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Straight From His Mouth: Do Men Lose Respect For Women After First Date Sex?

July 14th, 2014 - By RealGoesRight
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At some point during Steve Harvey’s “reign of terror,” there was an intense debate on the politics of when a woman should feel comfortable enough to sleep with a man of her choosing. The rhetoric at that time period stated a woman should enforce a 90-day rule in order to not lose the respect of the man she wanted to sleep with. The rule was also suggested to allow a woman time to properly assess whether the man in question actually liked her for her, or just liked her for sex. I was a relatively young lad at the time thinking to myself, “do mean really disrespect women if they sleep with them on the first date?” The short answer, per usual, is it depends on the man in question, but it bears writing that I have never actually seen this line of thinking in action.

In my personal conversations with men sleeping with women after a first date, I haven’t really heard anything negative.  Sleeping together quickly doesn’t cancel out the chance for a relationship, her “worth” as a woman hasn’t been affected in a negative manner, and it hardly ever amounts to anything more than, “the date was great so we ended up having sex afterward.” Because I’ve seen that side of this particular situation so frequently it really hadn’t dawned on me that men felt the opposite way until I got a little older. So let’s address that.

Men who judge women for having sex with them on the first date are allowed to do so, although I’m not sure how they reconcile having less respect for a woman they chose to sleep with on a first date when they were active participants. For women, I’d imagine it’s a bit hard to tell when those are the men they’re choosing to sleep with (which may lend credence to Steve Harvey’s much maligned/celebrated plan to wait and see).  In any event, I’m of the opinion a man judging a woman’s ability to make an adult decision based on the timeliness of sex, likely has his own issues regarding either sex or women’s sexuality. That might seem like a stretch, but when you consider the fact a man in this situation is essentially placing the blame solely on the woman and sees her as “less than” while not penalizing himself for doing the same, it doesn’t exactly speak highly of him. Women ought to be more cognizant of situations like that, but given the patriarchal society we live in, unfortunately, too many women will place the blame on themselves as well.

Switching gears a bit, I’d like to provide another perspective on this situation too. Over the course of my years on this Earth, I’ve heard a number of women assume that the reason a man didn’t want to date them after they had sex on the first date is because he no longer respected them. Being on the other side of that conversation as well, I can say the answer to that perception is a tad bit more varied than women would like to believe. In some cases, it isn’t really a problem of sleeping with a woman on the first date, rather the sex was weak so he simply opted not to further engage in the relationship anymore. In other cases, I’ve heard men say there were interested in a woman but the situation (as often happens in dating) just fell apart and never grew into anything. I say that to say there are times where women might attribute early sex as the reason why a man no longer wanted to date them when in reality it was something else entirely.

Suffice it to say there are men out there who no longer respect women after they have sex with them on the first date. There are also men out there who have loved and married women they slept with on the first date. There isn’t a universal answer on this topic. Chances are, if a man is penalizing a woman for having sex on the first date, he probably has a deeper issue which likely has nothing to do with women in general and everything to do with the society he grew up in and how thinks the actions of women should be dictated. In some cases, lack of respect after sex on the first date may not be why the relationship never matured. There were other factors, but that just happened to be the easiest one to point to.


Why He Didn’t Call After The Date

May 12th, 2014 - By Ashley Page
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Everyone goes out on dates with the hope that things will go well and you’ll hear from said date soon after, affirming that he’s feeling you as much as you are him. Unfortunately, that’s not always how it goes down. In fact it often goes like this:  You sit. You wait. And he never calls. If you’re feeling as perplexed as we have about why he didn’t call after the date, allow us to offer up these explanations.

LOL: 15 Signs A First Date Isn’t Going Well — In Gifs

March 31st, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Be real with yourself, you know when you do these things on a first date the night is going nowhere but downhill.

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You Keep Squinting

‘Cause he looks nothing like he did at the club.

14 First Date Rules To Follow

March 6th, 2014 - By Ashley Page
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No matter if this is your first first date or your 50th, there are some definite rules that you’ll want to follow in order to have a successful and enjoyable experience. While there are all sorts of dos and don’ts when it comes to dating, there are some solid first date tips that you’ll want to keep in the back of your mind. Here are 14 first date rules that you’ll always want to follow, no matter who you’re on a date with.

#ThatAwkwardMoment When A Man Takes You On A Groupon Date

March 4th, 2014 - By Brande Victorian
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When going on a first date, there are plenty of opportunities for awkward moments — like a guy using a Groupon and going on and on and on about how he’s too broke to take you out otherwise. Can you say turn off?!

That’s exactly the scenario we’re reenacting in this hilarious spoof in the video above. Check it out and tell us what you think. Have you ever been on a Groupon date before? Did it work out for you better than it did these two folks?

7 Weird First Date Tips That Work

February 14th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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These tips might seem a little strange, and the thought of implementing them might make your skin crawl! But, as with most things in life, you find the most truths through extreme behavior. If you really want to know if a man is a match fast, just give these weird first date tips a try. We promise: you won’t scary anyone away who you weren’t better off without anyway!


The 14 Most Common First Date Mistakes

January 10th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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After taking stock of the hundreds of stories written in the comment section, of dating horror stories and embarrassing first dates, I’ve determined the most common mistakes we all make while flirting or while on first dates are the following:

Woman Steals A Blank Check From A Guy She Went On A First Date With To Pay $4,000 In Back Rent

December 13th, 2013 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Talk about the worst first date over. According to, a New Jersey woman went on a first date with a guy and while her date was busy trying to get to know her (and planning a way to take her home), she was trying to figure out how she was going to steal $4,000 from him…

The woman, 46-year-old Tonia Dolison met her date, a 62-year-old man whose name wasn’t made known, through an online dating site. They met up for dinner during the middle of November, and according to SILive, the date progressed from a restaurant to back to the man’s home. They had drinks, watched some movies, and Dolison stayed overnight. Sounds like a good date, right?


What the man didn’t realize was that while she was getting cozy in his home, she saw a checkbook of his on a table, and ripped out a check. Soon after he dropped her off at home the next day, she used the check to pay her past due rent, which was $4,000. Here’s what she told police in their report, which SILive shared:

“I noticed he had a blank check on the table so I just grab the first check from the book. I then made the check out to my landlord and gave it to him. I did it because I was about to be locked out of the apartment. I signed and made out the check.”

No word on if Dolison actually was feeling the guy she stole from or if she was just using him all along (I’ll assume the latter is the deal), but she has been charged this week with “third- and fourth-degree grand larceny, second-degree forgery and second-degree criminal possession of a forged instrument.”

Online dating…it always gets a bad rap from foolery like this. What do you make of this crazy story?

7 Questions Your First Date Will Ask You, And What He Wants To Hear

December 11th, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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We’re not saying that men are grilling you on dates— because they’re not looking for “right” answers per say — but they certainly want honest ones. Sometimes, though, your honest answer just isn’t, well, “right.” Here are 7 questions your first date will ask and what they’re looking for in your answer.

14 Unique Conversation Starters To Avoid Awkward Silences

December 4th, 2013 - By Ashley Page
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First dates can be exciting, anxiety-filled, and awkward all at once. One of the biggest issues that can turn a first date sour is conversation, more so the lack of conversation. Without quality conversation on the first date, there’s bound to be awkward silences, weird topics, and one-sided talking that can make the whole date a wash. Before going on a date, be prepared to talk! Here are 14 proven conversation starters to get things going.