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Aside from those mythical unicorn couples who claim they never fight (no one actually believes them, right?), a disagreement here and there is normal … even healthy. But think back to the last time you and your significant other had a fight — were you thinking about possible ways to resolve the conflict and how you could understand your partner better? Or were you focusing on how upset, angry, and frustrated you were feeling in that moment? Researchers say that your answer may reveal something about your relationship.
A recent study looked at 71 unmarried heterosexual couples who had been together an average of three years. First, researchers had participants complete a survey about their relationship satisfaction and conflict issues in the relationship. Then, each person in the couple spoke to a researcher aloud while communicating about a topic of conflict with their partner (in a separate room) via a chat program. The couples had 10 minutes to talk about a point of conflict (everything from amount of time spent together and money to past dating relationships and alcohol use) and come to a resolution. You know, just a typical weekend night for the average couple!
The results of the study found that during discussion about relationship conflict, when one person thinks about making excuses or denying their role in the disagreement while the disagreement is going on, the other partner was likelier to be unhappy in the relationship. Those in unhappy relationships were also more likely to want to change the subject of discussion, to think more about how repetitive the discussion felt, to think about the power they or their partner had in the relationship, and to focus on emotions like anger and frustration— none of which is super beneficial to a relationship.
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While we still don’t know who really started this little rumble in the parking lot between Chris Brown, Frank Ocean and their friends last Sunday, we do know that Chris feels persecuted and Frank believes that Chris is the one who started it.
While there were earlier reports from an LA County Sheriff’s department spokesperson that Ocean might be seeking to file charges against Brown, according to MTV, he is now saying that isn’t true. Ocean took to his favorite place, Tumblr, to speak his mind:
As a child I thought if someone jumped me it would result in me murdering or mutilating a man. But as a man I am not a killer. I’m an artist and a modern person. I’ll choose sanity. No criminal charges. No civil lawsuit. Forgiveness, albeit difficult, is wisdom. Peace, albeit trite, is what i want in my short life. Peace.
That’s definitely a way to let this entire thing burn out from Ocean’s stance. One could call it very “zen” of him to just let the whole thing ride, especially considering that it wouldn’t take much for anyone to believe that Brown was at fault.
It remains unclear if Brown is considering filing charges against Ocean seeing as though most reports state that Ocean and his friends started it. Perhaps it is best if they both just accept that they don’t like each other and avoid each other as much as possible.
Oh, to be young, rich and seemingly live with no consequences. Then again, a fight can happen to anyone, right?
When’s the last time you had a fight?
It appears Katt Williams and Suge Knight are now besties. We’ve heard about Katt Williams bugging out almost every week for the last month or so and finally – finally – Suge Knight has stepped up to tell us what the real problem is.
In regards to all his recent problems, Suge says this isn’t Katt’s fault. He told TMZ, “People test him because he’s small and the best comedian of all time.”
Of. All. Time.
The two were together in Seattle when Katt was arrested for being in a bar fight. Knight says they were watching the Seattle Seahawks/Chicago Bears football game – rooting for Chicago – and some fans were offended, so to speak. Allegedly, they started the fight so of course, Katt had to defend himself against the angry Seahawks fans. Knight says people do this all the time – starting trouble with Katt – and he “just don’t take no sh!t.”
By the way, Suge also likened Katt’s problems to those of Mike Tyson and the late Richard Pryor while they were in their glory years saying, “That’s what happens when you’re the best in the business. Sometimes you just have rough times.”
Clearly, Suge had a lot to say and doesn’t appreciate the way Katt has been “portrayed” by the media. But if he’s a real friend, hopefully, he’s trying to get in Katt’s ear as well and tell him he doesn’t have to react to everyone that “bothers” him.
A wise man once said that if you take the amount of time a couple has been together and divide it by two, you’ll get the amount of time that they’ve been breaking up. A relationship never just ends the moment both parties agree to go their separate ways. Just as it takes time for a bond to be formed, it also takes time for a bond to be broken. Women are infamous for holding onto relationships well after they’ve started falling apart, even if they themselves have checked out of the relationship. Here are a few signs that you’ve done just that.
Since Pilar Sanders, estranged wife of Deion Sanders, and her homegirl allegedly assaulted Deion, I guess we can now add her to the “fight club” list. *cues Crime Mob* “Yeah we knuckin’ and buckin’ and ready to fight…” Maybe this is the song that went through the minds of many of our female celebs who have a reputation for…releasing frustrations. They throw electronics, bottles and of course, good ol’ fists. I’m not condoning any of it; I’m just giving you a visual a reminder of who you should be ready for just in case they cross your path!
Hey loves! As the weekend comes to a close, we just want to catch you up on a few celeb tidbits you may have missed over the weekend and also introduce you to one new artist (I’m trying to keep my promise and keep you up on new folks) that you will LOVE.
When your significant other does or says something that upsets you — depending on the size of the affront and the depth of your reaction — you might shut down and stop listening, especially if your partner’s tone conveys judgment or derision. You may withdraw for a period of time or retaliate with criticism of your own. Either behavior results in a negative circle of energy and delays understanding and healing. Help! My Boyfriend & I Always Argue VIDEO
As a result of your shutting down, your suffering will be prolonged. Conscious awareness of the impact of your anger is your best bet for breaking the cycle. Here are two practical suggestions to cope with fighting in a relationship:
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Are you constantly fighting with your significant other? We can’t counsel all your issues individually, but we can tell you that there are some common relationship fights not worth having. Here they are:
The “Always/Never/Extremes” Fight
“Always, everything, all the time” don’t exactly have a place in the “right now.” Relationship fights that accuse one’s lover of being “fundamentally” anything, always, all the time (e.g. you always do this, or you never do that), only cripple the other person’s ability to join in the conversation or offer anything relevant to the actual issue at hand. It’s hard to discuss or amend a present issue when you’re being tagged or labeled as fundamentally or perpetually, or always or never, something or the other!
The Tit-For-Tat Fight
Please don’t fan the flames of a tit-for-tat war. It didn’t work in elementary school, and it won’t work in adult relationships. The minute you say to someone, “you did this, so I’m going to do it back to you,” you’re creating a cycle of behavior that could be destructive. It’s like playing tag with a problem: you’re it, O.K. now I’m it, O.K. now you’re it…and so on. If you’re that upset about someone’s behavior, address the behavior or end the relationship. Don’t repeat the behavior yourself!
The Low-Blow Fight
If you ever wait for a fight to offer some really “low-blow” comment to your significant other, like: yes, and that’s why your mom has diabetes, or something really hurtful or ridiculous, you’re barking up the wrong tree. The low-blow fight will quickly erode trust in your relationship and force you to feel less-than-stellar about yourself in the relationship as well. All you really needed to have done if you were that angry, was to walk away, talk to Jesus (or whomever) and cool off, to keep from “going there.” Low-blow fights are never won.
The Character Fight
If you have an issue in a relationship, it’s best to focus your arguments around the specific issue, not around the character of the persons involved in the issue. We’re assuming that you’re dating someone you respect enough to not destroy character-wise. If you’re not dating such a person and character is an issue, then guess what? Stop dating! Don’t start, enter or engage fights that have to do with the destruction of your lover’s character. You won’t win them–and they aren’t worth fighting.