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The weekend has finally arrived and a highly anticipated moment you’ve been waiting for is vastly approaching: a first date. You’ve planned and prepped for the time when you would come face-to-face with a new guy in an intimate setting, all in an effort to get to know them on a personal level. You believe you’re all set. But whether it’s with someone new or someone familiar, an initial date is both exhilarating and unnerving. No matter how hard we try to display perfection, there are some very common mistakes we’ve all made that we wish we could take back. Here are a few examples.
“Don’t be tardy for the party…” Being very late for a first date takes the excitement out of things and can completely ruin it. And while we all know many unexpected things can happen, it’s still pretty annoying to have to wait forever and a day for someone, especially someone you don’t know very well and care very little about. Talk about a bad first impression. So on your next first date, make every attempt to be on time, and if you realize that you’re going to be more than an hour late, it may be best to reschedule.
When out on the town with someone, have you ever felt like you were the third wheel–to their phone? Ignoring your date to update a status or upload a pic can be upsetting. We all know how important our cellular devices are to us, but paying more attention to it than the person you’re with is disrespectful. If you find yourself doing this stop immediately and focus on your date. Or better yet, turn off your phone or just keep it in your purse when your date begins. After all, you’re there to get better acquainted with them; you already know your phone.
When a person takes time out of their lives to entertain you in any way, it’s a great thing and should be appreciated. Unfortunately, some people don’t think so. They take the kind gesture for granted and complain about everything they possibly can with no regard for their date’s feelings. Being unappreciative on a first date (or any date for that matter) is absurd and selfish. That person could be doing better things than listening to you whine, like saving money! Being a Debbie Downer will instantly ruin a first date; so if this is something you’ve done and you didn’t get a call for a second date, learn from this mistake and do better.
One great thing about going out with someone is the chance to have an intriguing conversation with them. But nothing can spoil a date faster than not having anything to talk about. It may be hard to open the door of communication on a first date, especially if you’re not the talkative type. If this is the case, do some brief research on hot topics you think your date may find interesting and take things from there, because there’s nothing worse than sitting across from someone and not having anything compelling to say to them. They’re better off watching paint dry on a wall.
Now the time has come, and the most important part of the date is here–how it ends. This is the part of the date that can make up for all the mistakes you made along the way and can possibly solidify a second date. Or it can be yet another blunder in a long list of them.
So you have a decision to make: to kiss or not to kiss? Whatever you decide to do, please be sure that your breath is fresh. There’s nothing worse than someone leaning in for a goodnight kiss and their breath reaching your face before their lips do. This mistake has been made many times on dates, and there is no excuse for it. Please bring along some breath mints or gum and stick a piece in your mouth before you make on your date. They saw what you ate for dinner, and I’m almost positive that they don’t want a sample of it from your tongue at the end of the night.
First dates are fun, but they can also be difficult because you want to impress the person you’re with by all means. And while things may not go perfect the first time around, think back on what you did and be sure you correct your mistakes before your next date, whether it’s with the same person or someone new. But, above all, be the person you are and have fun.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For, a speaker and an advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
When it comes to a first date, what are some things you expect to happen? Do you have a long list of wishes or simply take it all in stride? The dating game has certainly changed over the years. Here are some general expectations most may have for a first date. Some make sense, others we may need to loosen up on.
Research conducted by the dating app Clover finds that the top places for couples on a first date to meet these days are Starbucks and Chipotle, in that order. Rounding out the top five are Panera, The Cheesecake Factory and Texas Roadhouse.
The app looked at data taken from 200,000 users. They also found that men prefer heading to a restaurant on the first date while women prefer a coffee shop.
In fact, among the top 30 places chosen, many of them would be places for a date that costs $30 or less, from Yogurtland to Chili’s to In & Out Burger.
We’re going to toss out a couple of theories about these findings. First, on a first date, people want to keep things casual. And you want to have an out if the date goes south. No one wants to sit through additional courses if their dining companion is boring, a psycho, or both.
On top of that, however, we’re going to propose that precarious financial times have people thinking about dating in more economical terms. Where once a date was judged by how much you spent to impress, nowadays, more people understand that we’re recovering from a recession, for many, money is tight, and the joy of going out and meeting someone new over a cup of good coffee (seriously folks, a Flat White will make your whole life better) is more than enough.
Your thoughts? And, our own little informal data collection, where did you go on your last date?
At least if celebrities can have a bad date we know it’s a universal problem. Have a few shocking worst first date stories of your own? Share them with us.
Have you been on more first dates than you care to admit but you’re not sure why you haven’t been asked out on that elusive second date? If so, then maybe one of these signs that you’re a bad date may apply to you.
If you had your date waiting 30 minutes for you to show up or you changed plans at the last minute, don’t be surprised if this is the first and last date. Being late shows that you have little to no respect for someone else’s time — not something you want to portray on the first date. And if you changed plans at the last minute then it shows that you don’t honor your date’s feelings or your commitment to the plans that you made to spend that time together.
Does he think you’re the one? Or is he just waiting for the check? Learn these clues to what his first date body language is telling you and you’ll never have to wonder again.
You Locked Eyes
We’ll start with the good stuff: eye contact for more than three seconds? You’re officially looking deep into each other’s eyes. Time to break the gaze and smile or go ahead and lean in for a kiss.
They’re always nerve-wracking, you’ve been on three of them this month and you still can’t figure out what to wear. It’s hard to tell whether we’re talking about first dates or job interviews isn’t it? That’s because they’re both equally stressful and force us to be on for hours on end, trying to let our best self shine — or at least the best self we think we need to be to get the man/job. Here are 15 times dating is like a job interview.
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You’re Definitely Not Being Yourself
You know your real laugh sounds nothing like that…
We’re not sure who gave men the idea that these things impress us, but we should be upset with them—very, very upset. The truth is when it comes to these things men do to impress us, we don’t become more smitten; we actually just want the date to end that much sooner.
Ray Rice’s Elevator Gate may be one of the worst scandals to happen in a long time, but it’s also making women more aware of the domestic violence threats that could be lurking around them. Could the man you met in line at Starbucks be dangerous? Is a hot temper a bad sign? Luckily, there are ways to tell if a guy might have an anger problem — even over dinner. They’re not all signs that you should bail right now, but they are a good heads up that you should be keeping an eye out for signs of verbal or physical abuse — before it’s too late.
His Job Involves Violence
Did you know that forty percent of police officer’s families experience domestic violence?
That’s four times the rate of the rest of the population. It’s not a reason to ask for the check, but you should keep an eye out for any warning signs.
It’s amazing the difference a few dates make. Once upon a time — i.e. in the beginning of a relationship –getting ready for a date meant an appointment to the spa and a trip to the mall. But once you move past the lust phase and start getting comfortable, all that prep and concern for impressing your man tends to go right out the window.