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First dates can be exciting, anxiety-filled, and awkward all at once. One of the biggest issues that can turn a first date sour is conversation, more so the lack of conversation. Without quality conversation on the first date, there’s bound to be awkward silences, weird topics, and one-sided talking that can make the whole date a wash. Before going on a date, be prepared to talk! Here are 14 proven conversation starters to get things going.
It’s not fair and it says nothing about what kind of person you are, but some people are just better at first dates than others, and because of it, they find relationships easier. But with a little training, you can perfect your first date skills.
Fellas, and some of you ladies out there, you only have one shot to make a good first impression. After you finally work up the nerve to ask that special lady out for the very first time, here are some suggestions on where not to take her.
Although, after all these years, their cheddar bay biscuits are still to die for and the prices of entrees can go upwards of $20 or more, taking that special someone to Red Lobster for the first date isn’t recommended. Sure, twice a year they offer their infamous lobster fest complete with numerous platters of the crustacean cooked in different ways for a limited time only but if you really want to impress your date, taking her to the same place she celebrated graduating from high school is no-no.
For the slew of singles ready to trade in the solo life (cuffing season has started!), navigating the dating scene can be both thrilling and stressful when trying to find something real. With differing personalities, conflicting views and a sex-crazed society, it can be hard to find someone who’s compatible and wants more than just a fling. While it takes time to really know a person for sure, here’s a look at a few simple questions to ask on a first date so that you will know if your new “friend” is just another no-go, or if he has the potential to be something and someone special down the line.
We have all been on one of those dates when we think things go just fine yet later that night and into the days that follow, you hear very little from the man you went on the date with. Men can sometimes be simple-minded, and when it comes to the first date, it’s been said that it takes a man no more than 20 minutes to decide whether or not he will want a second date with a woman or not. No matter if it’s a blind date, a double date, or the first date after meeting online, there are some definite criteria that men look for when they are on a date with women. Here are 14 things most men look for during the first date.
He hasn’t called you back. It’s starting to really upset you. Doesn’t he care about you?
You’re sick of being treated like this by guys. You asked all your friends what they think. You’ve spent hours talking it over with them, trying to figure out what’s going on in his head. You still can’t find the answer.
It’s now getting on for two weeks, and he still hasn’t picked up the phone. You’re thinking, “Do I ring him again, or just leave him to it? I thought we were getting on well.”
Do you want to know why he hasn’t called?
It’s because he doesn’t like you the way the way you want to be liked. It’s honestly that simple. You didn’t do anything wrong. You didn’t say something you shouldn’t. You didn’t wear the wrong clothes. He just isn’t feeling a connection to you.
You need to let it go. We get so upset when someone doesn’t treat us the way we expect, or the way we feel they should. Here’s the key to getting over these things quickly…
Get out there and meet more people!
Most people only go out a few dates a year, and wonder why they’re still single. Instead of worrying why one guy wasn’t in to you, get out there and meet different guys.
Dating is a numbers game. You have to get through the guys who aren’t interested in you to get to the ones who are. You need to meet people every single day of the week. Talk to men in the grocery store, talk to men in coffee shops, wherever you are, make the effort to connect with people all the time.
Read more at YourTango.com
I’m a faithful reader and I love your heartfelt and real advice. Here’s the scoop: I’ve been having a hard time keeping a man in my life. I’ve noticed certain patterns and I always end up with the short end of the stick. I was recently seeing this guy whom I reconnected with after not speaking for a year. The reason for our one-year hiatus was that I never called him after our first date. He called me up a year later with the hope of getting a second chance, but I think I blew it when I told him that I’m keeping my options open. I tried explaining myself by breaking down my reasons for feeling this way. As a result, he became very distant. I’ve tried to straighten things out numerous times now, but to no avail. What should I do?
Read Dr. Sherry’s response at Essence.com
No matter if it’s the first date or the fifth date, you want to impress the guy you’re with. In order to impress your date, there are several things that you can do that will absolutely make him in awe of you. Here are 14 surefire ways to impress your date and keep him extremely interested in you and everything you have to offer.
When you’re going on your very first date with a guy, it’s likely that you’re going to feel a bit nervous, anxious, and excited all at once. While these emotions are plenty normal, they can impact how successful your first date is. It’s best to be able to stick these emotions in the back of your head so that you can really focus and enjoy your date. Here are 14 ways to tame first date nerves.
Straight From His Mouth: Do Men Really Mind Spending Money On Women And What Are Their Expectations?
Q: When it comes to first dates, some men think they are entitled to physical action. On the other hand, some men don’t mind spending money on women just for their company (and sometimes those women think the fact that the man is spending money on them means he’s into them when it may not.) Ex: A friend of a coworker was asked to go away for a weekend with a guy and he paid for everything and when they got home she thought his gesture meant they were exclusively dating or moving toward that when in reality he just wanted to spend time with a woman for the weekend — all expenses paid.
I wrote about a related issue in my previous post, Can Most Men Really Afford a Girlfriend? But for the sake of argument, let’s assume the man we’re discussing today can afford to have a girlfriend or several girlfriends. This leaves three outstanding questions when it comes to this scenario. Why is it that: 1) Some men think they are entitled to physical action based on the amount of money they spend; and 2) Some men don’t mind spending money on women; and finally, what do men expect from women when they do spend cash?
1. Some men think they are entitled to physical action from women.
Well, some men expect physical action from women because some men are idiots. You can’t change the habits or expectations of idiots, so I’m going to ignore this subgroup of men, and I suggest you do the same.
There is another sub-group of men who don’t expect anything from women, but they also don’t have an unlimited pool of money to spend – on women or in life in general. This shouldn’t be news to anyone, but money has value. In most circumstances, spending money has a return on investment. Whether you like it or not, if a man is spending money on you, he is investing in you and the future. Some women might argue their quality time, wonderful personalities, engaging conversations, and physical company should be more than enough to make a man feel content to spend any amount of money to enjoy these intangibles. That sounds nice and all, but these women are wrong.
If you were right, we wouldn’t be having this conversation, women wouldn’t make asinine statements like, “If you can’t afford to date, you shouldn’t date,” and “$200 date” (or $2,000 dates if you bout that life) debates wouldn’t erupt on Twitter every week.
I can no more blame a woman for being offended that a man would expect something from her after spending “X” amount of money than I can blame a man for feeling offended that he didn’t receive anything after spending “X” amount of money. Honestly, both parties are to blame. If you’re a man who thinks a woman owes you something because you spend money on her, maybe you shouldn’t spend money on women or you should go on cheap/free first dates. Conversely, if you’re the type of woman who doesn’t want a man to assume you owe him something because he spent money on you, maybe you shouldn’t let men pay for dates in full or you should only accept cheap/free first dates.
Ladies, I know what you’re thinking…