taking shots at me. She’s pretty, she’s very pretty. I’m not one of them people who’s going to turn the other cheek. You say something bad about me, I’m going to say something about you.”
“I like that lady,” he continued. “She’s a very nice lady and I like Dwyane, but we get paid to be honest.”
The Wade’s don’t play that.
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I think a summer style prediction for cornrows might be in order after seeing two Black beauties on their Pippy Long Stocking steeze on Instagram. Two days ago, Nia Long posted a photo of her rocking two straight back braids, which she called #MyNewestOldObsesion and just this morning Gabrielle Union uploaded a similar pic taking it way back with the same style, feeling #PippiLongstockingIsh.
Though braids are nothing new, I’d say it might be more than a coincidence that both of these gorgeous woman pulled out this throwback style in the same week, which leads me to believe we’re going to see a lot more of this look as the days go by. But is that a good or a bad thing?
Take our poll below and let us know whether you’re feeling the throwback cornrow look in 2015.