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Want to know what really terrifies men about relationships? It’s not always the stereotypical “having one sex partner for the rest of life” issue—even a man who is great at monogamy and ready to be emotionally open will still be afraid of these 7 things.
There is something universally inspiring about the Olympics: It brings us together as a country to cheer for our team, and as a world community to celebrate our best athletes. We celebrate those who step onto the podium and our hearts break with those who don’t.
Our own lives mimic the events played out in Sochi. Whether it’s pulling together at work, celebrating when we achieve our goal or feeling the agony of a lost love, we are living the Olympic experience every day. All too often, though, we focus on what went wrong and we forget what went right. All too often, we beat ourselves up for “just” receiving a bronze medal — when that’s really something to cheer about.
When was the last time you celebrated feeling good when you crawled out of bed in the morning? Have you given thanks for having a job or finishing a task you’d been dreading? We view these everyday activities as part of life and not worthy of our time or attention; instead we wait around for the big promotion, the grand love or the acquisition of the big symbol as proof of our value. In the meantime we feel less than our best and happiness seems to elude us.
As I’ve watched the Olympics this week I gained monumental inspiration from watching the athletes … not in their performances (which are, of course, amazing) but in their attitude about their performance. It is through these role models we can learn to raise our spirits right now regardless of our results.
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…While fear might motivate us to action, we will burn out if we stay there. Here are some tips to move from fear to faith:
1. Find a Point of Contact: …We are stronger than the moments of life that we face!
2. Get Understanding: Knowledge is power! But it must be filtered through the lens of possibility. True understanding comes when we handle information properly. Miracles happen every day. There are people who have defied medical odds to live longer than anyone expected. Then there are still others who used their diagnosis to live fuller in the time that remained and in doing so transformed others. Knowledge only paints half the picture but possibility completes it.
3. Talk it Out: When we fear something, our instinct is to protect ourselves from it. Sometimes we simply need to talk ourselves through fear to discover what lies on the other side. For instance, we may be afraid of knowing how someone we are interested in feels about us. Not knowing protects us from rejection. But in truth, finding out actually frees us to move on and forward—with or without that person. Next time, fear knocks…answer the door and have the conversation.
You can read more on how Coach Felicia got over her own fear over on ESSENCE.com. How have you been able to combat fear? Whether it be a next step in life, an unspoken conversation that needs to happen or anything else, do you just rip the band-aid off?
Just last week, Charing wrote about the myth of the Knockout Game. She explained that the videos we’ve been seeing played over and over again are old, overhyped and in some cases, don’t even take place in this country. The argument wasn’t that people are knocking people out in the street but rather, it is not some type of new, widespread game that threatens your day to day safety.
But the real story is far less exciting. Only two attacks really isn’t cause for national news unless those two attacks are young black teenagers attacking helpless white people.So apparently, CNN has decided to continue to promote the one about it being new, widespread fad, you know the one that will incite more fear. We’ve seen from the videos and read in reports that the perpetrators of these two crimes are young, black teenagers. And if there’s any opportunity to scold young black folk, Don Lemon must be involved in that discussion. He must.
So even though Lemon wasn’t supposed to be on during this hour, they called him up (because they previewing his show later) to simulate what happens during the knockout game. And I bet you can guess from the gif above which role Lemon played.
The segment featured Rabbi Gary Moskowitz, a former police officer and black belt, who spoke about the game and how the perpetrators are attacking weaker individuals.
“The issue is they’re not just attacking Jews theologically. What they’re doing is they’re attacking weaker people. It’s very much like the animal kingdom. They attack elderly women, they attack children and Jewish people, unfortunately, especially the Orthodox community are considered weak.”
Just like the animal kingdom eh?!
Don Lemon sat silently. He didn’t get involved until it was time to mock an attack. And that’s when Don throw the faux punch you see in the gif above. How symbolic.
I can understand Don wanting to advance in his career. But I’m really having a hard time believing that homeboy really doesn’t take issue of any of this. It’s all so obvious.
What do you think about the reports surrounding the Knockout Game? And what the hell is motivating Don Lemon these days?
We’re used to media mogul and everyone’s auntie in their head Oprah Winfrey normally talks about internal fear. You know, things in your psyche that makes you fearful of being your best self. But who knew that Oprah’s biggest fear – or at least one of them – is balloons?!
Yes, balloons. According to PEOPLE, Oprah recently revealed the fear in the October issue of O Magazine. She explained that it came to a head almost 20 years ago at her birthday party:
“I don’t like balloons, and for my 40th birthday my entire staff decided to surprise me. I come downstairs and the entire audience is filled with balloons. Literally, I’m stepping over balloons, having to walk through balloons and I’m so, like, ‘Oh! When is one going to pop?’”
As she went on, Oprah said the popping of balloons reminds her of gunfire and perhaps, something in her childhood must have happened related to guns. She says balloons “really freak me out.”
But of course, not one to let something just have one meaning, Oprah’s biggest fear is one she has turned into something like a life lesson. During the birthday party, she had to continue walking through the balloons and she uses that as a sort of mantra about fear:
“There are a few things that in life, if you allow them to, can really keep you from moving forward. You have to really walk through it.”
The October issue of O Magazine hits newsstands on September 17th.
What’s your biggest fear?
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Another Day, Another Crazy Athlete: Former Baseball Star Milton Bradley Facing Spousal Abuse Charges
Most professional sports leagues do psychiatric testing on their players at some point but maybe they’re missing something because some of these fools are insane.
Former baseball star Milton Bradley is facing 13 charges related to spousal abuse, according to TMZ. If you’re a baseball fan, you know Badley’s name and know he’s had lots of trouble on and off the field most of his career. He and his wife Monique married in 2005 but Bradley filed for divorced 11 months later after the police had been to their house three times during those 11 months on domestic related calls. He was never arrested and the divorce was never finalized.
Two years ago, he was arrested for making criminal threats to Monique but in exchange for an out-of-court hearing, the charges were dropped. However, seven months later, he was arrested for allegedly attacking his wife with a bat and yet again in March 2012 for threatening her with a knife and adding, “You’ll be dead before you divorce me, Itchbay.”
These 13 counts of domestic charges stem from all the aforementioned accounts and another in November where Monique claimed Milton choked her with two hands after she asked him to stop smoking weed in front of their two children.
The charges are as follows: 4 counts of spousal battery, 4 counts of criminal threats, 2 counts of assault with a deadly weapon, 2 counts of vandalism and 1 count of dissuading a witness from making a report. If convicted, he faces up to 13 years in prison.
He’ll be arraigned on January 24th and is denying the charges.
I’m sure many of you are wondering why his wife didn’t just leave but based on the descriptions of his attacks, she likely feared for her life and the lives of her children. Hopefully, she can finally get out and she and her children get the help they need.