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Ahhh…young love! It’s all about butterflies, school dances, notes scribbled on looseleaf, and horrible decisions. Youthful ignorance often mades us do dumb things when involved in teenage love affairs.Usually as we mature, we know better and thus do better. However, some of us are still carrying on like a young’uns when we are full grown. If you are still dealing with love like you did when you were learning to drive, now is the time to put away childish things. Here are some mistakes that youngsters make in high school that you should not be making as an grown-up.
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Now we all know I’m a fan of the good time girls; I call them the ‘jazzy one’ while you call them jump offs. It’s a little more than semantics because our definitions are different but let’s just say I have love for the sexually liberated and you don’t. But what I can’t stand are the delusional women — who they make me sick. Their main purpose in life is to find themselves in some ‘serious relationship’ so they concoct these love affairs in their feeble minds and when they don’t work out (because it never started) they bash men to all hell and say there are no good ones left. Some men are to blame as well because they prey on the delusional ones like coward hunters attack wounded deer; she’s an easy kill. The plus of dating the delusional one is that you don’t have to do much because they create the whole thing in their heads for you.
Here, I’ve laid out some tell-tale signs that you might be one of those delusional chicks. Let’s dig in shall we?
It’s kind of cute when you’re getting chased around the playground in third grade because the cute boy with the green eyes wants to tug on your ponytails because he secretly wants to kiss you. When you’re 26 and playing those same “catch-me-if-you-can” games it’s just straight up sad.
Maybe somewhere along the line your mom, older sister or auntie told you that there are certain tricks you can pull in order to get what you want out of a relationship, but a majority of the time those tricks will turn the relationship for the worst and leave you with a situation that’s the opposite of what you wanted. Take a look at ten common unnecessary games that will leave both you and your partner frustrated and confused:
Are you a woman with a ton of male friends? They come in handy right? Nothing like being able to peer into the mind of a man who (presumably) is not trying to get into your pants and might be able to offer you some solid advice about your man issues.
Do you have male friends who are JUST friends and have never been anything more than a friend? Has your friendship with a man ever negatively impacted your romantic relationship?
On a scale of 1-10 of foul things people do; 1 being not cool and 10 being totally foul sometimes the only way to describe a situation is “damn that’s Fawked up”! Ok we get it men are from Mars, women are from Venus and we’re all dogs but some of the more mature ones cringe (yes men cringe) when we see some of the things our boys do to their women. Maybe on a sub conscious level we cringe because we see our former selves in such terrible actions. I can’t fit all the foul stories into one post so I may have to do a part two but here we go (in no particular order):
“I revealed too much too soon. I was an emotional sl*t.” – Carrie Bradshaw
Do you find yourself going above and beyond to connect with every man you date? Do you ever leave dinner thinking, “He probably didn’t need to know I’m insecure about my weight?”
While some women are more guarded than North Korea’s southern border, others are so eager for a relationship that they instantly dive in, head first. By the end of the first date, he knows the details of her childhood, how her father hurt her, why she had sex with half of the football team in college and the ways celibacy has changed her approach to dating.
He doesn’t need to know all of that.
Purging your emotional ups and downs to a man who barely knows you is the last thing an eligible bachelorette should do. In some ways it makes you appear more desperate than the physically promiscuous girls looking for love in bed. It’s equivalent to giving it up on the first night and then trying to start a serious relationship. In an attempt to resell yourself for more dates, you become like a used car salesman. Who wants pre-owned baggage when they can get something (that at least seems) shiny and new?
A woman without mystery leaves nothing to be desired. Tell a man everything about you and he doesn’t go home hungry for more. It’s important to take your time establishing emotional connections. See if he likes the surface before you open up your heart.
Revealing too much too soon doesn’t only make you seem anxious, but it also puts you in a compromising position. All nice guys aren’t good guys; and, someone who hasn’t even committed to you as a loyal friend is suspect to share your personal business. The very same way sex tapes are leaked, your skeletons could be involuntarily exposed to people you may or may not know.
In mere weeks I’ll say hello to the “Dirty 30.”
I generally believe that any age that isn’t 18, 21 or 65 is arbitrary. But it’s fascinating that I’m hitting this landmark birthday right at a time when my life is going through significant changes.
Unsurprisingly, I’ve been thinking for some time about what it means to be “all growed up” and how I wish to tackle life going forward. All I have now is an inchoate mass of ideas that I think strike a good life balance, ever evolving though they are:
You laugh and joke like old friends. Your dates are far and few, but your sexual encounters are the driving force behind your relationship. You like him, he likes you; but you’re far from committed to each other. You’ve affectionately referred to him as your ‘friend with benefits’; but how long before your needs require more than just massaging kisses? Can you handle indefinitely being only ‘friends with benefits’?
Sure you’re perfect and wonderful, and people have no right to judge you. Or do they, hmmm?
Some womanly traits may be quite tolerable to your girlfriends and family members – but some others could be boy repellents! Which types of women do men avoid? Let’s take a look.